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I don't know if they've improved since as I've had no urge to try, but I remember referring to the the female condom as "the crisp packet" - I think crisps are called chips elsewhere...
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Slapped and punched while getting fucked
bearbandit replied to thematrix46's topic in General Discussion
I've been known to cum just through having my balls slapped about a bit, leading my doctor to correct himself "Have you had any pain in your balls... I mean any unexpected pain?" -
porn star jailed for exposing partners to STD's
bearbandit replied to wood's topic in General Discussion
It's certainly a possibility, given last year's prosecution for transmission of herpes (he got released, BTW), BUT you should bear in mind two things: that the Daily Fail (as we prefer to call it) is aimed at little old ladies to "tut-tut" over their morning cup of tea and that the UK is in uproar about whether two people should have the right to get married, because it'll end in lesbian queens, male members of the House of Lords marrying their sons to avoid inheritance tax, members of the public at large marrying their pets and if Jesus Christ ever did come back he'd be forced under some unwritten Law of Equality to marry a man. Think Fox News dumbed down - but hollywoodslut's original point still holds. -
I can still see me clamping my legs around my partner or his wide-eyed "you made me feel like this". Both of us UK Celts, looking enough like each other that outsiders thought us twins. "short'n'thick does the trick"
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So I was watching TV this evening....
bearbandit replied to NastyRigPig's topic in General Discussion
Yeah, I'd be rolling on the floor at that. It's the way it's said with such innocence! -
My late partner took interferon and then interleukin 2 (a related drug) as immune modulators in the hope of building up his immune system to cope with HIV related MAI (mycobacterium avium intracellurare). Firstly, I've never known anyone get through more than two years with MAI. Secondly, I've never seen a drug make anyone as ill as interferon or interleukin 2and I've been around HIV since the year dot). Ultimately I have to believe that interleukin 2 was the cause of John's death by way of multiple organ failure. His treatment regime was two sub-cutaneous injections per day for five days then a two week lay off. Thankfully, the nurses taught me how to inject. Each injection was "do you you want this: you can stop any time you want." The two drugs were used to counter HIV disease and hopefully boost his immune system. I don't know about their use in managing hep C other than that it's a pretty rough ride. It's a sign of the times that the UK's main HIV service provider has taken pretty much all sexually transmitted infections under its wing. Hep C is transmissable through rough sex: check out pretty much any UK based site (start at www.tht.org.uk) . I was talking to my local THT community services worker (alright he was holding my hand through an unexpected clinic visit) and he reckoned that there were about 5 times as any people with hep C as there were with HIV in the UK. The virus is far stronger and much more infectious than HIV. Even on salvage therapy, neither I nor my doctor are concerned about superinfection with HIV (it happened about once a year globally). We're both concerned about the possibility of my getting hep C... The screaming irony is that two different drug companies have come up with drugs that together provide a 100% cure for hep C, and neither will release their drug because they reckon the other will make money off it... <disgusted shrug>
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It's an ass, an arse, an arsehole; something I like having guys shove their dicks or tongues into (or vice versa). Fastest route to the front door is to call my hole a cunt or a pussy. And for the dog guys (no, K9 doesn't interest me) rottweilers every time...
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Any tips on training a bottom to stay soft during sex?
bearbandit replied to sublondon's topic in General Discussion
Thank you, Sir! I can think of no higher praise from a man than to have the cum literally fucked out of me. To do that to another man is such a rush of power and trust. -
Any tips on training a bottom to stay soft during sex?
bearbandit replied to sublondon's topic in General Discussion
Isn't it kinda disrespectful wanting to stay soft while getting fucked? The message you're sending is a big yawn and hurry up and get it over with. Compare that to getting a raging hardon while getting fucked. Shit this man is pushing so many buttons in your head - he cums, you clean him off and he leaves. Which is the more humiliating? Which tells the Top more about you appreciated his attention? -
Can you do poppers with Cialis or Levitra?
