Do You Discuss HIV Status Before Barebacking?

[DirtyLoadBear]

Yeah sometimes. To find out if they’re on prep or not

[cman54]

I never bring up the subject of status. If the top does I will definitely talk about it. I tell them I'm okay with what ever their status is. I have only had a couple of guys bring up the subject. I wish more would. I would like to hear one tell me he is poz and not on meds after he has cum in me. I would say can you do it again?

[Heir2012]

Yes, but I'm left trusting they're telling me the truth. He's not taking a test right before we fuck; he's not pulling up test results. I'm fully trusting that he's neg, but he could be lying. 

It's a risk, but I do ask. 

[Norcalfukkr]

18 minutes ago, Heir2012 said:

Yes, but I'm left trusting they're telling me the truth. He's not taking a test right before we fuck; he's not pulling up test results. I'm fully trusting that he's neg, but he could be lying. 

It's a risk, but I do ask. 

I had a fuck session where the bottom went overboard on showing me evidence of his recent test results. It really didn’t matter to me cause I was fuckjng him regardless. As a top I had no worries of catching anything . I ended up fucking him so good and cumming twice in short succession and flooding his ass.  As usual, I’d just piss, wash my cock and pop two doxy and not have an issue. 

[PozToxicChemTop]

No. When I do it’s to make sure we are both poz toxic

[cumfillme]

Not at all. I always assume to the top is Poz

[bihairy]

ON PReP so I don't ask or care what hot hole I breed.

[scarnick]

stopped PrEP.   Welcome all loads

[leatherpunk16]

It's a long thread, so maybe I already said this. Whatever, I'll say it again. LOL

Most of the time - like 95% - I will say to my partner, "Is there anything I should know about you before we do this?" And most guys will be right upfront about it: neg on prep and doxy, poz undetectable, etc.

Some men will play dumb and answer with, "In regards to...?" And I have to tell them I want to know about their sexual health, which leaves no ambiguity. Then they answer. 

I've found that asking the question in this way is not accusatory or suspicion, so if they have a status different from mine, they have the opportunity to say so without judgment. And getting past this allows us to focus on the sex we're about to enjoy (or not in some cases). I do this with fisting bottoms as well - I've got at least one friend who fisted and got pozzed through it.

 

[Marlin]

How times have changed. For the vast majority of men I hook up with status isn't even discussed and hardly anyone uses condoms. Every poz guy I know is on meds and  undetectable, and the neg guys are on PrEP. A lot of the guys that know my status are turned on by it and fetishize it. 

[bbslutdanny]

I usually never do, unless the guy I'm hooking up with mentions it. As a bb bottom, I find that most tops don't seem to care or they're on PREP or lying about being on prep and are already poz...  

[billy88666]

6 hours ago, leatherpunk16 said:

I do this with fisting bottoms as well - I've got at least one friend who fisted and got pozzed through it.

What?????  Did he fist someone when he had an open wound on his hand?? It would be a very foolish thing to fist anyone when you have an open wound as there's all sorts of other bacteria in the anal canal which could have lead to a host of infections.

[leatherpunk16]

Just now, billy88666 said:

What?????  Did he fist someone when he had an open wound on his hand?? It would be a very foolish thing to fist anyone when you have an open wound as there's all sorts of other bacteria in the anal canal which could have lead to a host of infections.

I don't remember the details, but that must have been it. 

[cockfun69]

7 hours ago, leatherpunk16 said:

Most of the time - like 95% - I will say to my partner, "Is there anything I should know about you before we do this?" 

Does the answer affect whether or how play .. or not?

[leatherpunk16]

3 hours ago, cockfun69 said:

Does the answer affect whether or how play .. or not?

Never