Playing safe to get bred

[Sebp]

On 10/25/2023 at 10:43 PM, BootmanLA said:

Again, seems like an awfully complicated game to play, but I guess it takes all kinds. Or at least, there are all kinds.

No need to repeat. Why don't you just let us who enjoys it, discuss it. 🙂

[BootmanLA]

22 hours ago, Sebp said:

No need to repeat. Why don't you just let us who enjoys it, discuss it. 🙂

Oh, feel free to discuss. But I'll note that there seem to be a lot of people who agree with my general premise, that this is kind of juvenile behavior. If that entertains you, by all means, knock yourself out.

[Sebp]

On 10/27/2023 at 11:12 PM, BootmanLA said:

Oh, feel free to discuss. But I'll note that there seem to be a lot of people who agree with my general premise, that this is kind of juvenile behavior. If that entertains you, by all means, knock yourself out.

I suggest you click on a subject that interests you instead of critizing people for their kinks. My impression was that this page is a place for open-mindedness and discussion.

There is no need for supressional and abusive comments that has no other means than being condescending. 

 

[bivergent]

I get what the original poster is wanting I think.  The first guy I meet I was under the impression when we meet he was going to wear a condom. After we meet he talked me into going bare. I think as a sub having someone else take part of that decision away is exciting.

[VistaCaBB]

I've told Tops before that I am open to either and leave it up to them.  I have also as said here previous told them to go in bare just to knowing 9/10 are going to not stop and sock up.  

[hntnhole]

SIGH ..... What's so bad about just getting the "who's doing what to who" out of the way first thing? 

If a guy goes to a fuckjoint and doesn't see a covered Cock anywhere, it's a safe assumption that guys fuck raw in that joint.  If he does see covered Cocks around, then it's reasonable to briefly mention the parameters before having sex with a guy, and if the proposed fuck isn't to both guys liking, just smile, say thanks anyway, and get in line for some other guy.  

I would imagine that the same m.o. would hold true on the fuck apps.  It's not really that big a deal to just say "I need it raw" or "I need it covered" or any other fetish - for either the T or b. 

If it's not going to be a match, fine; each guy has done the right thing, and each guy will go find some other guy to get what he needs.

No Sturm, no Drang, just guys doing what they need to do.  

[BootmanLA]

11 hours ago, Sebp said:

I suggest you click on a subject that interests you instead of critizing people for their kinks. My impression was that this page is a place for open-mindedness and discussion.

There is no need for supressional and abusive comments that has no other means than being condescending. 

 

The subject does interest me, because the subject here is "playing games to manipulate sex partners" - something the OP SPECIFICALLY ASKED FOR ADVICE ON HOW TO DO.

If he'd simply said it was a fetish he had to want a top to breed him without asking, or whatever - that would be a different thing entirely. I go by what he actually wrote.

[funpozbottom]

On 10/23/2023 at 1:10 AM, SlimT said:

I’m messaging this guy on scruff right now and I do want him to breed me… but I don’t want him to know that. I get way hotter when a guy “talks me into” going raw or we just let it go unstated and he never puts a condom on. Either way, I feel sluttier and I get his load. Or better yet (still just a fantasy for me) he takes the condom off and takes what’s rightfully his. 
 

But this guy just came out and asked if I was condom only or played BB. I’ve been ignoring the question the past few minutes while I type this up, but I’m eager for advice on how to play it to get what I want the way I want? I’m worried if I forcefully insist on a condom he’ll give up

If I'm asked about condoms, I'll usually toss it back to him by saying: "your choice."   If you're turned on by not knowing what he's going to do, tell him not to tell you in advance -- he can surprise you.

[ErosWired]

On 11/10/2023 at 5:19 AM, Sebp said:

I suggest you click on a subject that interests you instead of critizing people for their kinks. My impression was that this page is a place for open-mindedness and discussion.

Yet what you’re suggesting is that participation in this thread should be limited to those who are only of the same mind and similarly enjoy a particular kink. That’s not open-mindedness, nor does it invite open discussion.

But the OP has asked his question in such a way that makes it difficult to evaluate a response simply as a question of how best to practice a kink. He explicitly asks for advice in how to avoid causing the Top to lose interest. The question cannot be practically answered solely in terms of how to play his game and keep the Top. The reality is that, as with all kinks, his very decision to play his ‘game’ is very likely to cause rejection with a significant percentage of Tops. The answer to ‘how can I play my game and not drive him away’ is ‘often you simply can’t - many men find any sort of game-playing an annoying waste of time, and it’s foolish to assume that any stranger about whom you know little to nothing is going to enjoy your kink. More, it can be doubly annoying when they realize they’re being toyed with just to satisfy the other person’s desire for titillation. As the OP seems unaware of this, it seems necessary, as objective observers and recipients of his question, to advise him of the reality. To tell him so is not an attempt to suppressive, abusive or condescending - indeed, failing to do so would do him a disservice. 

[Adsta]

As a top I prefer to cum inside. And will stealth a hot bottom that insists on safe... If he gets me going enough, otherwise I won't bother at all and look for bb