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FYI, @bighardfuck, the original poster, hasn't logged back in since June 26, 2021. Let's hope that his problem has since been resolved! In general, I second @BareLover666's advice of seeking a second opinion from a general practitioner or visiting a community clinic. For general information about a wide range of STIs, including the less familiar one mentioned later in the thread, Americans can turn to the US CDC Sexually Transmitted Infections Treatment Guidelines: [think before following links] https://www.cdc.gov/std/treatment-guidelines/toc.htm The guidelines are updated often, with new information about at-risk populations, testing recommendations, and currently available and effective treatments. Unfortunately, some doctors fail to keep up with the latest version. It is OK to ask about any STI tests and treatments you receive, and to check, or to ask, whether they are consistent with the 2021 CDC guidelines. People in other countries may find the US CDC guidelines informative, but at-risk populations, circulating variants (and drug resistance patterns), available tests, and available treatments vary throughout the world. Always compare with guidelines for your own country or region!

In a Larry Clark film from 1995, whose title is probably banned and whose subject matter definitely is, a group of girls gossiping about sex discuss swallowing and how 'those little spermies really get between your teeth' (approximate quote, from memory). As with so much else in the film, it's a moment of dark humor. Interestingly, the girls don't mention pubes, or whether the guys they'd blown were hairy or smooth/shaved.

By the way, thanks for posting this question, @Rickindc. It's awkward but relevant and, as you say, spontaneous anal sex without douching (and of course without any thought of condom use) is a part of our collective history.

This is a tough one. On one hand, I always reassure bottoms I fuck that sex is not meant to be aseptic. If I expected aseptic sex, I'd just use my hand. On the other hand, strong smells sometimes turn me off, and that's unconscious or a matter of instinct, not something I can override. More importantly, a small cleanup is easy, but a big cleanup takes time. Since sex often seems to happen at night, a big cleanup is tiring and means I won't get to sleep on time. Small cleanup: Change top sheet and pillow cases (I have 4 sets of sheets in case I need to change sheets between my weekly laundry day), and soak a small towel and a cloth in bleach solution before tossing them in a bag in the laundry basket. Big cleanup: Change mattress protector, top sheet and pillow cases, spot-treat stains on multiple items with bleach solution, soak multiple towels, etc. Messy sex in public would also be problematic. I would have to clean my dick and my clothes as best I could with wipes, and then head home in an unclean condition, possibly being noticed by other people on the street or in the train. In my experience there has usually been a happy medium. Bottoms who are closeted, who don't get fucked often at home by their BFs or husbands, or who are younger and less experienced, seem to have more trouble with cleaning out before sex. When things do go wrong and we're at home, I much appreciate a bottom who knows the point at which he needs to stop, use the toilet, and take a shower. Our fun can continue after that, without embarrassment and without worry.

Please share! 😉 FYI, there are Breeding Zone threads to collect videos from major sites like PornHub and NewTumbl (look up @DenverBtmDude, who organized a lot of these), and you could cross-link from this thread to a post in the thread for the appropriate video site.

Yup. And unfortunately, these biases, whether overt or covert, prevent such people from applying medical science. Their scorn discourages patients from seeking care, and their lack of knowledge prevents them from rendering correct and comprehensive care to patients against whom they are prejudiced. They need to find other professions. The persistent religious influence over healthcare is lamentable. It's especially strong here in the US. The Catholic Church has successfully objected to employer-funded insurance coverage for birth control! One interesting reality is that sometime around the middle of the last century hospitals became sophisticated, specialized, capital-intensive operations that could no longer be managed and staffed by religious folk working on a "charitable" basis. One by one, the religious orders that had started hospitals and provided nuns as administrators and nurses had to transfer control to health care corporations and non-religious professionals. This hasn't stopped the resulting hospital networks from appealing to their "charitable" heritage when lobbying politicians, fighting reproductive health care rights in the courts, or seeking donations.

