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I've thought about this. I was raised Catholic: Grade school, high school, and university (the last was a bit accidental. Long story.) Obviously, the Catholic church wasn't/isn't the most welcoming so I fell away and now consider myself agnostic. In my not-very-gay suburban town, there are two churches (one UCC, one Unitarian) which are openly gay welcoming. The UCC even flies the rainbow flag (but not the US flag) on its flagpole. I've thought about going but haven't thus far. Part of that is that I'd feel hypocritical at the UCC since I'm not a Christian. Unitarians are squishier when it comes to beliefs so that might not be as bad. But old habits die hard; my idea of a religious service is "smells and bells." Watching a livestream, I just didn't get into someone reading an excerpt from Winnie the Pooh. That said, I'm single and have a handful of gay friends (none sexual.) My social anxiety has kind of held me back from trying but, if I ever decide to go, it would strictly be for the purpose of expanding my social -- and ideally sexual -- circle.
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Taking things a step or two further, beyond cock in ass, how many bottoms here would be interested in more than being fucked while blindfolded? Sucking? Maybe WS? Something else? As a top, I'm intrigued by the possibility of walking in a room, choosing which hole I want and what I want to do with it, knowing that the bottom has no say in the matter.
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White Boys Riding Black Rods..... Taboo Or Not Taboo?
phillygwm replied to a topic in General Discussion
I grew up in the 80's in an all white neighborhood and when I was with a black guy back in the day it was kind of exciting and different. I hadn't even seen a black cock until I was ~18 in a shower. So yeah, sheltered life 🙂 It's 2025 and while I'm not suggesting racism isn't a thing in our society, for me, a black guy is just a guy. I have my "type" and if a guy falls into that, I'm interested. If he doesn't, I'm probably not. It isn't a function of race. I find some black guys incredibly attractive and others not so much...not too different than my take on other white guys. -
If your bf was interested in sex previously, it might be something medical, Low T being only one possibility. So maybe a trip to the doctor is warranted first. If it isn't physiological, maybe a counselor instead. There might be issues to unpack. Assuming it really is game over, sex wise, it's unfair for him to expect you to not play with others. Monogamy is one thing, celibacy is quite another. You need to have an uncomfortable conversation.
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It's a noble goal to educate people who are misinformed but, 40 years in, I'd dare say that most people on Grindr know the basics around how HIV gets transmitted. Then there are the trolls, which abound in an anonymous venue like a sex app. You're not going to convince them of anything, you just choose to feed them or not. I try to be respectful of others' opinions, even if I disagree. But someone who's just trying to get a reaction out of me doesn't deserve respect, they deserve an immediate block.
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I've not had a lot of luck on Grindr. Guys tend to be pros or looking to parTy, which (no judgement) isn't my thing. I'm on Scruff but it works better when out of town. It tends to be the same guys in my immediate suburban area.
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It's a matter of semantics. THEY consider themselves straight. I'd argue if someone was 100% straight, they wouldn't be able to maintain an erection for a guy. It's a matter of the definition used. I consider myself gay. Under the right circumstances, I'd fuck a female but those stars haven't aligned yet. If they do, one day, I won't consider myself bi because 99% of my interactions have been M2M. Consider the old Kinsey Scale: There are relatively few 0s and 6s. But there are a lot of 1s and 5s that round off 🙂
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Agreed, it's all a meaningless label. My best friend in HS swore he was straight. We played around a couple times and I rarely have gotten a guy off as quickly. And it's happened dozens of times with other guys since. Where they sometimes draw their line is "Well, you got me off. I didn't make you cum." So I always insist that they give me a hand job (at least) so they can't justify their "straightness" quite as easily; they made another guy cum. How straight is that? I love swallowing real fathers. Not "dads" but men who have actually gotten someone pregnant. Just knowing I'm taking live sperm gets me hot. I used to have a FB who was divorced. I'd go to his place and there were pics of the family all over. Just knowing that he was giving me the same sperm that made the kids in the those pictures got me incredibly turned on. I do hesitate to tell guys that fetish because they usually think I'm creeping on their kids (I'm not!) Doing a father and son is another, yet unrealized, fantasy but the son would need to be legal.
