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I suspect there is a lot talk and not so much action going on. If they ARE fucking around indiscriminately and taking any and all anonymous loads then it stands to reason that they will be poz at some point soon if not already, and likely to be highly infectious too.

Yes, I remember average size being statistically between 5 and 6 inches. I remember as I am just under 6, quite thick, and my bottoms are perfectly satisfied with it going by the repeat visit requests. In fact the most gasps come are when I just go in and out with the first two inches popping and pulling their ring each time, and the first 5 inches and brush across their prostate gland. And of course there is less problem about cleaning out for the bottom too as I don't get round the corner...

lol, yes, you've been promoted!

True enough, Male22192. Anyone can lie, and plenty have no clue. If someone wants to avoid risk, don't bareback and indeed don't have penetrative sex at all since condoms can split, though of course condom use is safe-r. Otherwise, no one should rely on someone's profile status, or a random hook-up saying he's undetectable, or even Mr Nice guy saying he's neg. A poz undetectable who is consistently so, is safe-r but not safe. No one can be sure of their status except a poz guy knows he's poz. All that can be done is to get to know the guy and make a decision.

Mascmountainman that was such an insightful and succinct post. Thank you.

Finding someone could happen anywhere - typically on a hook-up site, or in a bar, but I think your first bare fuck should be someone you get to know and trust. Therefore you need to maybe fuck with a condom until you feel the time is right to remove it. Since you don't want to become poz but accept the possibility, then it's either going to be someone who is HIV poz but on meds and consistently 'undetectable' and who you feel is consistent with his meds and honest about it - they can be really up for fun sex but understand your situation, or else as you say someone who doesn't fuck around a lot - is discriminating in who he fucks - and doesn't usually fuck bare and recently tested HIV neg. The key is that many neg guys say they rarely fuck bare, but they fuck bare with most people so perhaps say that to all the boys?! If they do fuck a lot with anyone who lets them then, then because it takes time to show up in tests, they could be HIV poz with an escalating high viral load and not know. And it they fuck around a lot they could have other infections. That is why some people including clinic medics say that an HIV poz guy with a consistently undetectable viral load can arguably be the safest bet! That said, I think that if whoever fucks your hole bare uses plenty of lube, that you are relaxed and he does not need to force his way into your hole, that you have not torn your anus lining through straining when you take a dump, and he is not rough when he fucks you, and you do not have any infection in your anus (and he doesn't have an infection in his penis), then that is the least risky case whatever his HIV status. I would say don't go bare in a bath house or sex club as it is riskier. I would say avoid guys who use drugs a lot in such places as it is riskier still. If they are truthfully negative and starting out on bare sex themselves then it could be a buzz and seriously hot. If you let a Poz undetectable guy who you trust fuck you it can be a buzz in a different way and seriously hot too. All bare sex is risky in some way. If you choose to fuck bare then I say get to know potential bare tops to minimise the risks as much as you can and follow your gut feeling about them, if you know what I mean, and enjoy the ride. What will be will be.

I would pull out if he asked me to, and would cum in his mouth or over his arse if it was a 1-1 or find someone else if it was a sauna and it he asked during the fuck. There again I don't tell the bottom I'm about to cum, I just grunt and flood his hole usually.

Good for you. My opinion is that if you have doubts, then play safe. Sex is part of our lives but for each its' importance and priority level is different. For some it is the most important thing in their life, for others it has a lower importance. For me sex is fairly central in my life. For you at this moment your family and the support you get from them is important and you do not want to risk that for very risky sexual experiences. There is no right or wrong answer, just one you are comfortable with. Maybe you will change your mind later. Who knows. You will know when, and if, that moment comes. All the best to you.

I guess if you have been horny but not cumming you will be creating fluids but not firing it out so it will build up a bit, but after a few days the body gets rid of it with a wet dream as I understand it. We will have to do plenty more research then... keep at it I am not sure whether any group of scientists have actually studied the volume of men's ejaculations - well not officially, anyhow!

As I understand it, sperm is produced from the testes (balls), but the volume is seminal fluid. Seminal fluid is produced in response to sexual excitement as is the natural lubricant we call precum. It is not stored long-term beyond a few days if that. Sperm mixes with the seminal fluid as you ejaculate. Therefore, the only way to increase the volume is to increase the length of time you are sexually excited through anticipation, foreplay, porn or long sessions. I don't believe not cumming over several days will make you cum more, I believe it will only make you sexually excited earlier because of the anticipation and nagging horniness!

Welcome daytrip. Don't forget to check out the hookup site barebackrt.com too. With your stats you'll be likely to get more bare cock and cum in your hole than you can handle

I used to much prefer smooth holes. They are lovely. They can be beautiful even. However I have been fucking a very hairy guy and every time the sensation of the wet hairs dragging along my cock shaft on the in and out strokes, which I love to do with slow long strokes and fast pumping, add an extra dimension to the experience so I have changed my mind.

