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My impression is that there is a significant imbalance in numbers straight-up in most places I've been.

But the situation is greatly aggravated because, as others here have also observed, tops have performance limitations that don't apply to bottoms. They can only go so long without cumming (at least without discomfort), and after they cum, they generally lose interest (or at least erection - barring trimix) for a while. Four times is reasonable for younger guys, and older maybe half that.

11 hours ago, INchaser4POZ said:

Can I have my account undelete please, or maybe be able to replace my profile page and profile photo replaced?

NO.

See the following post from further up this same topic:

14 hours ago, BootmanLA said:

In the intervening years, MRSA has become much more widespread, especially in places like gyms and hospitals, where different bare skin comes in contact with the same solid surfaces

Basically, Staphylococcus aureus (the bacteria of which MRSA is a particular flavor) is everywhere people are, because it is a normal skin bacterium we all carry, that normally doesn't cause much trouble. And anywhere MRSA goes, it can (and does) transfer that DNA with the genes for drug resistance to the local  S. aureus bacteria. So washing people and things is a GOOD idea. But also, taking care of your skin is a good idea, so that your personal staph bacteria stay on the outside and don't get overpopulated. Because as long as that's the case, it doesn't matter whether they are antibiotic-resistant or not.

https://www.xvideos.com/video60241789/three-way_fuck_in_the_bathhouse#

11 minutes ago, tighthole64 said:

Most of all, wish there was a way to contact a mod during suspension to clarify.  Sadly communication is shut down during suspension. 

I really wish there were, too! Unfortunately, it's a flaw in the design of the software the site is hosted on (which was not designed or implemented by @rawTOP), so we're kind of stuck with it.

We do try to give clear explanations, but I will freely admit that they tend to be terse. We have lives and day jobs and are only doing this in our "spare" time, so we generally don't time to "write a novel" for every infraction, especially when things get busy.

3 hours ago, retiredbtm67 said:

As for not seeing the other similar post in general discussion well it's been either below or above my post for over a week and it's an older post. Re. Respecting neg bottoms and do u crave infecting or pozzing guys well the question is somewhat similar.

It is, of course, no longer in the same forum as your post, because yours was moved to the HIV fetish forum. I'm linking the two posts here so that people reading this thread can form their own opinions about whether each of them constitutes "POZ fetish" material and needs to be in the Backroom:

https://breeding.zone/topic/78561-poz-tops-do-you-crave-infecting-guys/#comment-834929

https://breeding.zone/topic/2080-would-you-respect-a-neg-bottoms-wishes/#comment-168532

Firstly, most points (including the kind you received) are not permanent. They expire.

Secondly, had the moderator made a mistake in giving you the penalty, he would have rescinded it. But the way the policy (which we moderators don't set, we only enforce) works, ignorance is not an excuse for violating it.

Thirdly, another member warned you that the post was in violation before you were given the penalty. So you could have reported it yourself and thereby avoided the penalty.

Fourthly, @BootmanLA is correct. We cannot possibly keep up with all of the posts, and depend on people reporting them to point us to problems. Therefore, if you had simply reported the "very similar post" also in violation, we would have dealt with that one also. But you didn't. So now I get to wonder which one it was, and whether we ever found it.

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We are still sorry to see you go. Everyone has something to contribute. OK, maybe not the spammers.

Nice understall breeding

https://www.xvideos.com/video36403261/quickie_in_the_bathroom#

As someone who has done a fair bit of interstate travel (not a trucker, but for various reasons I take drives of 200+ miles relatively often), I can tell you that the problem with Grindr (or other apps) when doing highway driving is that you're not in a given location long enough to get anything set up with the locals. By the time you've got a response from a hot one and agreed that you're interested, you may be 20 miles down the road already, and doubling back just sucks.

Oh, my! Thank you for this delightfully literate thread! It's downright poetic.

It appears to be quite decent in the major metro nearest me. Unfortunately for me, that's nearly two hours away by car. Anything closer is a bit thin - same few faces mostly (the closer towns are 20-50k population or so). In my town, I'm the only game in town.

I find the difference in physical sensation to be pretty substantial. Certainly enough that I'm willing to risk STIs for it. Bare is a fair bit better than latex condoms, which are in turn better than polyurethane condoms or "femidoms" (both of those are quite nasty). I haven't tried "lambskin" condoms, but since they don't protect from STIs, there seems little point for MSM apart from as a fetish.

The psychological difference is also quite significant for some (certainly it is for me).

19 hours ago, Neg-18Cumdump said:

Hi im kinda new here on the site,bit noticed there was no place for cumdumps to voice themselves and organise to be used.

