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i call it a hole, because it's a neutral term and i never wanna turn a Top off Who wants to breed me. i'm sorta bummed that culture has only evolved slang terms for straight culture and guys who fuck with guys end up borrowing from what's available. When it comes to what a Top calls it? Depends on His attitude and the vibe behind it. "Pussy" is usually one of my favorites when it's used by the Top with burning lust and desire, but really what ever word He uses, it's more the erergy and attitude behind it that i feel. i'm wired total bottom with a fair amount of sub, but i'm not of the type that wants/needs meanness, bullying. So, a Top (or anyone) using any descriptor using it as a put down, it a turn off to me, not someone i wanna be penetrated and bred by, not someone i want to absorb. The reason i think "pussy" can be so powerful for me is not because i identify or want to be identified as a woman or even necessarily 'fem.' That said, we are culturally conditioned to consider our anus and rectum as waste disposal organs, often along with feelings that they are dirty and disgusting. The thing is, all sex organs have a dual purpose of waste disposal. A woman's vagina has a seven day waste removal about every twenty one days (aka "a period"). But heteronormative society doesn't treat a woman's vagina like a dirty waste removal hole, but as sexual organ. As i relate to it, my hole is more for receiving a Mans cock than it is for waste removal, so when a Guy calls it a "pussy" in a lusty, "that's where My Cock goes" manner, it has a level of affirmation to it, that He sees it and me how i am, not how heteronormative society has generally conditioned us.

Right? And frankly, if anyone does a good job (read "exhaustive") of "point by point," it's BootmanLA. He didn't "deflect," he identified the flaws in the examples of "faults" given. No doubt there are faults in the Democrat party. i was struck by the commentary i watched on the "liberal media" that fact checked and identified the wrong stuff Harris said in her nomination acceptance speech.... was that "fake news?" Nah, i think the press did their job. Voting democrat is not a tacit full endorsement of the democratic party. At this juncture, it's pretty much the only choice over having an egomaniacal crazy in the highest office of the land.

Meme from pantsuitnation: "My immigrant husband"

"Former President Donald Trump's recent acknowledgment that he lost the 2020 election has rattled prominent far-right figures, with some saying they will lead a campaign to keep him from being elected in 2024. At least three times in recent weeks Trump, the 2024 Republican party nominee, has acknowledged that he lost in 2020 "by a whisker." "He beat us by a whisker. It was a terrible thing," Trump said of President Joe Biden during a 45 minute interview Aug. 4 with podcaster Lex Fridman. He used similar language at an Aug. 30 Moms for Liberty summit and an Aug. 23 press event at the Southern border. Despite frequently and falsely claiming that he actually won the election and making the issue a central point of his 2024 bid, Trump has occasionally over the last few years admitted that he lost. Trump lost the popular vote to Biden by 7 million votes and the Electoral College by 74 electoral votes. His effort to overturn the election culminated in Jan. 6, 2021 attack on the U.S. Capitol by Trump supporters hoping to stop the certification of his defeat. The reaction to Trump's most recent comments from some far-right activists and influencers has been unusually stark. White nationalist Nick Fuentes blasted Trump Sept. 4 for admitting that he lost the 2020 election, and said that he will work to get voters not to back Trump. "So, why did we do Stop the Steal? Why did did anyone go to Jan. 6? Why did any one go to jail? ... It would have been good to know that before 1,600 people got charged," Fuentes said on his podcast, referring to the criminal charges for those who invaded and ransacked the Capitol. "It would’ve been good to know that before (I) had all my money frozen, put on a no-fly list, banned from everything, lost all my bank and payment processing.”" [think before following links] https://www.yahoo.com/gma/trump-admits-lost-2020-leading-192730313.html?spot_im_highlight_immediate=true&spot_im_reply_id=sp_Rba9aFpG_f18f1714-13c9-3b18-b348-5a85722416cb_c_2lff0F0LeWFfQTJXSvgsf4oqoPH_r_2lk23HqSlALpL4bFKAkyJ6TiW0V&utm_source=spotim&utm_medium=e-mail&utm_campaign=liked-message&spot_im_redirect_source=email "Why?" indeed Nick. That's the question the non fringe part of the country has been asking for years. Why would you, or anyone, chose to disbelieve all the systems we have in place to ensure fraud and stolen elections don't happen. Instead believe all the people running those systems are part of a conspiracy, and not one of them is going to blow a whistle. Instead you believe one guy who needs a thesaurus and isn't very good at lying? In trumpland, everything you lost is just a "whisker."

my sweet FB, just left. Called me while i was making dinner, so i ended up getting desert first (cream pie).

