As a bottom, do you ever struggle to explain your desire for anal sex?

[backdoorjimmy]

I was talking to someone I'm close to and the topic of anal sex came up. They asked me to explain how it feels to be horny for dick and where it comes from. At first I thought, "Well that's easy" and started talking about it, but then I realized that it wasn't as simple as I thought because it's different for different guys. Some people enjoying being a bottom because they crave the loads. Others get off on pleasing other men and having men use their asses for their own pleasure. Then there are guys like me who crave intercourse and get cranky if I haven't had a good lay because it feels good.

I guess what I'm wondering is, do the bottoms who enjoy being cum dumps or being a hole for men to get off in also crave the intercourse? And if so, how would you describe the urge? For me, there's a strong tremble that I feel along the walls of my asshole and down my legs that can only be controlled by a hard dick stroking me out until I'm satisfied. When I get that way, I don't really think about the load or the top's orgasm, except for hoping that it won't happen prematurely.

I'm interested in hearing about the arousal and sensations that other bottoms experience in their bodies when they're craving sex. Is it a physical sensation for you? Or is it purely mental? If it's physical, can you describe it? If it's mental, do you also feel physical pleasure from getting fucked? Or does your pleasure even matter to you?

[Breedthisslut]

I crave the intercourse, the cock and the load. Once I have been fucked and have cum inside me, I want more and more. I consider myself as a cumdump and having a hole to service men. I find my craving is mostly mental, but I so enjoy the physical feeling of a cock inside me and knowing that I will take someone else’s cum inside me. I feel pleasure but it’s not necessary for me to enjoyment. I enjoy making others feel so good, that they can’t help but shoot their cumload into me.

[ErosWired]

Very good question. I think a lot about this, and I’m never sure I come up with a full understanding of what motivates me this way, but what I am sure of is that it’s a complicated mix of biological and psychological factors.

To start with, it feels pleasurable for things to stimulate the anus. This is by natural design - if it were unpleasant to stimulate the anus, we would avoid pooping, and that would be bad. In nature, some mother animals will lick the anuses of their young to prompt the first defecations. So it’s not surprising that we like buttsex from an anal perspective.

ASecond, semen contains chemicals that stimulate the pleasure/reward systems in the body and brain, and when we take a dose up the ass we absorb a certain amount of it through the colon. Again, there’s a biological explanation. The degree t which these chemical elements act upon the brain to result in a craving for them is an open question suggesting linkage to addictive processes, and I haven’t seen any science on that.

The thinking gets fuzzier and less certain when I try to parse why I feel such a powerful urge to submit to another male’s use of my body as a sexual utility. I’m not in it for the cum, though I obviously feel the same  effects from the semen as everyone else. Why do I feel pleasure when another man dominates me? Why is the thrill of penetration so profound? For me, the fucking is more important than the load, because each sensation of my flesh being forced to take his invasion underscores what appears to ba a very primal truth - that I am by nature a thing to be fucked and inseminated.

The question that leaves, though, is why? Why am I, as a biological male, so driven by a defining female function? I was just fucked about an hour ago by one of the very best cocks of my acquaintance, and bred with that man’s seed. I savored every moment of it - not so much for the physical pleasure it gave me, but the pleasure using me gave him.

Perhaps I’m not supposed to think about it any harder, to try to find a complex answer to a simple quandary. Perhaps I’m just supposed to shut up and take the damn cock because that’s what I’m for.

[Phallarchist]

On 5/25/2022 at 11:39 PM, ErosWired said:

Why am I, as a biological male, so driven by a defining female function?

Yes, people can often learn to enjoy rectal penetration, due to the internal proximity of actual sexual organs, so the real question is why you did it the first time, and why you continue to put up with the attendant indignities. I would say, "the power of the penis compels you!"

Service to the male imposes so many costs that I think the implanted female instinct must bleed over to a few male unfortunates. In addition, I do believe that the fixating nature of male sexuality is such that rape or molestation can lead to a persistent need for penetration that would otherwise not arise. And we do know that some men serve the penis purely for the profound submission involved, with no attraction to men per se.

[BBSMKR]

My ass twitches everyday and craves being filled, whether by cock or toys. For me it’s purely down to pleasure, I love the feelings inside my backdoor and into my colon. I’m pretty sure it’s my prostate giving me the craving. My cock is important to me, but even when I’m determined to focus on tradition masturbation I land up stuffing my ass.

[bbpigbtm]

After i got broken in , yoke awhile, husband hung, now my hole really craving it. I gotten alot  toys because he works alot & I can’t stop ✋ the need! 

[ErosWired]

1 hour ago, Phallarchist said:

Service to the male imposes so many costs that I think the implanted female instinct must bleed over to a few male unfortunates.

