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Valid question,  as many have said.   It's not one that has really occurred to me though. Not substantially, anyway .  Until now.  So, I had to give it some thought.  I read through a lot of other guys replies, too, and I get all of it.  Here's where I landed........I come at this having  always been generally vers.  Sometimes more top,  other times, more bottom.  But I'm always shifting between the two because what moves my urge in one direction vs. the other is typically wherever my sexual mood is on that day.   The vibe/connection/chemistry with whoever I'm meeting can play into it too, but let's not complicate the answer.   So, when I'm looking for a bottom, I'll be looking for his ass pics first.  If I'm after a top guy, his dick gets my first look.  But no matter which, I still want to see pics of the whole package in either situation.  Just because I plan on fucking the guy stupid doesn't mean I won't want to suck some of his dick along the way.....particularly if it's really nice dick.  On the flip side, I have a really big thing for checking out the butts on top guys.

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On 3/8/2018 at 2:13 AM, Davidc said:

As a top I’m becoming very frustrated that bottoms send dick pics ,I’m not interested in your dick.

its your ass I want to see , ideally with spread cheeks and a cum filled hole.

For me that’s the biggest turn on and tells me your a slut , my first question if some one contacts me for a instant hook up is “got a load in you “ if so I’m round in a flash.

i guess that’s why I like dark rooms , I can almost always find a freshly fucked a.

I get the sentiment, however, I'm almost the exact opposite of you lol

 

I don't mind bottoms sending me dick pics. I love men (cis, trans, nonbinary, nonconforming or any means in the masc-presenting/identifying spectrum), and showcasing your cock is always an amazing means to me. As my definition of a "dom" and my advances as being a top, I love explore my bottom's body. His hair, his back, his fingers, his calves - all are amazing spots for sensation, and a cock is no different. I love worshiping my bottom's body with love and saliva, so, hey, a cock to suck is always fun. 

 

If a bottom wanted me to suck him off, hey, it's all good with me. If a bottom doesn't want to have me touch his cock but admire it/ show it off, then hey, I'm all for it. If he wants to hid it and only showcase his hole, then that's fine, too (though, may play with the balls, since I like playing with them when I'm inside a guy). Whatever my bottom feels comfortable with, I'll gladly be there. To me, as a "dom" it's my duty to explore my bottom's being and see what I can "exploit," so my bottom can enjoy being submissive, and feel safe doing so. And if that means slobbering over his cock, then by all means - his torture, my reward. (Also, wanted to add, I rather be first and then last, rather than be in the middle of the bottom's adventures. Want to have an intimate moment with the guy)

 

Though, I can see why it can be irritating. Not to degrade a human being, but when you ask for a burger with just ketchup, but they give you a burger with mayonnaise instead, you'd be upset. And what you're in the mood for is just a burger with ketchup. It's simple, right? Well, that's what I see in your/and a lot of guys' arguments. However, sexual means of a "bottom" will vary. As there are many hook-up apps out there, there are many individuals who may have different means of being a "bottom," and different means of sexual expression, and to add - certain photos that can be shown.

 

I rarely have pics of myself, and the ones I have are somewhat outdated. And as someone who's busy a lot and when busy doesn't really look "good," I don't take pictures of myself. So, when I talk to a bottom who wants pics of me, and the limited pics I have are showcasing my asshole and cock, some bottoms may say "Oh God, here we go again, another vers guy who really wants to bottom for me." No, I just have those pics. Is it an inconvenience? Yeah, to a degree. However, that's what communication is for. I'll explain the situation and we go from there. You'd be surprised at the number of bottoms who wanna rim tops. So, as a means, I just keep a pic of my hole. That doesn't erase my "top-ness," rather it makes it more "interesting." But, I get it. When you're in the mood to breed, you don't wanna see a dick, you just want a hole. Or maybe cocks aren't important in your sexual appetite, but the hole is. Regardless, all of which are fine.

