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10 hours ago, spunxter said:

But as a pure submissive, would you Top to please your Top if he "demanded" it from you? 

Hmmmmm...really good question!!  i'm pretty in touch with my mind and body...i'm not sure that my submissive mind would allow me to get an erection hard enough to be able to Top!  If i was fed some Viagra, got an erection and was ordered by my Master, then, yes i would have to.  i would prefer to break out some dildos and then i could do Him!!  i LOVE that question...thanks!!

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This is such a big and complex question. i think the answer is both individual and fluid.

i think Top, versatile, bottom (and everywhere in between) is more a psychological disposition than a physical position, that the psychological largely finds expression in the physical? 

i sense (and see) a wrestling match among some on this topic, trying to establish a right or wrong stance on position. Some would argue it's a choice, others swear they were born that way... neither can substantiate their claim scientifically.  The feel of the argument triggers feelings i encountered when i was religious and those convinced they knew the truth of it insisted that one could choose to not be attracted to the same sex.  

i've landed at a place where i just take the persons word for it. Socially, as long as it doesn't violate another, i figure you are in the best position to self define and live and function within that definition.  In that context, i usually pursue those identifying as Top because i know i'm going to mesh best with them. 

But life isn't that simple, eh? 

Many who read my posts know that i've had a FB for three (approaching four) years Who hit's me up a couple of times a week to breed me. About a year ago, He wanted to suck me... something as a "total bottom" i have not wanted or practiced with another. But my ongoing connection with this Guy is more involved than an anonymous hook up, so i 'allowed' it. Even was clear with Him that i don't do that. He's not very open or vocal, so i have no idea what's going through His head when i tell Him that, but He still wants to do it? But, i'm letting Him, so He does it. The way i've adjusted is He has never made me come that way... actually, in all the hundreds of times we've had sex, He has never made me come, and i don't touch myself during sex, so the only orgasm has been His.  Which fits for me. i love sharing His orgasm between us, it's like His orgasm becomes mine when He comes inside of me... which He has always done. 

Last six months or so, He has gotten into me giving Him BJ's, though that is really like foreplay as well since He's never come that way with me. i'm sort of a selective cock sucker. If the Guy i'm sucking is expressive and clearly into it, His lust energizes me and keeps me very hungry. If He shows little to nothing, my desire shuts down. He is usually quiet, but when i suck Him it's like something in Him gets opened and He is verbally expressive of how good it feels, and that puts and keeps me in a  zone where i am loving what i am doing. 

Last three months or so, that has started to include me rimming Him. You see where this is going/has gone? my bottom identity has never involved or wanted ass, oral or otherwise. i consider any kind of penetration,  oral or otherwise, to be a "Top" attribute.  Yet i've been all over this Guys ass like it was my last meal on earth lol. The reason i think i've been able to do it is because of His clear, vocal enjoyment and participation in that way. But then, it seems recently, he is getting quieter and that feels passive to me. Last time we were together, i actually was getting pissed off, feeling used in a way that i am not. Given past conversations/explanaitions that i know He hasn't understood , i cannot imagine being able to explain this to Him/him. i would not be surprised if he wants me to fuck him.  

Functionally, physically, all my equipment works. Psychologically, i know i 'm not wired to fuck and that's not sustainable as part of a dynamic.  So, the question of "how versatile" i am is complex and not black and white in its clarity. 

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Totally submissive bottom all my life and doubt it’ll change but the door is always open like my holes. That being said, I don’t care one iota what the top looks like who is fucking me, but LOVE a skinny, nerdy twink type loading my holes the best. 🙂

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Not color but age defines my preference. I’m bttm for older and top for younger Guys.  So each year I become more top.  At this moment very into 30 - 45 year old bttms. 

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On 10/25/2023 at 1:17 AM, partying.hard said:

My preference is totally 50-50 vers.  I’ve got a big dick and I love to fuck. And my whole gets hungry and needs to get stuffed.
 

but a lot of times I go into an anonymous hook up, thinking I’m going to bottom. But looking at my size, attitude, voice, and Dick, I’m often caught off guard by how many supposed tops want me to fuck them.

I’m also full versatile, however, the last two days I was only top fucker. Yesterday, in Noxon (Playa del Inglés, GC) on of the hardest top (who I wanted to fuck me) spread his legs to fuck him. It wasn’t surprising because he could realise how hard and how many guys I fucked. But it was, because I bottomized these guys somehow. 

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Personally....I'm maybe 10% top and 90% bottom.

Although I started off topping, I always found it so boring and when I finally got a taste of dick....I couldn't leave it alone. So now I normally go years just bottoming, and here and there get the urge to top...do so and end up hating it and going back to bottoming. 

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I am mostly bottom for fucking.  Versatile for everything else.   There are times when I am with a guy and I just get hard and then I will fuck him if he wants.  Othertimes  I am so into getting fucked that I would not be able to top a guy if I wanted to.  Has nothing to do with  nationality.  I find myself most likely to fuck  smaller than me (build, I'm 6'3" and 199)  fit guys.  But that is not  a given.

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Very versatile, i love to bottom and top and can do both... but i tend to top my  fwbs because they are bottoms and they like the size of my cock and how i use it, not to mention the lack of tops in my area 😞

 

i had a good top that loved eating my hole and fucking me all night long and told me i had the cleanest ass he EVER seen on a man. We fucked like animals often for 2 years until he moved away and ever since i just wish i could find a top man to please with my hole

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