What is the longest time you have abstained from sex?

[straycowboy]

Considering my own situation, I'm just curious what the longest some of you have abstained from sex with another person? For me now Its been over 3 years, and its beginning to get the better of me. Damn I'm horny. LOLOL

[straycowboy]

I thought I might explain for those who are curious as to why I've gone so long, and would ask.

Short of it, I broke up with a guy who for revenge, tried to ruin me finacially a few years ago, then dated a woman which turned out to be a really bad relationship, between the two, I just lost interest in other people, easiest explanation. Plus, i'm still trying to rebuild finacial stability again. I just don't like to be involved with others if I'm not in a stable situation myself.

So there you have it.

[buzztham]

where I live it is just hard to find people to fuck me

[bearbandit]

About 11 or 12 years... In 1998 I started on high dose ritonavir (800mg per day - a dosage which thankfully has been consigned to history), which had the side effect of chemical castration. Within two weeks of starting I lost all interest in sex. With a change of drugs I was beginning to recover from this when my partner got sick. Nursed him for four years, basically thinking that if he couldn't go out whoring, it would be unfair for me to. He died in 2007, and I decided that I needed some time out to sort myself out (at the end nursing was a 24 hour job with help from district nurses etc)... The way things turned out it was only a few years ago that I got interested again. Now I'm just catching up for lost time...

[straycowboy]

Sorry about your lover bearbandit. You've been thru a lot there in a few years. That would be a hell of a strain on anybody, glad you are out of it and resuming a life.

[bearbandit]

Thanks for acknowledging him, straycowboy, though that wasn't my intention in mentioning him. He's simply a very important piece of my past. As you say, though it and getting back to life... ;-)

[Guest]

I thought I might explain for those who are curious as to why I've gone so long, and would ask.

Short of it, I broke up with a guy who for revenge, tried to ruin me finacially a few years ago, then dated a woman which turned out to be a really bad relationship, between the two, I just lost interest in other people, easiest explanation. Plus, i'm still trying to rebuild finacial stability again. I just don't like to be involved with others if I'm not in a stable situation myself.

So there you have it.

my situation was sortoff similar and im not quite ready to be involved yet for another ltr......im an LTR type of person rather than random meets or no strings,etc.....was with ex for over 14 yrs and he emptied my bank account (40K) - not long after my mother died then trashed my business by stealing well over 60K cash from it and approx 30k worth of stock from it forcing it to close as it was damaged so much - he basically stole 100K....almost made me peniless,etc then slandered my name amongst my friends and family to discredit me while during that time he was sleeping around........this made me untrusting of folk for past few years - i kinda hibernated for a wee while to blot it all out........so the ex now drives around in a rolls royce (yup - a fucking rolls royce) bought with "my cash" and everyone thinks butter wouldnt melt in his mouth.....im almost over these 3/4 life changing events in my life and kinda on the verge of wanting to be close with someone again - but like yourself i need my life 100% stable before i invite anyone into share with me in future - im not sure if i could let my guard down but only time will tell.........money doesnt interest me in the slightest anymore either........IF i find a future partner it will be for LOVE and not material posessions or bank balance,etc...........folk who look for that piss me off sooooooo much.

[buzztham]

my situation was sortoff similar and im not quite ready to be involved yet for another ltr......im an LTR type of person rather than random meets or no strings,etc.....was with ex for over 14 yrs and he emptied my bank account (40K) - not long after my mother died then trashed my business by stealing well over 60K cash from it and approx 30k worth of stock from it forcing it to close as it was damaged so much - he basically stole 100K....almost made me peniless,etc then slandered my name amongst my friends and family to discredit me while during that time he was sleeping around........this made me untrusting of folk for past few years - i kinda hibernated for a wee while to blot it all out........so the ex now drives around in a rolls royce (yup - a fucking rolls royce) bought with "my cash" and everyone thinks butter wouldnt melt in his mouth.....im almost over these 3/4 life changing events in my life and kinda on the verge of wanting to be close with someone again - but like yourself i need my life 100% stable before i invite anyone into share with me in future - im not sure if i could let my guard down but only time will tell.........money doesnt interest me in the slightest anymore either........IF i find a future partner it will be for LOVE and not material posessions or bank balance,etc...........folk who look for that piss me off sooooooo much.

wow people like will always end up alone but I hope you find some one that cares for you the same way you would care for them

[Guest bbosouno]

I have a rather "undesirable combo" I am poz take meds luckily undetectable, also have a lifetime history of clinical depression take meds for that. These two have made it very hard to meet anyone. I'm also not a gym rat pretty boy that adds to the combo. I live in Miami which is a very superficial city and the gay men here are just as superficial if not more so. In my eyes I'm just a regular guy "Joe Schmo" type but in this city you need gay porn star looks and body to get even a hello out from another gay man OR you have a huge a back account to compensate OR he's a hustler. I've been in relationship prior to the HIV but it seems to be a pattern forming based on what I'm reading in this forum, I dumped two because I refused to be a walking ATM. They started out nice but then began the money issues...

[TigerMilner]

I went 5 years once without sex with another person. Not going into the why, but I was a single dad with very young children at home and they were my priority during those years. I think we all go through periods where sex is less important than other times. I've been in the catching up phase the past eight years.

[Bttm2go]

While I generally have a strong sex drive, There are times when I don't. I will go for several weeks and not even jerk off. However, I have a lot of fun when the drive comes back. Usually go to the bathhouse and really get slutty.

[straycowboy]

Guys, thanks for responding to this poll, the results have really made me feel a bit better about not having sex in so long. I was begining to think there was something wrong with me. Well, guess there is, but think you know what i mean.

[bbzh]

About 15 years ago, I went 17 months without having sex. I remember being very proud of myself. I realized just how manipulative guys can be when it comes to sex. I jerked off of course but used the time I would have spent chasing cock to focus on my career, which has paid handsome dividends. I still love sex of course but it's very compartmentalized in my life. I do have a bf and am in an open relationship. Sometimes there's no sex for a week or two and then it's three loads in a day, or a wild bb sex party or a weekend fuck trip.

[straycowboy]

Well, I definitely did not make the 4 year anniversary. Yeah!

[fuckboy20]

Before I went to college briefly two months.

But I've sort of been on a sex drought lately. But it's not a bad thing. I used to just have guys cum over and breed me or go to clubs and breed me. But sometimes it's just the same guys online you always see. Experiencing going to a bar freshly after being poz and being able to hook up with someone and have them fuck and breed me and them be cool with my status was awesome. And hooking up with experienced leather men and getting the BDSM, headspace, and full experience besides just the cock and load was beyond words. So I don't think people should feel bad if they don't have sex for a while. I know some guys like multiple loads and as many loads as possible. I've been there and it's hot. But sometimes it's hotter to get a guy that isn't so obvious a barebacker and engaging with them to find out what they are into and letting your sexual interest and theirs collide and going with the flow. Which will most likely be bareback. I'm probably gonna cut down sex for a while because I really like going to bars and drinking recently. And meeting people and hanging out with people is fun. Plus on certain nights it will be fun to go after a certain guy and see if I can get him into bed. Going to clubs and bending over or calling guys to come over and bending over is easy. Something with more of a challenge for me is on the menu right now