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Sounds a lot like Levittown. That was built post-WW2 to handle the post-war building expansion into the suburbs, but that also facilitated the flight from cities in the post-war years. There was no 'racial segregation', but there were other ways to prevent non-white minorities from access and there were very, very few black folks there. At least at first. As towns like Levittown fell out of favor, the original owners began to sell off and the blacks moved in. For the Levittown outside Philadelphia, it became far more black occupied with blacks looking to move away from Philly. New York's version was similar in time. I'd like to say this is all a thing of the past, but in many ways it's not. I live in a planned development now (one of the largest ones in terms of units), and prior to 2021's developments, there were fewer barriers to access. So we had a more diverse society moving in as the community expanded, which is less the case now because of the economics of it (real estate values here have more than doubled in the past 18 months). So that becomes a barrier to entrance for many, including non-minorities. Inflation makes most people poorer. I know this is a little off-topic, but since we veered into racial topics, I think there's still relevance in what comprises barriers based on race and equality.

So I've tried this now in Preview and Adobe Acrobat Reader on Mac OS 12.3.1. The results only show as zeroes and don't really update. 😟 Sad as there's probably a good deal of work behind this to make it functional, but I like the idea.

Thanks for sharing this. This passage hit me as familiar, or at least the other side of my background. My story: I grew up in a town where we knew all of the people who had different racial backgrounds -- Hispanic/Latinx, Vietnamese, Indian and of course Black/AA. The rest of town was white. Like >99% white. And across the road from an urban area that was > 80% non-white. If my white neighbors saw a POC walking into town from that direction, the police got a call to ask them their business (if you were black walking through my town, your lucky number wasn't "911"). I befriended the Latinx and Indian kids growing up because I just didn't feel I had much to share with other kids of my background. I was also friends with a kid that was gay and black (yeah, you can imagine that one in this town). To give you a time-frame, this was 70's into the mid-80's, and my town wasn't exactly a snobby place to be. But we were surrounded by all kinds of bigotry and distrust of others who weren't white like I was. When I had a chance to go to college, I chose NYU and my classmates...well, didn't. I just wanted to be as far away from where I'd grown up and NY seemed perfect for that for me. And it was. Fast forward to years later. I've been involved with people of every race and background. As Dr. King put it, it wasn't the color of their skin but the content of their character that held appeal to me. Admittedly, I have probably different views from a lot of people here, views that I formed for myself based on my experiences -- what I saw, what I experienced, what others experienced around me. I moved to a fairly upscale neighborhood, and I love where I am, plus I like my neighbors. Our section of the development is very racially diverse, which isn't easy to find down here but it exists. Both my neighbors are black. My friend down the block is also between two other black neighbors. Several Asian and Latinx families are in this section as well. And while it wasn't planned that way, I prefer this because the world would just be so boring with a singular composition of people. Wish I had a simple explanation why I didn't come out of the experience with bigotry toward other races like others around me did, but I don't think much of it and happy I didn't. Oh, and the town? It eventually changed and it's now a very gay friendly community. So I guess people do grow and learn...or just die off. 😃

LOL Amen to that. My worst was Mr. ADHD/OCD in a hotel room with his dog who decided he was more interested in giving me a manscaping (the one nice thing he offered and I got from the meetup) before it came down to him...well, not coming. But prior to that, started sucking me off for about 20 seconds, and just as I was getting into it, he gets up, hits the bathroom, comes back in 5 seconds and decides he only wants to JO (this after we spent about 30 minutes in the shower, I'm 100% certain I was clean and odor free, he confirmed), then I get the waiting game ("I'm almost there....I'm almost there...I'm almost there...") for the next 20 minutes. I didn't know if I was waiting for DoorDash or he was going to finally drop his load (no, DoorDash would have been faster). Nice enough guy but it made me gun shy of meetups for a few months. Neither of us got fucked, but I felt screwed out of 3 hours.

I'm not looking to be negative, and I hope that this does evolve into something closer to a cure. But I think it will 'when it benefits them', not when we think it should be there. Agreed that we have a Hep-C cure and an HPV vaccine now and those used to be pipe dreams. But I'm also realistic in the model behind Pharma that it only dispenses cures when there's a larger benefit or when the hue and cry becomes so overwhelming that they move in that direction. I'm hopeful. But I'm not naive about how things work and the reality of the revenue model.

They can do the research, but that doesn't necessarily mean that it will actually lead to a drug that is a cure because it will still require Big Pharma to go through clinical trials, patient trials, patenting and a long process for what would only make them a one-time revenue stream. Cures aren't lucrative. Treatments are. Keep in mind the purpose of Big Pharma companies isn't necessarily to find cures or to actually eradicate diseases. It is to provide a return on shareholder investment. Not being cynical, that's the case with any public company. And ongoing treatments create a dependency and an ongoing stream of revenue while they own the patent. So Mort is actually correct in the eyes of Pharma execs who need to explain these things to their Boards of Directors and Shareholders. One hope against all that is the potential of that information being shared among researchers without patents or asserting intellectual property rights so that others can work toward an effective drug. If all the data and development is out there, it weakens the case for one party gaining a patent.

