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a couple of hours ago. i make all sorts of involuntary sounds when getting pounded and bred and it was warm out today, so i left the window open and the ceiling fan on. i wonder if anyone could hear? Creamy, i was just outside washing my car and i started to drip... He leaves my hole kinda gaped and it takes a while to close back up. (_0_)

i too "struggle to see the morality" ... of our current 'system,' or social structure? i think morality is individual, and there are moral and immoral people on both sides of the divide of capitalism and socialism. For instance, i wonder and day dream about a healthcare/pharmaceutical system where say research science is performed built on more of a socialist foundation. Being simplistic, i imagine an enhanced NIH vs "big pharma." i did some investigation a few years back and learned the average cost of developing a new drug in the US is about 5 billion dollars. The shocker for me was that half of that cost was profit. So, i imagine a world where we bypass the corporate structure profit imperative. We could give all the scientists a raise, giving greater incentive to be a scientist in the US, and still have much cheaper drugs. i don't think "profit" is an evil word or concept, but i think we should question how profit is made and distributed. Again, being simplistic. One scientist can use their education in medical research to improve health and the human condition, that same scientist with the same education can go to work for the faux food industry and do research on how to make faux food more addictive (to generate more profit). How does that scientist decide which job to take? Morality and profit both factor in on an individual level. i think things like healthcare and education should not be for (corporate) profit institutions, that such a system becomes self defeating. i think it could be argued that corporations can make sense in some areas of society, but not in all or every? There is corporate greed and the corruption that often accompanies that, but corporate greed is just exponential individual greed. So.... "morality" is an issue no matter how we slice it. America is no where near social welfare as the goal or motivator as a cultural norm. The highest paid 'teachers' in many large universities are sports coaches, because football games played in massive stadiums are a huge revenue source for colleges, while the math club languishes in the basement.

I found this very interesting, pieces to the puzzle of our cultural roots and conditioning.

"As the Trump administration cut billions of dollars in federal funding to scientific research, thousands of scientists in the U.S. lost their jobs or grants — and governments and universities around the world spotted an opportunity. The “Canada Leads” program, launched in April, hopes to foster the next generation of innovators by bringing early-career biomedical researchers north of the border. Aix-Marseille University in France started the “Safe Place for Science” program in March — pledging to “welcome” U.S.-based scientists who “may feel threatened or hindered in their research.” Australia’s “Global Talent Attraction Program,” announced in April, promises competitive salaries and relocation packages. “In response to what is happening in the U.S.,” said Anna-Maria Arabia, head of the Australian Academy of Sciences, “we see an unparalleled opportunity to attract some of the smartest minds here.” Since World War II, the U.S. has invested huge amounts of money in scientific research conducted at independent universities and federal agencies. That funding helped the U.S. to become the world’s leading scientific power — and has led to the invention of cell phones and the internet as well as new ways to treat cancer, heart disease and strokes, noted Holden Thorp, editor-in-chief of the journal Science." [think before following links] https://www.yahoo.com/news/us-world-class-scientific-talent-044354089.html?.tsrc=daily_mail&segment_id=DY_VTO_CORE&ncid=crm_19908-1475736-20250525-0--A&bt_user_id=LLKLPqezFjBbQFr7vGpdFavkz%2Ff5iAIN8h9mPIqKG200Q7kpMEwLuiwDb0q8aUN3&bt_ts=1748172747769

my point is, i think it's too general to posit: "democrats can't tell the difference between a demented and undemented leader," even speaking tongue in cheek. That there are many who voted either democrat or republican who did not want either Biden or Trump (or Harris). i watched the Democratic primary debates and none of those in the debates came close to having a chance to actually be chosen by the American people. The republican, democrat parties, and wealthy supporters choose candidates, a comparatively small group of people. Joe public then gets a token choice between who the parties and wealthy contributors select. i wonder how many of us on either side of these debates have reasonable trust in our government. This is an interesting overview of countries around the world and how much trust their citizens have in their various governments. Not putting this out there as necessarily accurate, just interesting to ponder. [think before following links] https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/trust-in-government-by-country

