It's difficult because online, everyone is cool, in person, people are different and try to be above human, I use my story to help people who are face medical issues and they are having a hard time dealing with what they have going on, usually what I say to a person is you can get through this, and then I tell them that I have been living with AIDS, since 1988, usually they have this sympathy for me, and I tell them, don't feel sorry for me, because I am probably one of the healthiest men they know because, I know my status and get check ups every 3-6 months. I am shock that people are afraid to go to the doctor. that's how I approach it, but usually, I try to meet most men online and then it's up front, but meeting someone in person, if i want sex, then I spill right there.