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I have a Fet account. I've met a couple people from it too, but it was a lot of work to get there, so is the juice worth thee squeeze? The big issue with it is that it's not really organized (intentionally so) to facilitate any sort of hookups, so all people tend to do is chat and post stuff. Or if you want to find a 'munch', but I always found that the folks at those aren't really on my same wavelength which can become uncomfortable. And Heaven forbid you say anything about being bi on any site. Woody Allen once said it doubled your chances for a date Saturday night, but it seems to double your chances at rejection. 😂

I'm thinking this is a UK or London thing. When I traveled for work, I was the only one wearing loafers. My colleagues were in lace-ups or chukka boots. Gotta ask what's so creepy about them though? That's a thought. Though it's a great way to spot a catfish as well. Here's another: Dudes on hookup sites looking for a romantic thing that never -- at all -- discuss sex.

"Respect is earned." If you want to lead someone, you would never ask a subordinate to do something that you wouldn't do yourself if you're capable. It's really one tenet of leadership, and your subordinates see that and respect you for being that type of leader. "Walk a mile in their shoes" and you'll have respect for them and, perhaps more importantly, they'll respect you. Sir Douchebag could learn a lot from being sublimated and forced into that submissive position. Preferably "without safe words" so he can experience the same treatment he's keen to inflict on others. I venture that he might rethink his position.

You should go back and find out. 😉 I've had a few bookstore and adult theater clerks want to give me a blow job. One came back into the theater and asked if I minded if he sat there. Told him sure. He dropped trow and decided to ride my cock right there. Never expected he meant my seat. 🤣

How about we take his advice and DO NOT CONTACT HIM? I've been used to women-seeking-men's ads being too high maintenance and demanding. This douchebag? Asshole Level 1000. Running a train on him will change his attitude for sure. 🤣

What tends to annoy me about Sniffies is that there are too many lurkers without a picture, indicate they want to hookup, and act like they've never heard the word "no" if you aren't interested. It's not a sales pitch!

This is why the law deals with chronological ages only, not the question of maturity or whether the age makes someone mentally capable of making sound decisions and choices. People that are well into consenting age make bad decisions all the time -- drunk driving, DUI, walking into a crowded venue and opening fire on civilians, knifing someone in a crowd, you get the idea. Unfortunately, while the age works for a vast majority of people, the actions of the person often are confused with the action of the item. It would be just as unreasonable to ban all knives or motor vehicles because a very, very small majority of people have misused or unlawfully used those items. Laws don't account for inherent maturity, so we need to presume that with age comes enough life experience to make a responsible decision. Works most of the time. If the majority of people responding to this poll were to clarify their answers, I'd wager that their first experiences were consensual or they had no objections with them when they happened (or they'd have probably told adults or authorities). Would I have any issue with dropping the consenting age? No. Perhaps I already sensed that I wouldn't object to male/male interaction when that happened, but regardless of legality, I knew myself well enough to make decisions that wouldn't jeopardize me. But I think it's a bit crazy when we have states that permit someone below legal consenting age to get married and have children, but we conversely make a big deal about certain other activities. (And note: In most states, if you're a married minor, you cannot retain counsel and are not recognized legally by courts until you're 18, and that's led to abusive behaviors by the spouses of those minors). If you're going to allow a minor to get married, they should be considered as able to 'consent'. So strike down the age requirement for both to the point where it isn't...ummm...creepy? And @viking8x6, I've met some 20 and 30-somethings that don't "do adulting". What the hell are they waiting for?

Hence the name "Pig Alley". Complete with that breeding ambiance. 🤣😂 I think it would have been too tempting to show him who "daddy" is. Was he at least "doable"? 😉

I noticed no one mentioned NastyKinkPigs (NKP). Has people's experiences been that there's a lot of flakes, or have they been positive/ Seems to be a lot of Party-and-Play guys and Poz-Friendly guys on it. Curious as to other views.

The curiosity is killing me. Did you end up inviting the little queen back to give him a more personal demonstration?

Thank you. This is why I love your posts. It's that dose of cold water in the face in the morning that's needed in these discussions. I wish there was a way to pin this to the top of this post. I go the the Back Room and expect to see guys waxing poetic about the experiences of HIV conversion, and a certain level of fantasy around it, but I appreciate the dose of reality and accuracy this response provides as a rebuttal to all of that. And we all need to hear that. Especially others like me who don't have the experience of living with HIV and the associated health outcomes of it. So thanks, @ErosWired, for the insight. 😃

It's the entire feeling that you made him cum and got to taste the fruits of your labor. And ever since I got my first load without so much as a warning, it's just the experience of feeling and tasting it on your tongue and how it passes down your throat. It definitely has an effect on the pleasure centers in my brain. And if my partner will cum kiss me and swap it with me, that turns me on all over again. Love the sensation of making out with you both enjoying one's cum.

