Do you get anxious about whether you will get the load?

[Guest DetroitAnon]

One-on-One in an exclusive setting doesn’t really apply here.  This question is related to us cumdump bottoms taking loads at a bathhouse.    I need some feedback from other cumdumps like me. 
 

I love love love raw dick, especially when fucked by guys with big/huge dicks.  As soon as I start getting fucked, I start to get anxious about getting the load.   I think “will he give me the load, or will he edge as he continues to tryout various bottoms?”.  Also the longer he goes, “Will he get tired/soft, and stop short of shooting a load in me?”  

 

If I had a guarantee that I would get the load, I’d love a long session taking raw big dick.  But there are no guarantees, so the longer he fucks me, my mind gets preoccupied with the load.   I use all my skills to milk it out of him, but if he is purposely edging, that usually won’t get him to cum.  
 

I think my preference is for shorter fucking durations and opportunities for more loads.  I get frustrated when getting fucked for a long time and not getting the load.  

 

For my fellow cumdumpsters, how do I find balance and better appreciate the amazing feeling of raw dick inside me?   Is the load truly just a “bonus” that shouldn’t be overemphasized?    
 

I want the anxiety of whether I get the load to go away and appreciate that he chose me to fuck.    But honestly, I’m a greedy whore and want to be the bottom that gets all the loads.    
 

How do you feel when you don’t get the load???

 

[mixnzz]

real disappointment..........i need the load!

 

[ErosWired]

12 hours ago, CumDump15 said:

I want the anxiety of whether I get the load to go away and appreciate that he chose me to fuck.    But honestly, I’m a greedy whore and want to be the bottom that gets all the loads.  

In other words, you want to have your cake, and eat it, too.

Sorry, bud, but I don’t think anyone is going to be able to help you find a way to be a greedy bottom who wants all the loads and not be anxious that you’re going to miss one, because that’s an all-or-nothing mindset. And, you’re never going to “get all the loads” at a bathhouse anyway even if you were the only bottom there (as if) because you’re simply not going to be some men’s type.

So, in order to rid yourself of the anxiety, the only thing you can do is decide to change the way you look at things. You can either a) decide that it’s okay if you don’t get all the loads (not a bad notion, because ‘greedy bottom’ is not a good look on anyone); b) decide that you value the fuck more than, or as much as, the load; or c) decide that meeting the Top’s need is more important than what he does to you.

 I’m absolutely a (c) kind of cumdump. I love taking loads, and I absolutely love a good long-duration fuck, but if the Top doesn’t leave happy and satisfied, none of it means anything for me.

Seriously. As long as you allow yourself to be ‘greedy’, you will experience anxiety - that is the nature of greed, when a person wants all for himself. It’s so hard to achieve that it’s a recipe for frustration, and you don’t make many friends that way.

[lovetobefucked]

What Eros said ... Stop thinking solely about yourself and start just giving the absolute best ride you can.  You already got his cock inside you.  Enjoy it. As long as you are only centered on yourself you can't give your best.

[Guest ff-whole]

Yes I always would love to get the loads but this is often not the case... the happier I am if in the end I do get it...
I love long fucks but not to long because I get tired too...
My best load was from a negro guy with a huge fat dick... I first started sucking him for I guess 5 or 10 minutes - I don't know exactly how long it was really in the semi dark room, but I do remember we had quite a bunch of onlookers. He then roughly turned me around on my knees on the bench he was first sitting on... slipped on a condom and started pounding my ass which was quite sore but I slowly produced enough lubrication of my own... after a while he turned me on my back and started pounding me that way and all of the sudden he pulled out and pulled his condom off and came real close to my face so I started sucking his dick again - I hate condom taste - and then he came in big gushes... partly in my mouth and some on my face and when I found out his come tasted really nice I sucked him empty and cleaned his dick...
Under the showers I met him again and I gave him a hand and thanked him profoundly... He asked if I enjoyed it as much as he did...
Oh yeah ! ! !
I wish I could meet him again... but I don't know if I would recognize him again... I was in such a rush.

[Guest DetroitAnon]

1 hour ago, ErosWired said:

In other words, you want to have your cake, and eat it, too.

