viking8x6

I loved that place, though I only get to Denver occasionally. I'm not sure why they went under; during the time I was a member they were very well run and had a good clientele, so it's possible that they simply didn't have the financial wherewithal to weather Covid. Given that the options in Denver are super limited right now, it would seem to be a good business opportunity for some enterprising people to provide a community service and make a decent profit at the same time.

7 minutes ago, JimInWisc said:

Thanks @viking8x6   Hopefully we didn't lose BootmanLA as a result.

We didn't. He and @drscorpio are both in LA and now access the site using VPN software. Which is a general technical solution to the blocking problem.

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I used to enjoy "More of a Man" (featuring the late Joey Stefano) back in the day (mid 80s, I think).  Obviously it's not BB.

No comment intended on the director, but the writing was decent and the acting reasonably plausible.

I'm posting again in this topic to remind people, as it seems often to be overlooked:

Anything you post on BZ outside of the Backroom (and a few other protected subforums) is PUBLIC INFORMATION!

It will be indexed by web search engines (like Google) in a matter of days*, and anyone on the internet can find it and view it.

Most of us are fine with that, but please be aware that this is so.

* If you're curious about how long that actually is, I can say for certain that a post in the General Discussion area was indexed this week in less than two days.

U=U (as many others have said). HIV is really pretty hard to catch in the Western world today if you're not actively trying to do so.

But.

There are a lot of other nasties out there, and they are much easier to catch. In your shoes, I'd worry a lot more about bringing those home to your wife. Imagine her reaction to finding crabs "down there" if you didn't happen to notice them in time...

On 6/26/2023 at 10:06 AM, ErosWired said:

Fritz Richard Schaudinn wouldn’t pin down the actual culprit until 1905, and almost 40 more years would pass before someone would discover you could kill the damn thing with mold extract (penicillin).

Here’s a great article on the history of syphilis, for anyone interested:

[think before following links] https://www.everydayhealth.com/syphilis/painful-history-odd-bug/#

The article omits (presumably for brevity) the treatment of syphilis in the early 20th century with arsenicals, which actually were somewhat effective. If you don't mind putting arsenic in your body (and here we were just talking a page back about treatments that are worse than the disease).

Hooking up is always a numbers game. Looking for something super specific like that cuts down your numbers, so you'll need to be looking in the most populated groups in your area (whichever apps/web sites those are for you). For this specific scene, your chances are probably a lot better with people you know socially who happen to be open-minded gay couples, to be honest.

@PupLucca, your most recent post seems tangential to the question at best.

4 hours ago, mikeboi1 said:

believe everyone as the right to accept what they want and deisre and i see here in Portugal gay and bisexual men and trans males who wear woman clothing on the street, and no one says anything to them they are free to do as they please. its a choice of their own, However dotranating children to become gay or lesbian is not something that the LGBT should be doing!

we hear children are not mature enough to make decisions on their own but when it comes to sex change and major decision of sexual orientation a child is allowed to do his or her decision and even if its a child. I see contradictions to appease a new sexual orientation system.

I have spoken and worked with a trans male who was named Amenda and he had a sex change and then changed back to a male again. He said to me that it was the worste mistake of his life! One that almost killed him as sex change influences every organ of ones body and alters the body and its not an easy process.

I have no issue with sex change but one should be mature enough to know and accept and not a child like i have heard of five year old children who want to be of different sex or parents who manupulate their child to have a sex change to appease their desire.

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13 hours ago, topblkmale said:

20 hours ago, PupLucca said:

Giving puberty blockers to trans kids is not harming them. they can't get hormones until they are teens or older and they certainly can't have sex reassignment surgery until the age of 18 and have two psychiatrists  sign off on it. 

 The trans communities fight for equality and acceptance is slightly different than gays and leasbians but aat the same time it is no more different. Just as the GAY AND LESBIAN fight for equality is slightly different than that of black Americans but yet no more different. If YOU can't see WE are all equal then YOU are the problem and see yourself out as you are not welcome at OUR table.