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A HS friend and his husband moved there. They were both in a position where they could work remotely and PV was a lot cheaper than where they moved from. I visited once (for a day while on a cruise) and had a fun time. I didn't have an opportunity for sex given the time constraints but it would have been pretty available had I stayed overnight. Again, nice place to visit but 24/7/365? Not so sure... I just had a conversation about retiring abroad. The primary reasons one might want to would be 1) Better affordability and 2) Political climate. I'd personally be hesitant to move to a non-English speaking country and would want to live in a city or suburban area. Even in PV, where English seemed to be widely spoken, some Spanish would seem to be useful. Admittedly, I haven't done much research aside from 5 minute Google searches when bored. It looked like Canada would be tough to get a visa for a retiree, even a younger one (I'd expect to be early 60s if/when I do this.) Ditto for UK, especially post-Brexit. Maybe Ireland? Sadly, my GREAT grandparents emigrated to the US. Were it my grandparents, I'd qualify for citizenship. In any case, I'm not sure any of those options would be much cheaper than the US and political considerations haven't gotten to the point where I feel I'd NEED to get out...yet.
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Men in gay porn versus straight porn. Who does it better?
phillygwm replied to Eagerindayton's topic in General Discussion
I can enjoy both straight and gay porn but I hate the phoniness, especially with the women. I might get into it more if they weren't artificially enhanced. My problem with both straight and gay porn is that relatively few of the guys finish inside. I get it, people want to see proof that the guy came. So push some out! Or the guy could squeeze the last drop out once he pulls out. I saw some gonzo porn where the women gaped themselves and you could see the load pooled by the cervix, which was pretty hot. Not sure the male anatomy lends itself to that, short of a colonoscopy. 😂 I did recently see a vid of a guy who cystoscoped himself into the prostate. It looked like a giant Rorschach test to me; just a giant blob but conceptually it was a hot idea.- 26 replies
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Is the experience of taking a monster cock worth the pain?
phillygwm replied to luvblack77's topic in General Discussion
No. But then I'm a top, so what would you expect me to say? 🙂 Even orally, you can gag me with a big one but I think we'll both enjoy it more if you're small enough for me to take you balls deep. I do like guys who like to be forced when I'm the one receiving head; gagging them by pushing them down on me is hot. I can't imagine how that's enjoyable for the bottom but some guys tell me they love it so I'm happy to oblige! -
I've had this (hypothetical) conversation with friends: Would you rather be with a trans man (i.e. with a vagina) or woman (with a penis)? I'll take the man for a couple reasons: 1) I tend to like twink types and many trans men fit that bill; 2) men tend to "pass" better than women. Unless a trans woman transitioned early (pre-puberty) there's often at least one "tell". That said, I've never done it but would, depending on the person I'm with.
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How much of your sexual bucket list have you accomplished?
phillygwm replied to NWUSHorny's topic in General Discussion
I'd like to try fisting a guy again. Did it once, got about 2/3 to my elbow which was kind of hot because it was a 5'5 Mexican twink and I was fist bumping myself on his stomach 🤣 It was a hotter fantasy than reality because my arm fell asleep but I'd try it again, maybe not quite as deep. Among the things I haven't tried, I want to use someone who is unconscious. I've been with drunk guys, maybe high, maybe some who wouldn't have put out for me if they were clearheaded but they were sufficiently aware they were getting fucked. I want someone where there's zero feedback: No indications of pleasure, or discomfort, or whatever. Just a human fleshlight. They'll wake up with my load in them (or dripping out) but would have no idea who put it there. Bonus points if many guys have unloaded in him before me. -
I was never into my father. I always fantasized about playing with my brother. Only problem is I don't have a brother.
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It's going to depend on a lot of things. One is age: My refractory period was a lot shorter 40 years ago! Another is the person. If I'm really into/excited by him, I'll tend to bounce back quicker. A third is the atmosphere: If it's new and exciting (my first orgy!) I'll probably be ready sooner versus a routine round 2 with my partner of x years, who will be there tomorrow and the next day.
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I'd proceed with extreme caution. Maybe a half joking comment (i.e. "if only you were gay I'd be into you.") Or maybe brush against him...inadvertently, of course 🙂 But this can go wrong in a lot of ways and it isn't like some straight guy in a bar whom you'll never see again. Most people have an ick factor with regard to incest so even in the off chance he might let somebody blow him, it may not be you. Playing this the wrong way could make for an awkward situation for the next x years....and depending on his level of freak out, others might become aware. Might be a better fantasy than reality.