It sounds as if she has been there since before gay sex was legalized in Britain. Is there a framed commendation from Thatcher on her wall? I'm glad to hear that you told her off. I wonder whether she'll ever learn that her judgmental outlook increases STI transmission by discouraging people from coming in for testing and treatment, and leaving those who do scared to identify their sexual contacts. Not to make light of what you experienced, but to make fun of this doctor, she was probably jealous at the prospect that you might be getting more dick than she was. This is how it should be, pragmatic health care with compassion and a sense of fun!

Exactly. And there should be no shame in general, if people think in terms of the amount of pleasure that a dedicated bottom can provide to an assembly of men. I wish no one had ever been taught to be ashamed of pleasure, but I guess it goes right back to the Garden of Eden. 😂

I was going to say Christian fundamentalists or Republicans, but they tend to have a lot of pent-up sexual desire. In my experience, once the dam does break, they'll do all kinds of things forbidden by their religion and/or their political party.

Actually, those are just the ones who spit instead of swallowing. 🙂

Unfortunately this is quite common. It can occur in public health clinics, private non-profit health clinics, and private doctors' offices. It is more common when a patient who is a member of a minority group (such as a gay man, a trans person, an HIV-positive person, or a person of color) seeks care from a medical provider who does not serve lots of similar patients. An experienced provider who has served a critical mass of similar patients is less likely to react this way. Judgment, shame and stigma make correct medical care impossible. They are contrary to the US CDC's Sexually Transmitted Infections Treatment Guidelines. The Guidelines say, "Effective interviewing and counseling skills, characterized by respect, compassion, and a nonjudgmental attitude toward all patients, are essential to obtaining a thorough sexual history and delivering effective prevention messages." [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.cdc.gov/std/treatment-guidelines/clinical-risk.htm Anyone who is judged or who feels that they have been judged by a medical provider when seeking sexual health care services should get the full name, title, and license number of the medical practitioner and submit a formal, written complaint to the medical facility and/or to its owner or funder, and also to the state agency that licenses the medical practitioner. Most importantly, leave the facility and seek medical care elsewhere to prevent further harm. (The harm is not just emotional; it can also be physical, because the medical provider may not be providing standard care for the patient's condition.) Getting sexual health care at a community clinic in a major city can improve a patient's emotional wellbeing and physical health. In my opinion, any medical practitioner who is confirmed to have used judgment or shaming, or to have created stigma, should lose their job and their license immediately, and be barred forever from the medical field.

A veritable mix of emotions! Remember, raw sex between men is only dirty, naughty and slutty because we've been told it is, by outsiders and by some sanctimonious members of our own community. In reality, barebacking is the natural state of affairs. Condoms, pulling out, etc. are unnatural. In nature, all sex is bare and ends with insemination. Welcum to the club! (And as you gain more bareback experience, you may find another club you will want to join. 😈)

A thorough and well-written analysis, @rock-cock-jock. I'm glad that we are moving away from defining sexual orientation as a single (and permanent) position at one of two poles, and realizing that a given person may be somewhere in between (and that his position might change over time or under certain circumstances). It's also important to recognize that people's behavior might not be consistent with the categories by which they identify themselves. The behavior is what matters, and any gap between the behavior and the label is just interesting. The rationing of hetero sex (by women who are afraid that men will perceive of them as sluts; and then by women who use sex as one bargaining chip in a sexist society; and legitimately, by women whose male partners are selfish or simply bad at sex) seems to be a big reason when some straight-identified men seek out sex with gay men (and also trans people). To a straight guy whose girlfriend or wife isn't putting out, access to easy and good head from a gay man is worth a lot.

I'm sorry that that happened to you. I wish more people knew that they don't have to lie, and can still have satisfying, if open and potentially harder to negotiate, relationships. Clearly, it is this guy's loss, for not having been honest with you.

