I'm a Straight Man, But Want Gay Sex

[gay87]

It's not considered gay, if you say "no homo bro" within 10years of an homosexual act 

[Guest]

On 4/23/2017 at 4:20 PM, Guest yelrom said:

I am married to lovely woman but all I can think of is me being fucked. I love the feeling of a cock inside me. Go for it enjoy it

I feel the same way; I enjoy most everything with my wife, sexually, yet I love Anal sex ( Receiving), and can't resist having my ass plowed. I am very prone to having prostate orgasms, or Cumming hands free, and I feel this is the reason I stray from the Heterosexual Reservation, at times. 

[hntnhole]

Good morning, Bob

I have a couple of suggestions.  First, define your use of generic terms (i.e. "gay", "straight") for yourself.  These are fairly amorphous terms, and can mean whatever you tell yourself they mean.  Take your time to consider where on the spectrum of sexual identity your needs lie (your *real* self, not your "cultural" self), and be  honest with yourself.  I know there is such a thing as bi-sexuality, and if that's where you fit in, fine.  Always ask yourself this question: if x statement is true, then why is if true?*

When I was a kid, I fucked girls because I honestly didn't know it was possible for guys to fuck each other.  Talk about a repressive childhood, huh?  That said, when I discovered that guys could actually have sex with each other, I never fucked another girl.  Define yourself and your requirements for yourself, disregarding what others might think.  It's your life, not anyone else's.  Do what makes you happiest, most fulfilled.

You wrote that you "know" you're "straight" (perhaps a brief nod to cultural norms?), and then wax poetic about fantasies of "gay" sex.  If the first is true, then why is it the second reads as so much more interest?  At least do some serious and honest reflection on what you really need to be a "whole, complete, fulfilled" man.  You also mention a "partner", but neglect to mention the gender of your partner.  I would guess it's female, but that's unclear.  Why not say?  Perhaps because you're subliminally trying to disguise the situation you're in to yourself?  In any case, no one want's to hurt their partner, since the partnership implies a level of caring for that person, loving that person.  Of course you want to protect that person from being hurt, injured in any way.  That said, if the "partnership" is built on a substantial secret ... oh, say lusting for sex with a differently gendered person/persons/many persons ... the fair and honest thing to do is include your partner in that fantasy.  Perhaps that partner already senses (or even knows) what's in your mind, and doesn't know how to deal with it.

All of which leads to two tasks you may want to consider.  First, your own private and honest introspection which I most sincerely hope will lead to resolution.  Secondly, including your partner in that hoped-for resolution.  Then, you (and your partner) can move forward with your lives.  Dishonesty between "partners" always leads to unhappiness, so do what you must to avoid that, but be true to yourself first, since without that, it's hardly possible to be true to your partner.

  Thanks for the very interesting post, and my best wishes to you (and your partner).

It's all about (at least for me ...) Cock/Hole/Sperm

*this applies across the board of intellectual inquiry; cultural identity, sexual identity, politics, religion - everything.

[RubberAustria]

Bob‘s last visit on this site (or is it yet an UNESCO heritage😇) is 4 years ago. 🤪

Perhaps he is now the biggest fist-pig in his area…for men only of course.

[mblad99]

Dont label yourself.  At some point psychologists tried to categorize sexual relations and failed at it.  At lot of guys like watching another guy cum, and yes, they want to be holding, sucking, or  do something with a cock thats shooting sperm.  But they also like women. Even porn figured that out with the "money shot."  

If you think you might like getting off with another guy, just do it.  If you need a few beers to do it, have a couple.  Some guys can only suck cock when they have been drinking.  Other guys just like anal sex, but dont want a relationship with another guy in any form.   Personally, I have found over the years I like a friendship with my fuck buddies, but I dont like holding his hands as we walk along a beach.  Its more like talk about life, fuck, have a beer, talk about life, etc.  Others might feel different. 

As you can tell from the response here, there's a lot of guys in the same boat as you.  You just need to find your zone.

[Cutedelicategay]

On 4/16/2017 at 5:46 PM, Bob123456 said:

Okay, where do I start?  Well, let me say I'm struggling at the moment as far as my sexuality is concerned.  I know I'm straight, but the thought of gay sex is really turning me on.  The thought of taking cock and sliding into a hot sexy man pussy is overwhelming.  Tasting cum, feeling it spray over my body is turning me on like crazy.  If you hadn't guessed as much, I'm a virgin at least in regards to gay sex.

