Poz50something

I am wondering if a biohazard tattoo as a tramp stamp is sufficient notice of HIV status? I have often thought of inking my cheek or my lower back…

Respectfully, this ruling by the Supreme Court doesn't encourage people to get tested, because once you know your status, you ARE OBLIGATED BY THE LAW to tell someone who you want to bareback with there is a distinct possibility of acquiring HIV from the act. Yes, I do say this to everyone, but it's 2024. There are people from the wop wops who don't know anything about HIV transmission? As a gay man, isn't it necessary to find out whether the act that one engages in could possibly result in a HIV-positive test result? The Department of Justice may have released that statement, but I know of people who have had to register as sex offenders because of non-disclosure of their HIV status. [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.hivjustice.net/country/ca/ca-quebec/. This is a case of someone I know personally, because we volunteer in the same NGO. [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.journaldequebec.com/2019/12/09/atteint-du-vih-il-recidive-en-prison. The article states "Plutôt que d’y récupérer des médicaments pour un problème cardiaque comme il le faisait croire, la victime a plutôt découvert qu’il s’agissait de la trithérapie pour traiter le VIH. L’ex-conjoint et son nouveau partenaire ont immédiatement fait un dépistage qui s’est heureusement avéré négatif. Ils avaient porté plainte par la suite...". (Rather than retrieving medication for a heart condition, as he would have us believe, the victim discovered that it was HIV triple therapy. The ex-spouse and his new partner immediately took a test, which fortunately proved negative. They subsequently filed a complaint.) The person mentioned in the article was already on triple therapy, but it didn't matter, as he was sentenced to 43 months in prison for sexual assault. He also has to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life. Rather than being alarmist, these prosecutions are taking place in Québec, which, as you may or may not be aware of, still carries the moral outrage of Catholic spinster nuns despite 50 plus years of secular public life. It may not be happening in your neck of the woods, but it sure as hell is in mine. I get it - tell everyone ad nauseam, but there should be protections under the law, which don't exist in Québec. Under Québec law, you being poz, and not taking medication would be subject to prosecution for non-disclosure. Even if you DID disclose your status, it's your word against your complainant's.

I come from a similar place - I DETEST having to be uncomfortable when my manhole is blocked. It happens, and even though I eat enough fibre, and have very regular movements, sometimes someone comes over and wants to fuck right now, right then. So, the water bottle has gotta come out, get filled up with warm, sudsy water, have the hose attached and then the so lovely and delicate rotor rooter emptying out happens. I once took a mere ten minutes to prep when Greg (late hubs) decided to bonk as we watched CBC news. But it was enough to kill the vibe. Likewise, I want to MURDER someone who presents a really dirty hole. (yes, I am THAT versatile), It's an instant boner killer. But, them's the breaks. Our playgrounds get a little muddy. But we try our best.

Thing is, we pay lots of taxes to get the medical care we have, so it’s not free. Québec has one of the highest tax rates in Canada, and when I first got here, I had a bad case of orchitis and there were no beds available in the wards, so I slept in the corridors, along with a lady who was in constant pain, yelling and screaming the whole night. I was later told she had stage four cancer. But that was in 2003. Things have improved quite a bit since . When my hubs had his fatal heart attack, the ambulance came within a few minutes, and I wasn’t charged. It’s not perfect, but here in Quebec they’re trying to bring in a private healthcare system and nobody wants it.

Not in Québec….there’s a very strong influence from France on the culture, and people tend not to snip their baby dons. I do notice a generational divide, and mothers in the ‘50s and ‘60s were reticent to question their doctors. No such qualms exist for mod mums. Love my foreskinned gay brothers. But yeah, it’s hard finding cock cheese here too.

The current situation in Canada is that individuals who are aware of their HIV status have to inform their potential sexual partners when they both embark on a condomless relationship. The Supreme Court of Canada, in its infinite wisdom, has made this situation possible, and one result is that it does not encourage people to get tested. I am appalled the in 2024, there are adults who aren’t ready to take charge of their own sexuality and know the risks beforehand of foregoing condom use. Are there any differing opinions?

Because it’s his mother tongue? There’s also Deepl.

PREP and DOXYPrep, plus Valtrex is available. It's also incumbent to get the various vaccinations so you don't come down with Hep A, Hep B, HPV, Monkeypox, and quite honestly, it's much more fun feeling relaxed during sex.

