Young Guy Needs Advice

[secretslut]

Hello,

 

I am a young Canadian boy, i am skinny, kinda nerdy, i come off as really reserved but i love crazy hardcore porn(is there anything T.I.M. has made that is not fucking sexy-love that stuff)

 

But i need some advice on a few things

 

1) Should i take the plung and have bareback sex? I have a boyfriend(of 2 years) and we have an okay sex life but even tho we are in a relationship we still use condoms all the time, and he is kind of vanilla

 

2) Is it wrong that i think about going and getting fucked bareback even tho i have a boyfriend, what should i do ? i have asked him about it but he thinks cum is gross and dose not like the idea of "breeding"

 

3) Were would someone like me who is kind of shy go to meet guys?

 

4) If it is not to much to ask i would love it if some guys from here would wanna chat with me. 

 

Hope you guys can help.

 

-M

Edited June 17, 2015 by secretslut

[secretslut]

I hope i posted this in the right area

 

Not sure how the website fully works

[LKMike]

Yes, go bb. Get on PrEP. Can you get it on the NHS in Canada? You are too young to be able to stay loyal to a vanilla sex life, when you are obviously looking for more. i have been bred in Edmonton, Calgary, Montreal, Ottawa and Halifax using squirt, adam and bbrt.  

[Bttm2go]

1) You need to have a conversation with your boyfriend. It sounds like you guys are not compatible sexually. You may want to discuss having an open relationship.

2) If you are thinking of cheating, you most likely will at some point. And cum is NOT gross. Having a load deposited in your hole is your reward for being a good bottom. This is what you want!

3) If you are in a major city look into going to a bathhhouse or sex club.

4) If you want to chat, send me a PM.

[slowfuck]

Good questions.

Firstly, how important is the relationship to you in other ways? Just nice, or does it mean a great deal. Is he ok with you going off and getting bred by other guys? Would you say that sex is very important to you, whereas your boyfriend's priorities lie elsewhere and he doesn't value sexual intimacy highly?

Personally, and I suspect most people here would agree, that your young years are for experimentation and having fun. Is it right to give bareback sex outside your relationship? Right or wrong in this case depends on your opinion. There are risks of getting sexually transmitted infections and unknowingly giving them to your boyfriend so it's not simple, but if he's cool with you playing and you are careful who you let breed you then it can work. It's much less risky to think about getting fucked bareback than do it, but I'm pretty sure you've made up your mind and just want reassurance and encouragement.

As an 18-year old looking as you do in your avatar assuming it is you then I don't think you'd need to worry about being shy. Plenty of guys will be more than happy to 'bed' you, your problem will be one of sorting out who you want to let inside you!

Bttm2go put his answers very succinctly and I'd agree except I personally think going to a bathhouse or sex club might be a bit full on at the moment and you should work up to it if it appeals.

Asking these questions here is inviting people to recommend you do it, which I suspect you want to hear. I'd say make sure you're fully aware of the risks of STIs and other consequences and decide what you want to do.

I'm happy to chat by PM too.

[secretslut]

My picture is of me(well of my bum)

 

 

 

I live in a small town, i am pretty sure me and my boyfriend are the only gay people

 

I am just unsure, i really do love him, its just he wont try anything besides missionary sex(he wont even let me ride him), i have tryed talking to him about it but if i bring it up then he just withholds sex(he says stuff like "well if its so bad then lets not do it tonight)

[TigerMilner]

First I have to say that your picture is HOT. No need to worry about being shy. Guys will make the moves. Great screen name too. Hot. Your boyfriend sounds like a dud. Boring and controlling are not hot. You are not going to be happy with him. You are way too young to be tied down at this point. You have told us what you want, now go get it. You will have a blast. I first started having bb sex at 18. I went to my first bath house at 21 so I guess I was like you, a little shy and niave. Just go with your gut. Oh, and there is nothing gross about cum.

[nastybottom]

LKMike pretty much laid it out for you. Break up, move to a bigger city, get on PrEP, and start fucking BB. You're young and hot...no reason to waste time in this situation. You should be having crazy porn sex ASAP.

[seaguy]

At the very least you should talk to the bf and say that it is time that you two stopped using condoms so that you can experience sex that is more intimate and real.  To me if your in a monogamous relationship with someone ditching the condoms to fuck bareback is one of the benefits that comes with a relationship, and if they are not down with that then maybe it is time to move on....

[cman54]

You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. You need to follow your desires and dreams. The issues you are having in your relationship now will get to be more of a problem over time. tell your bf you really want him bare and to cum in you. If he will not do it then you need to get out there and find someone who will. Believe you me there are a lot of guys out there looking for a young ass like yours! You say you like wild porn means you will always want it. When it`s all over you will regret the things you didn`t do more then the things you did. I too am new to this so to speak. And I`m shy about coming out. I feel that going to a bathhouse is a good idea. You go there with the intent of getting fucked and you will. What is so good is that is what most everyone is there for. The same thing. You seem to definitely want it bare and take loads. I feel the same way. Weather you go on prep or not is up to you, I have decided against it and take my chances. I feel there is something exciting about that too. I`d love to keep in touch so PM me.

Also there is nothing gross about cum!!!! It`s awesome to give and receive and tastes good too!!! 

