Have you experienced sexual assault or harassment?

[bbzh]

With all the talk in the mainstream press in the U.S. these days about sexual harassment - including the allegations against Kevin Spacey - I've been wondering, have the fellow members on here experienced any type of sexual harassment or assault, for example, on the job or elsewhere? How did you deal with it? 

About 20 years ago while working at a business school, I was hit on repeatedly by a man who was married with kids. I had to work with him on a research project and he always felt he had to touch me. I really needed the job so I wasn't about to report him. He was very senior and nobody would have believed me anyway. Interestingly enough, I never had any more problems after I ran into him one night at a well known gay cruising spot. He looked as if he would die from embarrassment.

By the way, I'm not talking about gay settings such as a bathhouse or bar, where we all know guys will grope you. That's also harassment/assault of course but I'm referring to situations where you felt you were powerless to stop it.

[tallslenderguy]

I know this is not what you are referring to, but the one time i felt assaulted was when i was arrested in '98 for cruising an undercover cop in VA. They always chose hot looking guys for vice and they would go to known gay cruising places and cruise, it was total entrapment (which they no longer do).  We had a full on exchange and when I asked the guy if he wanted to fuck me, he arrested me. The law was a 100 year old sodomy law and it was a felony. It took a year to come to trial, and it cost me a lot of money. At one point the arresting cop actually apologized to me. The judge laughed and reduced it to a misdemeanor, indecent exposure (even though there was no exposure involved, just talk). 

I've had sex with well over 1000 guys, but that is the only time i ever felt assaulted.

[Guest btchbyl]

i could say yes but when i allow them 2 do it 2 me i dont think it qualifies as harassment or rape. i just give them what they want every time (my ass) and all is good.

[Guest 120DaysofSodom]

lol so many times I cant count them

[Guest BBBoyfromTN]

High school was nothing but sexual harassment but everyone got harassed. I have been sexually assaulted...raped really...several times, including one particularly painful and brutal gang rape. When you're young and naive you're particularly vulnerable, but even after the first time I was raped it happened again. You just never know when it can happen to you sadly.

[suckerboi]

On Sunday, November 26, 2017 at 6:33 PM, btchbyl said:

i could say yes but when i allow them 2 do it 2 me i dont think it qualifies as harassment or rape. i just give them what they want every time (my ass) and all is good.

Absolutely.  Since I pretty much always consent willingly, I can't say yes.  

[Guest btchbyl]

I cant call it harassment or assault because I get off on being treated that way and I welcome it from every man every time. so no I cant say ive been harassed or assaulted but it does make good fantasy play.

[PendragonSpirit]

Technically? Yes. It was at a friend’s house party. We’d all had a lot to drink, and I remember we moved the party to the basement where there was a bed and shower. I remember everyone being IN the bed, making out, fooling around a little. I passed out at some point, and woke up to one of my friends fucking me pretty hard, raw, just as he was about to cum inside me. Didn’t try to stop him or say no, I was still VERY drunk. I passed out again a little after that. Was told later by one of the attendees everyone had taken a turn on my hole that night. 

[kckinkybtm]

11 hours ago, PendragonSpirit said:

Technically? Yes. It was at a friend’s house party. We’d all had a lot to drink, and I remember we moved the party to the basement where there was a bed and shower. I remember everyone being IN the bed, making out, fooling around a little. I passed out at some point, and woke up to one of my friends fucking me pretty hard, raw, just as he was about to cum inside me. Didn’t try to stop him or say no, I was still VERY drunk. I passed out again a little after that. Was told later by one of the attendees everyone had taken a turn on my hole that night. 

Hmmm...is it wrong that this is one of my fantasies?

[CumBustion]

Harassed? Yes, but not to the point of wanting to report it....just the usual "faggot jokes" by co-workers in the lunch room. I usually played it off or told a joke back at them. I had one guy harrass me real bad, but I'll explain below. Even got asked uncomfortable questions by a few female co-workers about my cock sucking techniques or how to take it up the ass painlessly. I pretty much told them somthing stupid like "Suck it like diamonds will shoot out of it if you do a good job." or "Anal sex is never painless...if you're doing it right. Don't forget to douche before hand and use a ton of lube." 

As for assault/rape, certainly yes. In fact, I'd say the first time I had penetrative sex, it was rape. And, I was told before that once it happens, the scent of victimization stays. It's like rapists can sense a vibe when someone was a rape victim before. For instance, my co-worker/manager, whom I mentioned above. He was the one that went out of his way to tell fag jokes in my presence, asked me a few times to suck his dick just to see if fags sucked cock better than women, and (unconfirmed) left a used condom on my car with s note saying "I left a snack for you." One time,  a few us had to work overtime on a project. When the other two left for the night, my co-worker called me in to his office and physically, then sexually, assaulted me. It wasn't sexy and I wasn't attracted to him. Being my manager, he kept me silent by threatening to fire me. He knew I was strapped for cash. He used to tell me that he knew I liked it rough, only because I came that first time while he was anally raping me. For weeks, he'd drop hints that I "needed to stay overtime" because his wife wasn't satisfying him at home and he need to unload down my throat. Plus, he liked the way I sucked his cock.

There have been a few other times: date "gone bad" to partying at a bar or club and it progressed badly. Most times, I'm really feeling the vibe and really into the dom/rough aspects of the fuck, but there were those times I just didn't want to do it but ended up getting it anyway.

[Guest 120DaysofSodom]

More times than I can even count, but I think that comes with the territory of working in porn and escorting. I do think, however, that all those experiences have made me who I am. I dont know why else I would enjoy being humiliated and degraded so much, or why in the past several years I always fantasize about being tortured sexually and raped.

[Poz-Mcr]

Stereotypically, I was groped by a vicar when I was a teenager. Can't say that I wanted it, and he didn't get very far, but things could have been so different if he had actually been hot.

[MuscledHorse]

Sexual harassment has been the big topic since Harvey Weinstein was exposed. And as more and more came out saying they had been harassed in their lives at some point, I stared to feel bad that it had never happened to me. I mean, I'm a good looking guy, fat pony meat, beefy accommodating  ass. Why haven't I ever been harassed? Then I realized it's because I'm a slut.

[bbasian]

Yes, while I was at a summer job many years ago. I was asked by two female secretaries who said "get your cock out". I said show me what you have and I will show me mine. They never did. But my lab boos, a pps (pale pretty slim) - who still I compare other women to was a openly asking for sex. I ignored her as I was not sure if she was being serious. But she told me her husband works away from home for extended periods and she wants sex. Yes!! in my mind and we fucked on a regular basis bare, The thing is that she always wore a bra (didn't needed it as she was ultra firm) and those horrible "granny" knickers. She was so pale and delicious with a tiny waist that I was wanking before about fucking her and eventually I did. 

Edited February 15, 2018 by bbasian

[ErosWired]

Before my former Master trained me, I had had only a couple of experiences that crossed into nonconsent. Afterward, however, once I honestly embraced the notion that I had become a set of holes with a duty to please any man at any time, it occurred to me one day that it might be impossible to actually rape me. Then I discovered that that wasn't entirely true. My master trained me to have dry orgasms on verbal command, every time anybody tells me, "CUM." Well, I had mentioned this to a guy, and he began to use the trigger on me, over and over and over until it went well past discomfort into torture, and then beyond even anything my Master had done to me - a brutal and intimate violation. So even though I don't think any man can rape my flesh any longer, I can still be raped in spirit.