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The more naive me -- who once didn't know what this actually meant in these circles, and the blokes in the UK will especially appreciate where this is going -- once thought that a lot of people were suddenly subscribing to the BBC so they could get their fill Graham Norton or EastEnders. 🤣😂 Yes, someone later corrected me, but as a frequent traveler to/from London for work at the time, that was my primary frame of reference. Black or White didn't enter into it since I was only watching in color. I'll still claim it was an innocent mistake. That's my story and I'm sticking to it. 😉

OMG that looks amazing. I can get that people wold get scared of it, but I'd want to try it before it becomes the infamous bucket list item so that I could experience how something like that would feel penetrating then fucking me.

No, I think I was the predator in more than a few occasions. First one was with a priest who taught at my school that had a bit of a reputation for liking boys. Saw him in a parking spot by where adults come to hook up in a woods, so I surprised him, let him know I'd be into it, and then he blew me in the back of his van. Unfortunately I was just above the upper end of his scale so I'd already aged out by the time we did anything. There's another incident involving a younger girl, but I'm not going to break the rules to describe it. First it was a straight kind of thing, and we were both really young. 'Nuff said.

Now I have a raging boner thinking about mass transit. You'd be fun on a bus trip. 😈

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To me, it sounds like a lack of appreciation for what you provide. Not only should you not care, you might be like the straight guy's housewife who gives her husband blue balls by not putting out to them. Then see what they think about not having you provide that satisfaction to them. That'll change their tune very quickly. As to @TwinkSlut24 asked about how the community feels about cum sluts, there's a simple answer: Do you even care? First, it's your life to do what you want. Second, see if. they care if you stopped putting out. There's a phrase of "the pussy has the power". I think it's equally apropos here. And...thanks for doing what you do. Whether we all admit it or not, we appreciate it. Fuck the haters...or, well, in this case, don't fuck the haters. 😂🤣

Here's a question: Do you buy a car without test driving it? My simple answer is "no". I'm not exclusive after one date, I don't presume that my partner is either. Or I may have asked if they're seeing other people and just be honest up-front about whether or not we are (keyword: we). That helps set the expectations from the outset. But let's say that we're seeing other people while seeing each other. There's generally a point at which it might be expected that you're more serious than a casual thing, and that's the point where I've asked the question of "Are we a thing? Is this serious? Because I like you and I don't want to see anyone else." Then sit back and assess their answer. At least that gives you some indication of whether you're both on the same page or the other guy has a different perception of what the two of you are. I'd also consider @hntnhole's advice: You might want to assume that you're both guys and you want to stick your cock in anything given the chance. 😂🤣

There is a lot in this post that resonates with me. Perhaps for me it was that a few of my early relationships involved my partners cheating on me and my finding out later. In one case, when someone tells you they want to see other people, that horse has already left the barn. For the others -- one (while a great fuck) simply wasn't totally compatible with me regardless of what the heart thinks it wants. The other was just a total cunt, unremorseful, and it was my first relationship of any consequence. That shook me to my core. But I look back, still in contact with 2 of the 3 deceptions, and chuckling at what their lives have ultimately become. My own situation, though, brought me to what I might call 'cheating with caveats' (and no, not trying to justify it). My partner and I have talked about it, they don't have the same sex drive as me (mine is insane, just like the OP's), and my partner's has become, well, non-existent. Literally. No interest at all. So we agreed that I'd meet those needs elsewhere since just about everything else for us is perfect. But sex, and yes that's a huge thing, simply isn't there and left years ago. There are things my partner 'knows' and things about which they're 'unaware'. Neither of us have a massive issue with it, but it's definitely not monogamous. Again, like the OP, I'm more the one giving half the story. Yes, a small part of me feels bad because no one walks into a long term situation with the notion that their partner's sexual drive will drop to zero versus being the Battery Bunny. But the situation wasn't the one I signed on for and perhaps it's in some ways an invitation for me to skip out. Do I feel bad about stepping out? No, simply because I shouldn't (or can't) feel any worse. Ultimately I need to lead my own life and find my own fulfillment. I've been largely dormant (celibate, whatever name you want to give it) and I'm just over not having that satisfaction, that pleasure, that pure lust in my life. If my partner suddenly awoke to suddenly return to their Battery Bunny sexual appetite, with or without others, I'd be elated either way. I don't see that happening, and either I do what moves and satisfies my desires, or I lead a life that lacks that sexually charged and carnal lust and pleasure. Thanks @bottomboib for sharing this. It really resonated, and I'm glad the topic also resonated with others who might share a similar situation.

