Bottoms that don't stay still.

[PG1961Canada]

I love talking dirty while topping or bottoming.  I work it into the slutty talk.  Does he like this? Should I do more that? It works whether you're giving or taking. 

Some guys get off on the dirty talk and start talking back and it can get real interesting... you can both really 'steer' how the fuck is happening in real time.  

Some guys appreciate that you ask and are either shy or so focused on the fuck at hand that their answers are short and blunt.  That can be a turn on as well.  You know they are listening and responding.  I love it when I'm fucking a guy and he squeezes my cock on the in/out thrusts.  But when I have the position I like - I just tell him - "stay there" and hold him where I like him.  Most bottoms get it.  If they don't, I'm quick to say "stop moving or I'll stop fucking".  That usually gets compliance. LOL.

And I really pay attention to the cock in my hole and the action of its owner.  I love to squeeze and open and see what he likes.  Then do more of it.  I'm experienced enough to 'watch' for the signals from a good solid top.  And if the guy doesn't seem to be 'getting there', I ask him if there is anything he would 'like'.  That usually works as well  Some guys are just shy about asking or telling when they play.  Me? That's half the play (fucking is the other half) GRIN.

I love the answers on this one... all over the place.  Cheers

[find91]

I don't mind a bottom fucking back. Moving around and girating too much is annoying. This isn't a porn shoot and no one is going to give u an Oscar or Tony for that wack performance.

I had a few bottoms do this to the point I lost my erection, and one nearly bent my dick off he moving around so much. I stopped and called it. That shit annoys me as fuck.

[damsonffpig]

1 hour ago, find91 said:

I don't mind a bottom fucking back. Moving around and girating too much is annoying. This isn't a porn shoot and no one is going to give u an Oscar or Tony for that wack performance.

I had a few bottoms do this to the point I lost my erection, and one nearly bent my dick off he moving around so much. I stopped and called it. That shit annoys me as fuck.

Hey totally agree, I love using a greedy bottom, but hate it if I have to chase them around, it makes me loose interest, similarly when I am the bottom, I want to make my hole available for the top and enjoy the mutual pleasures and yes fucking back which emphasises the bottoms greed.......definately not moving and girating around 

[Guest GermFactory]

I noticed this thread and wanted to weigh in. Granted, this is from the perspective of someone who more ‘clinically’ goes about getting semen into a recipient as opposed to a pleasure fuck, but nonetheless wanted to give my own two cents:

I see one of my roles and responsibilities when I am engaged physically is to emotionally and mentally ‘prepare’ the recipient. I do this by creating in that moment a mesmeric, almost hypnotic control. They are brought into a headspace in which they know ‘why’ they are there. They are made to be pliant; docile; yielding. Not by any physical restraint but by their own emptied whiteboarded brainspace. By instinct and nature itself they recognise their purpose in that moment. They are made to take an active role but only insofar as using their hands as they are bent forward to splay open, to expose to me, to PRESENT as a female animal will for mating.

It is in that headspace that they are in (actually which we both are in), that perfect moment, that splendid, beautiful moment of penetration their own instinct is to simply “let it happen”. In that soothed (yet emotional)state of mind that nature itself leaves them static; still; rendered motionless to simply allow themselves to be the vessel, to be the repository, to be dosed by me.

Edited March 11, 2020 by GermFactory
better word choice

[beanna]

1 hour ago, GermFactory said:

I noticed this thread and wanted to weigh in. Granted, this is from the perspective of someone who more ‘clinically’ goes about getting semen into a recipient as opposed to a pleasure fuck, but nonetheless wanted to give my own two cents:

I see one of my roles and responsibilities when I am engaged physically is to emotionally and mentally ‘prepare’ the recipient. I do this by creating in that moment a mesmeric, almost hypnotic control. They are brought into a headspace in which they know ‘why’ they are there. They are made to be pliant; docile; yielding. Not by any physical restraint but by their own emptied whiteboarded brainspace. By instinct and nature itself they recognise their purpose in that moment. They are made to take an active role but only insofar as using their hands as they are bent forward to splay open, to expose to me, to PRESENT as a female animal will for mating.

