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This is a great topic. I don't know if I was born to be a cumdump, but I know I'm naturally submissive and couldn't picture myself topping anyone else. I crave cock over anything else and am obviously gay. I don't advertise it and consider myself someone who presents as masculine thanks to my love of working somewhat dirty jobs. Need your engine rebuilt? I can help with that. Need a tree cut down in your yard? I'll bring my chainsaw over and take care of it. Need a trench dug in your backyard? I'll put my work boots on, grab a shovel and get it done by myself. But pretty much everyone I know says they didn't even have to wonder if I was a top or bottom, much less if I was gay or straight. Even my mom just assumed I was a bottom before I confirmed it because I'm so passive.
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I always leave it up to the top, but I crave deep kissing and makeout sessions. One of my hottest hookups was in my first semester at college. I found a guy on grindr and we madeout in my car until I had to get to my next class. I would have loved to get laid, but just being able to have him dominate me by pinning me against the door and shoving his tongue in my mouth was insanely satisfying.
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This might be an unpopular opinion, but be prepared to pull out at the last minute if he gets cold feet. He hasn't taken this step before, and while it's no big deal to those of us who have, it's going to be huge for him. You two might have a great connection in bed and he might be 100% into it, but the moment of truth is going to come if/when he senses you're about to finish. If he gets cold feet and changes his mind, try not to get upset and by all means, pull out. Otherwise it spills into non-consensual territory and that can be a legal mess for you. -
To expand on this, I remember finding this site and feeling like I could finally talk about the things that sexually fulfill me without being judged by assholes on the internet. As someone who had no real friends growing up and none as an adult, being able to talk openly about my urge to have anal sex all the time was like being set free. After being forced into counseling as a teenager because my fetishes were considered damaging (nothing illegal at all), I found a mostly judgement free place to talk about grindr hookups and explore my watersports fetish. It was like having the friend I always longed for but never had the ability to find.
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How do you stay "ready to go" when you're very loose?
backdoorjimmy replied to lycis's topic in General Discussion
I consider myself loose, but I've never been fisted. I love to get fucked with monster cocks and I have some unrealistically sized dildos that I regularly ride. So I might be coming from a skewed perspective on this. However, this is the part of your post that sticks out to me - The pushing out isn't doing him any favors at all. Is he able to get into the fuck so that his rectal muscles do all the work for him? When I'm in my happy place, my ass squeezes and grips any dick I have inside me, no matter the size. He probably needs to lay back and enjoy having you inside him without pushing out. Because like you said, it's easy for his body to take that as him trying to move things along. -
I’m so sorry that it ended this way. Everyone deserves someone special in their lives, and it sounds like he was and still is very special to you. Sadly, he’s right about most of this because he made a decision to stay with his wife. It’s sad because he’s probably very unhappy with her, but values his relationship with his sons too much to hurt her. Take solace in the fact that you filled his heart with joy and brought happiness to his life. About the other part - you don’t have to find someone your age, but you should find someone who will love you to the fullest. You seem like an amazing guy and whoever you fall in love with next will be lucky to have you. I hope your heart heals quickly. 🫂
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So, do we discuss Kevin Spacey here - or ignore him?
backdoorjimmy replied to edward21uk's topic in LGBT Politics
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My tastes have changed a lot over the years. When I first started having sex, I was a goofy kid who blushed at the sight of a cute guy, and I was really picky about who I'd have sex with. Sometimes I'd get in moods where I just wanted to be with a guy and didn't care what he looked like as long as his dick ended up in my hole. But sometime after I turned 20 I stopped being so picky and started paying closer attention to other traits, especially how dominant they were. To me there's nothing better than being surrounded by and filled up with the essence of a man. I love a man who takes total control. Whether we're fucking or we're chilling in bed and watching TV, I want him to assert himself and control everything. I want him to hog the remote and smack my butt and tell me to go get him another beer. When we go somewhere, I want him to drive and when we eat at a restaurant, I want him to order for me. When he kisses me, I want a mouthful of rough tongue while he holds my shoulders still. When he wants sex, I want him to pull my pants down and enter me at his own pace. Looks are great, but dominance is what drives me crazy.