 Also the trans community does not hate the gays or bi's or lesbians, maybe they just hate YOU

 

I would love to read sources on the bolded statements.

• Puberty blockers don't harm children; they simply arrest the progression of puberty temporarily.
• Children are not given hormones until they are (a) old enough to consent and (b) actually undergoing puberty; this generally translates to somewhere in their mid-teens.

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/trans-youth-gender-affirming-health-care-misinformation/

I'm pretty sure @PupLucca is right about the surgery as well. That's only done for legal adults.

Furthermore, NONE OF THIS STUFF is done for children unless they UNDERSTAND IT AND NEED IT.

It is okay? Well...

It's not illegal or immoral.

But as you phrased it ("ask someone to get tested"), it could (and likely would) be considered offensive by a whole bunch of people, because it implies one of a number of very unflattering things - they don't take care of themselves by getting tested already, they are lying to you, you suspect them of having ill intent toward you, etc.

I would suggest asking them their status in a tactful way. The words I've personally come up with for that conversation are "hey, do you have anything catching?" This phrasing has the following benefits:

• It assumes they know, but if they haven't tested, the onus is on them to admit that they don't know
• It can honestly be answered "no" by people who are undetectable poz, or who had an STI that is now cured (but might still show a positive test of some kind)
• It explicitly includes STIs other than HIV, which are no fun either

2 hours ago, Hotrawbutt4u said:

Do these pics go against any limitations on amount or size?

And do these have restrictions on content, ones that might need to go in the back room?

Size limit is the same as for any other pictures in the Galleries (I'm not sure what that amount is).

IF you make sure to set the album PRIVATE access, it is OK to put Backroom content in them. Content that is not allowed anywhere on the site (obscenity) is not OK here, either.

In private messages, you can only attach a link to an image. If you want to upload pictures to be inserted into a private message, do this:

1. Create a private album (use the "Create" pull-down at the top to create a new photo album, and use the "Privacy" controls at the bottom of the creation page to mark it private)
2. Upload your photo(s) into it
3. Copy the URL for the photo you want to insert (from your browser address bar)
4. Create the private message
5. Click the insert image button and paste the link

Yeah, it's a pain. The forum runs on a third-party software package and it has limitations, so we're pretty much stuck with it until @rawTOP gets the new site done.

Well, I don't know that this is the best forum to be asking that sort of question, but you could do worse - there are a lot of people here who have learnt long ago not to make too many assumptions about what makes people tick.

First off, I would advise you to get some professional help. I say that because you are so wholly blindsided by the situation. This is not something you ever imagined or thought about, and you have no context for it. Some of the things people will say here may be hard to figure, because they may take for granted that you know things that you really don't know at all.

As to the situation, let me take a stab at sorting it a little. Mind you, I may be way off base, but at least you can see how one outsider looks at things:

Tom is your BFF. You've been friends with him all your life. That means, in my book, that you love him - you have strong feelings for him and a relationship that qualifies in human terms as familial. Suddenly, you've discovered that buried inside, you have a physical attraction as well. That's actually a totally normal thing to happen, and "gay" and "straight" don't come into it at all. So cut yourself some slack there.

What to do about it? First of all, you don't have to do anything. You could keep quiet about it and have things go on just as they did. It would simply be very uncomfortable for you. Unrequited feelings also happen all the time. You might get used to it and be able to live with it. You might find it unendurable. But it won't kill you, and probably won't drive you crazy. On the other hand, it sounds like you're in the under 35 age bracket. From what I've seen (even here in rural WV, which is a pretty conservative area), many people in that generation and the one following have much more open ideas about sex and sexuality than people my age (though not all of us oldsters are prudes). So it might be OK to talk with Tom about it. It might even be OK to act on it. He wouldn't necessarily feel the same way you do, but people have sexual relations for all kinds of reasons, not just because they have lust for one another.