 

I just say from my view that cocks in the pic doesn't matter to me. I'm here for a good time, and that I respect what my bottoms want. Sure, I'm not gonna bend over backwards (or forwards) for them, but, cocks are wonderful protein shake containers. Why would I not wanna sample them? But, then again, I'm a guy who's so obsessed with "worshipping" my bottom to the point, I want him musky as hell, sweaty and ready to be rimmed and fingered for hours. So, might be a weirdo here.

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Some of this has been touched on already, but I think there are four main reasons that bottoms take and send dick pics.

  1. Not everyone is a good photographer and it is easier to take a decent selfie from the front than from behind. Just think about how many pics you've seen that are blurred, badly lit, off center or taken in a mirror streaked with splattered toothpaste. Cameras are everywhere but few know how to use them.
  2. Pics from multiple angles provide a better representation of the person than pics of only one body part. They say the camera doesn't lie, however there are ways to manipulate the pose to accent what you are aiming at. There's nothing wrong with getting a pic of the front -- you might flip him over and fuck him that way sometime.
  3. Pics are seen as porn and not necessarily a "job application". Most guys -- including straight guys -- look at dicks in porn. While you may be only looking for an ass to fuck, others may find it erotic to see all sides. (This also leads into the fourth possibility)
  4. Fakes phishing for return pics or other useful info. This is usually obvious when it's someone outside the area, but still a possibility for someone local as well. I used to have a picture of a chicken standing on a donkey that I'd send to fakes who wanted pics of my cock and ass.
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I only send pussy pics and face. If a top is insistent on a dick pic, I make it very clear that I have no use for it but if that's what theyre demanding, I'll send it. 

It's very rare for them to ask for dick pics and it's even more rare for me to send one.

My presumption is that they're sending them bc hook up apps are often times more about masturbatory material and not actually follow through. 

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On 12/27/2018 at 11:33 PM, blondy said:

I'm with the OP on this one - I'm into seeing the bottom's hole ... so pictures of it (i.e. what I'm going to fill) are what is required. I can't actually recall being turned on by seeing a bottom's regular dick pic ... but there are two circumstances where I think it can be hot:

  1. When the bottom's dick is in a chastity cage (here's one from a bottom that I've fucked who has one permanently locked on his cock); or
  2. When the bottom is being fucked by a large cock, and his cock is small / soft / flaccid

 

Both of these mean that the bottom is getting his pleasure from his ass, and not his cock ... and as a top, I want the bottom to be working my cock with his pleasure organ https://assets.s3xstatic.com/bz/uploads/emoticons/default_smile.pngso these kinds of pictures help "lubricate" the hookup rather than indicate that I might be dealing with someone who is versatile.

 

And as I'm not really much into versatile guys, I find that cock pics can be an indication that someone might want to top me ... and that = bad chemistry / not a good hookup.

 

 

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My cup of tea 

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Well as a bottom I don't incline to sending dickpics, I naturally try to lure tops with my hole pictures. But some times I do, 'cause they ask me to, saying my useless small and half-impotent dick is somehow important to them too. As it was said before, it's all about the mind set and this is mood killer for me. 

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I never send dick pics as my dick is of no relevance. I do send arse/ass/pussy/cunt (you choose, I'm happy with all references) pics.

However even though I'm 100% bottom I do love a nice meaty arse. Nothing like watching those glutes flex on a top as he's pumping away.

I do enjoy feeling a tops arse as I'm sucking him and also love rimming as long as the top doesn't expect me to fuck him too, I view rimming a top as a submissive act which I'm happy to do and I'll also happily rim a fellow bottom especially if his ass is already loaded.

But other than that I'm a definite cock worshipping BB bottom after as many loads as I can get.

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Unless I'm looking to top or I'm specifically asked for one, I don't ever send dick pics. I do have a few pics of me being fucked where you can see my cock, but it's never the focus.

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