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I do mostly agree with you here. I've had some luck with BBRT, more with other sites. TBH my first rule is read the profile thoroughly and not just because I want to see whether we'll match. The first thing I consider a red flag is when the profile preferences wouldn't include the person posting it. If they wouldn't choose themselves why would anyone else? No pics = pass Generic porn pics (as in copied from another source) = pass No answer in a reasonable time or just ghosting = block. Its a process and you have to look after yourself as much as possible. You have to do a lot of shucking before you find a pearl.

One thing I've found after using multiple sites over the last few years is that they are largely similar. The same guys crop up often with mostly similar profiles. And the same local density never really varies. There are timewasters and flakes on all of them. This has always been true and its sad to say that if you want to use these sites, unless you happen to be an actual porn star, be prepared to be ignored and messed around. There are enough genuine, and quite nice, guys out there to make it worthwhile but it does take patience. This is especially true as all communication through these apps is stilted. So messages can go back and forward over several hours before any real connection can be made. Unfortunately its also true that these apps cater to the selfish drive in us. What do I want? What can I get? Because we are looking for what we want its easy to overlook the What can I give? What am I bringing? side of things. We're all a mess of mixed up wants and needs and sometimes you just have to be a bit flexible. TL;DR Timewasters - it will happen Broaden your horizons. Be patient. Try to be kind, or at least polite.

I've not made it over to Newport for the sauna. Any good?

AJpiggy haven't had it long still getting used to it.

Dammit! Why do I always feel like I'm on the wrong side of the country!!

The only thing you don't have a choice with when it comes to sex is who you WANT to have sex with. We can't control who we find attractive and have no control at all over who reciprocates. Everything else is choice. That can be influenced or, in the worst cases, forced. So rubbering up, asking guys to cover up, or not is just that. Whether its with someone you know or someone you just met there's always options.

I don't think I'm doing badly for mid 40's, but I'm a bottom anyway 🤷‍♂️. I still like getting everything out from time to time...

I had something of a shrine to Schwarzenegger during my adolescence. I used to say it was because he was my fitness icon (yeah right!) Otherwise I had a lot of comic book posters. I still have a thing for spandex!

Total bottom here when it comes to fucking. I like to think I'm a good one, don't we all? I'm not submissive although I can be if the mood takes and the situation is right. I will meet my Top's level of energy and work for that load every time. I'm happy to give head, rim holes and take cock at pretty much any time and I always prepare well for longer and deeper sessions. I can take a fist and give them should things go in that direction. Most of all I am always clear about what I am looking for with hookups and I want the same from them. As long as you're enjoying it and getting what you crave I think you are good.

Not personally. I've always known I like the cock too much 😈 but I have noticed many rings on fingers from guys I've hooked up with and I'm certain if you asked they would always say they're "happily" married.

I work in a scientific environment. As I am not a person of faith once upon a time I used to question why so many representatives of many different faiths are drawn to science. The answer it seems is fairly simple. Why not? There is no real disconnect between belief and learning unless you are under a very strict state regime. Science, and medicine in particular, are as much about helping people as they are about seeking answers. Its easy to be blinkered into thinking anyone who has faith is some kind of zealot when the truth is most people are just people. Wanting to get through each day just like everyone else. The strict and dogmatic type who do cause problems are unfortunately also out there and they cause the kind of turmoil your colleague is suffering. Rather than question his faith however, which can create bigger problems for someone already hurting, point them to asupport group within that community. They do exist and there are lgbtq+ faith groups that can be found to offer support if it is looked for. Being dismissive of faith is easy when you have none, I have been guilty of it myself many times. However when something makes up so large a part of a persons life and personality you cannot underestimate the damage it can do to mock it or, worse still, take it from them.

With BBRT gone kaput I don't suppose anyone is playing this weekend in or near Bristol? A long shot I know but sometimes you have to just go for it.

Yep. Looks like its completely out everywhere. Guess I need new weekend plans.

Thanks for the hugs they're always nice though I'm pretty sure there are plenty wiser than me around. I am pragmatic about things, you learn to be otherwise things drown you. Here I can discuss things frankly. I am HIV positive. Just those four words can change how everyone in a room responds to you, forever. One of the biggest obstacles to removing the stigma of HIV infection is this response. People have been conditioned by decades of misinformation and misunderstanding. They look at you, and treat you, because of something you did. Not because of something that happened to you. Don't get me wrong, I have embraced and indulged in the fetish side of things. I genuinely think that side has been a big help in me accepting my status. It is just really important to see that separation between some temporary enjoyment and harsh light reality. I don't want to curb anyone's fun. I just want to help open some eyes along the way.

That makes sense. It certainly has a good range of settings. Now I know that I will be reminded every time I use my windscreen wipers, and I live in the UK it rains a lot!

This is mine, the f machine gigolo. Pretty compact and pretty reasonably priced as these things go. Pros: Adjustable slide arm for shallow or deeper penetration. The whole body slides up and down the support arm for different heights and the angle can be changed. Compact and breaks down into a decent (supplied) case for storage and transport. Wireless remote means its easy to speed up, slow down or stop at will. Variety of mounts, suction cup and vac-u-loc for toys. Cons: Fairly light so it can move and jump unless you secure it to the floor. (There are seperate mounts available for this, they aren't supplied.) I have found that positioning it so it can't move away works well but that isn't ideal. Adjusment of position or thrust can be a little tricky and takes you out of the moment unless you are happy to stay one way for a while. It isn't noisy per se but the motor is pretty powerful so you will always know its on and if you haven't got it stable it will rock like a motherfucker. Works best and is most easily stabilised on smooth hard floors, not an option for everyone. I am quite happy with it and it suits me well, but it can best be described as a starter in the range.