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Speaking as someone in his late 50s, I wouldn't call it ageism any more than it's sexism if you're not attracted to women, or racism if you prefer someone of a certain color. I know many on here take on all cummers but some people are just attracted to whom they're attracted. I'm typically into younger guys and picky at that. It's a bit ironic because most of my platonic friends are quite a bit older. Yeah, it's difficult but that's my "fault". If I could be attracted to everyone I'd get laid a lot more! So I can hardly take offense to someone who rejects me as too old, or not buff enough, or whatever. That said, there's no need to be rude about it. Politely indicate your disinterest and move on. Similarly, when you're the one rejected (which predictably happens to me much more often than not) don't get aggressive or creepy, move on.
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Again, I was a precocious kid and spent a lot of my youth in the library. I got tired of children's books and found the section on human reproduction (Dewey Decimal 612.6...I still remember!) I figured maybe there would be some nice pictures 🙂 Anyway, I quickly went from not knowing ANYTHING (what's intercourse?) to knowing quite a bit. I knew what semen was before I was able to produce any.
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I grew up pre-VCRs so really didn't have access to gay porn. Very rarely, I saw a cock in a magazine. There was a porno drive-in theater near where I lived so when I was old enough to drive I'd go there, but that was straight porn. The first time I saw a guy cum, I was 10 and he was standing next to me. I was a nerdy kid so learned about sex in library books. I'd read descriptions of semen but when my friend shot it was a lot different than what I'd visualized. I'd imagined it would have the consistency of toothpaste (that IS a thick white substance, after all!) I was probably in my late teens when I first saw gay mags and into my 20s when I saw videos (in a movie theater.)
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The other thing is express or implied coersion. I was 10 my first time...with another 10 year old. We were precocious kids! I was mature enough to handle it on that level. If it were a significantly older relative, teacher, authority figure, etc. I might not have said no because I was taught to respect/obey your elders. But that wouldn't be the same as saying I wanted it. Again, I don't think there's a red line to be drawn on age because situations -- and maturity levels -- differ. Personally, even if I were attracted to someone underage and even if it were legal, I don't think I would do it because I'd never want to f up someone for life. Again, some people -- including on here -- handled it OK. But others don't and I couldn't live with messing someone up on my conscience.
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I've never been into older guys, even now that I'm in my late 50s. Thankfully, there are a lot of younger guys who ARE into older. I'm not going to be offended that I'm not someone's "type" for whatever reason: I'm older, white, not muscular, etc. Thankfully, there are people who check my boxes that are into all those things so I manage to get laid.
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Getting me off without using one's hands is a sign of a talented cocksucker.
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Personally, I'd never pull out. I might choose to blow down your throat if you're especially talented or, of course, your ass is always a good option. But I'd never waste it.
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A question for the cumdumps: Have you ever been recognized outside of the bathhouse/club? That is, somewhere that isn't an inherently sexual environment. What happened? The only dump I knew personally told me he never saw anyone because he'd keep his door open and be laying face down, a pillow elevating his ass a bit, and legs open. He wouldn't be able to see anyone if he wanted to and it was unlikely one of his breeders would identify him from the back of his head 🙂 But I assume some of you prefer seeing the guy fucking you. What then?
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I'd agree. I don't like either extreme. As I've gotten older, I just try to stay inside when it's super hot or cold. As for the snow, I live in a HOA where they shovel the common areas so I'm responsible for maybe 15 feet from my door to the sidewalk. I tend to be an inertia kind of guy so it won't surprise me if I stay here, or at least in the general area, through retirement. But it's fun to think about other possibilities. I've only spent a few 2 week vacations in Thailand (a friend had a long distance BF.) I recall it being hotter than hell. It was a great value, especially at the time when the Baht was very weak. Language can be an issue there. People spoke enough broken English for me to get by but that was in the touristy areas. Also the government doesn't seem to be especially stable. I was never there for the demonstrations/coups, but there seem to be a fair amount. Similar to the US, there's a split between city and rural areas.