Invite them both over afterward and you can both have fun with his bubble Hole. Give him a good tip...or the whole thing if you like. 😂🤣

All the blood rushed back into their head from their cock. 🤣🤣 It's probably at that point that they realized how much they really enjoyed that primal and cathartic feeling of shooting their load up a guy's ass and can't believe how amazing it was. How easy it was to just get you to let him fuck you, how little pretense there was behind it, how much you appreciated him fucking you and how good he felt blowing his load into someone that he'd love togo another round eventually once he accepts that his carnal desire felt amazing. That's how it feels for me, minus the guilt of it being so different or any embarrassment.

On that point, I think that may be more the person's level of self-awareness and how much they try to put their own actions in perspective. Over time, I've noticed that people tend to become more self-aware of their actions and how those can be viewed or perceived by others. For instance, and for me, it's about how quickly I'll try to speak and whether I'm stumbling over words trying to keep up verbally with my brain in speaking. If I'm speaking for others, I recognize I have an audience and will tend to trip on words, but if I completely forget there's an audience and just tune it out and keep my desired pacing, it's clear as a bell with no verbal crutches (like, you know, um, so...etc.). Oddly, becoming more self-aware of that meant stepping outside myself.

I agree with you that the characterization as Peter Griffin is not very charitable. At the risk of veering from topic, however, it's spot-on accurate for him. The traits you cited applied to him, especially the lack of a filter when needed and the hyper-focus on specific items that will never get out of their crawl. And unfortunately, even a physical side-by-side comparison of character versus real-life or vocal expressions were also dead-on for character versus boss. People universally used that to reference him to avoid others knowing that he was being discussed. Not attempting to cast any disparagement on you, ErosWired. I barely know you but for posting here, we've never met, so there's no way any judgment of mine would be remotely fair, so please don't consider this as a discussion or comparison of you. Hopefully you'll get to know that's not my intention with people (which is why I refrain more and more from certain discussions). And in my case, watching the show is somewhat therapeutic since I can crack a hearty laugh based on my own experiences that I've since left behind and view him as 'crass, imbecilic buffoon'. Maybe we should talk about Stewie Griffin since we're discussing perceived gay vocalizations. 😃

Now that's how we got all our porno mags when I was a kid. Someone invariably threw them out in some big pile of trash, and one time they did pick up a pretty big haul by my elementary school. Nothing collectible, but stuff like Cheri, Oui, Jugs, any other C or D-List mag you can imagine was barely worth the paper stock that the chick's pussy was splayed out in. Do we all remember bushes that looked like they needed Afro Sheen?

Well touch me in the morning then just walk away. 🤣😂 Actually, the whole series of skits was from Fox's "In Living Color". Someone's going to complain at some point about them being politically incorrect, but I just think they're hysterical.

I have a younger relative who is profoundly autistic, mainly non-verbal. But... He knows people by smell, so he walks up to them closely and smells them by his olfactive senses, which are apparently very acute. And he can watch you do something once and have it mastered. For instance, I've noted that when I've taken things apart and reassembled them he will go back, find the exact same tools, and repeat the effort with precision. Once it's been seen, it's committed to his permanent memory and he can forever do that task. So if he's watched me brew coffee, for instance, and I tell him later by showing him the machine to "go make coffee", he'll do it. We have yet to understand not only what causes autism but how it wires the map of the brain as it does. I'm inclined to think that rather than a binary definition of autism, there truly is a "spectrum" going from very slightly to profoundly. Thought so. The friend I know who is an Aspie will not refer to herself as Autistic. As an aside, I had a boss (now ex-boss), we'll call him Peter Griffin. 😃 I'll contend to this day that Peter was also an Aspie. He would do things that demonstrated a complete lack of perception and self-awareness about his actions. I once looked up the traits for Aspergers and damn if he didn't tick all the boxes. Others had the same impression. Unfortunately, his lack of self-awareness and actions resulted in the company being sued for his harassment of employees and him being discharged for the complaints (they called it a re-org, but one person was already out the door and it just looked better to ax Peter at the same time under that guise).

