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On 4/18/2023 at 9:58 AM, ErosWired said:

If a bird calls itself an eagle, but has webbed feet and a bill, it’s not an eagle, even if it firmly believes it is. This ‘straight’ guy does not do ‘straight’ things - he does homosexual things. He fucks males, and ejaculates into them. ‘Straight’ men, by definition, do not engage in this behavior, therefore, he is not ‘straight’.

"A rose by any other name would smell as sweet." I agree the label doesn't fit. So he's (deliberately or otherwise) mislabeling himself. But at the end of the day, it's what he does that matters - politics aside (and there's the rub).

On 4/18/2023 at 9:58 AM, ErosWired said:

You may note that throughout this post I’ve placed ‘straight’ in quotes, because science from Kinsey forward has demonstrated convincingly that human sexuality is a spectrum, and that true, absolute ‘straightness’ is on an extreme end, opposite true, absolute ‘gayness’. Everything in between is some combination of the two. For that reason, the labels are largely pointless anyway, but overlaying a label of ‘straight’ over three-quarters of the spectrum immediately illustrates that a significant percentage of the eagles are ducks calling themselves eagles.

So much this. Takes me back to my 15 minutes of fame (on a talk show in 1991 as a bisexual, as which I then I identified). He played the black and white card, probably to set me up to give the spectrum answer (either that or he was more obtuse that I thought).

Indeed, I'm quite convinced that Kinsey didn't go nearly far enough. Human sexuality is far more complicated than a single spectrum, both as to attraction and as to actual practice.

On 4/18/2023 at 10:18 AM, ErosWired said:

Just because a guy ranting on the sidewalk says, and believes, he’s Jesus, doesn’t mean I’m under any obligation to give deference to his perception over my own.

The question we grapple with is whether perception constitutes reality, or whether there is an absolute reality that exists outside of perception. [emphasis added]

Regardless, the ownership of any man’s identity ends at the entrance to my cunt. From that point, I’m absolutely entitled to an opinion.

The physicists don't actually agree on the answer to that question at this point in time. There is experimental evidence that suggests the former (no, I'm not kidding).

On 4/19/2023 at 10:02 AM, ellentonboy said:

"I AM HOSTING IN MY CAR". - huh?  (I am guilty I have done it once, and he was worth it).

 

When they can't host and don't have a car and are a half-hour drive or more from me...  I've done it. More than once. In fact, one of the principals is now an occasional FB (but he moved even farther away from me). Generally worth it, and I can still manage the gymnastics though I'm not as flexible as I once was. VW Beetle is a bit tougher than a Ford Ranger, but they both work. Given the option, I'd rather do it outside the vehicle - it's so much easier on the legs - but a lot of guys aren't cool with that.

Re: banned words

It's not that they are offensive, it's that they are/were used as "code" for practices that are not welcome on the site (yes, there are such things, even on a site like this). The list is confidential (having it public information would defeat the purpose).

For a detailed discussion:

On 4/16/2023 at 5:12 AM, AirmaxAndy said:

The second point I wanted to highlight is how the scene and feitsh stores play into this culture - again with images and advertising, but also with exclusion by only offering their products in small sizes and skinny cuts. And they're a bit like SuperDRY in the UK - an XXL there is like an L everywhere else. If you ask for larger sizes in these stores you get reactions from the staff like:

"The only thing we have in the store that will fit you is some socks. Maybe." (Gear Berlin)

"We have a made to measure tailoring service..." (Blackstyle)

"Perhaps you should spend your money on a gym membership first" (One of the leather shops)  

"The bakery is next door"  (Frontstyle)

 

On 4/16/2023 at 6:15 AM, AirmaxAndy said:

This is pretty mild. In a wider context I've been on the receiving end of many comments like this on the scene over the years. 

I remember the guy on the reception to the Sauna in Waterloo told me "You'd be better off staying home with a packet of crisps. You won't get any fun in here."

The barman at Slut Club in Hamburg who took me in hand to the dark room only to ask "What is is like to not be able to see your dick except in a mirror?"

These get put down at the time as bitchy barbs, you try to ignore them and move on, but they they're not that harmless because they stay with you.  