[secretslut]

First I have to say that your picture is HOT. No need to worry about being shy. Guys will make the moves. Great screen name too. Hot. Your boyfriend sounds like a dud. Boring and controlling are not hot. You are not going to be happy with him. You are way too young to be tied down at this point. You have told us what you want, now go get it. You will have a blast. I first started having bb sex at 18. I went to my first bath house at 21 so I guess I was like you, a little shy and niave. Just go with your gut. Oh, and there is nothing gross about cum.

Thank you, i think i have a nice bum boyfriend says i need to do more squats 

 

I just feel a bit bad...almost like i am going to ruin your relationship over sex

 

But he wont even watch porn with me(i showed him a T.I.M. video once and he called me nasty)

At the very least you should talk to the bf and say that it is time that you two stopped using condoms so that you can experience sex that is more intimate and real.  To me if your in a monogamous relationship with someone ditching the condoms to fuck bareback is one of the benefits that comes with a relationship, and if they are not down with that then maybe it is time to move on....

 

I know he would not cheat on me, and thats what i have told him, but he says "ya never know" and that the idea of cumming inside me is gross 

 

but i do love him.

 

Ugh i am so confused

[drscorpio]

My picture is of me(well of my bum)

 

I am just unsure, i really do love him, its just he wont try anything besides missionary sex(he wont even let me ride him), i have tryed talking to him about it but if i bring it up then he just withholds sex(he says stuff like "well if its so bad then lets not do it tonight)

 

 

Thank you, i think i have a nice bum boyfriend says i need to do more squats 

 

But he wont even watch porn with me(i showed him a T.I.M. video once and he called me nasty)

 

I know he would not cheat on me, and thats what i have told him, but he says "ya never know" and that the idea of cumming inside me is gross 

 

All of this behavior from your boyfriend is Red Flag. He is demeaning to you (telling you your body isn't good, telling you cumming in you would be gross, the porn you like is nasty). He is controlling of you (don't complain or I will withhold sex).

 

Breaking up over sex perfectly legitimate in the early stages of a relationship. Being with someone long term takes work. The sexual connection is what helps you get through the tough spots. Over time the other things like emotional connection start to matter more, but if you are not  on the same page sexually to start with, it will be hard to make a go of it. 

 

But you don't need to break up with him "over sex." You need to break up with him because he is an abusive, controlling, sex-shaming shit bag who is shredding your self esteem. If you really don't know any other gay guys where you live, it is time to move. He is exploiting your sense of isolation to control your behavior. That will not lead to anything good. 

 

It may be that there is no malice with him. He may just have too many issues to be in a healthy relationship. Still, there is no reason for you to put up with this treatment. 

[secretslut]

All of this behavior from your boyfriend is Red Flag. He is demeaning to you (telling you your body isn't good, telling you cumming in you would be gross, the porn you like is nasty). He is controlling of you (don't complain or I will withhold sex).

 

Breaking up over sex perfectly legitimate in the early stages of a relationship. Being with someone long term takes work. The sexual connection is what helps you get through the tough spots. Over time the other things like emotional connection start to matter more, but if you are not  on the same page sexually to start with, it will be hard to make a go of it. 

 

But you don't need to break up with him "over sex." You need to break up with him because he is an abusive, controlling, sex-shaming shit bag who is shredding your self esteem. If you really don't know any other gay guys where you live, it is time to move. He is exploiting your sense of isolation to control your behavior. That will not lead to anything good. 

 

It may be that there is no malice with him. He may just have too many issues to be in a healthy relationship. Still, there is no reason for you to put up with this treatment. 

 

Yeah i live with my boyfriend tho. So it makes things more complicated.

 

I can't move back home because my mom disowned me after i told a teacher about a family memeber who was doing stuff to me.

 

He never hits me or anything, but he dose make me feel bad sometime(like when he calls me gross and nasty)

 

Should i just break up with him(i dont know if i could cheat on him....i feel bad just thinking about it.....but i also wonder what it would be like to get fucked hard and in a possition besides missonary)

[seaguy]

Thank you, i think i have a nice bum boyfriend says i need to do more squats 

 

I just feel a bit bad...almost like i am going to ruin your relationship over sex

 

But he wont even watch porn with me(i showed him a T.I.M. video once and he called me nasty)

 

I know he would not cheat on me, and thats what i have told him, but he says "ya never know" and that the idea of cumming inside me is gross 

 

but i do love him.

 

Ugh i am so confused

Cumming inside you is gross?  He needs his fucking head examined.  It's far from gross it is fucking the hottest thing a top can do to a bottom 

 

He is being mentally abusive towards you and that is not right.  Your pic shows you are far from gross. You are young and shouldn't settle for something this flawed.  There are many guys who would gladly watch TIM vids with you and fuck bareback with you and make you feel desired and hopefully fullfilled sexually after cummingt inside you.  If you visit Seattle I would gladly volunteer ;-)

[secretslut]

Cumming inside you is gross?  He needs his fucking head examined.  It's far from gross it is fucking the hottest thing a top can do to a bottom 

 

He is being mentally abusive towards you and that is not right.  Your pic shows you are far from gross. You are young and shouldn't settle for something this flawed.  There are many guys who would gladly watch TIM vids with you and fuck bareback with you and make you feel desired and hopefully fullfilled sexually after cummingt inside you.  If you visit Seattle I would gladly volunteer ;-)

 

 

Mind if i send you a PM?

 

Yeah i know he is mean to me sometimes, i try talking to him about it but he freaks out, plus he is a bit older then i am(he is 27).