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From the article: "In the Nature Ecology and Evolution study, for example, the authors argue that scientists’ assumption that opposite-sex attraction is normal and ancestral “has not been rigorously examined.” To me, this alines with hntnhole's thoughts on cultural/religious conditioning. I.e., is much of evolutionary theory regarding sex based on presumptive bias? The overarching notion that "survival of the species" is about "normal" reproduction. From the article: “Indeed, indiscriminate mating can be more beneficial than it is costly.” "Mating" seems a euphemisim for fucking here? i'd wager no group engages in more "indiscriminate fucking" than gays? At least, it seems more culturally expected if not generally socially always accepted. To me, some of the bigger factors missing in evolutionary theory is the influence of intelligent design and intervention on evolution. E.g., straights wanna have sex without making babies, so we invent contraception. Gays wanna fuck raw and with abandon, so we invent antivirals. This is a vast topic.

i do everything in my power to keep a Mans seed inside of me once it's planted, i've figured out if there is fuck air inside of me trying to make me fart, i can lie on my back and finger the top part of my hole and the air will come out and the cum will stay in. lol, hey, i did say "everything in my power to keep a Mans seed in." i also have some sub in me that comes out in different ways. For instance i experience the power dynamic of being owned through what i perceive as "affectionate humiliation/degradation." i've been with Tops Who purposely pumped me full of air with Their Cock, and some Who have literally blown air inside of me using Their mouth. If it's obvious to me that They are turned on by Their control with me, even if it's awkward and feels sort of humiliating to fart, i get turned on by His obvious control and His obviously being turned on by His control. If He has pissed or cum in me and ends up making me fart, i feel the loss of His seed (to me, a Mans piss is another form of His seed), but it's sort of offset by His control and pleasure He gets from ownership/control. i like the way being owned feels when the Owner derives pleasure from it.

my FB just left. i've been battling the flu all week, been pretty wasted, but there's always a part of me that can rally and be horny. Had to put Him off all week, just too sick and i also didn't want to make Him sick. Today i demurred again and He responded: "I honestly don’t care that you’re sick. I’ll slide right now if you are up for that, but I am super down right now and have all the energy to come." How could i say no? Besides, i didn't wan to, i've been going through withdrawals without Him. Left me pregnant.

i too "have loved this site from the beginning." You seem pretty reasonable and smart to me, my guess is you'll figure out how to get as much as you can, and share what you can with a great community. Despite the high cost of membership, i feel it's a service well worth the cost. With all the well paid moderators, no one should ever have opportunity to whine because of a violated entitlement. Tongue removed from (my) cheek. No one likes to get reproved for rule violations (cept maybe a few subs). i'd venture to speculate that rawTOP and the moderators here even consider some of those rules petty and inappropriate. i don't generally believe that is rawTOP's or the moderators doing, rather it's their efforts to keep from having this forum shut down. That's a real threat, Remember CL personal ads? Travel to Virginia, home of Thomas Jefferson, and try to access BZ. Unless you have a VPN, you will not be allowed on BZ in VA, compliments of the commonwealth of VA (and they are not the only state in the US to do that). It's easy to be an armchair athlete and criticize the doers for doing it wrong. BZ is a privately owned site though, not a democratic republic. One can use their 'voice' and vote control freaks out of office who make rules that do force sites like BZ to toe a line you disagree with. Personally, i think BZ is doing a great job, and i am grateful for their efforts to keep this forum going. i've been here 12 years and, 2600 posts later, have never managed a violation. i'm not particularly vanilla, and i've never read the rules, so i've likely been lucky. If i do happen to, it seems to me the adult thing to do is to suck it up, apologize and try and correct the violation. To me, what we have on BZ is worth a few rules to keep BZ in existence.