The hospital where i work opened a dedicated Covid unit the first week of February 2020, i have >1600 hours caring for Covid+ patients, i had the hospitals first Covid patient. It was a new virus that rapidly mutated, and much of our understanding based on evidence is retrospective, because there simply was not any long term study evidence on a new virus to be had. I was the second person to get the vaccine at our hospital in December 2020. I did not make the decision easily, but after a year of watching patients die, with still little understanding or treatment available, i opted for the vaccine. Of course, there was only short term evidence available. Really, it was pretty amazing that a vaccine was available so early on. i knew first hand the risk of the variant we were dealing with at the time, and i knew of the potential risks of the vaccine. Neither was an easy choice, but i opted for the vaccine, and have had several boosters since. The current variants are more akin to the flu than the original Covid variants, they are less virulent, so the decision to get vaccinated now against Covid, to me, is similar to deciding on a flu vaccine. When the first vaccine came out, we still did not know how much immunity having had the disease would confer, so a decision to opt out of the vaccine when it came out would have been speculative. Given the efficacy of the vaccine, and our current knowledge of the virus, the virus does not confer immunity after being infected. The vaccine prevents or lessens severity of infection. When the first couple iterations of the vaccine came out, the delta variant of the covid virus was still particularly deadly, usually because it evoked a cytokine response that would overwhelm and essentially drown it's victims in cement ("cytokine storm"). I have not seen this severe of a response in the more recent infections, most of the people hospitalized (far fewer) have co-morbidities that put them more at risk.

i don't think you are being mean, but perhaps overly general and simplistic. i question whether the majority of people in this country would have selected either Biden or Trump as candidates. i feel like both were forced on me as 'choices,' and i wonder how many other people feel the same way? There are tests that are done to diagnose dementia, it's not an armchair diagnosis any of us can make. i have a lot of experience with dementia in patients as a critical care nurse, and there are lots of cross over symptoms. For instance, many of the same symptoms that present with stress also present with dementia. my individual opinion is that neither Trump or Biden was fit to run or serve as president of the US. That said, i do believe that Biden listened to and followed his advisors more than Trump does. I.e., with Biden, i felt a wee bit more confident that others of more sound mind were helping make decisions. I don't have that same feel or confidence with Trump. One of the things that bothers me about Trump is how he wants to be in control of everything. To me, Biden had partners in the governing process where Trump has minions doing his bidding.

RFK, Jr's MAHA report is a good example to me of why and how we as a country should not veer into extremist, polarized stances and how both sides have the potential of bringing something beneficial to our country, but this is the first i have seen any administration go after the big, highly processed food industry, and i'm paying close attention. Really want to see once the big food industry strikes back whether this administration will continue? This is an area of study (and certification) for me as a health care provider. Easily 85% of the patients i care for in hospital on a critical care unit are there with diet related diseases. There is a ton of, ever mounting, study evidence connecting highly processed foods to the top major/killer diseases in the US. We are in a very similar place with highly processed 'food' industry today as we were with the tobacco industry during the 60's and 70's, with the major difference that more people eat than smoke. "For decades, tobacco companies hooked people on cigarettes by making their products more addictive. Now, a new study suggests that tobacco companies may have used a similar strategy to hook people on processed foods. In the 1980s, tobacco giants Philip Morris and R.J. Reynolds acquired the major food companies Kraft, General Foods and Nabisco, allowing tobacco firms to dominate America’s food supply and reap billions in sales from popular brands such as Oreo cookies, Kraft Macaroni & Cheese and Lunchables. (O'Connor, 9/19)" [think before following links] https://kffhealthnews.org/morning-breakout/your-favorite-junk-food-big-tobacco-may-have-worked-to-get-you-hooked/#:~:text=In the 1980s%2C tobacco giants Philip Morris and,Oreo cookies%2C Kraft Macaroni %26 Cheese and Lunchables.

I've looked at a few places. Spain, Malta, Mexico all have very gay friendly cities and laws protecting LGBT people. i qualify "cities," because i think all countries have places cities where gay culture is more openly accepted. There are plenty of cities/states i'd avoid in the US and not feel safe or comfortable as a gay guy, and i think that is true about most countries, so i'd look at both the countries laws as well as the general cultural attitudes towards LGBT people. i love Mexico, especially now with Claudia Sheinbaum as president. Mexico City has a large gay population and i think ranks at the top of the list as a gay Mecca. Puerto Vallarta is also a warm and wonderful environment for LGBT people, i feel more openly accepted there than even Palm Springs. I've looked at Malta as well. Cost of living is higher, but things like healthcare are also rated higher than many other locations i've checked. Having a good source of income is important in many of these places because wages tend to be lower.

