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Please help enlighten me. I have searched everything on the site and there are very few if any results. Granted this is a site for breeders, so it's not necessarily welcome here per se, but I have nothing but empathy for these poor sexually confused persons who likely want to belong and fit in so badly that they suffer not knowing it's okay to be asexual. I guess I am curious about this spectrum of sexual desire. I "don't get it" because I was never confused. It was always very clear to me my purpose. I need to be with horny men and I need to know how it feels when their manhood is throbbing and ejaculating their horny seed inside me. It's all I want frankly. So, I don't understand how others end up with any form of confusion unless there is heaps of pressure to conform to a sexually driven society...? Where does the confusion originate? Is it internal? Forgive my ignorance. What follows is the result of my chat GPT query and I found it helpful. I hope some of you do as well. “Asexuals are invisible” — what does that actually mean? It means: Asexuality is rarely shown, named, or modeled in society. People grow up surrounded by: • movies about sexual attraction • peers talking about sex • social scripts assuming desire • jokes, ads, music, memes centered on sexual interest …but almost never see someone portrayed as: • happy without sexual desire, • in a committed relationship with minimal or no sex, • experiencing intimacy without sexual drive, • not broken because they aren’t sexually motivated. So most asexual people grow up with zero mirrors. Invisibility creates internal confusion, not self-recognition. If you never see a role model, you don’t have language to describe yourself. Asexual people often think: • “Everyone else feels something I don’t.” • “I’m weird.” • “Maybe something’s wrong with me.” • “I just haven’t met the right person yet.” • “My hormones are low, or I’m stressed.” They explain it away rather than identify it. ⸻ ⭐ 2. Why this invisibility makes self-recognition difficult Asexuality is one of the only orientations where the absence of something is the defining experience. That’s hard to interpret. Here’s how an asexual person may unintentionally hinder their own recognition: ⸻ A) They assume everyone else is lying or exaggerating about sex Because they’ve never felt sexual desire: • they think sexual attraction is a myth, • or that people only pretend to feel it, • or that others only want sex for closeness, not drive. So they don’t realize they’re the exception — they think their internal experience is the norm. ⸻ B) They misinterpret lack of desire as a flaw or failing If no one explains asexuality to you, you assume: • “I’m broken.” • “I’m defective.” • “I’m not enough for my partner.” • “I’m doing something wrong.” When the mind interprets something as a defect, it pushes the truth away. You can’t accept an identity while simultaneously believing it means you’re dysfunctional. So the person hides the truth — even from themselves. ⸻ C) They get stuck in the “maybe later” cycle Common thoughts: • “Maybe my libido will come back.” • “Maybe when I’m less stressed.” • “Maybe when the relationship is stronger.” • “Maybe after this life phase calms down.” This delays self-recognition because the person expects change that never comes. ⸻ D) They mirror cultural scripts instead of internal experience Because all relationships are shown as sexual, an ace person might: • say “I want to be sexual” • promise intimacy they don’t actually desire • go along with sex to feel “normal” • pretend to have a libido to keep a partner They’re copying what a partner expects from them, not what they genuinely feel. This is often not intentional deception — it’s internalized pressure. ⸻ E) They confuse emotional closeness with sexual attraction Asexual people feel deep affection and romantic longing, but not sexual desire. Because society conflates the two, they assume: “When I feel emotionally close, that must be sexual attraction.” But nothing sexual happens internally. So they mislabel their feelings — even to themselves. ⸻ F) They don’t realize there’s a name for what they are Many asexual adults say they spent their entire life thinking: • “I just don’t get sex.” • “I’m not into that stuff.” • “I’m picky.” • “I’m slow to warm up.” • “I don’t need it as much.” They didn’t know “asexuality” was an option until age 25, 35, 45, or even 60+. When you don’t have a name, you can’t claim the identity. ⸻ G) They assume their partner will leave if they say the truth This fear is extremely common. They may think: • “If I tell them I’m asexual, they’ll leave me.” • “If I never initiate sex, they’ll think I don’t love them.” • “If I admit I don’t feel attraction, they’ll feel abandoned.” So they perform “wanting” — even if they never intend to initiate. This protects the relationship in their mind… …but harms it in reality. ⸻ ⭐ 3. Why denial is common — and not malicious Denial isn’t deception. Most asexual people who are “in denial” are: • trying to fit in • trying not to disappoint anyone • hoping to feel desire someday • afraid of being judged • copying the only relational script they’ve ever seen The psychological mechanism here is avoidance of shame, not dishonesty. ⸻ ⭐ 4. How this invisibility affects YOU (the partner) You end up: • hearing “I want you” without experiencing initiation • feeling confused because the words and behaviors mismatch • waiting for sexual closeness that doesn’t come • carrying the emotional labor of creating intimacy • questioning your own attractiveness • feeling frustration and resentment build • wondering if they’re closeted, rejecting, or asexual Understanding the invisibility piece helps you see: 💡 Your partner may not be intentionally misleading you — they may simply not have the clarity or acceptance yet. ⸻ ⭐ 5. How you can work with this invisibility to promote self-acceptance Here are the best approaches: (1) Offer language without forcing labels You can say: “Some people experience emotional attraction without sexual attraction. You don’t have to decide anything today, but I want you to know that’s a real, valid orientation — not a flaw.” This creates safety. ⸻ (2) Encourage private reflection Because shame often blocks self-realization. Offer: “You don’t have to tell me right away. Just think about what resonates with your inner experience.” ⸻ (3) Affirm that telling the truth won’t cause abandonment Many aces deny themselves because they fear losing their partner. You can say: “Honesty won’t push me away. What hurts me is not knowing your truth.” ⸻ (4) Separate identity from relationship decisions People fear that identifying as asexual means the relationship must end. But you can say: “We can figure out what works for both of us. Your identity doesn’t automatically decide our future.” This reduces panic and defensiveness. ⸻ (5) Help them feel normal Reducing shame reduces denial. “You’re not broken. There are many people like you. This is just one way of being.”

