New Meaning of “No Load Refused Cumdump?”

[BlackDude]

Maybe I am getting old and I need someone younger to explain this to me. I have always understood that when a guy puts “no load refused” and “Cumdump” In there profile that meant conversation was minimal and boils down to what time and what place. 
 

Lately, I have been seeing a lot of guys with this in their profile, I message them, and I hear back stuff like:

How hung are you?

More pics?

Sorry, only into white (or insert other type) guys

This guy is in his way to load me up, maybe after?

Looking for small group of 4-5

No response at all

 

Personally, I think you guys are just putting this in their profile because they know they will get more clicks and more attention. But maybe I am wrong and missing the whole point? I thought “no load refused” meant come fuck me and get off, then bounce.

 

 

[Guygonebad]

@BlackDude you are absolutely correct. When I put in an ad; “CumDump- NO LOAD REFUSED.” It means I take all cocks, any cocks, no matter your age, weight, race, cock size, or anything else. It’s all about the top’s pleasure. Most of us “real” CumDumps operate that way. If a CumDump advertising “no loads refused” and they stat asking you questions, then move on to the next one unless your ready to see if you pass their ridiculous test. 

[backdoorjimmy]

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Personally, I think you guys are just putting this in their profile because they know they will get more clicks and more attention. But maybe I am wrong and missing the whole point? I thought “no load refused” meant come fuck me and get off, then bounce.

I think it boils down to two things:

1. Guys who are cruising for dick pics, or
2. Guys who think they want something and dared themselves to go on grindr, only to face the moment of truth and realize that they're not ready for what they say they want.

It happens with tops too. They say they want to dig out a bottom's ass, but then you send them pics and they disappear. When I'm on grindr, which admittedly isn't very often anymore, I try to make it as hassle free to fuck my ass as I can. So when a top blocks me or arranges a time and place, then doesn't show up, I just assume they were out for ass pics or freaked out at the last minute because it was real.

 

[Spunkinmyarse]

The only one of those excuses that is reasonable is the fourth one.

As a bottom, if you put up an ad saying you’re open to all loads, you can almost guarantee that you’ll get no responses at all for several hours, and then suddenly get two or three all at once, all wanting to use you at the same time.

It’s a tricky situation to handle: some guys love the idea of another guy there at the same time, but others don’t, and there may be other constraints at play that mean it’s hard to host two or more guys at once (eg: if you’re in the middle of a good fuck with one guy, are you going to break that off, put on some clothes and go downstairs to answer the door, etc?).

So I think it is reasonable to ask if you can put it off till later, annoying though that may be.

[xxbjn2]

6 minutes ago, Spunkinmyarse said:

The only one of those excuses that is reasonable is the fourth one.

As a bottom, if you put up an ad saying you’re open to all loads, you can almost guarantee that you’ll get no responses at all for several hours, and then suddenly get two or three all at once, all wanting to use you at the same time.

It’s a tricky situation to handle: some guys love the idea of another guy there at the same time, but others don’t, and there may be other constraints at play that mean it’s hard to host two or more guys at once (eg: if you’re in the middle of a good fuck with one guy, are you going to break that off, put on some clothes and go downstairs to answer the door, etc?).

So I think it is reasonable to ask if you can put it off till later, annoying though that may be.

fuck mate, I'd be happy to cue up to spunkinyourarse 🙂  sexy fucker.

[Guest Descartes70817]

Perhaps they realize just how racist they would sound if they said ""no "pick your color" load refused"". If that's the case they're not getting my load - period.

[hairyone]

Asking, "How hung are you?" could be for different reasons.  He may be a size queen (which means he's lying about "no load refused") or, like me, want to make sure he's "prepped" for the big ones. And, by that, I mean clean deep enough.

I do my best to clean out as a bottom.  But there is some extra effort needed to prepare for the big boys!  🍆 😲

[ErosWired]

I don’t see what there is to be confused about in the space of three fairly distinct words - No Loads Refused. How many ways can that phrase actually be interpreted if it’s being used without purpose of deceit?

When I say I Refuse No Loads, or its corollary, Take All Loads, I mean exactly that. No conditions, no qualifications, no ifs, no ands, no buts. So to answer your question, for those who are genuinely No Loads Refused bottoms, the phrase has not acquired a new or different meaning. It means exactly what it says.

