DaWhore Posted November 12, 2023 Report Posted November 12, 2023 There's a misconception about who controls how far the game will go in a sane relationship. Most will automatically think that the dominant controls the limit of it. The reality of the matter is, that the submissive controls it. The word no submissive wants to say out loud is the limit. The word no dominant (normally) wants to hear because he crossed the line and brought the whole party to a crashing stop. That word is, of course, the safeword. The best safeword should be a word you would never use in the ”bedroom”, simply because it doesn't belong there. Something that stands out on its own and is alien to the environment. Dandelion is mine, what’s yours? 1 Quote
Bibttmmiami Posted November 15, 2023 Report Posted November 15, 2023 My safe word is safe word. Either that or red light. very easy to remember and understand. Quote
Wildpig Posted November 15, 2023 Report Posted November 15, 2023 I have never had a safe word. If I don’t think a top will read my body language and play connected with me I won’t play with him. Quote
Guest Posted November 15, 2023 Report Posted November 15, 2023 Don't have one, normally when I feel uncomfortable, I try to distract the top with kisses or by sucking his cock. Quote
beanna Posted November 15, 2023 Report Posted November 15, 2023 None whatsoever if I give o er total control Quote
WiltsCumDump Posted November 15, 2023 Report Posted November 15, 2023 I do t have a safe word per se… if I’m not comfortable I’ll say so… it’s about respecting each other and the experience. 👍🏻 Quote
ellentonboy Posted November 15, 2023 Report Posted November 15, 2023 HELP! POLICE! HELP! (okay that's three words but you get what I mean). Quote
hntnhole Posted November 15, 2023 Report Posted November 15, 2023 (edited) On 11/11/2023 at 11:19 PM, DaWhore said: Dandelion is mine, what’s yours? What the word actually is doesn't really matter; Dandelion is as good as any, since that word would hardly come up in any conversation during a Bd/Sm scene., or any other, for that matter. The important thing is that it be established during the required, prior negotiation, and each participant is clear about what it means. Obviously, being a Top, I don't have one: I only need to be sure to remember what the bottom's safeword is. Some also use a "slow-down" word or phrase, which is particularly useful for a novice. In any case, the Top always needs to be assessing the bottom's reactions, and proceed carefully during the scene. Well said. Thank you. Edited November 15, 2023 by hntnhole 1 1 Quote
BBArchangel Posted November 15, 2023 Report Posted November 15, 2023 I removed the training wheels some time ago. I don’t use safe words. Quote
Ieatcumholes Posted November 16, 2023 Report Posted November 16, 2023 I was talking to a sub and his safe word was "Limeade." My response was 😂 cause I think Limeade is nasty, so I would never use that word. And if I heard it, I'll know that was a safe word. 1 Quote
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