Advice for a inconsistently fucked bottom

[Ironhei]

Hey Yall,

 

First time poster here, looked for a group on a whim because I was tired of not finding community. A little about me, I'm black vers bottom, 29 fairly hairy def more of a bear type. I love bareback. Nothing makes me fucking harder or more primal. I've had the pleasure of having some good dick in the past but always have a hard time finding consistent dick. I got toys but it's so hard to use them when I just want the real thing! Has anyone else had problems being patient with their anal training? Also I noticed when I get fucked really hard, I get this really uncomfortable tightness where my prostate is being hit and I feel like I'm about to piss myself. I struggle sometimes with getting past that feeling. I'm super erogenous so I feel like that's why it feels way more intense than I'm used to. Does that go away with time, or is that one of those mental barrier things you get by?

 

I hope I eventually find a consistent top that wants to turn me into his breeding slut. Top fantasy right now is to just be a cum pig, for Daddy and his friends. Not gunna make that a reality without putting in the work though lol

 

Any ways if anyone has any helpful anecdotes, tips, advice, or other perverted help I'd appreciate it. Thanks 🙂

[theplayerking]

Buttplugs are better than dildos for training purposes. Practice for and hour a day eventually working up in size. If you’re really tight, it’s also useful to warm up with a buttplug right before you get fucked. 

[negbtm]

2 hours ago, Ironhei said:

I get this really uncomfortable tightness where my prostate is being hit and I feel like I'm about to piss myself.

I think that's your body trying to cum from prostate stimulation. That's kind of what it feels like for me and if you can breathe your way through it (or huff poppers or whatever) you might end up cumming handsfree.

[DicLuvin]

Being a Top, what positions are more comfortable and still get Bottoms off.  As well as, allow me a Top to ream his ass good?

[norcalraw]

It took me a long time to get used to getting fucked. For most of the first ten years of fucking I was almost exclusively a top because I could stand the pain of cock inside me.  I guess I found the right guy who helped guide me into becoming a bottom slut. He had the most perfect sized cock, went at it slow, always rimmed and fingered my ass first to open me up. He bred me at least once a week for about two years. That did it for me, he popped my cherry good and now I love taking cock all the time. I guess the trick is to find the right size cock attached to a top who’s willing to pop your cherry with patience. You also have to keep a regular schedule to train your ass. Once you’re ready, then you need to find guys that are thicker, longer to push your ass to accept bigger cock. I’m now able to handle 10”+ without any pain. Love when they get past my second hole. 

[Ironhei]

On 3/21/2020 at 12:10 AM, theplayerking said:

Buttplugs are better than dildos for training purposes. Practice for and hour a day eventually working up in size. If you’re really tight, it’s also useful to warm up with a buttplug right before you get fucked. 

I have definitely done the second suggestion before but that's good to know! I have quite a few butt plugs, but I should probably replace em. I used to like silicone but have found glass & metal in particular to be more comfortable.

On 3/21/2020 at 12:32 AM, negbtm said:

I think that's your body trying to cum from prostate stimulation. That's kind of what it feels like for me and if you can breathe your way through it (or huff poppers or whatever) you might end up cumming handsfree.

Ahhhhh okay okay that's good to know 🙂 I have done that before but it usually takes me such a long time to do on my own when I'm edging and stimulating my prostate. Next time I'm going to try just breathing my way through it, now that I know it's definitely more of a normal feeling. 

[Ironhei]

5 hours ago, norcalraw said:

It took me a long time to get used to getting fucked. For most of the first ten years of fucking I was almost exclusively a top because I could stand the pain of cock inside me.  I guess I found the right guy who helped guide me into becoming a bottom slut. He had the most perfect sized cock, went at it slow, always rimmed and fingered my ass first to open me up. He bred me at least once a week for about two years. That did it for me, he popped my cherry good and now I love taking cock all the time. I guess the trick is to find the right size cock attached to a top who’s willing to pop your cherry with patience. You also have to keep a regular schedule to train your ass. Once you’re ready, then you need to find guys that are thicker, longer to push your ass to accept bigger cock. I’m now able to handle 10”+ without any pain. Love when they get past my second hole. 

Damn okay yeah I feel like I have walked a similar path to you. I've had tops who have definitely been the right fit but never find the consistent and patient part. I think I just need to get out more cuz I know I'm a whole snack lol I wanna be able to take cocks that big eventually. Good as time as any to practice though ") 

[Ironhei]

10 hours ago, DicLuvin said:

Being a Top, what positions are more comfortable and still get Bottoms off.  As well as, allow me a Top to ream his ass good?

Hmmm me personally I tend to really enjoy missionary or doggy, though I've been fucked on my stomach before. When I'm trying to get acclimated to a dick I do like to ride, take it at my own pace. If they got the strength and stamina for it it's a great position to get fucked in. On my stomach is probably the easiest way to pound down hard. Gravity!