First anal - safe or bareback?

[Guest]

I'm a curios straight (or bi) who wants to try anal sex for the first time.

I don't want to get sick, how should I lose my virginity?

[BootmanLA]

2 hours ago, Mojojo said:

I'm a curios straight (or bi) who wants to try anal sex for the first time.

I don't want to get sick, how should I lose my virginity?

By getting an education.

"don't want to get sick" is a vague, nebulous, impossible standard to meet. You have to decide what, if any, level of risk you're willing to take. The only completely safe sex is to masturbate and/or use sex toys that you do not share with anyone.

Beyond that: Condomless sex presents multiple risks, some of which can be ameliorated, some of which cannot. If you are on PrEP - and following the instructions carefully, you are highly unlikely to contract HIV. If your partner is HIV-negative, or has HIV but is undetectable, you are also highly unlikely to contract HIV. Even if he has HIV and is detectable, there's no guarantee you will be infected with any one particular sex act - but the odds are notably higher.

Even beyond HIV, however, condomless sex presents the possibility of many other STI's that can make you "get sick". Those include syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia,  HPV, crabs, and more. Some of these have vaccines which can prevent their transmission to you; others simply are a potential risk if you have condomless (bareback) sex.

Even if you do have sex with a condom, that's not protection against all STI's, even when used correctly.

[viking8x6]

On 1/30/2022 at 5:14 PM, BootmanLA said:

By getting an education.

I'll second that recommendation 100%

But I'll also add: By using that education to make an informed decision (as opposed to an alarmed decision) about what you want to do. I say this because while there are many, many dangers in this world, an awful lot of them (including the risk of illness from STIs) are risks that are worth taking (or at least many people think they are). Only you can be the judge for you... but there is no such thing as perfect safety on this side of the grave.

[Guest]

Just look for a good and gentle top that will help you get through your first three days. Then you be on your way. Oh, and do yourself a big favor look for a top that can last up to two hours like I did, and you will be amazed on how you will feel after those two hours

[Mcv69]

Do not let fear stop you from doing what you want to do, but that being said ask your partner his status and also maybe get to know him a bit first. Lie back and enjoy the ride. 

[Guest50]

I am assuming you have had sex with a woman before....well almost anything you can get from a pussy you can get from a dick or ass too...this "getting sick" thing sounds rather offensive towards gay sex. Yes the statics are higher but you are taking a risk with any kind of sex you do, even protected.

[timfreo]

My first time was covered. Gave my virginity to a guy in a bathhouse, a stranger. He used a condom . Still wish my first time had been raw 

[ObligingBottom]

1. Find a guy you are attracted to and who is attracted to you.
2. Figure out if you trust him.
3. If you want to know something, just ask him.
4. Talk to him a little if you have concerns or issues. Communication is key.
5. Have fun and enjoy the experience.

[Guest]

Gave my virginity to a bareback top.  I knew I wanted it that way. This was before prep so it was a risky thing to do, especially since I was on the fence between sexualities, leaning towards gay but with Herero tendencies.  Didn’t want to catch anything but also knew I wanted to feel real connected sex for the first time. It was all that and an incredible fuck for the first time. Didn’t catch anything and it set the tone for the direction I decided felt right for me.  The last thing you want is in the moment of pleasure, having second thoughts and worry about catching something.  Today you can take prep and not have that worry. 

[cumfillme]

Go to your local health clinic, get tested then get on Prep. That took away 99.999 of my worries

[Hotrawbutt4u]

Not ure if this is normal, but for me, once I went raw I didn't want to do back to covered. It felt to good

[Bottom Jim]

I started years ago one of my best moments was at Steamworks in Chicago. This young Latin guy came into my room . In no time he was in me totally raw. I just let him go ahead and he came in me. That was one of the first times and never allowed a condom sende

[cman54]

The first guy that I had anal sex with was last year. Met him on bbrt over 2 years ago. We chatted back and forth some but sometimes would go a couple of months and not talk to each other. A little over a year ago we were talking at least once week. I told him I had to go to his area on business and asked him if he wanted to meet for coffee around noon. He said fine.  We met and talked for an hour or more. It was a good intro. Then a few weeks later I was back in that area and met him again and we went to his apartment. We spent a few hours together. Talked about sex watched some porn and talked about status some. I told him I was neg. and not on prep. We talked about doing it bare. I was fine with it and so was he. He showed me how to clean out in his shower and we went into the bedroom. I fucked him bare and he fucked me bare. He came in me deep.  It was awesome . I got some cum in him to. It was awesome and we did a repeat a few weeks later. I was so glad I went through it and didn`t use a condom or ask him to.

[bibearbtm]

My first time was with a condom but in retrospect, I wish it were bare.  Bare feels so much better and the feeling of the top pumping his cum in your ass is a real mind fuck.  With PrEP nowadays, there's no excuse not to fuck bare.  

[iman2004]

Bareback and he shot so much I thought my arse was going to explode.