Just left...after 4 years, He owns a piece of my heart. i have no idea if He realizes it, i think He likes me, but mostly i'm convenient sex. And that's fine, sex is better when it's convenient and available. He owns my hole and can have it whenever He wants. It had been a couple of weeks, then last night He called after i had just gotten home from a 13 hour shift at the end the hospital. i didn't get the first call, but He called again. He said: "I know you don't usually do anything cause youre tired at the end of work, but i really want it." i responded: let me prep for you and i'll text You when i'm ready. i sucked Him, and He was very horny and vocal, then wanted to breed me. Damn, it was so good. Creamy and gaped, on His way out He asked if He could come by today... and He just left. Again, i'm full of His seed and gaped.

26. For me, it was not a question of "bravery" but had exhausted my ability to suppress my need/desire. my first sexual attraction to a boy was at age 7. He showed me an enema nozzle and was excited, explaining to me where it went. i already had a crush on Him, but at 7 neither of us had a clue. As soon as i got home though, i fantasized about Him and put our enema nozzle in my ass. i grew up religious though, and conditioned against being gay, so i resisted sex with guys, got married to a woman at 21, tried to be straight, all the while knowing i am attracted to guys. ironically, my first time was when i was spending the weekend on a missionary hospital ship in port, helping do repairs. They roomed me with one of the missionary crew members, and late that night when we were in the dark and pretending to be asleep. He was masturbating. It was so dark, i couldn't see, but i could hear the sex sounds, so i made some sexy sounds back. It seems we made those sounds for hours, never saying a word. i finally got up and wen the 4 or 5 feet to His bunk, and He wordlessly offered me His cock. i sucked it with a lifetime of repressed desire and need, and He came quickly. my first taste of semen, swallowed every drop with no thought of spitting it out. He rolled over without a word and went to sleep. The next morning when i got up, He was gone... and i was in love lol. After that, there was no stopping me. i still was religious for many years and still tried to be straight, de-gay myself... didn't work, but finally processed through it all and came to a place of peaceful self acceptance. But it was never fear of guys or having sex with them, it was fear from my religious conditioning that i was somehow violating 'god's' rules.

❤️ i, on the other hand, am not too fancy.

Oh, yeah, i can see where a whole sector of guys is going to miss out on what you are trying to convey. i think you're way to fancy and eloquent to get the attention (and comprehension) of as many of the guys on prime time hook-up sites as you can. Maybe a simpler alternative? i want to be fucked in the ass or mouth by any legally aged guy with a cock that gets hard. Race, body size and age do not matter to me.

It's strange though, eh? It seems that they'd be hugely frustrated, that that is totally self defeating behavior?

That is curious to me when that happens. i wonder if with some, it's just that they want to have repeat affirmation? i too have wondered with some guys if they are illiterate? Seriously, not kidding. But then, they seem to know enough to be able to write the questions, so it seems they should be able to read and comprehend the answers.

This part: "...and words mean what people use them to mean" (5:36) That to me underlines the importance of listening and asking the word(s) user what they mean vs running away with our own idea of a word or label. and as i wrote that, appreciating Viking for asking.

Just now seeing this thread, so a bit late to the convo. i'm not MAGA, but was in the conservative camp for a big part of my life, so i think i can give perspective? One of the biggest objections i think that group has to "woke" is they associate it with stuff they deem wrong and/or immoral. In their context, it's irrational, but also emotionally charged. Since this is a gay site, "gay" can serve as an example. There is still an element of society that truly thinks/believes that there really is no such thing as being gay. They think it's a sickness or "sin" and many equate being gay to addiction or alcoholism resulting from 'bad' choices and/or bad upbringing. They consider those who are "woke" to be deceived or deluded, at best. Or worse, they think gays are purposely choosing to be evil by simply being who and how they are. In a way, i think they consider themselves to be "woke" and and everyone else is asleep. They object to the notion that others with an opposing perspective would even question them. i think a big anti woke element has religious factors. Going back to being gay, many believe that it's "God" who says being gay is wrong. There's a detachment that happens when a person attributes a believe to an all knowing being who's supposedly in charge and cannot be wrong. These people do not consider their views to be be views or beliefs, but take a position that their beliefs are knowledge: "truth." "Woke" often means seeing and accepting something or someone who violates their notion of "Truth."

Agreed. There is a radical and influential element of the Republican party that believes simply being LBGTQ+ is "an actual problem."