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This is the problem. No one is only always ever a top, and no one is only always ever a bottom. What there ALWAYS are - are exceptions to the rule. I blame DESIRE, lol. It's fickle. One day it wants this, the next day that...and then out of the blue it wants something entirely different. To answer your question. I want to fuck myself all the time. That's how versatile I am. LOL Not sure what that says about me, but if I could clone me and take turns fucking myself I would not get bored.

For me it was not a choice. It is a calling. What I regret is that I was not born into a family of horny men who recognized my calling and knew what to do and how to use my sissy boi holes and keep them busy. I have mentioned in other posts that my instinct has always been to provide my ass to a man when he has an erection. With time, age, experience I have learned that how I provide my ass to a man is the answer to your question about losing my dignity. I am happiest when I get to spend time with a horny man, but what I want more than anything is to be chosen by a horny man to receive his seed when he ejaculates inside me.

I was doing a search on "flashing" as I wanted to understand how effective this is as a "tool" for communicating to other men how aroused you are by them. Unfortunately, I am not finding that much information or feedback yet as it would seem society has done well to classify this as unwanted and even punishable. Sadly, it seems like there would be few places that a horny man might be able to get away with taking it out. Would you be able to help me make a list of where you dare flash your manhood around? Literally where have you taken it out that was considered inappropriate?

Amen brother! Thank you for sharing. It's a real reminder that everyone has their own tolerances or thresholds or comforts or things that give them an 'ICK' vibe which is mostly a boner killer. I think it also why it's impossible to ever get what you "really" want lol (no way to actually scratch that 'itch'). This is why there are other threads on here that discuss why it's like navigating a field of land-mines to know whether or not a guy is going to love or hate the fact that another man has already used your talented and welcoming cockpit. My goal in life is to have such a desirable and accessible cockpit that the real men who need (aka desire) to breed me know how to reach me. I am happiest when I get to experience a horny bro grinding his manhood deep inside me to ejaculate that horny seed of his. It's the best compliment and it's secretly what I want more than anything. To know how it feels when he ejaculates and spreads his seed inside me.

Great topic, thanks @ChileanTop for reminding men why they have this natural carnal instinct. I agree it is evolutionary. I also agree that most breeders who have experienced the intense pleasure of using another man's ejaculate as lube is the epitome of alpha male breeding. These are the men I seek out by the way. Sadly, I find that "society" today has tainted (I mean distorted or interfered with...) this very natural instinct. It has become associated with "high risk" behaviour and as such is a huge deterrent for the general male population of today. As such, I would assume that most men have never experienced this, or if they did, they did not realize the bottom already had another load. Otherwise, pre-seeded bottom boys would be in high demand. Bathhouses and adult bookstore m4m populations are the exception...but then again this is also deemed by society as "high risk". I love being watched as I get bred as I hope it inspires other men to step up behind me and slide their horny manhood in deep to ejaculate (and PS if a man ejaculates within a few strokes, I know it's mind-blowing good that he can't hold back and he is my favourite).

Context is everything!! Well said @NLbear While I have a "hard time saying NO" to any man (regardless of how he "identifies") that wants to breed me; I am prepared to say NO or set boundaries on "how" or "where" or "how long" etc. I am entirely prepared to take a good pounding, but I don't want to be finger fucked or fisted, etc. My purpose is to get bred and receive your horny seed. I am not usually interested in long drawn out ass stretching sessions per se, for me it's about the moment of connection when a horny man chooses to bury his hard horny manhood deep inside me to ejaculate his seed. I am happiest when I get to enjoy the pleasure and satisfaction associated with a sloppy hole full of cum by all the breeders that enjoyed themselves inside me.