So be gentle with yourself, take care of yourself, and work through it patiently. The thing you're dealing with is not simple or easy, but many people have done it over many years, and you can, too.

I'll close with this: My BFF (we met in college) came on to me while were were in college, though he is definitely basically straight. We have played several times, and it has always been a wonderful treat. Neither of us have ever really had the hots for the other. It's been simply a physical expression of love.

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On 6/22/2023 at 1:49 PM, PigBoyDallas said:

I guess I'm kinda mercenary, I want to get down to fucking pretty quick and if they want to chat too much I move on.

You're not mercenary, just practical and goal-oriented. Mercenary is when people ask for money.

Fuck man, I love your escapades. Soooo HOT!

31 minutes ago, tighthole64 said:

Vote BLUE! Not just at presidential levels!

Actually, I meant my question slightly differently than that:

Literally, what can we do to dissuade the Republicans from pursuing this legislation in the first place? It drags queer sexuality into the political debate, which distracts from other (far more important) issues that all of us face, and should be facing together. Furthermore, my impression is that the people in power are doing it deliberately in pursuit of exactly this goal. Not that they are morally bankrupt... but if that shoe fits...

8 minutes ago, JeffPigDadd said:

Maybe The Church Lady can answer your question.

Could it be...???

27 minutes ago, Barebacker831 said:

I’m a republican, just more the way I lean politically, and I hate trump so please let’s not bother going there. But I love sucking cock and taking loads, so I really don’t think it has to do specifically with Republicans, just the extremists who fall into that category.

Agreed. So, perhaps more helpful questions to be asking might be:

Why does the Republican Party (and the politicians who compose it) find it appropriate to pursue anti-gay legislation?

and

And what can WE, as LGBTIA+ Americans, DO about that?

Oh, lookie! The latest one saved us all a lot of time by following *me* LOL

16 hours ago, topblkmale said:

What age group would this be?

And would these 'stories' feature any LGBT content?

Most library story hours that I've seen have been populated with kids in the 4-9 age bracket. Younger kids can't sit still well enough, and older kids already know how to read (well, some of them...).

I haven't attended drag queen story hours myself, but I expect they would emphasize age-appropriate content with a message of diversity and acceptance. Certainly, they would not have any sexual content. Sexual content of any flavor isn't appropriate for kids under 10, at least not in our society's code of ethics.

Things like this:

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/6950253-it-s-okay-to-be-different

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/709381.Heather_Has_Two_Mommies

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/117997.And_Tango_Makes_Three

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/791133.Daddy_s_Roommate

I can't speak to statistics, but a good buddy (and occasional FB) of mine definitely qualifies as a dominant bottom. He strongly prefers being penetrated (dick or fist) but is definitely a dom silver daddy bear in the BDSM sense.

1 hour ago, topblkmale said:

Seeing six year old's at draq queen shows and other adult-centered gay venues or events is WEIRD TO ME!

It seems to me that you're taking a very narrow view of what drag queens do.

Yes, they can be part of an evening of raunchy entertainment for adults. They can put on shows in gay bars. Young kids don't belong at those sorts of things (and nearly everyone with half a brain pretty much agrees on that).

But drag queens can also do other things. They can read stories to children at libraries. They can host gay Bingo fundraisers (without suggestive content) in fire halls. They can be fabulous in Fourth of July parades.

The intention of the laws being enacted in Florida and other places is an effective ban on ALL of these things. The promoters of the laws say it is "only to protect the children", but it is patently obvious that they are flat-out lying about that.

Case in point, the county council of a county near me in WV just passed such a law about drag shows specifically. How do we know what their intent was? There was only ONE drag show regularly taking place in that county, and it did NOT feature adult content. I heard from a source I trust that in this case, the president of the county council (promoter of the legislation) also had a vendetta against the owner of the venue where the drag show was taking place.

^^^ THIS ^^^

is why we need to stand up to these kinds of things.