Fingering a hole, finding it slick and wet, and smelling cum, makes me pick that one. I cannot resist a preloaded hole. It's ideal if I see the previous top pull out after cumming inside. As for the decision to give up my load or save it for the next hole, it comes down to how well we "fit" together. I try to hold off and nut when I encounter a hole that feels particularly good to fuck (whether because it's tight, because the guy clenches, because he moves in sync with me, or I admit, because some kind of connection develops, such as kissing spontaneously). I don't mean to put anyone down — in my book, any person who takes random, bare cocks in a dark room is amazing, in touch with their own desires and eager to please other people — just to say that there will be a perfect hole for every cock. The first guy I ever bred, one choice among several walking around a glory hole arcade in San Francisco that night, I chose because he looked similar to me. I felt connected to him because we were both young men of color. By the way, @EuRawBottom, I love your question because it's so significant. It gets at the gay version of evolutionary biology (just as asking which women men decide to impregnate or, more properly, which men women select to impregnate them, gets at the formal notion of evolutionary biology).

This makes me think... Before Santana Row across the street, and all the office construction immediately adjacent to the Winchester Mystery House, there must have been places in that area. Might still be a good location to scope out.

I don't doubt that he was a dick, but unless the two of you agreed to absolute monogamy and tested negative for STIs a week or two after reaching that agreement, he wasn't a dick because he gave you an STI. If we are sexually active to any extent, we are bound to get STIs occasionally. If we have multiple partners during the same interval of time or in succession, we are bound to transmit STIs occasionally. By testing frequently, disclosing infections to partners we know, abstaining from sex during treatment, and most of all, by appreciating partners who disclose infections to us and who don't blame or get upset when we disclose infections to them, we can reduce (but never completely eliminate) STI transmission. Holding sex partners harmless when they disclose STIs is as important as the act of testing, itself. If I've had multiple sex partners between my monthly tests, it is very rare for me to get all the data needed to play armchair epidemiologist and pinpoint the source of an infection. Do I have a way to contact all of my partners for the month? Will they all get tested? Will they all share the results with me? What if any of my partners had other sexual partners after me? Will I have a negative result for everyone I fucked before the suspect partner? Except when absolute monogamy has been agreed to, blame is pointless. A guy who tells me he's had an STI, or who keeps talking with me after I tell him I've had one, makes a very reliable fuck.

In fairness, be sure to check that you have set "Give Loads Oral" to No in your BBRTS profile. If you've done that, it seems perfectly reasonable to ignore a message offering head.

This is how it's done. Sounds like a hot encounter for a hot guy! Keep us posted about your future bathhouse visits...

It is a joy to read about such a rational, practical, and considerate approach, @BB4fking. Clearly you care about your health and the health of others. I too go monthly. My PrEP provider has entered standing laboratory orders that would let me go as often as every 3 weeks. Anyone who whines that PrEP doesn't protect against STIs other than HIV is missing a key point: the obligation to get STI tests every 3 months (if one's PrEP provider is diligent and follows the CDC guidelines) leads to the detection and treatment of many asymptomatic STIs. Many Poz guys also get regular STI testing. If only frequent, regular STI testing could also become a norm among HIV-negative people who are not on PrEP!

I've always been curious about Guadalupe. Please share (whether publicly or by private message) tips about where to go. The segment between the Arena and the Adobe headquarters seems to have declined in the last few years, so I can't imagine that much sex happens there. Maybe I'm wrong. The segment to the north, toward Coleman Avenue, seems more promising. The restroom at the train station used to be cruisy, but sadly for everyone, it is now receiving an influx of homeless people with nowhere else to go to wash up. Before the buildings southeast of the train station were demolished, there were some hidden spots where you could bring a guy for more than a quick blowjob at the urinal. Google has bought the entire neighborhood — virtually all the land between the train station to the west, the Arena to the north, the Guadalupe River to the east, and San Carlos Street to the south. How the Guadalupe River Trail will be integrated into a gentrified neighborhood consisting of condominium and office towers remains to be seen. I can't imagine much room for public sex, although the office buildings will sit empty on weekends and the condo residents will drive in to underground parking garages rather than walk home on dark, barren, windtunnel streets, so maybe horny guys will find a way, as we often do, to have fun without being noticed.

I wish you were my colleague!