Of course there is! You'll be wanting this topic:

Only did Cub Scouts. It was fairly clear to me by the time I got some distance into those that the authoritarian and religious aspects of Boy Scouting were incompatible with my outlook, so I passed on them. I had no conscious idea at the time that I was queer. I actually regret that decision now - I think they would have been good for me in several ways.

1 hour ago, ErosWired said:

Physicists disagree on something? Surely you jest. But they aren’t debating whether Schrödinger’s cat is straight, just whether it’s dead. I don’t think we have to address quantum states to contemplate what is essentially a question of human psychology.

Well, there are two questions here: The question of psychology (does the guy believe he's straight) and the question of semantics (who gets to decide what 'straight' means). I prefer arranging my logic thusly: If I'm using "straight" to mean "has sex only with women" and he's using "straight" to mean "prefers women over men" (both of which are widely used and reasonable definitions for "straight"), then we are inevitably going to disagree on what to call it when the situation results in different truth values for the two definitions. But we are splitting hairs. Obviously we're not getting enough 😉

By the way, have I said recently that I really enjoy your discussion here? I think we'd get along very nicely and hope to meet you in person some day.

On 4/18/2023 at 9:58 AM, ErosWired said:

If a bird calls itself an eagle, but has webbed feet and a bill, it’s not an eagle, even if it firmly believes it is. This ‘straight’ guy does not do ‘straight’ things - he does homosexual things. He fucks males, and ejaculates into them. ‘Straight’ men, by definition, do not engage in this behavior, therefore, he is not ‘straight’.

"A rose by any other name would smell as sweet." I agree the label doesn't fit. So he's (deliberately or otherwise) mislabeling himself. But at the end of the day, it's what he does that matters - politics aside (and there's the rub).

On 4/18/2023 at 9:58 AM, ErosWired said:

You may note that throughout this post I’ve placed ‘straight’ in quotes, because science from Kinsey forward has demonstrated convincingly that human sexuality is a spectrum, and that true, absolute ‘straightness’ is on an extreme end, opposite true, absolute ‘gayness’. Everything in between is some combination of the two. For that reason, the labels are largely pointless anyway, but overlaying a label of ‘straight’ over three-quarters of the spectrum immediately illustrates that a significant percentage of the eagles are ducks calling themselves eagles.

So much this. Takes me back to my 15 minutes of fame (on a talk show in 1991 as a bisexual, as which I then I identified). He played the black and white card, probably to set me up to give the spectrum answer (either that or he was more obtuse that I thought).

Indeed, I'm quite convinced that Kinsey didn't go nearly far enough. Human sexuality is far more complicated than a single spectrum, both as to attraction and as to actual practice.

On 4/18/2023 at 10:18 AM, ErosWired said:

Just because a guy ranting on the sidewalk says, and believes, he’s Jesus, doesn’t mean I’m under any obligation to give deference to his perception over my own.

The question we grapple with is whether perception constitutes reality, or whether there is an absolute reality that exists outside of perception. [emphasis added]

Regardless, the ownership of any man’s identity ends at the entrance to my cunt. From that point, I’m absolutely entitled to an opinion.

The physicists don't actually agree on the answer to that question at this point in time. There is experimental evidence that suggests the former (no, I'm not kidding).

On 4/19/2023 at 10:02 AM, ellentonboy said:

"I AM HOSTING IN MY CAR". - huh?  (I am guilty I have done it once, and he was worth it).

 

When they can't host and don't have a car and are a half-hour drive or more from me...  I've done it. More than once. In fact, one of the principals is now an occasional FB (but he moved even farther away from me). Generally worth it, and I can still manage the gymnastics though I'm not as flexible as I once was. VW Beetle is a bit tougher than a Ford Ranger, but they both work. Given the option, I'd rather do it outside the vehicle - it's so much easier on the legs - but a lot of guys aren't cool with that.

Re: banned words

It's not that they are offensive, it's that they are/were used as "code" for practices that are not welcome on the site (yes, there are such things, even on a site like this). The list is confidential (having it public information would defeat the purpose).

For a detailed discussion:

On 4/16/2023 at 5:12 AM, AirmaxAndy said:

The second point I wanted to highlight is how the scene and feitsh stores play into this culture - again with images and advertising, but also with exclusion by only offering their products in small sizes and skinny cuts. And they're a bit like SuperDRY in the UK - an XXL there is like an L everywhere else. If you ask for larger sizes in these stores you get reactions from the staff like:

"The only thing we have in the store that will fit you is some socks. Maybe." (Gear Berlin)

"We have a made to measure tailoring service..." (Blackstyle)

"Perhaps you should spend your money on a gym membership first" (One of the leather shops)  

"The bakery is next door"  (Frontstyle)

 

On 4/16/2023 at 6:15 AM, AirmaxAndy said:

This is pretty mild. In a wider context I've been on the receiving end of many comments like this on the scene over the years. 