I had a fist toy, a fuck machine and some fresh poppers on the go as I read this and now I am washed out and soaked in so much precum and cum I need either a shower or to start again. Thanks for sharing, I am looking forward to where this goes.

That looks like a lot of fun. But then I do love Lego 😉

Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the apartment Several figures were trussed up, harnessed and bent Over couches and tables, or pushed up against walls And behind them and thrusting right up to the balls Were tops of all sizes, ages and creeds each in their own way expressing their needs. Through the grunts and through groaning, the raised voices of passion, with orgasmic moaning each boy in their fashion Was asking for deeper, for harder, for more! Begging each top for some cum like a whore, When from the front door there came a yell and loud knocking And in strode Big Daddy his appearance quite shocking. Dressed all in bright red from his boots to his head, and sporting a prominant bulge, All knew his attendance at this annual fuck-shed was purely for him to indulge He surveyed the room with a glint in his eye Stroking fingers 'cross his grizzled chin. Which one of these sluts should he first try? Which one would welcome him in? Skinny twink? or dad-bod? or tight hairy otter? It matters not to this lecherous soul. Truth of the matter is nothing is hotter than sampling every hole. Unzipping his fly and out springs the dick that has subdued many a guy. Not overly long, but beer-can thick, oozing precum from its fleshy eye. He strokes at it once and up it rises, stiffening like a flag staff. He grabs his first target and spins them around bending them almost in half. Firm hands grip those cheeks in most brutish zeal, and forward the weapon is thrust. From the lips of the victim comes an animal squeal; part shock, part pain, part lust. The fucking is hard, the fucking is quick; the fuck is with one goal in sight. He has to work now, he needs his dick to deliver the gifts in one night. And so on it goes as the clock it ticks by, they each get their chance of a ride. They'll all get the fuck of a lifetime just so long as he cums inside. On faggot, on cumdump, on chaser, on bitch-boy. On fuckmeat, on spunk-hole, on himbo, on fucktoy. The holes have been gaped and all now are dripping. The night, it seems, now is done. The Big Man is leaving, practically skipping, out before the rising sun. His voice booms back through the air, even as he's lost to sight. A MERRY POZMAS TO ALL YOU DIRTY FUCKERS! AND TO ALL A FUCKING GOOD NIGHT!

Thanks. I know its been a while but I keep thinking about ways to finish this one off, that and a few other ideas that have been slowly ticking over. Life does get in the way but I would like to write some more. Its good to know I can provide a temporary enjoyment to the guys on here.

So many places that I associate with my early exploration have been closed or demolished. I remember writing a few messages in my favourite places, but mostly I loved sitting there waiting and reading the variety of filth from other guys minds. A fond reminiscence.

OK, so everything that follows are estimates because when I was young I was reckless. I'm not looking for affirmation and I don't care about condemnation; but facts are facts and I was dumb in the way I behaved. More on that later. I was dignosed in 2018. I went in with pneumonia, stayed for a month in isolation while they got that under control before they could start my HIV regimen of meds. The consultant who came to see me was, and I cannot stress this enough, fantastic. They laid everything out straight for me because unlike me they were definitely the expert. Almost ironically the thing that stopped me dying was the fact that I have always been fit and healthy. I am active always enjoyed the outdoors and sports. This meant I responded well to treatment, and I was lucky. I almost never get colds, rarely feel off for more than a day or two if I do. Because of this its next to impossible to guess accurately when I seroconverted but the consultant gave a broad estimate of between 5 and 10 years. This is because my CD4 was below 20 when I ended up being carried in. In modern terms, I fucked around and found out. The thing is when I was fucking around I was untested which is why things ran the course they did and that put others at risk that I was oblivious to. TBH whoever infected me was probably unaware too. That's a guess of course because I'll never know. But what is true is that I was clearly active and positive for several years before things came to light. Like I said, I don't care about judgement or reassurrance. I did what I did and there's no going back. After 5 years and not a single missed dose I am in a good place. I'm back to as normal as I can be. I enjoy myself and live my life my way. Now, however, I am much more aware of how everyone is responsible for their actions and how those will effect those around us. Fantasy is great. Fetishisation can be fun. Reality hits hard.

Ok, so I know there are a few threads decrying the state of hook-up sites. I have written on them myself. This is not one of those. I had a perfectly civilised exchange with a vers guy and it turns out we wanted different things so we parted wishing each other luck. (I know right) Then I got hit up by a top who wanted to stop off after some ahopping and he's on his way right now! Maybe I should buy a lotto ticket 🤷‍♂️

An absolute yes from me. I don't think I ever considered it to not be part of the fuck. Now its an absolute must. I understand that some guys become very sensitive after they cum and the sensation can be too much, but it really is part of the service. As much as I love tongue fucking a Tops hole as foreplay, I love tasting myself on him, and the last few drops of spunk when he finishes.

I'm sorry, I know this is off topic but this made me laugh much more than it should have. 😅