It is in that headspace that they are in (actually which we both are in), that perfect moment, that splendid, beautiful moment of penetration their own instinct is to simply “let it happen”. In that soothed (yet emotional)state of mind that nature itself leaves them static; still; rendered motionless to simply allow themselves to be the vessel, to be the repository, to be dosed by me.

could not possibly describe such any better than this,words can only but fail when it happens

[jackdaw]

I love GermFactory's image of the recipient "presenting" to attract the attentions of the male. I can relate to that. In the past, I've put my energies into letting the nearby male know that I am in heat! Once he mounts me, I surrender all of me to his instincts to breed. I want nothing to distract him from driving to his climax and filling me with his seed. I just let Nature take her course.

Edited March 12, 2020 by jackdaw

[tallslenderguy]

i know there are no universal rules about this, but this is how i am.

my favorite position is lying on my stomach under my Top. ( i'll happily move into what ever position He wants as we fuck, except me on Top of Him. For me, that is just too much like topping, even if i am the one being penetrated).  But, lying on my stomach feels best to me because i feel most physically and emotionally subdued/controlled that way.  And for me, that's a big part of fucking, the Top's desire to penetrate and leave a part of Himself in a bottom. i see it as He is the creator, the artist, and i'm submitting to His creative energy.

As a bottom, i'm His receptor (and want to be).  i can't say i never move, but my movement is a result of His influence on me, not something i am doing independently.  i almost always moan, sometimes whimper, but i will literally fight any urge that isn't submissive... He is subduing me. Not unusual for me to bite my mattress while being fucked, my head my flail, but my ass remains in position and submissive.  Some Tops kiss my neck or ear and that has the effect of making my back arch and my ass push into Him, but again, that is a button He is pushing (whether knowingly or not), and i cannot help the response. 

[q310]

On 3/11/2020 at 8:30 AM, GermFactory said:

I noticed this thread and wanted to weigh in. Granted, this is from the perspective of someone who more ‘clinically’ goes about getting semen into a recipient as opposed to a pleasure fuck, but nonetheless wanted to give my own two cents:

I see one of my roles and responsibilities when I am engaged physically is to emotionally and mentally ‘prepare’ the recipient. I do this by creating in that moment a mesmeric, almost hypnotic control. They are brought into a headspace in which they know ‘why’ they are there. They are made to be pliant; docile; yielding. Not by any physical restraint but by their own emptied whiteboarded brainspace. By instinct and nature itself they recognise their purpose in that moment. They are made to take an active role but only insofar as using their hands as they are bent forward to splay open, to expose to me, to PRESENT as a female animal will for mating.

It is in that headspace that they are in (actually which we both are in), that perfect moment, that splendid, beautiful moment of penetration their own instinct is to simply “let it happen”. In that soothed (yet emotional)state of mind that nature itself leaves them static; still; rendered motionless to simply allow themselves to be the vessel, to be the repository, to be dosed by me.

You so perfectly capture that  perfect moment of,  still, silence as you just become the repository...

[Yes]

When I was younger I was taught that it's lazy to stay still when being fucked.

Experience shows, tho, that moving too much, or at the wrong moments, is obnoxious and possibly dangerous, as mentioned above by various people.

Still, sometimes I feel self conscious if I'm being very passive. I think he will find me unenthusiastic, or that I'm taking advantage of him by making him work too hard and not keeping up my end of it. (And I am the one who is meant to be servicing him, not the other way around.) In those moments I find a word or a guiding touch very reassuring. If uncertain I'll try moving the smallest little bit, to see the reaction. I try not to let my insecurities get in the way of things much.

Most men do want me to move some of the time. Just have to pick the moment and cede control immediately when it has passed. Guys like feeling desired, and sometimes need to catch a breath, so a few strokes controlled by the bottom is part of good service. Others want me to bounce back or move in rhythm with them. These things I know because they start moving me with their hands or fingers and react well when I follow. But then they will get more aroused by whatever it was they wanted and they will take control right back.

I absolutely love it when I can lie still and team a good pounding and be very confident that it's what is wanted. Some combination of trust and chemistry will get me there.

[Guest]

On 2/2/2020 at 12:52 AM, Starwood said:

Yes Porn has a lot to answer for.

Yes.  Yes it does.  LOL

[Bttm2go]

I tend to move around in the sling. I don’t just lay there like a rag doll. I participate. My tops don’t mind at all. And when I top I expect the bottom to get into it. It’s amazing the positions you can get into in a sling. About three months ago we were going at it so hard the sling frame started to tip forward. Thankfully there were a couple guys who grabbed and steadied it. That was a fun night.