Can we retire “BBC”?

[DrrAld]

I’m a bottom. 200%. Insatiable.

 

I’m also a good slut and though my cunt is open to all men, like most, I prefer thick and long. However, you don’t see me asking for BWC or BLC, so can we please retire the BBC moniker?

 

I understand preferences and attraction and don’t begrudge anyone theirs. However, in the sex positive community, I’ve seen too many examples of racial stereotype/fetishisation passed off as simply a desire for big dick.

 

Furthermore, at least once a day on Grindr, BBRT et al, I’m approached by another bottom asking me to fuck them. I’m Black therefore must be hung and somehow THEIR pussy will be the one to magically make me want to be the dominate top who will fulfil their fantasy of having a “BBC” impaling them.

 

This frankly reduces me down to an acronym and I’m going to just put it out there (because most guys don’t): it makes me and a lot of other Black men feel really shitty.

 

Can we please retire this and get back to the regularly scheduled breeding?

[bredbiyou]

1 hour ago, DrrAld said:

This frankly reduces me down to an acronym and I’m going to just put it out there (because most guys don’t): it makes me and a lot of other Black men feel really shitty.

I really appreciate you sharing your perspective on this, DrrAld.

[SouthernCumDump]

While I absolutely understand your position and respect it (in many ways agree with it), there’s a lot of black guys I’ve hooked up with that use this themselves in descriptions or in messages. 

 

For the record, I love many types of men, but black guys are my favorites in bed... just sayin’ ?

[DrrAld]

21 minutes ago, GaBottom said:

While I absolutely understand your position and respect it (in many ways agree with it), there’s a lot of black guys I’ve hooked up with that use this themselves in descriptions or in messages. 

 

For the record, I love many types of men, but black guys are my favorites in bed... just sayin’ ?

Absolutely. And there’s race and role play that I have no judgement of.

 

What I’m talking about is the inclination to just throw out the term “BBC” in casual or generalised sex talk as if it’s a monolithic idea like, “I’m into fisting”, “I’m into prolapsed cunt”, “I’m into BBC”. 

 

We’re people; not a fetish.

Edited January 17, 2019 by DrrAld

[BttmReady]

I'm just a bit tired of being told and lectured as to how every little thing is offensive.

[barecub85]

4 hours ago, BttmReady said:

I'm just a bit tired of being told and lectured as to how every little thing is offensive.

Gee, it must be so difficult to have to be considerate of other people’s feelings. I’m so sorry for you.

Seriously, though, the way people use the term BBC has always made me super uncomfortable. I think one of the worst examples I noticed recently was how Tim Tales was titling their video previews. They’d have a video of a threeway with two black guys fucking a white guy, and they’d title it something like “Two BBCs for Cody” or something like that. The black guys didn’t even get fake porn names...just “BBC,” as if they were an object like a dildo. I stopped going to the site because it was so awkward and dehumanizing.

[Guest Cle216fkr]

Yes. I'll open to alot of things but the "BBC?" Messages are an immediate turn off. Ive met bottoms who were literally not attracted to black men just black dick and the experience was terrible.

[Guest nelly26]

It won't ever go away. Ever. You just have to deal with it and avoid those who use these terms. I'm beyond tired of everything gay catering to white men.  Notice how every single race is sexually stereotyped except white men.  It's pretty simple to understand why and how that elevates white men into a false sense of superiority over others as the most desired group of men for sex and dating. You read about it all the time on this website. 

I wish that:  1 - there were more online kink spaces for black people and, 2 - black men stopped doing porn with non-blacks, period. I honestly think that black men who do studio gay porn have ZERO self-esteem because they aren't even as physically attractive as their white co-stars, and they are basically receiving the short end of the stick.  When black men are casted, it's very noticeable that they will have a nice body and a large penis but lack in the face department (meaning, they're more or less ugly).  White studio porn stars have a nice face, nice body and nice dick - a trifecta so to speak.  To me, it's obvious that studio producers don't care about the face when it comes to black actors (they aren't judged for their handsomeness like white actors are), all that matters is body and dick, and we see this constantly play out in the real world on apps and social gay spaces.  The proof is that black gays complain about rejection from non-blacks but everyone loves a black top with a nice body, right?  

Edited January 17, 2019 by nelly26

[Guest Cumlaut]

16 hours ago, nelly26 said:

 

When black men are casted, it's very noticeable that they will have a nice body and a large penis but lack in the face department (meaning, they're more or less ugly).  White studio porn stars have a nice face, nice body and nice dick - a trifecta so to sp

I don't think there's many "ugly" people in porn at all.  You must be watching some shitty porn.

Black men on our screens (whether it's porn or mainstream TV) are almost always beautiful.  The only one I can think of who's an "ugly" black top was Ben Gunn. And I didnt even have any objection to him until I saw his nasty butthole while he was fucking Caleb Daniels. British porn star Tyson Tyler, would you call him ugly? What about Hot Rod?

The only "ugly" black guys I see are the grumpy grey-haired middle-aged ones I see on a bus or train.....

