phillygwm
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This made me think of a questionnaire you're given (in the US anyway) at the urologist's office. There are questions re: whether you can get hard enough to penetrate, whether you can climax inside, etc. Of course, it's written with heteros in mind. I can get hard but not nearly as hard as I was 40 years ago. Sometimes I can fuck with Viagra, depends on the guy and the vibe. That's why I often tell guys I'm primarily into oral now. I'll try to top but maybe it will work, maybe it won't. But if you're reasonably talented, you'll get me off orally
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Depends on the vibe. Usually, if it's something passionate/romantic, I'll go slow. But some guys like it rough and that's hot in a different way.
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Sure. Incest laws primarily exist to discourage inbreeding. If procreation is impossible, for whatever reason, society wouldn't have a compelling need to intervene. But it's still illegal because of the "ick factor." Likewise, ages of consent exist to protect the child and it's an inexact science. Maybe some young teens are sufficiently mature and maybe some above the age of consent can't. Personally, I could handle sex when I was 10 but informed consent is more than that. If an older relative, teacher, etc. wanted to play with me, I wouldn't have wanted to. But would I have enough agency to say no? And if I gave in, would I have been messed up? I've always felt there were a lot more priests, scout leaders, teachers, etc. involved with kids but in many cases the kid didn't report because (s)he wasn't emotionally damaged.
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Legal age of consent is defined differently in different jurisdictions but we don't have to get that far, since incest is illegal almost everywhere. Having established that one is doing something illegal, one way or the other, we can put aside the legal question. I still think informed consent is important, even outside the legal definitions. Normally, I'd say a father or uncle should have a good idea whether his kid is emotionally mature enough to handle it but let's face it: people in that situation are thinking with their little heads 🙂 And in a lot of instances, there's a power imbalance: adults are often authority figures. I was sexually active at 10 and I initiated it...but it was with another 10 year old. Just because I was able to handle that, I'm not sure I'd have been as good if it were an adult. Part of that was I simply wasn't attracted to adults at the time but part was the inherent hypocrisy: the same people who are telling you that sex before marriage is wrong are using you for their pleasure.
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I don't have any brothers but I've fantasized about imaginary ones. I saw my dad a few times soft. One of my earliest memories was when he took me to a movie (some cartoon) and I had to go to the bathroom. We were standing next to each other at the urinal (pre-dividers!) and I was trying to check him out, not too subtly, it turns out. I remember him as being huge but I was a pre-pubescent boy so any adult would have looked like an anaconda 🙂 He caught me and asked "Is this what you want to see?" I was mortified. He might have used the opportunity later to explain things but that's not how my family worked. I was way too shy with my older cousins when I might have had a chance.
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What happened? If you're OK discussing?
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I wouldn't be attracted in the least. I'd sooner do a FTM trans where I'd at least have a pussy to unload in. Never have (bucket list!) He'd need top surgery, though. I like the masculinity (even if twink like) and losing my "gold star" status -- on a technicality -- might be interesting 🙂
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Or at least explain to your nephew. You may need to demonstrate.
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I always found it odd why a top who was OK going in raw thinks there's added risk if he cums inside. If there's anything to catch, you got it over the last 15 minutes you've been pounding the guy. Obviously on the bottom side, I understand the point (unfortunate but...) but what additional bugs would you catch by finishing in a guy you've already been fucking?
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Question for the exhibitionists out there. I love watching and being watched but never performed in front of more than maybe 5-10. That was in an adult theater which, sadly, no longer exists where I occasionally fucked or got sucked off. I love watching porn of guys at places like Folsom St Fair where there are dozens, maybe hundreds watching or at least glancing over while walking by and I've always fantasized about doing more (FF/WS) while people watched but never have. Obviously, both have logistical issues but that's never an issue in a daydream 🙂
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I'm a top. I'd always considered myself average length but thick. As I've gotten older, I say I've shrunk a bit. Not really, but there are a couple factors in play: I don't get as rock hard as I once did. Chalk it up to age and meds. And as you gain a few lbs/kgs in later life, you gain a fat pad around your crotch so you appear a bit smaller. I used to love pushing through a guy's second ring, which I probably can't do now. So I'm self-conscious in a cumdump situation and it's one of the reasons why I'm preferring oral play at this stage in life.
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Agree. Yes, if I'm watching porn, I want to watch some 5'3" twink get impaled by a monster. For myself, I want someone smaller that I can satisfy orally. If you're huge, you're gonna be on your own. Let me know when you're ready and I'll swallow your DNA. 🤣
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When I win the Powerball tonight, I'll have a lot more time to devote to sexual pursuits. And, inexplicably, many more guys will find me attractive 🤣
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There's no great solution if you want to maintain the anonymity of being a cumdump. If that isn't a concern, I suppose you could offer proof upon meeting. OTOH, when you're going into a group scene, there are certain occupational hazards. I always assume the worst, take precautions where I can, and assume the risk when I can't.