Sorry, bud, but I don’t think anyone is going to be able to help you find a way to be a greedy bottom who wants all the loads and not be anxious that you’re going to miss one, because that’s an all-or-nothing mindset. And, you’re never going to “get all the loads” at a bathhouse anyway even if you were the only bottom there (as if) because you’re simply not going to be some men’s type.

So, in order to rid yourself of the anxiety, the only thing you can do is decide to change the way you look at things. You can either a) decide that it’s okay if you don’t get all the loads (not a bad notion, because ‘greedy bottom’ is not a good look on anyone); b) decide that you value the fuck more than, or as much as, the load; or c) decide that meeting the Top’s need is more important than what he does to you.

 I’m absolutely a (c) kind of cumdump. I love taking loads, and I absolutely love a good long-duration fuck, but if the Top doesn’t leave happy and satisfied, none of it means anything for me.

Seriously. As long as you allow yourself to be ‘greedy’, you will experience anxiety - that is the nature of greed, when a person wants all for himself. It’s so hard to achieve that it’s a recipe for frustration, and you don’t make many friends that way.

Thank you. I appreciate your constructive criticism and this kind of feedback helps a lot.    Just a few clarifications, when I am getting fucked I use all my skills to make sure I adjust to each top’s style of fucking to ensure he’s getting from me what he needs and wants.  And even if it hurts a bit from constant slamming of a huge cock, I’ll go with it as long as the top wants because I am there to please him.   Other times I know that the top is trying to get to a nut but doesn’t get there.  That’s when I feel most disappointed because yes I didn’t get it, but also because I feel I failed.   So I need to be more organic with fucking and just go with the flow. 

[Guest ff-whole]

3 minutes ago, CumDump15 said:

Thank you. I appreciate your constructive criticism and this kind of feedback helps a lot.    Just a few clarifications, when I am getting fucked I use all my skills to make sure I adjust to each top’s style of fucking to ensure he’s getting from me what he needs and wants.  And even if it hurts a bit from constant slamming of a huge cock, I’ll go with it as long as the top wants because I am there to please him.   Other times I know that the top is trying to get to a nut but doesn’t get there.  That’s when I feel most disappointed because yes I didn’t get it, but also because I feel I failed.   So I need to be more organic with fucking and just go with the flow. 

Yes in the beginning it hurted but I thought, if I stop him now I will never get this chance again, so I persisted and it paid off. I squeezed my ass muscles about every couple of minutes or so and that too worked for him apparently... the trick is to listen to his grunts and breathing to see if it works or not... and sooner or later you'll be rewarded, unless he is not into that... My guy had the stamina of an ox and it was very hard for me to keep up to his pounding...

A couple of weeks ago I had another guy who pounded me and tried to get his balls in there as well, but his rubber thing he had around his balls and dick hurt my hole, and after a while I realized he was done for quite a while... I tired and slipped out, breathing like if I had run a marathon.
People don't realize that taking dick is hard work too... It is not just bend over on your knees or lying on your back but the steady pounding and the entering and up and down of that dick inside is tough work... I am quite open, experienced and sloppy thanks for that because I can't imagine being tight... As soon as Tops notice that, he will pound harder too and get worked up to that hole... the onlookers will notice it too... I grunt and sigh like a cow in labor, and most often than not they get hot as well, but once I am done with this guy I often am totally spend and have to hit the shower and the jacuzzi to relax a bit... Next session in half an hour or so folks...

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[Guest RawCunt]

Stop thinking that actual fucking, is a porn compilation of creampies and cumshots for a start.

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[hungry_hole]

20 hours ago, CumDump15 said:

If I had a guarantee that I would get the load, I’d love a long session taking raw big dick.  But there are no guarantees, so the longer he fucks me, my mind gets preoccupied with the load.   I use all my skills to milk it out of him, but if he is purposely edging, that usually won’t get him to cum.  

What most cumdumps forget is that guys at the bathhouse try to "save" their load the same way cumdumps avoid shooting their load because once they shoot, they're done.

On the other hand, what most guys forget is that once you shoot it's just a matter of waiting for 20 minutes or so and you are horny as ever. So, no big deal if you shoot your load. On the contrary, guys who enjoy fucking after shooting once and waiting a bit their second fuck is even better, they last long and the orgasm is amazing.