"Some countries limit entry for people with HIV. However, the number of countries restricting travel by people with HIV has reduced in recent years. Short-term trips usually have fewer restrictions and checks may be less consistently carried out. The rules tend to be more strictly enforced for longer-term stays, such as those requiring a work visa." Here's an overview of the above quoted summary of countries policies on HIV+ covering travel and residency. [think before following links] https://www.aidsmap.com/about-hiv/travel-restrictions-people-hiv

Interesting (and provocative). Still, i'm not sure how i feel about this. To me, this is sort of like masturbation with a fuck machine vs sex with another person. Really interesting topic.

Right? Religions evolve and shift about in the context of their various environments. Islam started seven centuries after Christianity. Christianity morphed from Judaism, but started out as a Jewish religion. Judaism was around about 1500-2000 years prior to Christianity. Infidel, by Ayaan Hirsi Ali, is ( i think) a profound autobiography of a woman raised in Islam, who as the title implies, made her way out of her cultural conditioning. Reading her story, i was struck by the similarities of mindset between her fundamentalist Islamic religious cultural upbringing and my fundamentalist Christian religious cultural upbringing. Judaism, Christianity and Islam all have fundamentalist sects, and they all have more liberal denominations and members. A quick google search will produce an example of gay Islamic Imam(s?). I think it's often the absolutist approach causes the unbridgeable divides between people. The original post used the word "absolute" when describing Biden's effect on "gay ppl." Describes Biden as a "fucking vegetable," then asks for a "sound counterargument."

This was unintentionally lined out, but was not able to edit it out, so to avoid confusion, think of it as having no lines through it lol.

Evidently, all who espouse Christianity are not fundamentalist and anti gay "A growing number of Islamic scholars, mainly in the West, have started re-examining Islamic teachings on same-sex relationships and whether a blanket condemnation of LGBTQ+ people is a misinterpretation. There are also growing opportunities for alternative and meaningful worship and community. Muslims for Progressive Values (MPV) has founded Unity Mosques in Atlanta, GA; Columbus, OH; and Los Angeles, CA. The Muslim Alliance for Sexual and Gender Diversity hosts a retreat for LGBTQ+ Muslims in Pennsylvania each year. MECCA Institute was recently established as an online school for the study of an inclusive theology of Islam for those seeking more expansive and inclusive interpretations of Islamic texts." [think before following links] [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.hrc.org/resources/stances-of-faiths-on-lgbt-issues-islam i think blanket, black or white "argument" ("absolute, freaking *disaster*") fail as "sound" because of the exceptions that can usually be found on both sides of an argument. i think in an ideal debate, both sides are open to seeing the other point of view. i think we are often largely polarized to the degree that we lose the benefits of opposing view points. i'm not a Biden fan. i'm less of a Trump fan. But neither Biden or Trump was/is in complete control, though Trump seems to be pushing hard on that with executive orders. i think it would be easier to demonstrate that the Biden administration was more LGBQT friendly than the Trump administration currently is. Whether or not he is pandering, i don't know, but Trump has signed some distinctively anti LGBQT executive orders. i didn't see any from Biden's hand? Tourists flying in to Florida do not deal with Trump directly, but all those in charge set a tone. i think it would be easier to argue that it's easier for a government representative to be anti foreigner in the Trump era than it would have been in the Biden era. Look hard enough, and one can find a picture of a young guy tripping on stairs. Can one "sound[ly] argue" that's because of their 'young guy ways?' Or if a young man makes an absolutist argument using stereotypes based on age, it's because of pitiful young man ways?

You can try internalizing you penis using your fingers and that will give you some idea if it's possible for you. i've found that a micro cage that internalized your penis and holds in place is more comfortable than actually caging your penis externally, but would guess that varies from person so person. i question whether this pic is a real representation, but imagine results vary? This link has instructions and a vid of someone putting one on, so it looks real. It looks like it works by internalizing the penis and testicles, then using the scrotum skin to hold everything inside, so i'm guessing the more scrotal skin one has, the more effective it would be. i've also seen sites that use the clip with a strap. idk, never tried one, but now i'm curious. [think before following links] https://fufuclip.net/5-steps-to-teach-you-how-to-wear-the-fufu-clip/

