I understand about gear putting guys into a certain headspace. In my own case it’s leather - I always have at least one piece of leather on at all times, no matter where I am. It gives me a feeling of sexiness and confidence and I love the way I look and feel and smell wearing leather pants or boots and a harness or armbands/gauntlets to work (frequently under work clothes, I mean it’s not for everyone so it might make some people very uncomfortable, which would be inappropriate and unprofessional in a work situation but iykyk) and even to the grocery store, sometimes showing but other times only I have the secret thrill of knowing it’s there…