In my hospital, i admit the patient after the doctor admits them. One of the questions i ask is if they have any beliefs they want us to honor or be aware of. i have an average of 150 classes of continuing medical education (CME) that i have to take every year to maintain my license. i also take more classes to maintain critical care certification. Classes that we all must take, include classes on awareness of bias against things like weight, body habitus, sexual identification/orientation. Of course, this does not change who a person might be, but the policy of acceptance is there. Funny story. i had a crush on a doctor when i first started working at this hospital. He was cute, shy. i came back on rotation one day, had not seen him in awhile, and he had transitioned and was now Julie. i marveled at their courage, but everyone was open and accepting to her. She is one of two transpeople l know of who work at my hospital. Also a nurse who recently retired and worked in hospice wore rainbows on his badge lanyard. The hospital also has several married gay couples and they can get insurance like any other married couple. We still have bigots and bias, but it is not openly tolerated. Medicine in the US is capitalist. There are laws, a hospital cannot reject anyone because they cannot pay, and we have had more than a few unhoused people long term because there was no place to place them. There are ways one can get the medicine that they need, but it's not always easy and there are hard choices, not always viable. Drugs in the US are ridiculously expensive, and the same drugs can be gotten in other countries cheaper. Insulin and other meds get skipped to keep money for other things, not unusual, but not unheard of either. Short acting insulin for prandial and corrective dosing is about $170 for 100 units. The hospital where i work is always full. We had to go on divert on Christmas day because we were full. On the floor, we have a running joke that they are going to put bunk beds in the patient rooms so we can fit more in. A "hospitalist" where i have worked is a general practitioner who cares for a patient. They come in with most illnesses and they get a doctor/hospitalist assigned to them. The hospitalist takes complete care, or may consult and add additional doctors depending on the issue. For instance, if the patient has a heart attack, the hospitalist may consult cardiology, and they may do a heart cath and a stent, or start them on a heparin drip, or___________. The anesthesiologist works in the operating room (OR), we never see them on the floor where the patients are staying. A patient may go for open heart surgery for an aortic valve replacement or bypass, the anesthesiologist sees them in the OR and cares for them during the four hour surgery, but not before or after, and the patient usually has only a minute or two interaction with them while they are putting them under for the surgery. In the hospitals where i have worked, both teaching hospitals connected to a medical school. One was big 850 beds, 3 helicopters, certified in 14 specialties. i worked on a heart unit. In a large hospital, one specialize more. We put in our own IV's. Where i work now, is 180 beds, a teaching hospital, but to small to specialize, so as a critical care nurse i get everything, not just hearts. Not unusual to have 3 or 4 co-morbidities to juggle. A patient with an MI who also has end stage renal disease, diabetic and a history of stroke with residual deficits. Actually, this sort is usually the rule, not the exception, so nurses have to be familiar with all of this in critical care. They are on telemetry, so we have to know how to read rhythms, etc.. At this hospital, we have to pull femoral sheaths after surgery, but lab draws blood using phlebotomists who do nothing but draw blood. Everyone gets blood work daily, CBC and Chem panel at least, with a bunch of add ons like liver enzymes or A1c, CRP, lactate, etc, etc.. Part of my morning routine is checking what meds my patient gets, checking vital signs (every 4 hours) and checking labs/blood work. I/O. We have certified nursing assistants (CNA's) who take vital signs every 4 hours, a nurse takes them if there is a question. We also have IV nurses at this hospital, cuts down on infection rates. We give blood, though. Monitor drips, pressers, nitro, anticoagulant. The list goes on and on. Nurses and doctors get along very well where i work, we depend on each other. i am a doctors eyes and ears. One advantage of working for a long time at the same place is you get to know each other. i have some doctors who we know each other so well, i page them with info, reasons and ask for some med or intervention, and they will simply put in an order for it. They know i see so much being with the patient all the time, i can spot things like fluid overload and they put in an order for furosemide. Or heart is looking irritated or tachy, maybe start metoprolol, or go up on the dose. Tons of stuff like that, we work as a team. They may ask for reasoning, they make the decision, but they also listen and there is mutual respect for each other. i LOVE the doctors i work with... and there are several i wish would fuck me lol or Who's cock i would suck in a heartbeat.