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This just melted my heart. It's obvious that he cares deeply for you. I hope you and he can find a way to stay in each others' lives and be close, whether it's as a fatherly/mentor role in your life or as affectionate and caring soulmates.
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I had a prepaid Visa gift card that I was given at work and I wanted to support this site so I used it to sign up. Once my account was setup, I logged in and looked at some of the clips, then signed out and never went back. Nothing about it is believable to me and almost as soon as I finished the signup process I thought to myself, "I should have joined Sketchy Sex instead."
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Maybe he sees someone who needs a guiding hand and wants to give it to you. Or maybe there's something deeper. Either way, this really does seem like it's riding the line of an emotional affair. The best thing you can do here is protect your heart and enjoy the ride. As for his kids, it sounds like he's proud of them and wants to talk about them. He probably equates their happiness and their successes and challenges with the kind of dad he was to them growing up. And just because he doesn't have the same kind of relationship with them that he has with you doesn't mean they've failed him, or that he doesn't love them. As their dad, it would be unusual for him to carry on an emotional affair with them.
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Honestly, it sounds like you’re someone special to him. Whether or not your relationship remains platonic, you clearly hold a place in his heart. If you don’t want a gift for your birthday, maybe you can ask him to hang out instead. Go to a movie, go for a drive or just hang out and watch tv. Based on what you’ve written here, he’d probably love to spend some quality time with you.
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Not a slut shaming topic at all, at least not from my perspective. I was trying to explain the sensations I experience when I’m horny for sex and realized it wasn’t as easy as I thought it would be. I’ve been reading the different replies and gaining perspective on everyone else’s experiences, which is what I was hoping for when I made the post. If it comes across as slut shaming, I apologize because that’s not my intent.
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Not having sex doesn't mean there isn't an emotional affair, which is what it seems like this is. To be honest, it sounds like you're filling a hole in his life (no pun intended) and he's filling one in yours. And sometimes the flirty moments and innuendo between two guys can feel magical and when the sex finally happens (if it ever does), it's more intense. It sounds like he's trying to take things slowly. Maybe because he sees the potential for a relationship, or maybe because he's having an internal moral conflict about what he should do here. If I were you, I'd enjoy the attention and soak up as much of this as possible. I grew up without a dad and I craved this kind of affection. When I was 16 I sought out my dad's best friend and he took me under his wing to teach me how to be an adult while also heaping affection onto me. I found myself going back and forth, seeing him as a father figure and also being aroused all the time. At the end of the day, he turned out to be an important man in my life but not a lover, and that was okay because that was what I needed from him. Maybe that's what you need right now, too.
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Hot post. It’s too late to vote but if I could I would have picked eating ass and bottoming raw. I love sucking dick but to me there’s nothing better than having my ass stroked out while someone sits on my face. It’s practically soul cleaning.
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Greek and Dutch. My dad was full blooded Greek, born in California. My mom was born in the Netherlands, but came to the US in the 1980's with my grandparents. I like to joke that my Greek side shows in my dating preferences 🏳️🌈🇬🇷
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I was talking to someone I'm close to and the topic of anal sex came up. They asked me to explain how it feels to be horny for dick and where it comes from. At first I thought, "Well that's easy" and started talking about it, but then I realized that it wasn't as simple as I thought because it's different for different guys. Some people enjoying being a bottom because they crave the loads. Others get off on pleasing other men and having men use their asses for their own pleasure. Then there are guys like me who crave intercourse and get cranky if I haven't had a good lay because it feels good. I guess what I'm wondering is, do the bottoms who enjoy being cum dumps or being a hole for men to get off in also crave the intercourse? And if so, how would you describe the urge? For me, there's a strong tremble that I feel along the walls of my asshole and down my legs that can only be controlled by a hard dick stroking me out until I'm satisfied. When I get that way, I don't really think about the load or the top's orgasm, except for hoping that it won't happen prematurely. I'm interested in hearing about the arousal and sensations that other bottoms experience in their bodies when they're craving sex. Is it a physical sensation for you? Or is it purely mental? If it's physical, can you describe it? If it's mental, do you also feel physical pleasure from getting fucked? Or does your pleasure even matter to you?
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As a bottom it's almost never my place to bitch about a fuck. But if you accidentally knee the back of my thigh when you're trying to put it in, you've killed the mood. 😠
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"Kill the mood" is a very polite way of expressing it, and it's far more restrained than I would be.