I would have cared less about what others thought and not been as self-conscious. I would have fucked more. A LOT MORE. I would have accepted more one-night-stands that might have turned into multi-night stands or fuck buddies. I would have accepted the advances that I rejected...no, take that back, I would have embraced the advances that I rejected. I'd be less uptight at that age. I'd smoke a lot more weed, that's for sure. 🤣 I'd also have sucked a lot more 🍆. I would have had more fun with older guys who came on to me and let them give me a host of new experiences. Oh do I regret that. And I'd have dated around a lot earlier. I'd have embraced that I liked playing with guys and wasn't afraid of it rather than hold it back and be repressed. I'd probably never have gotten married but I'd have fucked so much more and been even kinkier. I would still have embraced bareback when I did, but I'd probably have been less paranoid about HIV. I'd have embraced my inner slut earlier. Short answer: I'd tell myself "Fuck it, go have fun, forget what others think." 🐷🐖

It's sad that we all need to be defined into very narrow categories and acceptance becomes like being one of the "cool kids" in the schoolyard at lunch or recess. I didn't like it much when I was in school that we needed to slot into affinity groups that defined us into a very limited definition and description. You were the math nerd, the geek, the jock, the rich kid, the brainy kids. Hell, I didn't fit any of those, so you can tell my younger life sucked. Can't change that now. I'd hope that we all become more inclusive or accepting of others even if there isn't an attraction. A couple of comments on the above, with which I largely agree and with minor exceptions: If you want to look for a fairly inclusive group, you're hard-pressed to be better accepted than by the Bear community. Go to a Munch in the fetish community and Bears are 9 out of 10 the first people to introduce themselves to the newbies. There are always exceptions when someone says "ALL". At events, there's always natural affinities to go to people that seem like you (which is why I make every effort to choose another group at times to mix it up). If we had more people who subscribed to the poster's (above) ethos, things become a lot more fun. Thanks for saying this, though. I'd say I agree with 99% of it. 😀

So my first experiences with M2M sex were at 15. Growing up, I wasn't in sports, I didn't present as macho, I was more the 'nerdy kid' who was picked on until I was about 14 before changing schools (where I lived, if I'd come out as bi/gay, I'd have been beaten daily. I was already being called a fag before I even had an actual encounter). Went through the rest of high school awkwardly and unappealing to just about any female classmate. So as the OP said, it was different then. I had options for college and the one that was the most academically appealing was NYU. Yeah. Let that one sink in a moment -- NYC, The Village, Gay Mecca in 1983. Again, a bit of a double-life as I dated women but found myself more than curious about other guys, so some nights I'd walk down Christopher Street and look around (white, orange and Robin's Egg blue, left pocket for anyone keeping score). And be checked out by really hot guys. Unfortunately, this was also the beginning of the AIDS scare, so any notions I'd had of leaning that way quickly got pushed to the back of my mind. The OP is right that the ridicule and rejection we found in the early 80's has now become almost a celebration of being out, or others asking why they haven't yet come out. So yeah...closet with a lot of baggage for a long time. I've called myself "bi" for as long as I can recall, and even that is ridiculed (women being scared they'll get dumped for a guy, guys lukewarm to dating you because they think you're denying yourself, yada yada). I've had a decent share of M2M experiences and enjoyed all of them and wished I'd explored it even more. Wished I'd been with more guys, or not shunned some advances. And I somehow still trigger the old "gaydar" for some people. Regrets? Yeah, had a few and if I had it to do over I would have been much more honest with myself and others on my sexuality. We can't live in hindsight and can only change by going forward. So...I'm bi, but at about a 95% + attraction to guys and that number is growing.