i was raised in a religious culture, and i also went deeply into religion for a long time. i think American culture has a lot of overt and subtle religious influence. i'm guessing the same is true in Your country (Greece?), though it seems You were able to get free of much of that influence at a younger age than i did, and come to a place of self acceptance. Being in healthcare as a nurse is mixed for me. i'm nerdy, read a lot of medical journals, have professional certifications. i love physiology and am endlessly fascinated with how the body works. i also love connecting with and helping people, and i get a lot of that in my position. The healthcare system in the US is broken. i work with amazing, caring people. i love working in a teaching hospital, the doctors i work with are beautiful people and we all get along very well. The policies of the healthcare system make the job very difficult and exhausting. Also, shortages of healthcare workers mean we are often functioning in triage mode, which can get tiring very fast. i am "happy," though i (and anyone in this profession i think) have to develop and maintain coping skills to keep going. lol... In school, i did very well on my maternity rotation, but cannot imagine being a maternity nurse or midwife. i think we probably agree that a woman has some advantages to working with women because they have the same equipment and can better relate to how it feels and works. But even with that, as you note, the people we care for-male or female- are often unwell or not in the best condition, so they are not always beautiful to look at. It doesn't "sound weird" to me at all. i get it. i've written some things on kink sites about how to use more sterile technique when sounding or using catheters if they are part of ones sexual practice. i agree, i think we can help people much more when we do not stigmatize those who are different, and even show familiarity and acceptance. i've been able to establish rapport with patients who realize i'm familiar and accepting, so i think it's wonderful that you do this. Oh yeah, me too on the catheter balloon. For me, once i get urine return, i know the tip is in the bladder, i always slide the cath in about two inches more after i get urine return before i inflate the balloon, then i gently pull it back until i get resistance. I've had both male and female patients with altered mental status who pulled their catheter out. Ouch. A part of me wishes You want to be a hospitalist instead of anesthesiologist, think people would benefit from Your caring attitude, Your desire to understand and relate. i was accepted into a nurse practitioner program and many NP's become hospitalists or anesthesiologists. i'm mixed. i'd like to have the added education and understanding of diagnosis, but also like being with the patient for 12 hours vs 15 minutes. You are so right about the effect of stigmatization on being able to provide effective care. We experience it often when it comes to alcohol. We ask how much alcohol the person consumes on a daily basis, but because of stigma, many lie. They come in for one issue, and while they are in the hospital, they start to withdraw from alcohol, and we end up having to treat that as well. If a person is alcohol dependent, and they have no desire or intention of stopping drinking when they leave, we will make sure they have alcohol while they are in the hospital for whatever they are being treated, so they do not withdraw. If they want to quit, we can implement CIWA protocol and make sure they have meds like ativan to smooth the process. About 25% of the nurses i work with are male, the other 75% female. Almost to a person, they are awesome, amazing people. i find the people who are as you describe, gossips or religious in a way that judges, do not last very long in our setting. The continuous realities of what we do usually changes them or drives them away because reality does not aline with their ideas of how things are or should be. What i do is very hard, the people i work with are what keeps me doing it. i'm very fortunate to be in a place where the culture of those providing the care is exemplary. The hospital i came from was not like that, so i know what i have is rare.

Great thread Sharp-edge, thank You for sharing Your thoughts! i'm a critical care nurse in the US. It's actually a newish career for me. i spent most of my life in executive management. 14 years ago, i left the corporate management world, went to nursing school and got a BSN, and now am in my eleventh year practicing in a teaching hospital on a critical care unit. In the US, and particularly in the hospital where i work, nurses are considered partners with the doctors. Here's some of my thoughts and experiences responding to the 4 topics You note. 1. i'm familiar with female genitalia from a couple of perspectives. i was married to a woman half my life because i was conditioned by religious culture from an early age that being gay was not an option. Longs story, but the end result is, my first experience with a vagina was my wedding night. i was a virgin and i actually missed the first time we had sex (really, i came, but my penis was not inside of her). Even though i was trying to be straight, all my masturbation fantasies and porn was of guys prior to marriage, so i didn't really know female anatomy at all. i eventually learned female anatomy in order to make her orgasm, but even with as much time as i spent going down on her orally, i didn't really notice or pay attention to her urethra. I.e., my experience with her did not equip me to cath a woman. my only real familiarity with her vagina was learning how to make her orgasm. In the last 11 years as a critical care nurse, i have seen probably thousands of vaginas. Like any other medical procedure, there's a point where i simply got used to it and don't even think about it now... it's routine. 2. LMAO. i have put in more catheters than i can count, male and female. Whether you're a male or female practitioner, the consensus amongst my peers is guys are always easier. With guys, the only obstacle is the prostate, which we encounter a lot as the primary reason for putting a cath in (urine retention from obstruction). The only weird thing i've encountered putting a cath in a guy is having the cath loop back out while sliding it in the urethra. That only happened to me once, doing a straight cath for a UA. The straight caths we had were sort of thin and flimsy, and if they encountered a swollen prostate, they'd loop around and the tip would come back out. After that, i'd always find a coude' cath and have never encountered that sense. i did cath myself to see how it feels. Half the guys don't seem to care, half it's like the end of the world. i use lidocaine gel if the guy encounters pain. Putting a cath in a woman? Hole different ball game (pun intended). i've been in situations where it took 4 or 5 people to put a cath in a woman, just to hold the various parts back to try and find the urethra. The common notion is "look for the wink." i always have a woman nurse present with me when cathing a woman, and honestly, it's just as much a challenge for a woman to put the cath in as a guy. It isn't you. Finding a woman's urethra is not easy, and often takes multiple tries by several people. As far as pain is concerned? From multiple conversations and tons of experience, the only people i have encountered who experience pain when putting a cath in are guys. Their urethra is much longer than a woman's, and they have a prostate which is often the reason for needing a cath. If the prostate is swollen, it is often painful to get the cath past that. 3. Rectal bleeds. That gets complex, eh? with 27 feet of intestine, not to mention esophageal varicosities, there can be a lot of places for a bleed. Frank red blood from the rectum is something i see usually from hemorrhoids, coffee grounds are usually from further up. In my patient population, it's not unusual to see both. We do an H/H to test for active (major) bleed. People with anal sexual activity is often reflected in other ways though. i've had a few patients with rectal prolapses that make me wonder. Also, we encounter lots of incontinence on our unit, so we see a lot of anus. As a nurse, i do not do digital rectal exams, but i do administer a fair amount of suppositories digitally. i had one woman patient, who was still pretty young and attractive, who had a connective tissue disease and here intestinal tract had lost most of it motility. i had to give her enemas 2x a shift. At one point i think she felt a little awkward, so i told her i am gay so she would not feel any sexual. i still question whether or not i should have told her that, i just did it in the moment. Like you, i agree that as a professional, gender shouldn't figure in. But, the reality is, sometimes it does. 4. From what i read and experience, sex drive is more individual than age related? Reading up on it, some women experience increased sex drive after menopause? idk. i do know there are plenty of guys who are still plenty horny no matter how old. There is an online gay site called "Silver Daddies" that has 125k members aging all the way into the 90's, both Top and bottoms. i don't doubt that age can be a factor, more to the point, health factors that may affect elderly more than younger guys, but i don't think one loses their libido just because of age?