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@ejaculaTe Well to be fair, he's a virgin and a lot taller than me so some of it is my fault. I know he didn't mean to do it, but the point of his knee went right into my thigh and it felt like someone hit me with a hammer. He texted me later to apologize again which was sweet. I told him that next time we'll do it in the missionary position until he gets the hang of it.
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Underage sex and STI risk
backdoorjimmy replied to Philip's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
As someone who started in middle school, I only hooked up with guys around my age, except for one exception. The boy who took my virginity was a virgin, too, and so were the next 4 guys I hooked up with. So STD's weren't really a concern for me. When my mom discovered I was having sex, she made an appointment for me to see my pediatrician. Surprisingly, he kept things comfortable and asked me a few questions about my activities and my partners ages. Looking back, I realize it was to make sure I wasn't being intimate with an adult, which I was nowhere ready for at the time. After that, I was sent across the hall to get bloodwork done so I could get tested for STI's. After that I was tested every time. So to answer your question, if the kid is sick his parents or guardian will probably just take him to the doctor and they'll figure it out. Unless one of the parents is abusing him. Then his condition might go untreated until he tells the school nurse or another adult about his symptoms. -
How weird that this topic came back up. I was just thinking about how both spots I mentioned in my original reply are gone now - This was a Farm Fresh in the Towne Center shopping center in Hampton - The building is still empty 4 years after the store closed. This was an Exxon station just a few blocks from where I live. Sadly, it's gone now too. Here's what it looked like when I used to meet guys here to blow them and occasionally get fucked in the men's room if it felt safe. One time I met up with a guy and he ate me out, then he split before I could suck him off. It was such a rush. I was hoping to get back to meeting guys here once the pandemic ended, but it didn't survive. Oh well, I guess I need to find new places to swallow loads and get my ass fucked.
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One of my biggest fantasies was to be whored out and not know who was fucking me. I'd been passed around before, but never in a truly anonymous setting. Last year it finally happened for me - my boyfriend and his crew set up a gangbang for me in the dark. I stayed on my hands and knees in the bed and guys came in to use my ass, then dipped out. I didn't even get to suck them after they came. I got put on my back and fucked with my legs in the air a few times but didn't mind because being in the same position for so long was making my abdomen cramp up. If you do it, my only advice would be to do it with someone you trust and who cares about you. Some of the guys who used me were roughnecks who tossed me around a little. But there was a group of guys in the front room to keep an eye on things and make sure I wasn't in any real danger.
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Bottom's Diet Regime before Gangbang
backdoorjimmy replied to hungry_hole's topic in General Discussion
Sure. Without being too graphic, avocado gives me messy poop. It’s harder to wipe and I usually have to do an extra clean out when I have it. Same with peanut butter, but not on the same level as avocado. I love both but they don’t make my sex life easy. -
Bottom's Diet Regime before Gangbang
backdoorjimmy replied to hungry_hole's topic in General Discussion
My diet doesn’t really change from day to day because I always like to be ready for sex. But when I know I’m going to be fucked by more than a few tops I avoid certain things like Avocado and peanut butter. When I do that, I usually bulk up on my leafy greens and eat salmon or grilled chicken breast. Oatmeal is also good for clearing out the poop deck, but it’s not something I enjoy so I’ll usually just skip breakfast when I’m prepping for a train. The best greens for no mess are baby spinach, mustard greens and kale. Also, I make it a point to drink at least 10 glasses of water per day leading up to it, but more if I can. -
Hands or no hands (that is the question)
backdoorjimmy replied to Oralguya1's topic in Cocksucking Discussion
Hands free on the cock as long as that's what the top wants, but I love to cup and caress a warm set of balls so it's hard for me to keep my hands away. If the mood is right, I might also use my fingertips to massage the base of the dick when I know he's about to shoot, just to make it feel better for him. -
Such a considerate top. I'm sure his ass was on fire for some cock and he was grateful for the chance to cleanout at your place so he could have it serviced. How long does it take to get a bottom opened up for fisting? Is it something that he's already loose enough to do? Or do you have to warm him up little by little? I've been interested in it for as long as I've been having sex, but I can't wrap my head around the physics. I bet it feels amazing.