Never piss, just cumming hands free. But i think part of the appeal of WS is pissing has some similar feelings to orgasm. i've had Men Who pissed inside of me tell me that "it feels like a long orgasm." i remember the first time i had an orgasm at age 14. i was humping my mattress and as i started to cum, i panicked thinking i was going to pee and wet my bed. i got up and ran into the bathroom and discovered i didn't have to pee at all, that just some white stuff came out, and it wasn't as much as pee. The first time i had a hands free orgasm from getting fucked, the Top knew exactly what He was doing, and i didn't have a clue. i had no idea a guy could cum from being fucked. He started out simulating my penis and getting me horny, then flipped me and started fingering my ass. He was putting more fingers in, and when He got to the 4th finger, i turned my head and asked what He was doing? (i didn't know about fisting at that point either). He said nothing, pulled His fingers out and plunged His cock in. At that point, He had me where He wanted and i had a huge orgasm. But i didn't realize what was happening and i had the same panicked feelings i did as a kid the first time i came while humping my mattress. i thought i was going to pee in His bed. Even though i panicked, i was lying prone and He was on Top of me and not about to stop, so i left a puddle of cum on His mattress, and He was happy with the results. i was a little confused and newly enlightened realizing He'd made me cum from fucking me. Now, i know what's happening, but in that moment of orgasm, there are similar feelings as when starting to pee.

Hmmm, i'd say: "fuck that." Was he wearing a crown? Was he king of that cruising spot? Did he have a badge indicating he was officially in charge of enforcing the rules in that cruising spot? Did he point out the officially displayed list of cruising rules posted for everyone to plainly see? Or, was he just being presumptuous and ego centric assuming what he liked should be universal policy? Frankly, i don't think i would have wanted his seed at that point... don't wanna absorb 'no fuck' energy from anyone.

Though we use terms like "hard as a rock," a Mans Cock is still flesh and blood, not stone. The texture is soft, even if it's throbbing erect. As a bottom, seeing a Mans Cock throbbing hard speaks to me of His excitement and need/desire to penetrate and breed, and has the effect of connecting to my own lust/need to be penetrated, fucked and bred. Seeing it opens and penetrates me psychologically, i cannot imagine a Mans Cock that is too hard, that to me is like saying "He wants to fuck too much," and as far as i'm concerned, You cannot want/need to fuck "too much." This isn't universal, but a lot of the time i can tell when a Top is getting close to orgasm because His Cock swells a bit more, gets even harder before He shoots. It's a really hot sensation and overwhelms me with anticipation of Him having HIs orgasm inside of me.

Maybe there's just a higher degree of illiteracy among guys who have sex with guys? Before apps, if i wanted sex, i went to __________ and i got fucked. If i wanted to get fucked more, i just hung around _________ until i got fucked as many times as i wanted. If that cruisy place was slow, i'd go to another cruisy place, there were several. We didn't have to write or read anything, just a gesture like touching ones crotch or ass, or often just a look. i used to stand on this cruisy pedestrian bridge at dusk and if i saw a suspect Guy approaching, i'd turn my back and pretend to gaze out at the water below... and hike my shorts down so a little bit of ass was showing. More times than i can recount, a Man would walk up behind me, wordlessly lower my shorts, slide His cock into my hole and wordlessly leave me with cum inside.

^^This^^ One doesn't even have to be or become more progressive to contrast to the regressive Republican cult members driving their party into the ground.

If only everyone had such clarity! That's why i have qualifiers like "for me," "i see" and "i think," throughout that paragraph. i don't think this can be "known" or proven either way. So i think to say "i know" on either side of the fence is an overstep, and a projected bias. i still believe i am correct, i don't think we can separate sex from other parts of our being, our emotions, the desires/needs that motivate or drive us to have sex in the first place, whether we are aware of those drivers or not. But, i realize that's just what "i think," not a universal truth.

Thanks for keeping us on the straight and narrow 🙂 Re gut health.. post or pre is not a factor. Antibiotics do not discriminate between whether one takes them before or after sex, either way, broad spectrum antibiotics can have a deleterious effect on gut health because they kill beneficial bacteria as well as killing potential pathogens before they multiply. In terms of resistance. Overuse of antibiotics can result in bacterial/pathogen resistance to an antibiotic. Doxypep is presumptive treatment, and there are going to be guys who don't follow the guidelines and will take it indiscriminately. But even if taken according to instruction, it has the potential of facilitating resistance. It's a numbers game, there's a broad range of pathogens doxycycline is used to treat, if one unknowingly is infected with say a respiratory, or urinary or dental issue that has a bacteria that can currently be treated with doxycycline, that bacteria can develop resistance if the person taking the med is just taking a dose after a night of sex, a dose inadequate to resolve one of the other issues. i think the advantages of Doxypep outweigh the disadvantages though. There are other broad spectrum antibiotics that can treat those other issues, and if we could take a big bite out of STI's it would be a huge win. But it's not without a down side.