This was always one of my rationalizations of why I could never be gay: I don't like showtimes and I cannot coordinate colors. 🤣😂 (I'm joking, I know that's totally stereotypical). I think people can make the inference if a male's voice has effeminate characteristics or the mannerisms are such that it's almost imitational to traditionally female affectations, yes, people don't have much doubt that they're projecting their gayness. But first, this brief interruption: "Men on..." : [think before following links] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=95QRYSNnS3o In case the inference ever needed an example to illustrate. 🤣😂 Back to the post. In reality, I've known both guys that don't outwardly project gayness in that way and ones who do. A former workmate of mine tried insanely hard to never project he was gay by referring to his significant other as "she" or "her" and keeping a good bit of his personal life away from the office. The group photo of him and the 'guys' getting together -- every one a gym rat, all very physically chummy with each other in a way most heteros aren't -- and when he would get impassioned about a topic just how he would express it were pretty much giveaways. I saw him having Thai after work with his boyfriend and said hi, and he was really embarrassed (why I'll never know). When he finally was going to "come out" to his other work colleagues, he asked me "how do you think they'll react?" I couldn't stop laughing for a full minute and finally said, "Like 'finally you're admitting it, it's about damn time'." He looked at me with a shocked expression and I said to him, "I put it together when I met you dude, it's not going to shock them and they'll treat you the same way." @ErosWired, out of curiosity, I'll throw out the term Asperger Syndrome (even though it's now rolled into the spectrum). The characteristics you mention sound associated. Am I far off on that one? Had a former classmate with whom I remain really good friends, but she exhibited a lot of that during the time I knew her then where she could be oblivious to the world and become very obsessively focused on certain actions or behaviors.

If you try Adam4Adam, there are "professional profiles" (mostly masseurs) who offer therapeutic and erotic massages. I've questioned a couple and dropped a hint that something might arouse me for more. One indicated that it 'was included with the service". Read that as you will. It likely comes down to those who will and those who won't. This particular one noted that he performed body-to-body massage.

It's funny that we both know about Ty's, but I guess if you've even heard of Christopher Street you'll probably have noticed. Many years ago, a good co-worker friend his colleague from a different office were in NY. I knew my co-worker's background (sowed his oats, then later married but wasn't shy about his 'gayness'), never knew that his 'Bear' friend was actually in a similar down-low position and I suggested that we head downtown from the office for dinner. We drove past Christopher Street and the Bear's eyes widened as if he'd just been transported to Mecca and insinuated that he'd like to check that out without trying to let on he was craving some man-to-man interaction. My co-worker just said to him, "Oh girl give it up, he's family, he won't say anything," referring to me. I just told him, "Check out Ty's if that's something you're into." We couldn't pull to the curb fast enough for him to want to leap out and make a beeline from 7th Avenue. My co-worker and I just sat down, had dinner -- he and I had long before talked about our histories -- and afterward curiosity got the better of us so we strolled down Christopher and sure enough, our friend was hanging out in Ty's and getting cozy with another Bear. We both chuckled about it and gave him a knowing glance when he finally reached the office the next day. As for the friend I introduced to Ty's perhaps a decade earlier, he moved out to San Jose, and I'm almost certain he's taken up membership as a Log Cabin Republican. 🤣😂

I read that too and thought the same thing and almost expected to see the text turn into a future medication and list of side effects. "HAND is generally well tolerated, but side effects may include poor gas mileage, split ends, unibrow, receding hairline, uneven tire wear, purple and pink striped stools, bad interior design, low credit score, reduced resale value on your home, chafing jeans, low sperm count, vaginal odor, and feline leukemia. HAND should not be taken if you're allergic to HAND. Ask your proctologist if HAND is right for you." 😂🤣

If I told you how many signs I missed when I was younger of that sort because friends pointed it out...well, let's just say I'd have gotten laid a lot more than I did. Like you, I needed a big neon sign or some overt and obvious action on their part to really put it together. And deep down I often wondered whether that was part of my awkwardness as a teenager that made it easier to look at guys and know (because if a guy eyed me on that way and didn't break eye contact, I could tell more than I could with a woman). Or whether this becomes that awkward phase growing up that has a guy realize into which direction he orients. As for "cruising cripple", I had a friend I'd always suspected was gay but never had him mention that he was more into guys nor was there any real evidence of the. Until we went out and I suggested that we go to the city, then turned him down Christopher Street and he turned into the kid in the candy shop. We both went into Ty's on Christopher and he decided he'd work his way back to the men's room and I caught him giving other guys a feel. Meanwhile I just stood back at the bar and enjoyed the show (and if I was being hit on, I was oblivious to it though I did come in with someone).

Ah yeah, the timeless question of "gaydar". 😃 I think it exists in some people that they're perceptive or have a sense of whether someone has those tendencies. Now I'm neither the most effeminate or masculine guy, I've asked women and they don't perceive me as being bi or gay, but even with that, I've had guys hit on me in all sorts of settings (one even hit on me at Disney World and we were friends for many years afterward, but never sexually) ever since I was about 17-18. So somehow those guys sensed or 'knew' that I was bi. I wish I had an answer because unless there are obvious signs that someone is hitting on me or openly flirting, I can't tell, but I'm fairly certain others can.