I agree, except I wonder about the specific idea of the “implanted” female instinct, which implies that it is imposed from outside. I can readily understand the psychology by which rape, sexual assault or molestation, especially of a person still in the formative stages, might generate a set of demasculinized traits. I, however, suffered no such abuse that could account for my powerful and compelling drive to be cunted. I can’t explain it - and I have spent many hours in contemplation on it - and I can only conclude that the trait is, in my case at least, more nature than nurture. That would suggest that some such men are, in fact, born, not made, and that there is some legitimacy to  the concept of the existence of beings that we consider, for lack of a better term, faggots.

One might argue that my six years of experimental training under a Sadist Dominant could be considered to constitute the form of sexual trauma that may result in the traits in question, but even though the result was that I became the committed service cumdump I am, it did not begin with him - he simply identified the unrefined potential within me and refined it to an extreme purity. He didn’t turn me into a cumdump; he just showed me my purpose.

[Pozguyinchi]

For me it is easy. My sex organ is not my dick. Once that is out of the way men usually catch on fast.

[Loveitraw]

I can honestly say that I've never struggled with understanding or explaining my desires as a bottom. I like to be fucked. I love being bred. I really love feeling stretched and used.

Most Tops of my acquaintance aren't worried about why I want it, they are only concerned that I want it and that they can do it. After the deed is done conversation is generally brief and limited.

Strangely I have had a harder time trying to explain to some guys that, as a bottom, I prefer my cock to be left alone.

[Phallarchist]

46 minutes ago, ErosWired said:

I wonder about the specific idea of the “implanted” female instinct, which implies that it is imposed from outside.

By "implanted", I just meant the action of whatever biological process instills functional reproductive instincts in most people.

[viking8x6]

I would say that like all other human sexual responses, it's not necessarily the same from instance to instance. Humans use sex in an astonishing variety of ways, and anal sex is no exception.

Personally, I find it physically pleasurable, I find the idea of being penetrated/impregnated erotic, and sometimes I find the emotional connection with the other person to be an important component. If I were bold enough to make porn or sell my ass (someone please kick me!) I would have more different reasons to desire it. Personally, I don't find the power exchange dom/sub dynamic gives me any desire for it, but I know it does so for many.

Also, humans can learn new reasons for desire from new experiences. I recall the time when a VERY good straight (but not narrow) friend and I were having sex and he asked me to fuck him, which of course I was happy to do. He went into the experience having sex with me for the intimacy, but he said afterward that he understood (which he never had before) what the (gay) bottom gets out of anal sex.

[hungry_hole]

I like to bottom but mostly with anonymous cocks and then taking anon loads. 

I enjoy feeling a cock in my hole going in and out but what drives me crazy, and is my main reason for bottoming, is to hear the guy fucking me as he reaches orgasm and dumps his load in my hole. Love hearing him moan and grunt as he unloads while I open up my hole to receive the load.

I feel a high that is emotionally equivalent to me blowing a load, but without loosing my hornyness and ready for the next anon cock and load. That’s why I bottom!

[Guest]

I am a top but after reading this my asshole twitching crazily and I have that deliciously tingling feeling down tgere!! My cock is also reacting. 

I really want to be fucked and experience what you guys are saying. I may just be a closet bottom!! But I guess U wont know until I try it!!

 

I actually seem to precum out og my soft cock in the shower when I stick my finger into my hole. I really want it to go further but it wont!!. 

Ive gotra get with someone who can give me that experience!

 

[ErosWired]

35 minutes ago, Queenzlander59 said:

I may just be a closet bottom!!

That doesn’t necessarily follow. A Top can take pleasure in anal stimulation without experiencing a desire for another cock to penetrate him, let alone to be inseminated. Pleasure from anal stimulation is hard-wired into all humans irrespective of age or gender, and penetrative anal intercourse is only one form of anal stimulation. You may have simply discovered that it feels good, and if you try bottoming you may discover that you don’t like it; that doesn’t mean your liking of the stimulation is invalid, it would just mean you’re not a bottom.

[Guest]

2 hours ago, ErosWired said:

That doesn’t necessarily follow. A Top can take pleasure in anal stimulation without experiencing a desire for another cock to penetrate him, let alone to be inseminated. Pleasure from anal stimulation is hard-wired into all humans irrespective of age or gender, and penetrative anal intercourse is only one form of anal stimulation. You may have simply discovered that it feels good, and if you try bottoming you may discover that you don’t like it; that doesn’t mean your liking of the stimulation is invalid, it would just mean you’re not a bottom.

Thanks for that bud.....I guess I will find out one day! Sooner the better I hope!!