Tops in porn are there to be aggressive, dominating figures and stunt cocks, they arent meant to be pretty anyway... this goes for all races....

Edited January 18, 2019 by Cumlaut

[Ranger Rick]

On 1/17/2019 at 3:39 AM, BttmReady said:

I'm just a bit tired of being told and lectured as to how every little thing is offensive.

It is the sacred duty of rich white liberals to lecture everyone about what offends minorities. 

[tallslenderguy]

On 1/16/2019 at 10:23 PM, DrrAld said:

Absolutely. And there’s race and role play that I have no judgement of.

 

What I’m talking about is the inclination to just throw out the term “BBC” in casual or generalised sex talk as if it’s a monolithic idea like, “I’m into fisting”, “I’m into prolapsed cunt”, “I’m into BBC”. 

 

We’re people; not a fetish.

First off, thank you for speaking up.  Secondly, i'm sorry you had to speak up. fuck. 

There is also the phenomena of internalizing something from a dominant culture in order to find a semblance of acceptance, and i think a lot of "race play'  falls into that category? 

 

[Guest Natural-bttm]

All the short acrimonious are out of control.  For many of us that don't text much have no clue what half mean.  I enjoy all races of men, it's not because of a large dick, large are great but sometimes they are just too big.  The biggest I've had was on a white'ish dude.  Even though I'm very attracted to darker skin men.  They are softer and kinder than the typical ego driven white guys.  The sex by far is so much better with darker skin men.  The most amazing thing that most really don't get.  Under all our skins we are all built the same,  veins, muscles, organs and so on.  So if under our skin covering, who was the moron that ever said any one color was the correct one?  That was the dumbest thing I've ever heard.  We are all humans, I enjoy being one with all shades of men.   

[evilqueerpig]

My first man said, "Sexy comes in all shapes, sizes and colors!" and he was right.  The only race that matters is the human race.  While it's not as offensive as the "n" word, I never use "BBC" because it's disrespectful.

[Guest nelly26]

9 hours ago, Cumlaut said:

I don't think there's many "ugly" people in porn at all.  You must be watching some shitty porn.

Black men on our screens (whether it's porn or mainstream TV) are almost always beautiful.  The only one I can think of who's an "ugly" black top was Ben Gunn. And I didnt even have any objection to him until I saw his nasty butthole while he was fucking Caleb Daniels. British porn star Tyson Tyler, would you call him ugly? What about Hot Rod?

The only "ugly" black guys I see are the grumpy grey-haired middle-aged ones I see on a bus or train.....

Tops in porn are there to be aggressive, dominating figures and stunt cocks, they arent meant to be pretty anyway... this goes for all races....

I think that's your perception, and I think your perception is also influenced by you being white and from the United Kingdom so there is a disconnection. There's nothing wrong with this. I'm black and from the United States where most porn is made.  I know how the history of my country and porn play off of each other.  I stopped watching studio produced (studio meaning "mainstream") gay porn years ago for the reason that I wrote.  Black men that perform in that arena do not bring the face.  The don't bring handsomeness or prettiness like white, Latino, Asian, porn stars do.  With black men, no one cares about your face, the producers and viewers care about your body and dick. That's all.  I looked up on Pornhub the guys you previously mentioned and facially, they all look average at best with above-average bodies.  This is just what's expected for black men.  Myself, I would like to see black gay porn actors with handsome faces, nice bodies and nice dicks.  Brian Pumper and Mr. Marcus types come to mind but they only perform straight porn. Studio gay porn is made for the white gaze, therefore they don't care if the black guy looks terrible facially, as long as he has a nice body and a big dick. This goes for both black tops and "the rare" black bottoms. 

I found this link called, "The 14 Biggest Dicks in Gay Porn Right Now".  It has pictures and I wonder who out of the 14 is the least facially attractive, hmmm....

https://www.thesword.com/the-13-biggest-dicks-in-gay-porn-right-now.html

Edited January 18, 2019 by nelly26

[Guest Cumlaut]

35 minutes ago, nelly26 said:

I think that's your perception, and I think your perception is also influenced by you being white and from the United Kingdom so there is a disconnection. There's nothing wrong with this. I'm black and from the United States where most porn is made.  I know how the history of my country and porn play off of each other.  I stopped watching studio produced (studio meaning "mainstream") gay porn years ago for the reason that I wrote.  Black men that perform in that arena do not bring the face.  The don't bring handsomeness or prettiness like white, Latino, Asian, porn stars do.  With black men, no one cares about your face, the producers and viewers care about your body and dick. That's all.  I looked up on Pornhub the guys you previously mentioned and facially, they all look average at best with above-average bodies.  This is just what's expected for black men.  Myself, I would like to see black gay porn actors with handsome faces, nice bodies and nice dicks.  

Ok I get it, I'm sorry black gay porn stars don't all look like Usher. I must be a huge racist! 

Why don't you start a porn company of your own? 

BIG BLACK COCK.

Deep-voiced black guys with huge weapons are gonna be in gay porn for a long time......... so... get over it. And theyre gonna be in my fantasies if I can get this lecture outta my head...