I really want to experience gay sex, but I'm in a relationship and don't want to hurt or harm my partner.  At this moment I'm just looking for advice.  If you have any suggestions I'd be happy to hear them.

You are not Straight. Come out of the false sense of security. If you get sexually aroused by same sex you are not Straight. Most so called straight men who fuck a guy thinking that a hole is a hole are many times responsible for spread of diseases bcoz they think they are invincible. You are a bisexual and there is nothing wrong in accepting the same. Have an honest and open discussion with your woman partner if you have one and avoid bareback sex at all cost. If you hide this from your woman partner then be prepared to be ok if your woman partner is spreading her legs for someone else. 

[Guest WelshBBCigarFuck]

I am gay, have been since my teens and probably earlier, but don’t get hung up on labels and don’t let people try to label you.

Over the years I have had sex with lots of married men, most in a loving relationship with their wives and most had kids at home who they doted on, they just also had a need for man-on-man sex. Many of those married men liked to bottom, something that most wives wouldn’t be comfortable with, but another man would. I never tried to label them as their sexuality is their business, they had a need, they were enjoying, I was enjoying, nobody was being hurt by it and afterwards they went back to their married lives and carried on as normal.

All I would say is that if you choose to have sex with men and  have a partner that you love and don’t want to lose, for heavens sake BE DISCRETE with your hookups.  Also use protection as you don’t want to pass anything onto your partner.

[Cuteguy69]

I was info only girls and one day m’y wife sent me to hook up with a guy It took me only 5 minutes to removed thé condom and bareback all night

i whas hook since 

but i told thé truth to m’y wife 

so when i whas diagnose with hiv she always ok with It 

[Safer]

On 10/14/2021 at 8:37 PM, Cuteguy69 said:

I was info only girls and one day m’y wife sent me to hook up with a guy It took me only 5 minutes to removed thé condom and bareback all night

i whas hook since 

but i told thé truth to m’y wife 

so when i whas diagnose with hiv she always ok with It 

Did you ever bottom?

[carl1982]

up until 2 months ago i always considered myself to be straight, one drunken night with a toxic top changed that for me. fter a bit of panic and uncertainty i gave in to my urges and now enjoy both men and women.

Who would have though going to a party at my mums place would have changed my life so much.

[Hottightass4u]

Thé only way to know if you like-love man on man sex is just do it.  Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

[drscorpio]

Moderator's Note: This is not the Backroom. Discussing risky sex that you have had in the context of a health discussion is fine, but Poz Fetish is not. 

[SpectreAgent]

One of my best - and sexiest - mates identifies as 100% straight. But when I asked if he’d ever fucked guys, he shrugged and said “Of course”, as though it were an absurd question. Still, he is an actor and if there’s one thing I’ve learned from knowing and working with actors, it’s that normal rules don’t apply! 😂

[Justaholeff]

On 4/24/2017 at 1:48 PM, Bob123456 said:

Hi again just like to say thank you for the advice you guys are giving me. It is helping, still a virgin lol but I'm coming to terms with liking cock! The odd thing for me is that i fancy women more than men but love watching cocks squirting cum in a man or allover a man and in my fantasies i put myself in that kind of scenario of taking or giving loads! I'm a little confused to say the least!!

I identify as gay and always have yet, I like straight porn, straight men in porn, and have had sex with women ..It's all a mental thing...your sexual actions doesn't define you...so if you identify as straight because you are mentally yet have or will have "bro moments" more power to ya!....some of my hottest fucks have been with straight men and I never doubted them when they overall stated their identities.

[cyberdolphnow]

Gay and straight are lifestyles including with whom you're in romantic and emotional relationships and most often sexual. Hetrosexual,  bisexual and homosexual are your gender preferences for sexual activities. 

I'm a heteroromantic homosexual man married to a heteroromantic bisexual woman who knows about my homosexuality trending away from bisexuality because when we met I was open and honest with her. We have an open marriage relationship with eachother with her knowledge that I'm not going to have hetrosexual intercourse (PIV) anymore both because of my orientation and because  she's had some medical issues. She knows that I have bareback sex with men regularly and understands that I take my own personal responsibility for sex. She's had boyfriends herself via swinging activities. 

I don't want female vaginas anymore,  only male cocks.