When did you know you were a bottom?

[Pampix]

The day I could not get hard anymore of any sexual (visual or bodily ) stimulation but felt tingling between my balls and ass when seeing a nice dick and only be able to cum through anal. The moment my sexuality completely shifted from my penis to my ass. After the first time I had my first anal orgasm and almost passed out.

[MountMe63]

On 6/14/2013 at 3:39 PM, divorcedbottom said:

 Did you guys always feel the same too or did some of you start as vers and overtime shift to always bottoming? Kind of a lame question, but just looking to see what other guys felt.

I started to realize I was interested in cock. The first man I was ever with I sucked him off in a car at a local park, so getting buttfucked wasn't a consideration. His cum tasted great and I realized what a fag I was so by the next weekend I was on the prowl in the same park. 

The second guy asked me the old question, "What are you looking for?" and I responded, "Someone who wants to have fun." He asked me what kind of fun I was looking for and I replied, "The kind of fun that ends up with me on my knees and a dick in my mouth." This was an extremely cruisy park back in the day, so I wasn't being all that bold. If you were hanging around that park back in those days, everyone knew what you were looking for. 

Fortunately, he took me back to his place and I spent a good hour sucking his cock. I'm not sure why I did it, but I finally whispered in his ear and asked if he wanted to fuck me, which he did. Once that dick slid up my ass and he shot a big load inside of me, that was the end of that. I was a bottom. I've only fucked one guy. The rest has been me getting fucked. It was so good I showed up the next day knocking at his door to get fucked again. After we were done, he asked if I wanted me to move in with him.

I was young and the whole experience freaked me out a little and I never went back. I only have three big regrets. One, I wish I had told him before he fucked me that my ass was virgin, so he could have enjoyed that. Two, I never got the chance to taste his cum before it slid down my throat. Three, I should have kept going back. He was awesome and probably boyfriend material.

What got me curious about gay sex was one of those Penthouse magazine letters where some guy went camping with a buddy and ended up getting fucked. His description of having a guy "inside of him" intrigued me, so I was probably a bottom right from the start. 

I love to suck dick but my asshole is ready whenever you are. 

[pnwboy18]

I knew when I was 10 that I wanted to know how it felt to have my dad's cock all the way inside of me. After it finally happened, I wanted it all the time!

[hungry_hole]

When I was in my early 20's I had a very good friend who was gay and he was very open about his sexual conquests. He was in his early 30's and although I liked him very much, I wasn't interested in him sexually. 

He would tell me about his visits to the sauna and sex clubs in New York. In those days guys who liked getting fucked would not call themselves a bottom, like they do now. He would tell me about getting fucked by a Porto Rican and how they yelled "Papito, papito..." while shooting inside his ass. Listening to his sex stories would turn me on. 

So when I went to the YMCA specifically to have sex with anon guys, I knew what I wanted and what turned me on. I spent 4 days at the YMCA and from my friend I knew the drill: when he went to the sauna he would lie in his bed on his stomach leaving the door ajar. 

So, in today's language, I learned how hot it was to be a bottom from my bottom friend, so I was a bottom the first time I had sex with a guy.

Getting fucked and taking loads became addictive. I was then young, in very good shape and I looked very masculine, so I got lots of attention because in those days guys who would be open about enjoying getting fucked were usually more effeminate. Some masculine guys would enjoy getting fucked but were more like closet bottoms. But I was open about enjoying getting fucked. 

The fun ended with the AIDS crisis. I still remember being at the sauna in Toronto and a guy pulled out a condom, something that had never happened to me before. 

Then in the 1990's I came back to getting fucked without a condom, but I was now a Bareback Bottom. I made the decision to again take anon loads when some guys would scold barebackers at the sauna. But for many years I had a lot of fun because the world was not full of bottoms like it is today. 

In the 1970's guys were embarrassed to admit taking the woman's role, as it was considered, as now guys are proud to be a bottom 

[Iker80]

I started as top only, I was not wanting anything happening in my butt. Still, guys I fucked liked it, but I felt an intense response to anything touching my hole. It's personal and not somewhere I was used to other people touching. But I wanted to know the feeling so I trusted it could be good and tried it, and after a few not great experiences I had one that felt good. I'm still a tight nervous bottom, so I choose guys I trust, but it can feel amazing when it's happening properly. So, first time it felt really good I knew this was something I'd do again.

[pupHawaii]

as soon as i knew i was gay it was because i knew i wanted dick .. never questioned it .. dick is fucking amazing .. 😉

 

[Sfmike64]

Bottoming was very very complicated for me as a young adult. I was abused as a kid (12-15). My abuser was not gentle or skilled. He didn't take my pleasure into account and didn't use much lube. Hence, I did NOT like being fucked, even though I would sometimes let men fuck me when I started cruising ABS around 16 and going home with people. I gritted it but did not enjoy it. 

Then I was living in New Haven and met a man through a personal ad (that's how you sometimes met back then!) I was 19. He had just finished dental school in Chicago and moved back to NYC. Chuck. Probably about 27. Cute, short, furry, NICE. Ticked ALL THE BOXES for me. I went to visit him in Brooklyn for the weekend. He took me to see Whoopi Goldberg's one woman show (which makes it the fall of 1984, she was not famous yet, that show made her famous). 

He got me stoned and fucked me and for the first time I was relaxed enough (thank you weed!) to let someone fuck me and enjoy it. I often wondered what happened to him. I've tried looking him up but could not find him. He would be about 68 now if he made it through the AIDS epidemic alive. 

[NLbear]

The first time I got fucked I knew that was it for me. I loved it!! I tried topping a few times because I thought (when I was 17/18) that is was expected (you fuck me/I fuck you). But pretty quickly found out there were gay guys who fucked but didn't take it up the butt. Those were the ones for me 😉 

[StlBottom]

At some point in my early 20s, was thinking about sex with a male, had always been straight, but the thought of fucking a guy or getting a blow job was completely repugnant to me.  If I was aroused with a blue-steel cock. it would be gone in seconds  just thinking about it, same when a bottom wanted me to fuck them or let him blow me.  Total turnoff.

Have always wondered why as I prefer fucking the ladies in the ass and never in their pussy.

The passable trans mtf guys really cause a major cognitive dissonance for me.  Too old to snag one in their prime but god, some of them are so hot.