bearbandit replied to rawTOP's topic in HIV/AIDS & Sexual Health Issues
I checked with a friend who's a pharmacist... His advice was to wait till the viagra was hitting (timings can be very different if the V is prescribed because of diabetes) and things are moving to a sexual level. Then try the poppers in much smaller sniffs than normal and work up from there. Poppers (whether amyl or butyl) are intended to be a fast acting drug. As soon as you feel any of the classic poppers side effects (for me it's the feeling that my head is too small for my brain; come on, we've all been there) it's time to put them to one side for a while. Freebie: if you're taking protease inhibitors, they reckon you shouldn't be taking viagra as well. The work around is in timing: most PI's are once a day drugs, so you take them as soon as you get up and the viagra when necessary, but preferably as far apart from the PI's as possible and follow the same protocol as viagra and poppers. Pay attention to what your body is telling you because you're the expert. They also reckon that you shouldn't take viagra or poppers with medication designed to reduce blood pressure. Of course, if you're really that concerned about your health you shouldn't be drinking, smoking or barebacking either... The human body is a damn sight tougher than we give it credit for. -
It's not that funny: I didn't start till 1976! ;-)
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If you mean "raised a hand in anger" then I'm with you all the way. But if it's part of a mutually agreed scene, I see no problem: when I top I prefer torture partly because it leaves fewer marks and takes less out of me, but if I'm going bottom and feeling good, then what's a bruise or three? As long as it's mutually agreed are the important words
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Had a diary in the seventies - ran out of paper before the eighties...
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What's the piggiest/sluttiest thing you've ever done?
bearbandit replied to rcc226's topic in General Discussion
I have this long held belief that you should try every at least twice - sometimes, the first time you squick and can't carry on with it. It was in that spirit (in a week when my flatmate was away) that I ran bath ready in case, spread a thick sheet on the floor, crapped into my hand and started smearing, ending up with a wank. Didn't really like it so tried again a few days later and still wasn't keen, so I can stand here and honestly say that I know I don't like playing with shit. Not even photos... -
I'm afraid that's a point at which I squick: of necessity guys I was fucking with met the dogs, gave them their biscuits to show they were allowed in the house, and then the dogs were shut out of the room we were using. If I find a man with a nine inch tongue who can breathe through his ears, he ain't gonna be a dog!
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I've got an ex whose piss slit stretches enough that I can get my little finger in it up to the first knuckle it encounters. I used to have a captive ball PA (4mm UK gauge) but ended up taking it out because the calcium supplement therapy I'm on resulted in having to remove it to clean off the limescale every couple of weeks. Anyway, there was nothing like fucking my piss slit with the captive ball while having a wank.
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If it's gross or embarrassing a dog will do it. I should know, having raised four rottweilers...
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When I worked at Gay Switchboard in the seventies, when pretty much the worst you could catch was herpes (hepatitis was a shock), we used to recommend that if you were at all sexually active you should have a full STI screening every three months. "But I'm monogamous" "You might be, but is he?"...
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That's the key paragraph, especially the last sentence. My friend and I are at almost opposite ends of a bell curve and you can't know where you are on that bell curve till you're actually there.
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Tops and bottoms: Ever had rough sex border on rape?
bearbandit replied to bttmsubslut's topic in General Discussion
I was raped when I was 19 - the way UK law stood then had I gone to the police I would also have found myself in the dock for gross indecency as the law didn't recognise the concept of one man raping another. Verging on twenty years after the original incident it was me ex who pointed out that whether I was top or bottom in a scene, I usually turned it into a rape fantasy. Something, I guess that's easier to do to as a bottom: he'd started off using yes/no stopwords when topping me until he noted that my "no" was his "yes". We switched to traffic light colours to end the confusion. Similarly if I'm topping someone I use traffic light colours: his "no" simply means "yes, Sir, please, Sir, more, Sir". The rape echoes down the years as every now and then I'll pause and ask the boy if he's ok. I don't want to do this, for fear of bring him back to earth: it's prompted by past experience. In short, it's made me almost reckless in what I'll take as bottom, and as for my attitude as top, I go more for the psychological, setting up things so the bottom can't help but hurt himself. -
Let's also remember that even with treatment HIV/aids can be a debilatating and deadly disease. I've been incredibly lucky in that I've been very miserable and uncomfortable with with HIV-related illnesses but have yet to get close to my own death. However, I've got one of the longest side-effect histories in the country (UK) and nearly died last year because of the medication: compulsory hospitalisation was only a word away - all I needed to do was refuse to go voluntarily and the police were there to take me. I personally know someone who reckons he caught HIV at Folsom St Fair and test positive around the time I did: he's in full time work (when he can get it - have you looked at our economy?), has a CD around the 700 mark and an undetectable viral load. Yer classic non-progressor... I'll freely admit that I, and my friend (definitely not a FB!), are unusual, perhaps the exceptions that prove the rule. But there are enough like us to disprove the idea that you must go on drugs. You can't generalise within HIV disease...