To me, the president of the US is more of a symbol. They are often (mostly?) a puppet of forces both seen and unseen. It's hard for me to disconnect US political power from the economic power structure of big business. As a symbol, the president can get both credit and blame... and while i think the position holds power, i think the president has far less control than the image the position portrays. One of things i believe Trump wants is to wield more of that apparent power as an individual. my feel is he wants to be king, not president. i also feel he is just as he appears, volatile, shallow, narcissistic, easily manipulated by his massive ego. To me, he seems more ruled by his image than substance. He loves being the center of attention and prides himself on being outrageous, as though he equates that with being special, unique. As long as one can feed and satisfy his toddler ego, one can control Trump. In contrast, i think career politicians like Biden simply sell their soul to play a role. They are the latest actor on the stage. While a president has limited control as any famous actor does, i don't believe they write the script or direct the play.

i wonder if that's what they mean when they say: "there's no place like home?" Awesome fucks thanks for sharing.

just left bout 10 minutes ago. He is one solid piece of muscle, and He fucks with His whole body. i push back and squeeze His cock as He fucks me, and it's like He is fucking me into a place where i cannot push or fuck back, He always leaves me gaped and cum sloppy. fuck, i feel awesome.

Right? To me, there are parts of any 'ism' that can be scary. An atheist autocrat/dictator can be just as equally "scary" to me. Usually it's the 'parts' that want to make their particular mind set universal and impose it on everyone, turn it into legislation. Mike Johnson is one of those people. He asserts that "the United States is a Christian Nation" and believes the US should be run using his interpretation of the bible. Here's stuff from MJ and his wife's website. "ANSWERS for OUR TIMES Government, Culture and Christianity What is happening in America and how do we fix it? Can our heritage as a Christian nation be preserved? How should Christians respond to the changing culture? What does the Bible say about today's problems and issues?" [think before following links] https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2023/10/mike-johnson-seminars-christian-nation-speaker-far-right/#:~:text=Mike Johnson ran through a,today.” Fired up%2C he

Just left. i was in Virginia for a week, just got back yesterday, so it had been 8 days, was so glad He called. He loves when i kiss and lick Him all over, so vocal, fuels my lust. When He fucks, He puts His hands on me in a way, holds me in a way that makes me feel possessed, captive... feels incredible and He pounds me hard. After i was trying to describe how it feels, how awesome, and He told me He holds me "like His bitch." Didn't say it in a forceful or mean way, more matter of fact... nailed it. Literally.

“We’re talking about language. I could care less what language people use as long as we get it right,” Graham said on NBC’s “Meet the Press...."

Just left... my sweet FB. He keeps me bred a couple of times a week, i feel lucky to have Him. i don't know where He gets His energy from, He fucked me hard for an hour. i still had some squeeze left in me, but i had to put effort into it to squeeze His cock. Awesome, like a competition where He's trying to conquer my hole... He won.

