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I Do Like Bareback But I Don't Do Drugs, Is That So Strange?
PhilUrass replied to bbkros's topic in General Discussion
No drugs for me (17 years clean & sober) and I generally avoid guys on chems (unless I'm in a bath house and need to unload) as they're so often too out of it to connect. -
Rapeday - the only advice I'd add is that if you're inexperienced as a bottom, buy some toys and start working that hole. And find a top who will take his time opening your hole up with lots of rimming and fingers/ass play. When I bottomed, the best advice I got was to douche properly beforehand and when a dick enters, push on your sphincter as though you're taking a dump...it feels weird, but if you've douched, there's nothing to worry about...this helps relax the sphincter so entry is a lot easier and less uncomfortable.
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If you've been talking since 2009, haven't yet taken a load and flaked out three times, I'd say you're more into the idea/fantasy than actually doing it, so stop wasting the time of these poz guys...there are plenty of willing bottms who will show up and will bend over for a load.
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So Whats Your Day Job, When You Are Not Being A Raw Slut?
PhilUrass replied to wood's topic in General Discussion
I have a small mens luxury neckwear business (neckties & bow ties) - VaVaNeckwear. -
I don't mind shaved/smooth guys and will still fuck, but I love body hair on a guy...thick bushy pubes and a furry ass with a thickly carpeted fuckhole drive me wild.
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Has Anyone Here Converted From An Undetectable Guy?
PhilUrass replied to N_Cordova's topic in HIV Risk & Risk Reduction
I'd say that if he wasn't undetectable at the time, then you weren't pozzed by an undetectable guy. -
I think I lasted a couple of days before I had my first post-piercing wank. It hurt a little, but it was incredible. I think I waited about 6 weeks before I had oral or anal, to make sure it was well healed. I'm now at 7mm (on my way to 8mm/0ga) and have found the larger sizes more enjoyable, both for myself and the guys I fuck. It's the only piercing I've kept wearing jewellery in and have no regrets.
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I'm lost...I don't see that it matters if a guy has never been fucked by a PA before. PAs are smooth, there are no sharp edges. I've got a 7mm ring and have bred plenty of guys, many of them it's their first time with a pierced cock, and I've never had problems.
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Has Anyone Here Converted From An Undetectable Guy?
PhilUrass replied to N_Cordova's topic in HIV Risk & Risk Reduction
As others have said, the risk from an undetectable guy is miniscule. He should also be free of any STDs, as should you, and he should have been undetectable for 6+ months. As bearbandit said, some guys lie, so find a guy you can trust to be honest. And it's safer than taking loads from "neg" guys, unless they've not had sex since their last test and that the last test was done at least 3 months after the last time they had sex. -
Well, that's my approach. Life is full of risks - every time I step out the door, I run a risk. And staying in, I run the risk of the roof falling of the gas exploding. An STI infection is more likely than those, but I weigh up the benefits and accept the risk. I had the clap a couple of times when I was neg, from gob jobs...it's a quick and easy thing to clear up. Same with most other STIs. My view is that they're made out to be terrible things to acquire by people with sex/shame issues. If someone gets a verruca from a public pool, they're not judged for having used a public pool. Shit happens. Get tested regularly, take the meds as directed if you're diagnosed and refrain from sex until it's cleared.
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Enjoy it as a fantasy. Whilst HIV is a manageable condition for most of us, it's not a walk in the park. If I could go back in time, I'd go back and get on PrEP so that I could enjoy raw fucks with poz and neg guys alike, rather than going back to being neg.
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I thought about getting a biohazard tattoo done in the first few months of diagnosis, as a way of accepting my poz body and of coming to terms with things. I didn't and I'm glad...I don't want something on my skin marking me as "toxic", because that's not how I view HIV.
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I'm undetectable and have no qualms about breeding neg guys, whether or nor they're on PrEP. I'm 99% adherent to my ART and so the risk of transmission is incredibly low. I do always make sure any neg guys I seed understand what undetectable means and that it's safer, not safe, so that I know they're making an informed decision.
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I answered "Yeah, Sorta - but there are some negatives." I was diagnosed almost 5 years ago and it was earth-shattering. I'd (almost) always been safe and HIV was one of my biggest fears. It led to the break-down of the relationship I was in and I then made the decision to move back to the UK (I'd been living in San Francisco for many years). In the first few months, I was fortunate to be surrounded by friends, love and acceptance and spoke with a lot of poz guys about their experience of living with HIV and found a 12-step meeting for folks living with HIV, too (I'd been sober a long time already). And I told all my family, who were all totally cool. I just knew that for me, carrying around secrets doesn't work. I also attended a weekend seminar type affair organised by the SF Stop AIDS peeps, which was awesome. 5 years on and I'm at peace with being poz. I have no shame about it (I'm upfront about my status on dating/hook up sites), and no guilt. I'm fortunate that I've not had serious health problems, and have excellent and free care/treatment here in the UK (which was a big influence on my decision to return here). It's not been an easy ride, and I've gone through some dark times, but today I'm happy. I wouldn't go back and change things. It's taught me that the worst thing imaginable happened and I survived. And of course, I'd be lying if I said my sex life hasn't improved...I rarely topped, as condoms kill my hard-on and I feel jack shit with one on. Early in diagnosis I discovered my love for taking loads...but then when I tried topping bare....man...it's the best thing ever, especially when I get to dump my load inside some pig's hungry fuckhole at the end of a long pounding. Bottomhole - I hope it gets better for you. It can take time to adjust, so hold on.
