Ageing on Sex Clubs

[Scottyrim]

I am now 53 and though I am reasonably ok looking, but abit overweight. I am a bottom.

I actually have no problem with ageing . It is what it is . But I have noticed it is harder to have sex. It used to be the easiest thing in the world.

I had another thread about some  Berlin Sex clubs that will not let people in if they are overweight or older. Now I love Berlin and I think some of this is German  chao that I have misinterpreted.

Sometimes I feel invisible which is totally expected, but hard to deal with sometimes.

I am pretty positive in my attitude so I get over this feeling but was wondering how others coped or felt. I love being Gay but sometimes I think the Gay Community spends a lot of time talking about young people but not much about getting older.

 

 

[Kimberley]

Have hear this from more older men. i don't understand it. i love older men. my interest begins at +-40 till 60+. they are such friendly nice persons to fuck with. younger just isn't my thing. maybe i have daddy issues but i just like older

[MuscledHorse]

It depends on where you are and what you go to. My husband made his first trip to Fist Fest last month. He is the former super fat kid who still has some obvious gut and essentially a Bear build. I on the other hand am a muscled gym rat. He was worried no one would play with him and it took a lot of convincing to get him to understand I would be the exception at the event and his build would be the rule. He got there and soon saw I was right and most guys were average build to built like him. He played with a lot of guys and came home happy. If you are looking at bathhouses (or worse, bars) as your indicator, they are a terrible. Even I hate bathhouses; too much cruising, cat and mouse and if you're not *exactly* what they want, you don't even exist. Sex clubs and sex resorts tend to be far better because all the guys there know we are there to fuck like animals and so no one really cares about the rest or does the teasing cat and mouse crap that is common in bathhouses. I am in the over 40 crowd and I still get  ton of use (my other half is mid-30's). I meet a lot of regular and bear build (so furry with a gut) that I play with because my only standard is that you have a penis between your legs and a desire to use it (and hopefully your hands, too). You may have hunt around for events and venues that are not the exclusive domain of twinks and gym rats. They do exist, as do male centered sluts like me! 🙂

[Bearhunter55]

In some circles it seems like anyone over 25 is "old".  When I was younger my types were usually 30-50 but now that I'm older I prefer 40+.   What kills me is guys in their 50s and 60s who only want guys under 25 (hmm, just like straight men wanting women under 25....).  Sure there are some younger ones who like older dads, especially wealthy ones! - but broadening your horizons does help. 

[Guest]

Well into my fifties and know all about this. I love to go to saunas becuase I love the heat and steam. The presence of a bunch of naked men to look at is a bonus. But it's been at least a decade since I did any meaningfully enjoyable sex in one. (The bears days in some local saunas being honourable exceptions). I kind of understand why guys invest heavily in their appearance and want to connect with someone of the same type, But there is a real difference between that and being disparaging about people around you with their distaste being displayed in looks or comments. Of course bitchy queens trolling the corridors proclaiming their superioity being such a turn on to all....

Sex clubs are the exact opposite. The ones in Birmingham and London are generally far more welcoming and sex is more frequent. Many years ago it took quite a bit for me to approach SBN and Vault being far from body positive, and I remember the fit and attractive staff being genuinely welcoming and friendly when I'm standing there skinny and being a grower not a shower. I think it's the darkness, the beer, the presence of so much musk in the air that gets your lust going, and finds connection, and means guys response to attractiveness goes further than appearance. But I do think you need to go with a positive energy of just enjoying it, as thinking you aren't going to pull becomes self fulfilling. I tell myself of the sexy 50 and 60 year olds I was fucking in my 20 and 30s to remind myself that they might now be feeling the same way.

[hungry_hole]

11 hours ago, Scottyrim said:

I am a bottom...I have noticed it is harder to have sex. It used to be the easiest thing in the world.

One solution is for you to try getting more into topping, having profiles that say "you are a top" and that describe what kind of bottom you are looking to fuck and breed. I can guarantee you will get replies from guys you like.

Ageing affects the chances of sex hook-ups, that's for sure. When I was in my early 20's it was easy to get someone to fuck me. On a week long holiday in NYC when I got to the YMCA my neighbor  across the hall had been taking loads for a while. While I organized my stuff in the room I heard sex noises coming form that room across the hall and made me very horny. When I heard the guy leave, I came into the room and started playing with the hole from across the hall, sucked out some of the cum, and got the 45 yr-old guy so horny that he just fucked me and quickly bred my hole. I went to my room and left the door open and a few minutes later the guy takes a shower and leave the Y. With his load in my hole I now wanted more...