I am gobsmacked (and I'm American) by the appalling degree of rudeness these people put on display. And your last line definitely speaks truth.

I've got pretty much ordinary love handles for someone my age (over 50), but am not in the bear category (more like wolf). However, I am very fond of the guys who are in the bear category - the model in the ad you posted is case in point: my reaction is "YUM!" So I find it tragic that my favorite playmates are being driven away from the venues I frequent...

On my darker days, I'm thoroughly convinced that western civilization has outlived its usefulness.

If you like muscle bears...

The moaning is a little much for my taste, but these guys are hot AF

https://thisvid.com/videos/hot-bear-fucking-jonah/

Wonderful work!

I always wanted  to have bare sex (my first time was bare, back in '85). I just knew with my brain that it was risky. So I was judicious - and mostly didn't, until around '98. At that point I gradually got more comfortable with the risk and did play bare some of the time, until PrEP came along in around 2012 and changed the landscape.

Ironically, my ex (dated from about '00 to '03, long distance, non-monogamous), whom I lured over to the raw sex camp, wound up seroconverting sometime around when we broke up or a little after that, while I was still negative. I'm guessing he might have been at greater risk, because he had poor dental health and hemorrhoids. HAART kept him a healthy poz man, though - he died of a heart attack.

6 hours ago, JimInWisc said:

9 hours ago, Vancrawman said:

Forgive the dumb question, but how is this even enforceable? How does a State know which sites its residents are going to? 

Essentially by IP Address.  

...which is why using a VPN will get around the blocks. The VPN host is connecting to the network, so the sites you connect to see its IP address rather than yours.

On 3/10/2023 at 10:13 AM, rawTOP said:

I've said this pretty loudly on the main adult industry forum - there is a completely different solution which won't put us out of business. They're called Private Access Tokens (aka PATs). Apple has already started to use PATs to replace CAPTCHA, and Google is working on implementing them as well. The idea is that your device knows more about you than anyone else. Apple and Google are using them to confirm that the user is human. They could also be used to confirm whether adult content blocks are in place on the device. Then the parent only has to do a minimal amount of parenting to turn on the adult content block. (And adults who don't want to see adult content can turn on the block as well). Then PATs can be used to confirm that adult content block is not turned on. It's quick, cheap and efficient. And PATs are completely privacy-protecting. There's no 3rd party who knows you're accessing adult content. There's no additional database that can be hacked since it happens in the moment with no logging.

Thing is, it's not age verification. It's verification of a lack of an adult content block. But it achieves the same goal. Actually, PATs would be more effective since the current laws don't apply to the major social media sites since the laws only apply to sites with >33% "harmful" content, and PATs are so quick, cheap and easy that even social media sites could be required to use them.

At the end of the day these laws are being written by religious conservatives with the goal of putting sites like this out of business. Our silence is allowing them to determine how children are protected. They are not the best people to be writing these laws - their goal is to put us out of business. If the tech industry worked with the adult industry we could do a better job at protecting kids and not put us out of business.

Thanks, @rawTOP, for this excellent explanation of the superior technological approach. Now I have solid ammunition to use when dealing with my legislators. Because just saying "this law is a bad idea" is at least helpful - they do, to some extent, listen to their constituency - but having a solid case to make for a BETTER solution carries much more weight.

If you were wearing more than a "lone ranger" type eye mask, I'd probably pass on fucking with you, for the simple reason that a lot of my erotic attraction to a man is wired to the face. Faceless bodies just aren't hot to me, and fragmentary body parts even less so. And I get to see so very many of them these days on cruise apps LOL

I don't believe that moderators can reliably use your IP address to know whether you're a former member of a site or forum, for two reasons:

• Multiple people can share the same IP address.
• A single person can have many IP addresses even in the case where they are not using a VPN, because mobile devices in general will have varying IP addresses depending on their current connectivity, and wired internet providers often use dynamic addressing.

If you have posted a lot of images as attachments in your posts (i.e. not in the Galleries), you may have run out of attachment space.

