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3 hours ago, hungry_hole said:

...of being at a sauna on a public sling in a similar situation...

As many have already pointed out, "being at a sauna on [sic] a public sling" is NOT A SIMILAR SITUATION.

"When you find you have gotten yourself into a hole, the first thing to do is stop digging."

I'm horny to some degree or another most of the time, but the level varies quite a bit.

You could say I cease looking due to my lack of interest, but it would be more accurate to say that my interest isn't sufficient for me to believe that looking for sex is a good use of my time. Out here where I live (small town WV, more than half an hour from the nearest "decent size town" of over 10k people) it takes rather a lot of looking - or else a trip to a town or city - to get sex.

Firstly, I'd say you're NOT contributing to bugchasing. Your profile and posts make it clear that you aren't going to help people do it, nor to you condone or encourage it.

Secondly, you are not responsible for the actions of others. That's on them. You happen to have HIV. Suppose for a moment that you did have a significant viral load (for whatever reason), and thus represented some kind of temptation to bugchasers who were serious about it, would not be a failure on your part. It would simply be a fact, whether or not you had made choices that caused it to be that way (either could be the case). The chaser's feelings and actions are their problem. The world is full of temptations and dangers... and dangerous temptations. It is not our responsibility to protect others from them, though it might be honorable and morally upright to do so, especially if they are less capable of doing so themselves (children, for example).

Thirdly, and this is not intended to be judging you, merely to put things into perspective, we are living in a world where people hurt and kill themselves and others (not to mention wrecking the planet and other living creatures) all the damn time. Just now we have frequent mass shootings, pandemic, war, and global climate change. So concern over encouraging bugchasing merely by participating in BZ belongs (in my opinion) squarely in the category of "high-class worries".

Lousy audio: Horrible music (that's almost any of it, in porn), random background noise (sirens, machinery, you name it), can't hear the noises the participants are making... I could go on and on.

Porn that's entirely (or almost entirely) closeup shots of dick-in-orifice, so you wouldn't know it's actually people fucking.

Porn where the performers seem bored or mechanical, or the same fucking action continues unvaried for an extended period (3 minutes of pumping at the same speed and angle is more than plenty, gentlemen!)

Ferocious applause - the latest is the best part yet! So much hotness! I especially loved the frat house scene - exhib is one of my hot buttons.

[think before following links] https://webarebears302.newtumbl.com/post/21877332-sg34Ay

38 minutes ago, RealCute said:

... I will have to figure how to edit the date ...

You can only edit a post for about 10 minutes after you first post it. Thanks for reporting; I fixed it.

On 4/23/2022 at 3:49 PM, ErosWired said:

You could hook a truck winch to the end of your cock and probably stretch more inches out if it than you ever wanted to, but it wouldn’t give you a true measurement.

And afterward, it probably won't shrink back to its original size... even if you soak it in the great gray-green Limpopo river for ever so long!

One that I know of for sure, and I wouldn't be surprised if there were a few others at public venues (sex clubs mostly) over the years... in San Francisco and Denver mainly, but many other places from time to time. And if you ever do meet me out there and recognize me (the face pic is reasonably accurate) please do say something! It would definitely give the connection an added thrill.

On 4/24/2022 at 9:58 AM, bihusband said:

...ordered a "Cum in me bro" shirt reasoning I can just ditch it. I really don't want her to see that shirt and I don't know how she would react. But I do want to wear it.

It looks to me like this is your point of conflict. You want to wear it... and by extension, you want to have a man fuck you bare and cum in you. But you don't want her to see that shirt. Ask yourself: Why not? You don't know what she would think, or how she would feel - she hasn't seen it yet! And yet she asked you to get tested. The implication of that is that she believes it is likely that you already have had a man fuck you bare and cum in you (or at least encountered that much risk of HIV exposure). And, from your observation, she's not freaked out by that, she's supportive.

My advice (worth its weight in gold, remember!) is to get your hungry ass on PrEP and fulfill your needs... with your wife's blessing. And rejoice and be thankful that you are in such a wonderfully healthy relationship!

And if you want that blessing explicitly ahead of time - there's only one way to get it (ask her). Just remember, neither you nor she knows for sure ahead of time how you will feel about it. You can guess, but the proof of the pudding is only in the eating.

I wouldn't even have thought to ask the question, let alone be so shockingly rude as to tell the host (before or after the event) that I wasn't attending or had issues with the other attendees because (to put it bluntly) I was racist.