Full disclosure: I'm bi, I knew I was bi since I was young, my first sort of sexual experience was with guys, but I never did any bottoming with guys up to and through a certain point. Then my first experiences were with condoms because, well, for one we were fed the propaganda about safe sex, then I was in no position to knock anyone up, and then the AIDS scare had come into full view (early 80's). Then I got hooked up with a chick who "wanted my bone" according to a friend, so we did and she wanted me bare inside her. She told me she was on the pill and the next morning she offered up proof so I wouldn't be freaked out about knocking her up -- STDs weren't in the picture really. But damn did fucking her raw feel really great. Next women I dated just all wanted it bareback and it just became more second nature as I went on that women hated condoms, perhaps more than guys. I got to the point quickly that I didn't even ask about STDs or birth control (nor did they) and we just fucked to our hearts' content. (Y'all see where this is heading) Yeah, didn't care if I got 'em pregnant either. If they're letting me fuck them, I was down. Condoms never came up. But I was also playing around with other guys, more as Top than versatile or bottom. And when I fucked, it was always as a raw top. Totally down with sucking cock and swallowing cum. Any dude I was with, I was still topping and they were letting me fuck them raw. And yeah, I cruised the ABSs, dark rooms, etc. Again, once I had the experience of going raw, there was no turning back because it just felt too damn good no matter what hole I was in. Roll a condom over it and I want to go totally limp because I'm not turned on by it and the sex is far less satisfying (actually, it's pretty annoying). As I've grown older, two things have transpired. One is that I'm rarely turned on by a woman or sex with a woman, bareback or otherwise. I guess I feel like I've missed out on a lot and would have had a fuck ton more fun with guys than women. The second is that I want to be much more versatile and either flip or bottom for guys. It's just further and further down the rabbit hole. I just want to enjoy everything and feel like I've experienced what I wanted in this life. Not that I'm necessarily looking to get pozzed, but I'm not on PrEP either and I'm not doing condoms. So either I'm going to end up exceptionally selective (yeah, I'm too horny for that) or my fate is sealed and I learn to accept that tossing aside my negative status just opens the world to a new liberation and a brotherhood of guys of like mind. Regrets? Wish I could go back and start down just the one path with guys and experience all I missed out on. Damn.

We should compare some notes buddy. Would love to get a tour of some of those spots and hopefully have some fun along the way. 😉

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Cruised the local [banned word] park from the time I was about 13 but wasn't ready to do anything until I was about 15 so I headed there one afternoon after school. I see a very familiar van, so I go up to it to make sure. I surprised the occupant and sure enough, it was one of the local priests. We eyed each other up after I grabbed my cock outside my pants and gave him a facial signal that let him know I was down to hookup. Got into his van, dropped my pants and got my first blowjob from an older priest. I unloaded right down his throat and it was satisfying. We had a couple more episodes like that, but I was a bit over his age preference (he liked them around 11-13), but from there on the switch officially got flipped, and I knew where I could find horny [banned word] who loved to blow dudes.

For whatever reason, it sounds like you crave sexual intimacy with guys but seem to want the 'safety' of validation in a relationship with a woman because that's what was somehow ingrained in you. So you keep toying with a hope of a relationship with someone in a gender that you admit doesn't do it for you. Guilt? Not our place to judge, but it sure seems like you have conflicted feelings about what you 'should' do when what you really should (or want to) do is embrace your true feelings to be with other guys. Been there as well, dude. Forget the labels and perhaps release the notion of a need to be with a woman that doesn't arouse you. Find a guy who gets you really hot and just go have a great fuck with him. Find yourself wanting more? Instantly horny? Can't wait to have him inside you? Then call it whatever you want if you can't handle the "gay" label, but realize what you really like and want and know that it's certainly not 'straight". Good luck!

I grew up and came of age encountering the AIDS crisis and the associated stigmas. At the time, I was bi but only fucking women and for years had always done so with a condom. I then met someone on the pill and that changed everything for me. "Fuck condoms, this feels too good". After that, I started to discover that almost every woman I met hated condoms equally or more than the guys. So if they were on birth control -- or even many times if not -- they were having it raw and wanted me to cum inside them, and if I wasn't afraid of knocking them up (this was before Plan B), I was fine with my preference. Fast forward several years and I indulged my latent bi-side and decided to go deep into it for a while, so I jumped right in and fucked younger guys in the dark rooms. And every one of them wanted me to fuck them raw. Yeah, HIV was still a thing, but people started accepting the risks and the topic of condoms never really came up. Now if a guy wants a condom at all times, I really needed to start questioning who I'm fucking. For me, it was a feeling of liberation, and damn it feels way better to feel skin against skin and the cathartic release inside them. Not on PrEP, not practicing protected sex, so there's always that outside chance, but now I really want to experience being the bottom and having guys fuck me more. I suppose my fate is sealed, so the next step is probably just letting it happen or outright chasing it. Suggestions?