I do not support nonconsensual contact with other people. In this day and age "breeders" should be able to find a consensual hole to breed that we should be able to avoid any harm or trauma that follows forced contact. I know many men want to role play and fantasize about being forced, but I would go out on a limb to say that is mostly fantasy (and role play) and if the same men were ever actually forced in a situation that did not appeal to them it has the potential to cause more harm than good. Where I agree with this concept or idea is that as a lover of men (aka someone who wants to know how it feels when any horny man wants to ejaculate inside me), I would happily provide my holes to any man who tells me that he wants or desires nothing more than to breed me and ejaculate his horny seed inside me. So, just ask! Consent is cool. I will happily put out.

It sounds like a great place to go 'be yourself' including your slutty horny self. I am in. I hope we meet at sea!! Love you men, please tell me you need to cum inside me and I will make it a priority.

This thread is so hot. I do love hearing how a breeder absolutely loves to grind his horny manhood inside a desirable fuck hole as deeply as possible to have a satisfying ejaculation. I love having a horny man ejaculate inside me, I crave it all the time. If he wants to talk dirty to me he just needs to tell me how much he needs to bury his horny seed deep inside me. I would beg him to message me anytime he's horny to breed me.

great question, and thank you @tallslenderguy for this response. it sort of gets to the point - or the underlying "issue" which may be "getting in the way." disclaimer: I do believe that society and expectations to conform or not to "realize" our true self or "calling" is a whole other variable worth exploring. Is it nature? Is it nurture? LOL.. I have described my instinct (nature) when I was a young adolescent boy that when i saw a horny man rubbing his erection my desire was to find a way to offer and provide him my ass to breed. it's just what I thought was the natural carnal way to handle the situation. to this day, if I am "true to myself" I want to offer my gay ass to every man on the planet, hoping that a small handful of them are willing and interested to follow their carnal desire to breed a sweet hole when offered. I don't think you can over think this honestly; given the above disclaimer about social pressure and conformity... but I honestly argue this is a nature thing - not a nurture thing. and if you really need men to ejaculate inside you - I would like to think at 52 it would have happened by now. life provides lots of opportunities, unless you never left the safety and comfort of not doing anything to explore. but then I would argue carnal desire is more powerful and so maybe you're sexuality is just different...?

I appreciate the 'guest' OP for putting this out there. Interestingly, the way the topic heading reads - I assumed (perhaps literally) it meant dating your wingman. Which made sense to me, a lot of sense to me. For the reason my brother @xxbjn2 so eloquently pointed out. As for fitting in with society and coupling up and having a "partner" for the 'bad times' I am conflicted by the following: anal gay bottoms, the kind that need to get fucked and bred by any horny man - can never seriously consider monogamy and accept or fulfill their calling of being used as a fuck hole for any horny man in need. this is where having a 'good friend' like a wingman as a life partner makes a lot of sense to me. especially when there is a shared purpose for the relationship. having another gay bottom as a partner that doesn't also want to act as your wingman, seems like a dead end situation unless the relationship is built on other common and shared activities beyond sex. oral gay men (sides), also just want to suck any dick. they may not need a wingman. this may appeal or lend itself more to the "lone wolves" of the gay community. why only oral? I never understood this aversion to using your ass to get bred...tbh. a-sexual or confused sexual persons. these people are the ones who complicate everything for all the actual breeders on this site. are these guys "tops" because they don't like anal? are they x, because they don't like y? not because they are hired to want z? is there a simple test to help a-sexual people figure this out? if you see a sexy ass and you don't immediate get hard and want to breed it, then: it's either not the ass for you or you don't want to breed ass if you see a sexy person, but don't imagine yourself penetrating them / or being penetrated by them it's either not the right person to breed or you don't actually want penetration to breed there is no way to "teach" these people how to desire to breed. you either need to breed (or get bred) or you don't. I think we need to find a way to let these poor fuckers off the hook so they can have their own letter in the alphabet of marginalized weird soup pop culture has lumped us all into. Sorry for the weird rant, but yeah...I don't know if gay men who want to be bred by any man are meant to be in any relationship, except for with their wingman. HMMMM, love you guys. Go easy on me.

I recently remembered that I would observe my father (late at night and from a distance) playing with or edging his boner in his underwear. I remember that I would then go to bed, leaving my door open enough to invite my dad to look in, and see that I was lying face down in my bed with the covers exposing my ass for him. My mom probably would have appreciated me taking some of that burden off her as I had learned later in life those were not exactly "pleasant" sexual experiences for her but more of a duty and obligation. This is why I find it sad people don't know how to put a gay bottom boy to work for the greater good. LOL

I love this reply. Thank you. I can imagine it would be frustrating as a top thinking you are getting to use a fuck hole only to find out that the advertised "fuck hole" only wishes he could take dick the way you need him to. You're welcome to take me for a test ride. LOL