Sex with men. I try to not box myself in with one or another exact sex play; although as ED tends to interrupt me more often than I desire; cock sucking seems to be my dominate activity recently. Pre ED flip fucking was my most frequent play. I am not a fan of pain. Have played scat stuff and don't find it appealing. Being the one to have to clean it all up after; it is more chore than pleasure for me.
Our men who enjoy sex with men part of our community; I have enjoyed lots of conversations here on BZ that are not sex based. In those circumstances I feel more part of a community. I don't have a hard and fast "type"; definitely willing to try once at least and we'll know how we clicked sexually. And even if we don't click much sexually; I am happy when those develop into friendships.
As a group here, now, in 2023; my sense is our rather open social acceptance is at risk of moving back to fantasy based decisions. Facts and "I don't like" (aka; opinion or thougths about) are often at odds.
WRT DADT; in part poz social acceptance in the coming years might very well get pretty vicious. I don't know that it will, but my observations of social (fueled by political) tolerance is that we're moving away from it while talking a good game. I am a fan of social tolerance about things we do to ourselves. I am not a fan of tolerance about prohibiting others rights to what happens within their own body. In my opinion each of us should have decision domain over our body. And for me there is a big difference between that and restrictions about where I can put my body. While a flawed system; restricting a social abusers contact with others makes sense. Sentencing seems deeply flawed; fueled also more by religion than risk mitigation.
I also realize that while I will always find it interesting to discuss the above matters; I fall strongly in the "you do you" camp. Whether it is in opinion or our varied and rather widely differing abilities and talents. The why behind disagreements is often interesting to me; even if the founding principle. I am rather startled at the claims "it's worth any amount of money if we can save just one child"... We each have a time living; some quite short, some quite long, most somewhere in the middle. Perhaps it is simply my stage in life; 3/4 of a century. Being out and gay for half a century now has exposed me to quite a bit of change in public and private opinion. Experiencing a new fatal illness in my communities mix has our recently ended COVID pandemic a relative "walk in the park".
Jim 7/4/23
HIV Status
Poz, Not On Meds
Role
Versatile
Background
Been out and active since the mid 1970s. My pozzing was by choice to see if I could counteract my genetic resistance to HIV infection. And it wasn't a guarantee. But five months of monthly testing after my exposures I finally tested reactive in 2023. Twelve years ago I would never have done it; and I am certainly cognizant that HIV is not a trivial disease. However it is mostly controllable with a lower side effect profile. I already have diseases for life. I have too many dead friends and I only have a comparitively few years to "walk in their shoes". It is an experience I most definitely am grateful to be experiencing. Will it be much like other stuff I have, not terribly invasive to my ability to self care, get around, experience other facets of living.
Porn Experience
None; save for home videos.
Looking For
Primarily a happy exchange of energy. Raw only though. Might be my place in rural America but the majority of my play buds just want my talented oral skills. I definitely enjoy that and would never say no to sucking a guy off. I would like to redevelop a good topping/bottoming reputation again. It is perhaps excellent that u=u has taken hold somewhat. But largely guys in my area seem to want to avoid poz guys.
@jd13 were my state included in rawTOP's code; I would get a VPN a couple months before you need it. Waiting until the last minute, or after has never served me well. Being on the bleeding edge of technology has its pitfalls as well. But VPN is mature technology and you've options. Better to be on it and never notice the change in July.
And JD, I'm glad you're here too.
Although do understand that the democrats in the Federal government have no power to do anything. Fortunately in the US we also have State, County and municipal governments.
The reason to keep marriage equality is that it bestows on the partnership several rights that have nothing to do with children to the married partners. Domestic Partnerships don't work because they don't come with the same rights.
I haven't fallen in love yet with BlueSky. So far more only fans guys. Don't seem to be many locals.
I am proudly banned from X/Twitter. Was becoming more a cesspool anyway.
Tele seems to be too oft quoted as the data source of federal investigations. Which suggests there are some there who is of interest to them.
I am playing with recon this year, not sure where that will go.
Is that seriously difficult to figure out what "owning other humans" means? But even if that weren't the case, we still have this ancient human thing going on about "race", when humans are a mix anyway. We seem to be relitigating the Civil War.
Yes, I anticipate there will be a period of reconstruction. Hopefully we can settle public expectations on the whole "owning other humans" thing that keeps coming to the surface. Evidently that's for when money isn't enough?