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phillygwm

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  1. I'm a negative top. I don't even bother to ask because I'm not inclined to trust some anonymous guy in a bookstore. Most poz guys were converted by someone they thought was neg, whether because they didn't ask, the guy didn't know he was poz, or he lied. I'm responsible for myself. I know U=U and most guys who know they're poz are on meds and undetectible. I also know that if playing with someone is a possibility, I'll go on 2-1-1 PrEP. Hopefully, I wind up with a regular bud where it makes sense to be on it every day.
  2. Pretty straightforward. If you're sucking me, I may or may not be in the mood to fuck. At a gh, I usually prefer oral. But if you turn around and put your ass against the hole, I've been known to invite a guy into my booth (when possible) if I really want to fuck. I just like holding on to a guy while I thrust, plus, I can get deeper inside.
  3. Wow. So I have to ask: Does it look different (a bend etc.) now?
  4. Has anyone been seriously injured while having sex? Could be something consensual or not. I'm not talking about a rough fuck that hurts but something that actually did damage. I remember many years ago I was with a tiny Asian guy. I'm a fairly tall white guy and I was in the high 200 lb range at the time (~130kg). He was having trouble taking me and when I finally got in I tried to start slow but when I was close I was really railing him. When I pulled out, he was bleeding. Not profusely, so it wasn't truly serious, but I felt alternately guilty and like a stud because I thought I ripped him apart 🙂
  5. When I was a teen, I could occasionally touch the head of my cock with my tongue. It was nothing pleasurable because I was so contorted and just barely made the slightest contact. Didn't stop me from trying 🙂
  6. For me, it isn't necessarily a dom/sub thing. Sure, if my partner wants to submit, I can dominate but it isn't a must have. I've shared my "sub test" here previously: If a guy can get himself off, then submit to me, he's a real sub (and I'm wildly turned on.) Too many guys are submissive until they shoot their load, then it's game over. Personally, I'm a top because I simply have never enjoyed bottoming. But I'm more than happy to reciprocate orally and I'll almost always swallow.
  7. I haven't in a while but I'm not averse to giving a guy a few bucks if he's taking good care of me. But for me, being a sugar daddy is another matter. Maybe he could live in your place without other financial arrangements; that would keep your costs to a minimum and you could get fucked every day and twice on Sunday 🙂 But the comment above is well taken: You'd need to know him well enough and trust him before letting him stay under your roof. You don't need someone stealing or dealing.
  8. Nothing wrong with curiosity. I grew up in a very homogenous neighborhood. No black friends or classmates, even in a HS student body of 1600. Even Asians/Latinos were pretty unusual. I was in some organizations out of HS with more diverse membership, one required showering together. I always positioned myself close enough to see who I wanted to see. I have a funny story re: my first uncut guy (well, funny for me, in retrospect. Not so much for him.) Thankfully, there are many guys of different races who are into white guys as well. It didn't take me too long to be with guys of most races, except for Native American. When I finally met a native Alaskan, I believe I checked off the last box. 🙂
  9. I voted for Biden even though I was (and am) convinced he's in the early stages of dementia. I'm not convinced Trump isn't demented either. But I'd trust the technocrats under Biden more than the sycophants under Trump. A lot of people felt the economy was better under Trump. As a 50-something white guy with a 6 figure salary, I won't pretend to speak for people who are living paycheck to paycheck. I think both parties are mismanaging the economy with deficit spending and they're hypocritical because it only seems to be a problem when the other guys are in power. Of course, nobody wants to raise taxes and nobody wants to be seen as cutting popular spending programs. People just want to keep cutting waste (Waste, of course, being defined as any program which doesn't benefit them directly.)
  10. I've never been into drastically older guys. I was a horny and precocious kid; I knew what cum was before I actually saw it or could produce my own. And I was dying to see a guy shoot (this is well before VCRs or the Internet.) I think it's normal for early sexual experiences NOT to be traumatic but it depends on the situation. If I somehow talked a guy into jerking off for me, I wouldn't have been scarred by that, just the opposite. But if a guy came on to me and I wasn't into it, there's always the possibility of coercion or power imbalance which might mess someone up, even if they weren't physically forced into it. A lot of guys on here have fond memories of what others would describe as sexual exploitation. But other guys in similar circumstances have been messed up enough to end themselves. I suppose that's why ages of consent exist.
  11. I'm unshaved but personally prefer shaved/trimmed. Not a dealbreaker, though.
  12. See, that would turn me on. Not the 7 year old himself, but I would have told him how hot it was fucking him on the bed where he was made. Then I'd ask if he conceived his son in the same bed? That might have freaked him out but oh well. And yeah, in 11 years I'd totally be into a 3 way with dad and son. I've been with a divorced guy. Not in his marital bed or home but in his apt and there were pics of his kids all around. Just knowing that the sperm going down my throat made them was a huge turn on.
  13. It wouldn't be "too much." Most of us have seen locked guys. There will be some who aren't into you but if there are enough guys there, you should stay busy. PERSONALLY, I might choose to play with someone else. I just like playing with a guy's cock, especially if I'm fucking him from behind. I did a hotel room group a while back where the bottom didn't want to be touched, just quick pump and dumps. I couldn't stay hard because there was nothing arousing. I only saw the back of his head and, for me anyway, a hole is a hole. That said, I watched a number of guys unload in him so this is obviously a "me" issue. He probably could have gotten me off orally because I'm usually quicker to cum if a mouth is reasonably talented but that was off limits too.