Maybe he aspires to be a wide receiver. 🤣😂

Why do I get the sense of irony on this one? No thinking outside the rather convoluted policies in higher-ed, is there?

LOL! This brought back memories of my friends, the film students on my floor when I was at NYU. They decided their freshman project should be a parody of West Side Story but substituting the Jets with the Upper East Side population of Jewish American Princesses (JAP). When you're a JAP, you're a JAP all the way, from your first cigarette to your last Oy Vey... Ahem. Anyway. Much like @hntnhole, my mind wanders when the term race-play comes up, and not to a good place. Master-slave comes immediately to mind, or it devolves into the white guy versus someone of another race and I just find it grotesque. And I say that having dated (and married) outside my race because I found the diversity -- someone different to me in life experiences and background -- was intriguing and attractive. Does that constitute race-play? I don't think so, but your mileage may vary. I just think of the person as a person. Definitely not the Asian hooker ("me love you long time") or anything else.

So my question to @BoyStrangler was more one of him not being as tough or as able to take it as the men he uses If you read his posts in one way, it seems he's disrespecting them in the use of the pejorative, an area where I agree with @ErosWired, but if you look deeper, he seems to suggest that he's doing something to them that he couldn't withstand himself were the roles changed. Did he have an experience where he may have realized that he can never be put through that? Or is his use of the pejorative more self-loathing? Is his appropriation of the term reflective of something he cannot handle and thus his way of taking out anger. And as a bisexual, I can tell you that there are a lot of women who tend to like it really rough, not "gentle lovemaking" as people seem to think, but want to be absolutely fucked into submission and discarding any feeling of feminism. So perhaps these aggressive tops aren't as all-powerful and strong as they proclaim if they -- and women -- can take much more of a pounding than they're willing to take on. Just a thought and perspective.

This one happened a while ago (post-COVID lockdown). Met the guy who happened to be staying at a motel, which I later discovered to be his actual residence. I also discovered he was both ADHD and OCD. OCD in that he wanted to go through the whole shower and shave ritual, so I end up getting the hair to a point where he's comfortable with it (since he's doing the shaving). In the shower, he's about ready to fuck me and has his dick lined up at my hole and one good push would have had him in. Then nothing. So we go out on the bed, he decides he's going to suck me, and that lasts about 15 seconds before he decides to go for the position change. Then he says, "Jack off and cum on my cock and balls." Ok, this is dull, but I go along with it. So he tries stroking it and that isn't working. "Can you lick your cum off my cock?" So I try that, nothing's really working here and he's getting limper by the minute. So I ask, "Hey, you ok?" knowing that he wasn't functioning (which explains why I didn't get fucked in the shower). So after another 10 minutes of him nearly having a coronary trying to jack himself off, he finally cuts. Then it's "OK, you've gotta go." WTF?!? Fine, whatever dude. He messages me later in the week on A4A and I just left him on read. This guy created a whole set of new peeves in the span of about 2 hours, 1/2 of which was spent with his version of a salon day. 🤷🏼

There's an old joke about how you can tell the difference between a girlfriend/boyfriend, a hooker, and a spouse. The girlfriend/Boyfriend says "Are you done already?" The hooker says "Aren't you done yet?" The spouse stares at the ceiling and says "Beige. We should definitely paint this room beige." 😃

As much as I hate the lack of set contrast, I have to agree that between the cluttered "early shooting gallery" decor and the "sterility white" opposite, I'm less distracted by the latter, and it's less of a boner killer. I'd just rather have some subtle visual intrigue in the scene to add something more than the starkness. A few films have pulled it off quite well and haven't looked like they've used the same California house shooting location. The other bothersome thing about those same sterile sets is that so many of them are totally sound reflective -- lots of glass, tile flooring, high ceilings -- so that the dialog (such as it is) becomes murky or the sound guy can't really focus on getting mics to pick up audio. So sound goes from having to set the audio to 11 only to bring it back down because the volume has no continuity.

I think if I was watching a Gay Porn Film version of a crack house, that might be a bit too much reality. I agree that the white leather couches are way overdone and in every single movie it seems, but If I had to watch the seedier side of what a real apartment looks like, it could get rather depressing. Not there to watch something that will make me want to open a vein.

Whoops. Sorry for saying sorry. 🤣😂 Just trying to keep it entertaining. And I'll definitely give a shout if I'm ever back in Philly.

And the alternate could be the dialog from When Harry Met Sally: 'Do it to me, Sheldon.' 'You're an animal, Sheldon.' 'Ride me, big Sheldon.' Hey, at least I'd get a great laugh from the dialogue. 🤣

I've had three in my life -- '01 Discovery II, '06 Range Rover Sport and a '21 Range Rover HSE 525. Incredible off-road prowess and it looks posh pulling up to any upscale location. I've been waved through to places I rightfully didn't belong because it looks like it belongs there. 😂🤣 The Jeep you had was awesome. Definitely no shortage of power and torque on that one. More than enough to get you in trouble quickly if you don't know how to handle it. Fun times, I drove some CJs in my time.