Bout 10 minutes ago. my regular FB, sweet guy. He's normally pretty hairy, and He'd shaved His ass, which made it better to eat and i love the way a smooth ass looks. Love the way He looks either way though, just the way He is, sweet, easy going, just really good sex chemistry. i fucked him, and have been doing that routinely. Had been taking a half viagra, but don't really need it. i ran out but was able to fuck him for quite awhile anyway... and gaped him. He does have a sweet ass, even if i'm not into fucking, he loves it so much and makes so many sounds... it's not a problem, i love his pleasure. And He always ends with nutting in me. i find i'm much more sensitive after fucking him 20 minutes before he fucks me, like i'm constantly at the edge of orgasm. Hadn't fucked since last Sunday, had to work Monday and Tuesday, he called yesterday, but i was in the middle of moving 6 yards of sand from my driveway to my back yard. He called and teased me saying he was going to use toilet paper, i begged him to save it till today and not waste it, and he told me it was too late that he was jacking while talking to me on the phone. lol ❤️

i've always identified as a "total bottom" when it comes to sex with guys. i was married to a woman for much of my life and had to play the top role in that relationship, and that pretty much solidified my bottom identity for me. The last 5 years i've had a FB who started out Total Top, but is turning out to be more versatile this last year or so. Started with him sucking me, then morphed to me eating his ass, and more and more recently, him wanting to get fucked by me. He's a young Latino muscle guy, say's He's been lifting since He was 12, and it shows. He identifies as Bi, but i don't think he has had a girlfriend for quite some time now, maybe 2 years? He breeds me 3-4 times a week, and i'm pretty sure i'm the only guy He has sex with. Which surprises me. He's only 27 and i'd think He'd want to explore more? I've even encouraged him to do so when he started wanting me to fuck him. But he just sort of glazes over when i say those things, even though he has bragged in the past about the women he fucks, for some reason, he's not that way with guys? So, i like this guy, even love him in a sense. We have little in common except our mutual sexual desire for each other, which has never wavered for either of us... another surprise. i've kind of broken a code i have by fucking him, but since it's just FB relationship, somehow it's 'okay' with me to do something i'm not particularly interested in simply because it brings him pleasure. Relationally, i don't think that is sustainable, but somehow it works so far. I should add, i just fuck him, i don't come in him, and our sex always ends with Him breeding me, i probably have 1000 of His orgasm's in me. Here's the thing though, getting it up for him. my equipment works fine. i get hard as a rock when a Top shows desire to penetrate and breed me. Show interest in my penis? Nada. Totally flaccid. But His pleasure turns me on, so when i'm giving Him oral and He is so expressive, i get hard. The few times i have penetrated and fucked him, i managed to psych myself into it enough to penetrate and fuck a bit, but my erection didn't last. Several years back, i bought some azithromycin from India and they sent me a free sample of sildenafil (Viagra) along with it. i've had it for probable 8 years and never did anything with it, but popped a half pill (50mg) prior to Him coming over and got the magical erection that sustained. i'm curious what other guys experience is like? Not sure if i'm just getting a placebo effect since my psychology hasn't really changed. It seems the only way i can give him what he wants though, and i've done it 4 times now, and can go as long as He wants (usually about 20-30 minutes). It feels sort of mechanical to me, but the sounds and comments he makes... well, it sort of appeals to the sub side of my personality to give him pleasure.

About an hour ago, my regular FB. It had been a week and i had seen him two hours before He called. i was leaving the grocery story and i walked right past Him, called Him by name and said "hi," and He didn't respond. When i asked when He called, He was surprised. i'm guessing He just didn't recognize me with my clothes on and face towards Him? Turns out, He was helping His brother move this week and got in an accident with an 18 wheeler. Damn, glad He's okay, but His truck is a mess. Still, fucked me with a weeks worth of lust and i'm clenching holding His seed in as i write this. All is well with the world.

just left.. again lol. The prior post is from yesterday. He's versatile, loves and is very vocal when i give Him oral, and 3/4 of oral ends up being his ass over the last year. Fingered and sucked him and he tells me how much he loves it, so i fucked him for about 20 minutes. When i was married (to a woman) i trained myself not to cum till my partner does, plus, i really am bottom so fucking is something i'm doing because he likes it so much. Luckily, he cannot nut unless He's fucking, so even when i do manage to psych my cock into fucking, we end with Him breeding me. Also, fucking him really brings out the beast in Him, damn, He pummeled me, almost came a couple of times He was hitting the P-spot so hard. He's built like a brick house, so when He fucks hard, He's a force to recon with. my body finally went limp, no tension left anywhere in me and i'm full of His seed now.

