When i committed to my partner , it was to love and care, which I still do. I don’t think I should give up what I like and enjoy, as long as I am not hurting him in the process. This is easier for me as we don’t have sex together anymore after the initial years, but care and live together.
My view as we are outside the norm of the majority population, we need to form our own norm and not be confused by the norm of the straight majority, and ignoring the incorrect irrelevant religious teachings.
I don't feel there are rules to say if I live with my partners, then I don’t have sex with anyone else. You 2 need to decide what works for you. If you stay in the closet too long, there is risk of that pressure building up n explode. Give that whore inside you a chance, it is part of you, don’t sacrifice yourself.