A PA only carries most of it's risk of infection initially when it's put in, once the skin heals, the only other issue is bacteria colonizing on the PA and since it's at the entry of the urethra, it poses some risk for urinary tract infection... but that can be avoided with proper care. i love a PA on a Top, it's sexy as fuck. It can be worn or not, so i think it just increases Your options. Here's some reputable info from Cleveland Clinic "Cleaning and caring for your penis piercing If you choose to pierce your penis, you’ll want to take some precautions to ensure it heals well and to avoid infection. Dr. Berglund offers these tips: 1. Choose a reputable piercing facility This isn’t the time to DIY or trust a friend with a sewing needle. Do your research and only go to a professional piercer who practices highly sanitary procedures. 2. Keep it covered You’ll probably leave the piercer rocking a bandage down under. You’ll want to continue to keep your new piercing covered, changing the bandage at least once a day to keep it clean and dry. Wearing tighter-fitting underwear will help keep the bandage in place and keep it from rubbing uncomfortably. 3. Wash well And we mean wash really well — but also treat it gently. You want to keep that piercing clean but also be careful not to pull or tug on it. In addition to showering (no baths or pools for now), clean your piercing at least twice a day with a mixture of salt and water. Use six parts water to one part salt. You can either soak your piercing in the mix for a few minutes by putting it in a bowl or cup. Or use a clean cloth or gauze to clean up. Dry your piercing with a paper towel (not your germ-infested bathroom towels). Only touch your piercing with freshly washed hands. 4. Abstain from sex until you’re healed No nookie while you’re healing. That includes vaginal sex, anal sex, receiving oral sex and masturbating. Keeping your new piercing free from others’ germs and reducing friction will promote healing and help you avoid infection. Some piercings may take three months or more to fully heal. 5. Watch out for signs of infection Inside your pants is a dark, damp, warm environment — just the kind of place where germs love to multiply. Those germs can easily make their way to your new piercing and cause infection. Signs to watch out for include: Redness. Swelling. Burning and pain. Discharge from the piercing site. Skin that feels warm to the touch. Fever. If you’re having trouble maintaining an erection or showing signs of infection after a piercing, talk to a doctor for advice." [think before following links] https://health.clevelandclinic.org/penis-piercing

To the original question, to me it depends on several factors. Social evolution has sex attached to all sorts of moral questions. For instance, a lot of religions promote that sex should only happen monogamously, and then only after marriage. That notion got rooted in tradition and general culture. Whether one is religious or not, were effected by it, consciously and unconsciously i believe. i think asking the question is evidence of that? i do not think sex needs to be a moral fact of life. i believe sex is a human need and appetite. We don't moralize eating, another human need, another human need/appetite. We don't saddle eating with contracts and tax breaks. Of course, eating and sex are not the same thing, but i think they share a lot of similarities, though some have managed to combine the two appetites... another topic for discussion, eh? For me individually, i see sex as an intrinsic and intimate part of who and how we are. Sex for me is about connecting to another man at a deep, vulnerable level of need and desire. i see all of those as key elements. i don't think sex is ever 'just physical.' Though i think many guys are pretty expert at avoiding or hiding from the some of the emotional aspects of sex (dare i use the word "spiritual?"), i still think we are all affected on those levels, whether we are aware or not. To me, "cheating" is about hiding a part of our essential self from another. "Cheating" in an intimate relationship contradicts the notion of intimacy. To me, if one aspires to have a committed (goes by a lot of names) relationship to another, one of the central reasons is to actually be known and accepted ('loved') for who and how we are. Hiding from someone who we are supposedly in an intimate relationship with, to me, makes the relationship itself sort of a farce.

Doxyprep is a trade off. Discriminate use can prevent getting infected with the result of having to take an even stronger dose of antibiotics to resolve the infection. Indiscriminate and/or long term use of antibiotics has a lengthy list of side effects. Doxycycline is a broad spectrum antibiotic. One of the side effects of broad spectrum antibiotics is they also kill beneficial microbes that live in our gut. We have 10x more bacteria cells living in our gut than we have cells that make up our whole body and we live in symbiosis with them. At this point, science is in the process of working to map the gut microbiome, but the process is just past the infancy stage. What we do know is the gut microbiome plays a huge part in our overall health. The excerpt below is sort of specific to the question asked and from a lengthy article citing a boat load of studies. This is just one tiny out take, the effects are numerous, i'll link the whole article for those who wanna nerd out and read the whole thing. "Broad‐spectrum antibiotics reduce gut microbiota diversity (Dubourg et al., 2014), and as well as killing the pathogen of concern can eradicate beneficial microbes (Blaser, 2011), with deleterious consequences for the host. The gut microbiota is responsible for the production of many essential metabolites including SCFAs and amino acids (Mills et al., 2019). Studies have reported that commensal‐produced butyrate and propionate have anti‐inflammatory roles, promoting the generation and differentiation of regulatory T cells (Arpaia et al., 2013; Furusawa et al., 2013), with roles in energy metabolism (den Besten et al., 2013; De Vadder et al., 2014). By impacting the composition of the microbial community, antibiotics also alter microbiota functionality and thus the metabolites produced (Ferrer et al., 2017)." [think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8756738/