Just left... my regular FB. just got back from Mexico, a gay resort. Highly recommend Casa Cupula in Puerto Vallarta. They had a party last Saturday, over 200 naked guys packed into a tiny pool area, plus a play area. And the food in the Zona Romantica is worth the trip all by itself. Street food and restaurants. Still, i go through withdrawal if i don't get my regular FB's cock and nut in me at least 3x a week lol. One of the hottest parts (and there's a lot of those parts) of sex with Him is when He is ready to fuck, He gets this high look in His eyes and says: "Let Me fuck you." i turn over prone and He spreads my ass and i always feel His warm spit drop onto my hole. idk why, but that turns me on so much, doesn't make a sound, i just feel it on my hole before He presses His cock into my hole, which He does with a lot of muscle behind it. Honestly, He's definitely opened my hole over 5 years and it's pretty easy to get into. i think He may have been saving it up, i'm very creamy.

For better or worse, i suffer from extreme optimism and am forever giving people the benefit of the doubt. i want to believe people are basically good and most only inadvertently evil. Cognitively, i know better... especially when i comes to scammers, eh? They're making a focused effort to exploit a persons intimate needs/desires. Really, i feel i've gotten pretty good a spotting scammers too. They all seem to work off the same script, which if many are using AI is pretty accurate, eh? Anymore, i'm naturally suspicious of anyone i meet online. Though discussion forums like BZ are different because you do get to know regular contributors. i wish there were gay meeting sites that had discussion forums like BZ (not talking the cursed chat rooms that are often more cacophony than intelligent, in depth exchange between people.

Hey thanks, It had an AI vibe to me, how did you know it was Chat GPT?

You're sweet, thanks. Honestly, at this point, i'm beyond frustrated or desperate and more bemused by it all. Part of my intent in posting this was to inform. BZ is one of the only online gay sites i know of that has serious communication between substantive, real people. i do know there are guys who want a one on one romantic tangle and some may be more vulnerable than others, so this is in part an effort to help my community to be aware an informed. and ironically, i wrote this from a gay resort in Puerto Vallarta lol. OMG, there were about 250-300 gorgeous guys all packed into a tiny pool side on Saturday.

i think you make some good points. i've found many scammers want to move to a different platform, usually initially, than the site where you meet. Usually email or WhatsApp. Unfortunately, i live in a smaller town where opportunities to meet other gay guys are minimal. Online has the real potential for shrinking the world and making the search pool huge. i question abandoning the pool, though there needs to be a way of dealing with the pollution in the pool, eh? i think your idea of video call is a decent start. i have been loathe to use that method, but honestly think you are right about a simple solution to help weed out scammers. It's not 100%, but it could go a long way in finding guys who are real, and who look like their online pics lol.

@nanana i think ^^^THiS^^^ is so well assessed and summarized. i work at a teaching hospital and have found that helps moderate the culture. It's estimated that it takes about 20 years for new research to become part of medical practice. i believe having a continuous influx of newly educated doctors into a hospital results in some of that new info reaching doctors who have been out of school and may not be up on all the journals ("all" being an impossible task). And that is just one example of the medical profession and practice. In mid life, i made shift from one profession to a wholly new and different profession. One thing that change has helped me see is how your question of trustworthiness is a universal one. i think the same question exists for all professions, from housekeeping to doctor, from DMV employee to president: what makes any professional trustworthy? While i do not feel any trust for Trump, i didn't have much of what i'd call "trust" for our former leadership, so it's impossible for me to make a holistic judgement. i think most Americans would agree we need change. i have been disappointed by the status quo and corruption. Going after corruption and waste resonates with me in a big way, but we have to be able to trust the people doing it. i think an answer to the question is what makes any professional trustworthy is numbers of eyes on. For instance, one of the reasons i like science based professions is because there is (ideally) rigorous method and approach applied at the front end, scrutiny of conclusion at the back end, and ongoing research. In its ideal state, the scientific method is about many professionals scrutinizing and having the opportunity to weigh in to ultimate decision and subsequent policy. To me, that seems to be the intent of the American government structure. A system of checks and balances where no one person, or even branch of government, gets to make policy independent of scrutiny or debate. Back to the example of the medical profession. What makes a medical professional trustworthy? In my opinion, it is that persons continuous intent to be participant and a part of a system where they purposefully submit to scrutiny, debate because they do not want to make decisions independently. I.e, they are consider themselves as part of a process, and do not consider their self the process. i don't think any person or system can be 100% trustworthy, but i see more trustworthiness in a system that employs all qualifying professionals as part of the decision making process than just one lone person have much, most or all of that power.