Now, I know I wouldn't do as well as I did then. But I have some tricks up my sleeve, like using in the saunas some glow-in-the-dark signs with slutty language. Many guys have told me they came into my room because of the signs. I have another trick that is also a fetish of mine.

 

[NastyRigPig]

The joke I make is I’m too old to be a bottom so I have to call myself versatile now.  At the sex clubs/baths I make certain I have some sex toys with me for when the pickings are slim, and if you are willing to share favors with you you can find willing partners.  Strange how that happens. 

[Fillitup57]

of course the older you get the more you see it as now it is affecting you.  I am in my 60's and went to the bookstore last night ( was somewhat spun ) and saw a guy who really can play with my ass and it gets me going.  We left the door open - I was naked when he was fisting me.  During the time a number of people looked in and as usual a number looked shocked- where did they think they were- but over the night 4 guys came in and they closed the door( always a good sign) when they pulled their pants down I repositioned my self so they could get to my hole with no problem and 3  of them fucked me bare leaving their cum inside of me.  The last guy was somewhat different- he came in and was looing at the porn playing and played with himself, he asked if he could change the channel and I said sure.  He put on straight porn and then I was pissed with  myself.   Well he kept playing with himself and I finally said if you want to leave any cum in my ass to be used for lube when fisting, I said fine.  That opened up the floodgates opened.   He fucked me and fucked me and came at least 3 times- he would fuck hard and I encouraged him to do so. He also took off all his clothes.  it was so good- if he could have raped my ass, I think he would have done so.  We must have go at it for 45 minutes.  When we stopped he said I was the first person he ever fucked ( hard to believe) and he wished he had not waited for so log.  He had always wanted to do so and see if fe liked it.  From how sore my ass was today, he did enjoy it.

[Fillitup57]

wanted to add and forgot was those who won't have sex with older men had better be good as Karma is a powerful thing and some day they too will be old  

[Leather69]

Well, last year when I was in my late 60's I had a couple trips to Melbourne early in the year (before Covid-19 f*cked the world).. a couple nights @ NUD at club80.. I never had any trouble getting off with some very cute masculine guys in their 20's and 30's. It just depends on where U go and what U are really looking for. Need to go o/s a again but when with restrictions etc ???? Unfortunately club80 is no more grrrr  

[Scottyrim]

Yeah leather 69. Club 80 going has been horrible. I think a lot of attitude is from guys a similar age to me. Younger guys seem to have no real problem. But guys my own age, it is weird

[BlindRawFucker1]

I’m in my mid 50s and blind.  That really makes me invisible to guys of all ages.

 

I will admit, I’d love to hook up with guys in their 20s, since I never had the opportunity.

 

As was said, karma can be a bitch, so all of you young guys had better remember that.

[Guest]

Yes I have been dealing with this for years. The websites and apps can take some responsibility for constantly emphasizing the "most woofed" or "most viewed" profiles. It's always about the young, muscled, hairy and hung isn't it?

There was a guy in NYC who used to host sex parties for the over 40 crowd and those that liked them. It was always a great time. I wish he would have them again, but I guess he got tired of doing it.

These young guys need to learn about "old man karma" and pull down their pants for daddy every now and then. The more they do, the more the younger guys will do for them when they get older. I used to always let grandpas suck me off when I was young. I get some hot young guys every now and then because of that.

[Carlos1881]

Guy's you all have sex appeal in your own way and remember you are ‘enough’ , beautiful  on the inside and out ! 😉

Channel your inner kid and pig and those guys will soon come running 

Have fun 😀
 

 

Edited August 21, 2021 by Karl8181

[poztwinksrhot]

I've been partnered and monogamous long enough that I haven't had to go through those changes, but it wouldn't surprise me.  When I was young, 'old' was always about three years older than I was at the time - until I started getting around 25, when 'old' stalled out at around that number.  I'm now in my 50s and it's been a decade or two since I would be boned about fucking myself.  Some guys are just like that. 

There are also young guys who love (or at least are ok with) older guys, and that makes me happy, even if I'm not out there hunting them down IRL.  However, my last experience before becoming permanently-partnered was with a twink who I later found was just looking for someone with a checkbook.  That gave me a decidedly bad taste in my mouth, so be wary of those, unless you've got more money than you need, and don't mind giving it away.

The key is for the two types of guys to find each other.  That isn't always the easiest thing, especially if you're in a small group of people like a particular sex club on a Wednesday night, or the back rooms of an adult book store (if those things even still exist).  Online is probably the best way to go these days I expect.