You can fix this by deleting some of them. If you look in the dropdown menu from your screen name (in the upper left of the display, right next to your avatar pic), you will find "My Attachments". Open this panel and it allows you to manage all of the images you have attached.

On 4/8/2023 at 3:35 AM, mort said:

The laws of many countries are clear it's not criminal.

The laws of the U.S. (where this site is hosted and where @ErosWired resides) are clear, in point of fact, that copyright violations can be prosecuted both civilly and criminally. I looked it up.

https://www.copyright.gov/title17/92chap5.html#506

Moderator:

This thread is in the health forum, NOT in the HIV fetish forum. Please keep posts here on the original topic.

17 minutes ago, Njn0mc said:

Why are points foe such a long time?

I have points that last almost 2 years.

Points last a long time to remind us to abide by the rules, because some people have a tendency to forget. Often.

Some points last longer than others, because they are for an infraction that is bigger problem for the site.

Please note that the restrictions that sometimes come with an infraction DO NOT last nearly so long.

On 1/16/2023 at 10:45 AM, toolman1966 said:

Love guys getting bred in public restrooms

[think before following links] https://newtumbl.com/x_jtEyM0vyjzcY

Looks like this one was taken down 😕 Love public restroom action here, too - keep 'em coming!

This article gives some ways to do that:

https://imagesuggest.com/blog/resize-photos-iphone/

Awesome!

Illegal and "fucked up" don't qualify as "evil" in my book. Immoral does (by definition). However, as I see it, morality (as opposed to ethics) is personal and situational. That's precisely why I think legislating morality is a seriously bad idea.

I've done quite a few illegal and fucked up things, and even a few that were pushing the boundaries of my own morals. I've never done anything I would construe as "evil".

The illegal stuff I won't mention here (even though the statute of limitations has probably expired).

Fucked up... well, there was the time I was in the sex club and pointed the guy who insisted on a condom to my bottle of mineral oil when he was looking for lube. And the time I pissed all over a guy in the middle of a college classroom (after hours). And way way way too many instances of public sex in parks, restrooms, an elevator, a graveyard... Did I mention the time I got thrown out of Sears?

We (the site staff) don't do anything of that kind.

You are welcome to send private messages with photos of the both of you together, or of course you could just use email or text. You are also allowed to post public pictures of the both of you, but they must be in the straight/bi forums.

3 minutes ago, TwinkChaserSlut said:

What is its purpose?

Per @rawTOP's original post at the beginning of the topic:

On 8/5/2012 at 2:03 PM, rawTOP said:

For a while now you guys have been discussing the idea of a cumdump network - basically guys in different locations that will take any load on call, no questions asked. Let's stop the talking and turn it into a reality...

If you want to be a cumdump in the cumdump network post a message here

58 minutes ago, BergenGuy said:

er, "...which would explain WHY it is limited to the US."

This site really needs an edit button.

It has an edit button. It's active for about 10 minutes after you make a post. You should have been able to edit your post by clicking on the "..." menu at the upper right corner and selecting "edit". If you don't see "edit" in that menu, use the report option to request that a moderator make the change for you.

1. Open the Cum Dump Network topic in the general forum
2. Enter "dallas" in the search box at the upper right
3. Make sure the pulldown menu on the search box is set to "This Topic"
4. Click the search button

I got 23 results just now.

On 12/30/2022 at 3:43 PM, Vancrawman said:

every victim of my toxins gets their own brush. (I keep them and look at them sometimes.)

Now, that is art.

17 minutes ago, ErosWired said:

There are multiple reasons why that “saying” (which I have never heard said, ever, until now) cannot be true, but let’s start with plain statistics. The average length of the erect human penis is 5.1 - 5.5 inches. That’s not small-to-average, that’s the average. Polling and anecdotal accounts on this site consistently place the population of bottoms as approximately 66% of this community, with exclusive Tops only making up about 10%, so men who take it up the ass at least part of the time constitute 90% of penis owners across the range of potential sizes. Cocks of 7” or greater are in the 90th percentile of cocks out there, so there can be no meaningful statistical correlation between sexual role preference and penis length.

I so want to make this into a practice problem for statistics and overlapping sets on standardized exams.