For a one-on-one encounter (or even a pre-planned small group), it seems reasonable to me that one's personal tastes or hot-buttons as far as sexual attractiveness would (and even should) be considered - no one wants to show up and have their trick go limp because they happen to be green, or have three eyes instead of two 😉  But at a group/party affair, it's unreasonable and inappropriate to expect that some attendees won't be your idea of the perfect man. After all, there are other people there who may well find those same people to be their cup of tea.

I'm pretty sure this is not rocket science.

2 hours ago, ANastyMind said:

how long do messages stay in the inbox??

Until you delete them. There is a space limit, so eventually you may have to, but it's a pretty big limit.

For what it's worth, this site isn't great for hookups, though it has more members in London than in most places.

Not sure what hookup apps and sites are good over there across the pond. Here in the states, BBRT is good for bare, and Grindr and Sniffies seem to be fairly good generally. There's a topic in the General Discussion forum about what hookup apps people prefer.

As a follow-up, here's a handy article about the subject: [think before following links] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32666897/

And here's a nice chart (from this article: [think before following links] https://www.realclearscience.com/journal_club/2015/03/03/is_your_penis_normal_theres_a_chart_for_that_109106.html ) which tells us that over 99% of penises are 7 inches or smaller:

16 minutes ago, Muscledadbod said:

I thought six was average, I am surprised that there are more 7 inchers.

Average is actually a bit under 6, from the reading I've done. There's more than a little inflation and rounding up.

Well, as a true versatile, I have to say neither one feels better for me - they are simply different. I wind up topping more often than not, because tops are more in demand and because my endowment assures that it will be asked of me (why I don't know, big is good, but small is perfectly fun if the guy has a modicum of skill). Do what you enjoy! But being versatile doubles your chances of having a trick on a given night 🙂

I'm gonna agree... but I'd rate it "mildly confusing" as UI glitches go. You simply click on "General Discussion" in the dropdown list. Yes, it's a header, but it's also a forum in its own right. That said, it's no doubt a feature of the (off-the-shelf) forum software and not of BZ in particular. Sadly, @rawTOP doesn't have control over these things. Happily, he's working on a new and better site!

Before clicking (note how "General" is grayed out but "General Discussion" is not)

After clicking

9 minutes ago, flexbtm said:

Unfortunately the link to pozzing dad and son story seems to be broken

Repaired.

Wow, so hot! Just finished chapter 5 and it is quite delightful so far!

17 hours ago, JTRCS said:

On 8/5/2020 at 2:37 AM, cheshiregay said:

looking for story where bouncer throws someone under shutters, while waiting to get into nightclub and he fucked by group of poz men

Tell me if you find it. Definitely wanna read.

I believe you're referring to "The Dark Room". It was removed when the new policy about harm to the community was added.

On 4/13/2022 at 10:54 PM, ErosWired said:

... all these men walk around with their towels wrapped around their waists from their navels to their knees ...

... the towel over the shoulder sufficiently far forward that it conceals the cock in front ...

Where is this club that has such large and luxurious towels?!? The ones I get always seem to be barely big enough to cover my genitals, if held up by suspenders!

On 4/15/2022 at 2:32 AM, ErosWired said:

It always struck me that Superman must have an extremely frustrated sex life because there is no way he could ever let himself go. If his thrusts didn’t shatter your pelvis, his cumshot would probably go through a body like a rifle round.

Years ago there was a fun sci-fi essay/story on exactly this topic: "Man of Steel, Woman of Kleenex" (I think the author was Larry Niven)

It seems to me you are a free thinker about sex and relationships in most respects, so why not as regards monogamy/exclusivity? I was in a platonic relationship with a woman for nearly 3 decades, while at the same time I had relationships of varying duration and emotional intensity with a variety of men. She found a straight husband part way through, and the three of us lived together (they married with my blessing and facilitation). I'd still be there if I hadn't come to the realization that she was emotionally abusive and was slowly destroying me.

In my experience, this sort of thing can work just fine as long as people are forthright and honest about it.

I've never been a smoker. The smell of stale smoke (especially cigarettes) used to bother me, but I lost most of my sense of smell to a sinus infection about 10 years ago, and now it's no problem.

15 minutes ago, speedo21 said:

after 9 months in an HIV-positive womb, sharing the same blood-stream, the baby will be born HIV-negative

If they were really sharing the same bloodstream that would be impossible, of course. But they don't.