[a2malways]

UpIt's kind of a fact of life for those of us who primarily have sex in baths. No matter how much a guy is enjoying fucking your ass, if he just got there but planned on staying and fucking for hours longer, he just may not give you his load.
 

I have a few responses. First I just assume that if I am lucky I will get he load from maybe 40% of the serious fucks I have at the baths. You can't get hung up on each one.

Second, I try to get a load or two early. Look for guys who have been there for a while or might need to leave soon.  Or relax your standards, if you have any.  It takes the edge off and you can enjoy licking those loads off the cocks of subsequent guys even if they don't breed you.

If you are in a long fuck and start worrying about the load, ask yourself "What if I just write off getting the load right now? Would I still want to continue the fuck?"  Go with that. If it's not a great fuck, or he doesn't push your particular buttons, even if he keeps promising you the load, just politely say you need a break.

 

Since what you are experiencing is an attribute of all the options guys have at the baths, use that as a strength. What other ways can you expand your options to take cock and cum? One of the things I have started to do especially if things lull, is offer myself as a fluffers to other guys fucking. Just kneel quietly next to the bottom getting fucked on the bench and make it clear that you are happy to suck cocks before, after or during their fucking. This kind of blatant pigginess will often inspire tops or onlookers to fuck you.

Happy hunting. And I understand, but, relax. The loads will cum.

 

 

[atlfukbud]

I go hoping to get a load or two, but as I've said before get loaded in advance and it helps your odds because you don't seem so desperate for it -- I went to a Sauna last Friday and Saturday nights --Friday, I was needing a load, hungry for it (although I knew better). I stayed 3 hours, sucked a few dicks and got one butt load. Saturday night, same 3 hours, pre-loaded before I arrived and just had fun... I took 9 dicks (4 loads up the butt) -- then the sauna manager asked me out on a fuck date for Sunday night -- not bad for an old guy 😉 I say be playful, and have fun -- sex is not something to be anxious about if you're over 20.

Edited February 19, 2020 by atlfukbud

[Guest CuriousDallas]

For me it’s all about the load. A long hot session is cool if he’s got a big dick and knows how to use it but I’m also wanting to get as many loads as I can and don’t want to spend hours for just one load. Ideally I want a guy going at me for maybe five to ten minutes and busting two loads in me. If you’ve gone ten minutes and nothing I’m moving on as the guy is probably either spent, rolling on something and can’t cum, or a guy who has problems cumming. If it’s any of those three they need to move on...just being honest.

[bareback-flipflop]

I need loads. But I can enjoy fuck without loads if I get some. Yesterday, I had lots of fuck, but only one load. Honestly, at the end of the session I was really disappointed. 

[cintarius]

19 hours ago, CuriousDallas said:

For me it’s all about the load. A long hot session is cool if he’s got a big dick and knows how to use it but I’m also wanting to get as many loads as I can and don’t want to spend hours for just one load. Ideally I want a guy going at me for maybe five to ten minutes and busting two loads in me. If you’ve gone ten minutes and nothing I’m moving on as the guy is probably either spent, rolling on something and can’t cum, or a guy who has problems cumming. If it’s any of those three they need to move on...just being honest.

I agree. It is all about getting the load.

[Guest ff-whole]

I love the loads... Asking what the load score is, is kind of silly... "Who has 1000 or more loads..." that will take a year most of the time. Unless you are at a specialized party where you are the only bottom for a large group of tops, I think at a sauna you might be lucky to get 5 or more loads in a whole afternoon and night...
Besides who is counting...?
I don't most often don't feel the guy coming but just might feel him shiver and grunt.
The idea that he is unloading a massif load inside of me is very hot and gets me horny all the time for more. Sometimes specifically I will ask the top if he filled me up with his sperm.

I don't get anxious about if or if not I get the load. I used to get very anxious about getting pozzed, but that fear is now almost non existent anymore... so I guess that means I am now a fully adjusted Cumslut. It all takes time... I suck dick more often now and even want the guy to shoot his sperm in my mouth.