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Great point. Nobody is horny ALL the time. Maybe you just came. Maybe there are issues at work or with family or finances. Those tend to squeeze out your bandwith for sex. If it's one of those things that ebbs and flows, that's absolutely normal for all of us and you can usually determine what's getting in your head.
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For me, especially with oral where the bottom is in control, I don't WANT you to give up your decision making power. You've sucked a lot of dicks and what works for one guy won't work for another. I'll give you guidance (usually a moan when something feels good.) But unless I know you're inexperienced and need explicit coaching, I generally won't TELL you what to do; use your judgement. Even with anal, you have tricks. I'm not a necrophile; don't just lay there and play dead (yes, this happens!)
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I try to reinforce that when a guy gets me off especially well. Every load feels good, of course, but some are a lot better than others. When it's great, I'll say something like "Your ass/mouth seems like it's specially molded for my cock." Even a cumdump likes knowing he's appreciated. Of course, the ultimate compliment is if I ask for your number and we play again. Even if it's "meh" I'll usually mumble a perfunctory "thanks" as I withdraw.
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It might be a physiological issue. Low testosterone is one possibility, meds are another (i.e. anti-depressants etc.) I'm not a bottom but interest in sex affects gays, straights, tops, and bottoms. I had prostate cancer and for years after didn't have a strong sex drive. Turns out my T was low. I can't take T supplements because it might aggravate my PC. But you could, if that's your issue. I'd start with bloodwork and go from there. Assuming that's normal, I'm not sure how you "motivate" yourself; maybe a gay friendly therapist?
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It's funny. When I've been with black guys, I've been asked more than a few times to get into race play. Sometimes the guy wants to dominate (which is rarely my thing.) Once, I had a guy who wanted to be my antebellum house slave, "yes, massa" and all. I rolled with it because he sucked a mean dick and, outside the role playing, he was a good guy. But role playing (whether racial, dad/son, rapist, whatever) really isn't my thing. It's only happened one other time: An Indian guy who wanted to do race play which kind of stumped me. Like what does that even entail? Was I supposed to call him for tech support? 🤣
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Anyother bottoms have trouble saying no to a Top
phillygwm replied to Pigmansex's topic in General Discussion
If a guy is orally talented, I'd rather sit back and enjoy (and I'll suck him too if he wants.) The older I get, the more I prefer it that way. -
Race isn't a prerequisite for me. Neither is size, in fact if I'm sucking, I'd rather have a small guy I can throat versus someone I just cant take. Those are nice to look at but can be impractical. I don't like a lot of tats or piercings, especially PAs. Uncut is a big plus. Most important is attitude. I know some guys like being treated poorly but that doesn't work for me. Be a good human, especially if you want to make it a regular thing.
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Anyother bottoms have trouble saying no to a Top
phillygwm replied to Pigmansex's topic in General Discussion
As a top, I totally understand this. I've been with my share of guys who have been dirty. No bueno. But my response is often "Do you have another orifice I can use?" TBH, at this stage of my life, I'd rather go down someone's throat anyway. Sometimes I even like to watch/help a guy prepare himself (though I exit when he moves to the toilet!) 🙂 -
I agree. I guess I, personally, draw the line at harm to others. If I'm in a secluded park having sex, that's illegal. Same for the adult theater/bookstore scene. The people who see me are trying to see me. OTOH, if I'm poz detectable and stealth someone? Yeah, there's a victim there; you're knowingly trying to poz someone. But I'm a big boy and have a healthy dose of built in cynicism. I assume everyone has nasty bugs and I try to take appropriate precautions.
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Where Are All The Feeders (Oral Tops)?
phillygwm replied to Letmeworshipit's topic in Cocksucking Discussion
I consider myself orally vers but I definitely prefer feeding. I simply lack the patience (and jaw strength) for long blow jobs so I'll start a guy off, he'll jerk himself, and I'll finish him off. Anally, I'm a top but I could live without that. As I've gotten older, I really prefer being serviced.- 13 replies
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Funny. I grew up in a very homogenous area in Philly. There were zero black kids in my grade school in the 8 years I was there. There were 2 in my HS but they were a year or two behind me so I had no interaction with them. These were decent sized schools: 800 and 1600. The Internet wasn't yet a thing so I saw my first black cock in a porno. Then I saw a guy in a shower. My first black guy experience was someone from the Caribbean so he was also uncut (which I'd never seen aside from a glimpse of my dad once or twice). So I get his pants off and he's fully covered. I was trying to act normal and figure out what I'm supposed to do with it. I then realized it retracted and, when it did, it looked sort of like mine. So I figured what works for me would work for him and I started rubbing his head. Yeah, he screamed 😞 Sadly, I didn't get a second date. I still feel badly about that! I subsequently dated a Colombian guy so, I promise, my technique has improved!