When I was with Greg, strangely enough, the question never came up. I think asking the question would have meant they would have had to acknowledge that we were a couple. That said, who was the man? We both were. Who was the top? We both were. Who was the bottom? We both were. It’s been to the point where I met people who were tops or bottoms exclusively. That’s cool, but I much prefer having a versatile guy.

let it marinate

I am constantly amazed how quickly it turns from warm summer temperatures to a cold bloody day. What I find, and it's always been the case since the day I came to Montreal in 2002, is that my libido plummets to close to nothing when the temp. goes down. I lived in Georgia from 1994 - 2001, and while everyone else around me loved the change from sweltering stickiness to wearing several layers to keep warm. I detested this, still do. I wonder if it has to de with being HIV+ or just the fact that I grew up near the Equator. I am also wondering if there is anything you could suggest to make this better, to gain some hold on the winter blues that I go through every single year.

Today's teachable moment: the Malay Mail has an article about this very phrase. [think before following links] https://www.malaymail.com/news/opinion/2016/01/09/the-culture-of-mengampu-and-membodek/1037287

Chauvin stood on Floyd's neck until he stopped breathing - under which police department training is this not murder? Despite pleas from the crowd, and even from Deputy Lane, who was a rookie cop, attempted to help Floyd but was stopped. A rookie cop knew it's wrong, and you, rawfuckingonly, are still carrying Chauvin's balls? (translation from Bahasa Melayu "mengampu bodek" or "membodek", meaning 'to carry testicles'). This guy was convicted and sentenced to 22 1/2 years incarceration. He promised to tell us why he did this, and introduce new facts that would free him. Not a peep from him.

My response is a little late, and for that I am regretful. BUT... First of all, Nick Fuentes, as a white nationalist, is pretty ignorant from the get go. Add the anti-Jewish propaganda, the incel admissions, the general victimhood mentality, and you see how I wanna tell him - "so why did we Stop the Steal?" - Because you're stupid. "Why did anyone go to jail?" - Because they're STUPID!!! "It would’ve been good to know that before (I) had all my money frozen, put on a no-fly list, banned from everything, lost all my bank and payment processing.”" - you have never had to pay for any of your actions, have you, Fuentes? You have never had any consequences come to bite you in the ass before, have you? Working against the Federal Government has consequences, and this one is a doozy.

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Versus a lifetime? I have been Poz for 20 years already. By this reckoning, I would have stopped payments 2 years ago. But of course, you never stop being a parent. Mum still worries about me. And I am almost 60.

being the avid connoisseur of poppers that I am (said with incredible snark)....I was introduced to poppers at age 18 when my first bf brought a brown bottle back from the U.K. It was Rush. I have tried quite a number of the brands. I find that Amsterdam poppers, even Amsterdam Platinum, is really rough on the throat. Rush is good, but Jungle Juice Platinum or Jungle Juice Black is really my go to. Love it as a bottom, when I get into stuff like the top fucking me from behind while putting his hands on my throat and squeezing tighter. As a top, don't really need them. They delay the cum, and it's kinda dribbly for me. I already take a helluva long time to cum, so it's not helpful. If you have cardiac issues, I would advise not using them. There's this poppers inhaler cap that makes it much more convenient to use, as it prevents spillage. I saw prices were at $44 CAD, but there are now different prices on Etsy. I kinda like Taiwan Blue, but it's headache in a bottle if you take one sniff too many. There's a Canada manufacturer with the brand Rochefort, but it's not sold anywhere here in Canada.

[think before following links] [think before following links] https://stdcenterny.com/articles/getting-std-via-oral-sex.html - long read, but quite informative.

from what I understand, it's well within the law for a private enterprise to require its employees to behave in a certain manner, to have a morality clause on their contract, or for a member of the judiciary to be seen photographed supporting political causes such as Tibetan independence....

So, pre-bareback? Otherwise, you would have told us .

Similar situation. I felt my eyes were super itchy, and I was alarmed….oh no, conjunctivitis again…..so I put in medicated drops, and I guess that irritated the lice, which migrated to the end of my lash. My eyelids felt grainy. Thinking it was a stye, I pulled an eyelash, and there it was….one sole crab lice. I have had to use the shampoo thrice….all three times, various partners brought home lice with them.

you never know when the muse will strike......

that would be 'douche'.....even I make typos.