  14. I think the answer is twofold: 1) Guys who would fuck another man are not straight. Maybe they're straight-leaning bi, at best. Perhaps a straight guy might be able to receive head. But hell, even I can't get up for just any guy and I've been topping for close to 50 years; 2) It's infinitely easier to find a gay guy to give them what they want, especially if they're decent looking and don't require a certain "type". It's unlikely you'd find a random woman online willing to lay there for a pump and dump, unless you're willing to pay.
  15. I was 10 the first time I tasted cum. It belonged to another 10 year old friend who matured early. I grew up before porn was so ubiquitous. We had mags, and adult theaters, but no home videos or Internet. Nothing particularly accessible to a 10 year old. From when I first heard about semen in a library book, I wanted to see someone shoot so badly. It's funny, I'm sure if I had today's tech back then it wouldn't have been a big deal. I didn't have a brother, I tried to spy on my father but never caught him, and while I had cousins who were older, I wasn't close enough to them to broach the subject. I needed someone I could have trusted enough not to tell others that I asked but alas, no.
  16. Well, I'm a bit older than 20 🙂 But you're absolutely right. When I went to bars alone (when I WAS in my 20's) I'd often used to wind up at an ABS. Saved me the trouble of small talk. Now, I usually do go with others but that tends to cock block me so I don't go with the intention of getting laid. In fact, in all my life, I think I only got laid from someone I met in a bar twice.
  17. I have moderate social anxiety and have often wondered if I'm mildly on the spectrum. I often just come across as awkward and/or aloof, especially alone in a bar setting. As a consequence, I don't hookup as often as I'd like and I'm not comfortable in certain situations (i.e. bathhouses.) I do OK on websites like BBRT. Apps are also good if I'm out of town. Otherwise, I live in a suburban area so there are a lot of regulars who are either not interested in me or vice versa. The longer term key is finding a long term FB. I've had a few over the years, though sadly none at the moment.
  18. What I'm saying is that OP asked his question to stir a conversation, even though he's not meeting guys while contageous. He got a pretty negative response for even bringing it up. However, we know there ARE people out there who have and will continue to hookup with guys when they know they have nasty bugs. Hopefully a small number but we're deluding ourselves by saying they don't exist. Asking someone anonymous guy is naive: If someone knows they're contagious and chooses to fuck/get fucked anyway, are they going to be truthful? This is apart from guys who got infected last week and don't know it, who are answering truthfully, as far as they're aware. So yes, we choose to accept those risks.
  19. But after he's cum is the best time to fuck him! 🤣 This is a surefire way not to get invited back. I'm a top and I hate rejection as much as anyone but if someone has made it clear that he isn't into me, I move on. Usually somebody will want my dick, even if we're not each others' first choice. Whether someone is a top or bottom is beside the point. Assholes are assholes.
  20. Who are we kidding? We can all clutch our pearls but there have always been Typhoid Marys since before, well, Typhoid Mary. People of a Certain Age (like me) have heard the stories of people who knowingly transmitted HIV, back when it was still a death sentence. Even though YOU are not going out with Chlamydia etc., we can safely assume that some people are. Everything in life is a calculated risk.
  21. At a very minimum, you disclose beforehand. There are people who are chasing so it might not be an issue for them in a one on one setting. Personally, in a gang bang setting, I expect that people aren't knowingly transmitting any bugs. Sure, some people will be likely poz and undetectable or carrying something (i.e. Herpes but not in an outbreak) but they're not contagious at that moment. And yes, someone may have recently contracted something and is contagious but asymptomatic; that's just an occupational risk of being/using a cumdump.
  22. I was 10. I was friends with a kid, same age, who started puberty before I did. I thought I'd never get hair but turned out I was normal; he was early. Started out showing each other, then he jerked off for me. I grew up before videos or the Internet so it was the first time I saw cum. I knew what it was from reading about it, just never saw someone shoot. I always envisioned it to have the consistency of toothpaste or silly string so was a bit surprised. Anyway, over a few months, I sucked him, then I "fucked" him. I never enjoyed him sucking me, though. So why the quotes? I was still a 10-11 year old kid. I had a few wisps of hair and could cum by that point but I wasn't big. So I got on top of him and put my dick in his crack. I thought I penetrated him but in retrospect I might have just been dry humping.
  23. I'll partially agree. Rape is, by definition, non-consensual. Someone can be a sex worker and be raped if they were forced to do something against their will. Likewise, if you were beaten and choked within an inch of your life but you requested it, it isn't. I'd personally define CNC as a situation where one consents broadly but is out of control when it comes to the specifics. Maybe they're unconscious or severely impaired. They knew they were going to be used but didn't negotiate limits so they didn't know they were going to be (for instance) fisted or shat on. Maybe they wouldn't have consented to those specifics but they're not in a position to object.
  24. Nice. And if things get much worse here in the US, I'm looking at Malta. I probably should visit first 🙂
  25. You deserve as many loads as you can take. It would be hot to plug you after you had 4-5 guys trying to fertilize you. I would have piggy'd your comment but I hit my limit 🙂
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