I remember the guy on the reception to the Sauna in Waterloo told me "You'd be better off staying home with a packet of crisps. You won't get any fun in here."

The barman at Slut Club in Hamburg who took me in hand to the dark room only to ask "What is is like to not be able to see your dick except in a mirror?"

These get put down at the time as bitchy barbs, you try to ignore them and move on, but they they're not that harmless because they stay with you.  

I am gobsmacked (and I'm American) by the appalling degree of rudeness these people put on display. And your last line definitely speaks truth.

I've got pretty much ordinary love handles for someone my age (over 50), but am not in the bear category (more like wolf). However, I am very fond of the guys who are in the bear category - the model in the ad you posted is case in point: my reaction is "YUM!" So I find it tragic that my favorite playmates are being driven away from the venues I frequent...

On my darker days, I'm thoroughly convinced that western civilization has outlived its usefulness.

If you like muscle bears...

The moaning is a little much for my taste, but these guys are hot AF

https://thisvid.com/videos/hot-bear-fucking-jonah/

Wonderful work!

I always wanted  to have bare sex (my first time was bare, back in '85). I just knew with my brain that it was risky. So I was judicious - and mostly didn't, until around '98. At that point I gradually got more comfortable with the risk and did play bare some of the time, until PrEP came along in around 2012 and changed the landscape.

Ironically, my ex (dated from about '00 to '03, long distance, non-monogamous), whom I lured over to the raw sex camp, wound up seroconverting sometime around when we broke up or a little after that, while I was still negative. I'm guessing he might have been at greater risk, because he had poor dental health and hemorrhoids. HAART kept him a healthy poz man, though - he died of a heart attack.

6 hours ago, JimInWisc said:

9 hours ago, Vancrawman said:

Forgive the dumb question, but how is this even enforceable? How does a State know which sites its residents are going to? 

Essentially by IP Address.  

...which is why using a VPN will get around the blocks. The VPN host is connecting to the network, so the sites you connect to see its IP address rather than yours.

On 3/10/2023 at 10:13 AM, rawTOP said:

I've said this pretty loudly on the main adult industry forum - there is a completely different solution which won't put us out of business. They're called Private Access Tokens (aka PATs). Apple has already started to use PATs to replace CAPTCHA, and Google is working on implementing them as well. The idea is that your device knows more about you than anyone else. Apple and Google are using them to confirm that the user is human. They could also be used to confirm whether adult content blocks are in place on the device. Then the parent only has to do a minimal amount of parenting to turn on the adult content block. (And adults who don't want to see adult content can turn on the block as well). Then PATs can be used to confirm that adult content block is not turned on. It's quick, cheap and efficient. And PATs are completely privacy-protecting. There's no 3rd party who knows you're accessing adult content. There's no additional database that can be hacked since it happens in the moment with no logging.

Thing is, it's not age verification. It's verification of a lack of an adult content block. But it achieves the same goal. Actually, PATs would be more effective since the current laws don't apply to the major social media sites since the laws only apply to sites with >33% "harmful" content, and PATs are so quick, cheap and easy that even social media sites could be required to use them.

At the end of the day these laws are being written by religious conservatives with the goal of putting sites like this out of business. Our silence is allowing them to determine how children are protected. They are not the best people to be writing these laws - their goal is to put us out of business. If the tech industry worked with the adult industry we could do a better job at protecting kids and not put us out of business.

Thanks, @rawTOP, for this excellent explanation of the superior technological approach. Now I have solid ammunition to use when dealing with my legislators. Because just saying "this law is a bad idea" is at least helpful - they do, to some extent, listen to their constituency - but having a solid case to make for a BETTER solution carries much more weight.

If you were wearing more than a "lone ranger" type eye mask, I'd probably pass on fucking with you, for the simple reason that a lot of my erotic attraction to a man is wired to the face. Faceless bodies just aren't hot to me, and fragmentary body parts even less so. And I get to see so very many of them these days on cruise apps LOL

I don't believe that moderators can reliably use your IP address to know whether you're a former member of a site or forum, for two reasons:

• Multiple people can share the same IP address.
• A single person can have many IP addresses even in the case where they are not using a VPN, because mobile devices in general will have varying IP addresses depending on their current connectivity, and wired internet providers often use dynamic addressing.