I like that you don't just want anyone and that you want him to talk you into it - so that you will feel sure and comfortable with it. I feel you will enjoy the anticipation however long it takes to get to that point if you do. Good luck to you young man. Enjoy!

Well done for taking that step. Once you've enjoyed a good look round, and you feel you are ready, see if you can fill in a bit more about yourself and upload a picture or two - doesn't need to be a face picture and you can make some or all pictures private and only show them to people you want to share them with. You are unlikely to get much response with the profile as it is though - so don't be disappointed. How would you describe your idea of the hot bare top who you would like to enjoy your first bare fuck with?

Thanks for raising this starlads. No, I don't think it is becoming MORE puritanical within the gay world or the wider world. It always has had puritanical elements within it. I have not noticed an increase in general self-opinionated bullying within the gay world, and the disparate communities within that. I think however there are now more opportunities for it to surface and be broadcast. It seems that the targets change depending on what opportunities are presented to the vocal minority to use to achieve their aims. Grindr comes along and they see that it gives them something they can hang their need to berate others who practice any behaviours of which they disapprove. Just look at Manhunt Daily and the constant anti-barebacking and anti-twink and anti-tattoos and it seem anti- anything-apart-from-toned-hunk comments that pervade comments for many of the postings. However these negative comments tend to come from a few people every time. There will always people who berate barebacking - they feeI the need to protect us from ourselves, most likely from their own insecurities and fear of being tainted with the general disapproval of gay people having unsafe sex within the world at large. A popular group to pillory. Rant away, you're welcome here!

Hello young man. Welcome. Are you on the barebackrt site - bbrts.com ? If not check it out. It shows 332 guys into bareback sex in East Anglia so there will be some local to Ipswich I am sure Enjoy yourself on here, it's a great place to explore and learn.

That's a good attitude, Cigar btm! I think the condom was too small for him and so was not good for your ass, the condom should fit properly and not stretched tight which is when they rub your ass raw (and split). Regular condoms are certainly not made for 8" thick cocks. You could get some large or extra large condoms, if available in Brazil, for times like that when the top won't go in bare, only has regular condoms, and you do want to feel his cock in you.

I'd say it is normal to think keep thinking about a guy you enjoyed sex and made a connection with. The possibilities and of taking your sex to new levels is exciting you. Just enjoy it, and you can go whoring together with other sleazy fuck buddies too...

Hey Youngslut, thanks for sharing your experience with us and wonderful to hear your top was so practiced at breaking you in. It was obviously such a buzz for you both. Enjoy the ride, I have the feeling it's going to get pretty wild from here on...

I have on DVD and have seen a number of scenes you were in. You seemed to thoroughly enjoy performing What are you doing these days?

Exactly. In my understanding, legally, continuing with sex once permission is withdrawn it is rape and by continuing you run the risk of a rape charge. If you wish to act out rape fantasy play, and wish to avoid the risk you should have agreed a code word that means stop beforehand to protect against misunderstandings and must act on it immediately. Whether cumming inside a bottom who didn't want you to but didn't stop the sex is still legally rape I am not so sure but might lead to other charges of grievous bodily harm or some such if the bottom is pozzed unwillingly. This does of course become a almost academic in a darkroom or other anonymous sex scene where you don't know who your sex partner is which is where much of this 'play' and stealthing can happen.

Initial physical attraction gets my interest, then if the personality fits with mine it is game on.

As Pig Bottom says, clean to me is to do with having a clean hole, but it's an academic point as I would avoid anyone who says anything like that in their profile.

In the risk stakes it is less risk to ask the top to pull out before cumming, but still not no risk. There can be HIV in precum and in any case people can lie or ignore your request. I would suggest you avoid anonymous places like saunas / sex clubs to find sex partners and find someone who doesn't do drugs and is open about their sex life and doesn't frequent those places either and whom you believe. Nothing is going to be risk-free but it's probably safer. Lots of Poz guys are on meds and some medics say it's safer to bareback with a poz guy with an undetectable viral load than a guy who doesn't get tested or who tested neg but has since become unknowingly poz. There are variables of course, nothinhg is simple. The viral load can fluctuate, especially if they don't take meds consistently. Other risk factors include any untreated STDs such as gonorhoea you may have picked up in your ass that will provide an easy route into your blood stream, or hemorhoids from straining on the toilet or from rough dildo or finger play, and any tearing of the ass from being tight or from rough fucking that all damage the ass lining. All make it easier to be infected if there is any HIV in the precum or cum. That's my take on it anyway, and I hope you make the decisions you feel are right for you and for which you are prepared to take responsibility. And whatever you decide, enjoy the ride!