Ok, I'll bite. You talk a big game about dishing it out. Can you take it anywhere near as well as you claim to 'ass rape' your bottoms? In one breath, you seem to call cumdumps faggots as a pejorative, and in the next you commend them on how well they can take a pounding. I guess the measure of the man is more that he knows the punishment he's inflicting and he's able to withstand receiving that or more. So...can you? Have you? When you were called a faggot as a kid, did you show anyone how well you could both dish it out AND take it? Asking or challenging because your point of view is...ummm...interesting?

This. 👍🏼 I grew up in approximately the same time. It was an overused and abusive term then, and hypocritical when you consider the Tops who now call bottoms 'faggots' for engaging in the same act they're also doing. It was a pejorative to gays, no matter their role, and it was hurtful, especially when vulnerable kids were reckoning with their sexuality at that age. It's the same reason I find the "N" word deplorable despite the attempts by PoC to reappropriate it as a self-reference. If the term is so disgusting and hateful, why even try to use it? Isn't it repugnant in any reference? Are you asking hetero people to just go back to indiscriminately calling any gay man a faggot? It just strikes me as self-loathing. Feel free to convince me otherwise.

That gets funny when you either run the porn at double/triple-speed or backward...which is a fun stand-by with standard porn that bores me to death. It made PornHub suck all the way around -- there's maybe 3/4 of videos that are now gone, and what's left is pretty much crap or self-produced webcam videos of people you'd be hard-pressed to feel are worth the trouble (i.e. can I get a refund of time for the 6 minutes I just lost watching that?).

I've known the feeling of the guy who thinks he can just jackhammer you forcefully and have that constitute a good fuck. Like the harder or more forcefully they fuck -- male or female -- the better chance the recipient will get off. Yeah, I'll get off alright. Off his cock, in half a heartbeat. Difference between pleasing the partner and abusing them. I've heard women complain of the same thing -- like an analogy of just size and power versus finesse. Think of it as a rock crawl or navigating mud: Any asshole can overpower a Jeep and showoff in the mud only to topple himself by misjudging how to handle balancing from rock to rock. Or wallowing by being stuck in the mud and just applying more power and resulting in kicking up more mud and gaining no traction at all (send the tow wench for the redneck who blew out his differential). The guy in the Land Rover will stay out of the grand-standing but easily finesse himself out of the mud or across the ruts and rocks and stay relatively balanced. (Sorry, too much off-roading in my life and seeing all kinds of stupidity, but I've never flipped a 4x4, knock wood).

With apologies to StickyWetHole for borrowing his format. Situations that are obviously incredibly contrived. Sure, that always happens that way in the real world. Right. Totally believable (not). Lazy dialog. I'm not asking for Shakespearian-level thespians, but give the scene some fucking effort, ffs. The same stark bright porn sets. In. Every. Single. Porn. Film. Ever. White walls, white couch, light rugs, full-on sunlight. total lack of contrast. If you're asking people to 'pay for porn', make it worth paying for. Every movie having a black actor being the BBD to a white submissive Twink half the guy's size. (yawn) Every movie ever done. Even worse when they portray the black guy as thuggish to perpetuate the stereotype. Give me some build up that's more realistic than one guy kneading the other's crotch like he's making bread from 15 seconds into the scene. Yeah, I know this is boring, but if you're just going straight to the sex, I'll scroll directly to each different part of the scene. And no, I didn't read Playboy for the articles, either. Quit making this formulaic step-by-step fuck: Blow job, then reciprocation, then ATM, followed by fucking, then position change, then side-by-side, then cowboy, then missionary, followed by the bottom jacking himself off, then finally the external money shot. Proctology camera angles, for lack of a better term. ok, I get it, but the entire scene?!? FFS. Dad/son porn where both actors are about the same age, give or take a year. Yeah, totally believable for a "step-dad" who's about the same age as the son. Sure. Who's buying it? Basically, if the version of porn being put out feels like every pop song with autotune since 2010...Yeah, not feeling it.

Oh do I wish more people would heed that statement. We have a couple of generations ahead of me who do not understand personal responsibility, and it makes me wonder if mine is the last generation (Gen X) that had to assume personal responsibility, or not have helicopter parenting and nanny-states. I digress. It Ian't our job to protect people from themselves. Nor society's. Nor the government's, for the most part. Unfortunately, this is why we get idiotic warning labels on products stating blatantly obvious things (Peanut Butter -- may contain nuts, for instance). You can't fix stupid. You're responsible for yourself. The OP is on meds and doing what he should be doing. If someone wants to make their fantasy into a reality by risky behavior, that isn't everyone else's problem or fault. You can read them the warning label, but there's no guarantee they'll listen.

🤣😂 Bahahahaha! Love it! For those who believe that, I have some great swampland in Nevada for you! 😉 Thanks for the laugh today, I needed this. 😃

My comments on "bareback addiction" were more focused on the OP's seeming compulsion to engage in bareback sex to the point where the OP was concerned. I'm not a doctor, nor do I play one on TV, just trying to share any useful information versus commentary.