HA, fun topic! This is a mixed one for me. i've been propositioned a lot... especially prior to online when there were cruising locales. But that prolly doesn't count as "out in public?" i have to be careful in public because i'm full of wishful thinking and can easily mistake friendliness from another Guy as "flirting." At the gym, where i work (in a teaching hospital full of hot resident doctors, among others). It would be so much easier if They'd just pin me to a wall and kiss me while groping me... but, that only happens in movies in my experience. This is kinda me:

Couple of thoughts that may (or may not) be encouraging. One of the long time medical interventions for enlarged prostate (prior to meds like tamsulosin) is "prostate massage." i promise this is not just a gay fantasy cum true, it's a real thing. Though there is debate about it's medical efficacy amongst professionals: "The longstanding theory behind a prostate massage is that it helps express stagnant fluid and relieve symptoms of erectile dysfunction, painful ejaculation, prostatitis and pain in your pelvic region. But there needs to be more research into these areas, as there isn’t yet enough evidence to support these claims beyond small, anecdotal cases." [think before following links] https://health.clevelandclinic.org/prostate-massage Then there's this: "Anal sex can cause prostatitis if not done properly. Anal sex is truly an art, with many intricacies that can complicate the act. The prostate gland is walnut-shaped and fills with fluid to help your sperm during ejaculation. The more stimulation, the more fluid (or prostatic juice) that’s created. But there is a fine balance. Direct, constant penetration–angled to the front of the anal canal, about 4-7cm internally–can lead to diffuse swelling and significant inflammation. It’s literally a pain in the ass, or more so the pelvis. You need a full understanding of your anatomy and its functions in order to make sure you treat your very sensitive (and temperamental) prostate in such a way that it gives you pleasure and not pain." [think before following links] https://bespokesurgical.com/2020/11/13/does-anal-sex-cause-prostatitis/

"Stretching" is good, it;s one of the signatures you leave on a bottom 😉

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It's kinda cool to re-read these and see where some change or not over time, see if i have changed. i answered this one four years ago and my answer if pretty much the same. For me, it's still about the Guy i'm with being engaged. i connect with His desire... even deeper if He's open enough to express need. For me, that connects to my own lust and need in an almost magical way and makes for the best sex. i've had that with younger and older, not an age thing. i currently have a FB Who's in HIs 20's and has been breeding me a couple times a week for going on four years now. And it's never routine. Not sure how we got so lucky, but both of us really connect. Otherwise, we have very little in common, but there's this openness that has never gone away and we always have smiles on our faces and feel awesome after.

i'd copy and paste something similar to what you wrote above and ask the guy you are speaking with which He wants to see. To me, the point of the exchange you are having is to determine compatibility, and this is one more piece of the puzzle. Ask Him what He wants to see, what turns Him on, because that's individual. i run into the same questions. For instance, i can be hairy or smooth, and i find Tops are about 50/50 when it comes to what turns them on, so i ask before i send a pic, which they prefer. Same goes for sloppy or clean, open or tight, etc..

This gets discussed a lot on BZ. i love smooth on myself, but also think it's sexy on a Top. i'm naturally hairy, so it takes some work... shaving doesn't work, gotta use something like Nair. That said, it's not an identity challenge with me, i like to be however turns the Top on the most when it comes to hair. Sex for me is largely about the lust/desire driving it, so if hair feeds His desire to fuck, i'm all in. i have a Top FB Who's hairy all over, even has a beard... and i normally do not find hairy sexy. And i guess i still don't, but i am very into Him and my mouth and hands are all over Him and His hairiness is not the least bit off-putting for me. He likes smooth, so i currently have a smooth ass, butt can be either.

"(Reuters) -Republican mega-donor Bernie Marcus said on Tuesday he would likely still give money to Donald Trump's 2024 presidential bid if the former president was convicted of a crime - but the billionaire does not plan to be one of his biggest financial backers. Marcus, a co-founder of home improvement retailer the Home Depot, announced earlier this month that he was supporting Trump, the runaway frontrunner for the 2024 Republican nomination contest that kicks off on Jan. 15 in Iowa." [think before following links] https://news.yahoo.com/home-depot-billionaire-says-hed-200914677.html?.tsrc=daily_mail&uh_test=0_00

i've been to ABS with pretty good sized "theaters." Dark, with sofa and overstuffed chairs and lots of sex going on. ABS have alway been open to everyone. i'm not put off by men and women having sex at ABS, they don't seem put off by me getting fucked by other men. i've seen trans people, cross dressers, pretty much anything goes. i don't have to go with anyone i don't want to, i don't feel it violates my freedom of expression, i don't want to violate someone else's freedom of expression either. i agree. To me, excluding a transman is like saying "i do not see you as you see yourself." They identify as men who want to be with other men, i support that as a gay guy lol. i lived for a large part of my life conditioned by a culture that told me there is no such thing as me naturally being attracted to men... i knew i was. Who am i to tell someone they are not who they perceive their self to be?