Whether there are assholes out there co-opting the phrase for other purposes is another question. I haven’t heard any good excuses above for the kinds of runaround you’re getting. I tell the men who fuck me up front that if another man is using me when they arrive, they may have to wait a few minutes, but they’ll have me. And I never ask about size because I always prepare myself for the most extreme possible use that might occur - it’s unthinkable that I might have to turn a Top away because I’m unprepared. After all, I’m only a No Loads Refused bottom until I refuse a load. After that, I can’t make that claim anymore.

[Guygonebad]

16 minutes ago, ErosWired said:

I don’t see what there is to be confused about in the space of three fairly distinct words - No Loads Refused. How many ways can that phrase actually be interpreted if it’s being used without purpose of deceit?

When I say I Refuse No Loads, or its corollary, Take All Loads, I mean exactly that. No conditions, no qualifications, no ifs, no ands, no buts. So to answer your question, for those who are genuinely No Loads Refused bottoms, the phrase has not acquired a new or different meaning. It means exactly what it says.

Whether there are assholes out there co-opting the phrase for other purposes is another question. I haven’t heard any good excuses above for the kinds of runaround you’re getting. I tell the men who fuck me up front that if another man is using me when they arrive, they may have to wait a few minutes, but they’ll have me. And I never ask about size because I always prepare myself for the most extreme possible use that might occur - it’s unthinkable that I might have to turn a Top away because I’m unprepared. After all, I’m only a No Loads Refused bottom until I refuse a load. After that, I can’t make that claim anymore.

I’m with @ErosWired. Your either a NO LOAD REFUSED CumDump or you are not. Tops should have the expectation when they reply that you’re ready when they are. Yes, I get tops that start asking questions, etc. I’m respectful, I give them the local and room number and exactly what @ErosWiredsays, if guys are breeding when u arrive please wait your turn. Then it’s up to the top to decide if it works for them.  As for me, I’m totally prepared when that ad goes up...period. 

[MuscledHorse]

Some guys want to pretend at being massive manwhores but really want to be selective. That is not how the true male cum dumpster lives. We spread out legs for any guy as long as means we'll be filled with yet another nut load. Guys that put up exceptions haven't truly let go and given themselves over to being the human equivalent of farm yard breeding stock. 

[Guygonebad]

31 minutes ago, MuscledHorse said:

Some guys want to pretend at being massive manwhores but really want to be selective. That is not how the true male cum dumpster lives. We spread out legs for any guy as long as means we'll be filled with yet another nut load. Guys that put up exceptions haven't truly let go and given themselves over to being the human equivalent of farm yard breeding stock. 

Totally agree with your comments! Breeding stock! 

[BootmanLA]

I will toss this out there: I think there can be a difference in meaning for "no loads refused" depending on whether it's used in an ad for a party/hosting situation - the kind of thing BBRT classifies as "Local Parties" or "Quick Connect ads" - or used in a profile. In the former case, sure: the bottom should be prepped, ready to take whatever size cock(s) show up, and no matter what skin color, HIV status, or anything else may describe them. Those sorts of ads include time parameters, so there's no excuse for not being ready when you said you'd be.

But in a profile, where it describes more the general approach the poster takes to sex? It's more reasonable to ask at least some questions, because there's no guarantee the poster is ready right that moment to do what he says. He may feel he's ready to handle a 6-incher without a lot more prep but not a niner. He might be an "on demand" PrEPster and only is "no loads refused" when he knows his day-of double dose has had time to kick in for a few hours. And so on. A bottom asking questions when he doesn't have a "right now" kind of ad posted is not out of the question. 

That doesn't excuse race-related bigotry, of course; "no load refused, unless you're not white" would be a blunt but honest statement; they don't use that, of course, because they know even lots of white guys would be turned off by that kind of attitude. 

[fuckyouraw777]

I don't mind a minimal number of questions; and given the number of "bots" [of the robot kind sadly] out there, flakes and let's face it, plain dishonest people; so one or two questions just to see that I'm not a robot seems fair to me.

I'll usually get annoyed if they'll ask me questions I've already answered in my profile (hello, what are profiles for!!!) but something like, "Hi, how are you?", "What are you looking for?" and general banter is actually good (because it also helps ME figure out if they're an advertisement robot and such).

Like BootmanLA just above, if they're on something which has a time setup or a party setup or they've posted a time/location and then they say: "Oh I don't like [whatever they don't happen to like about you]", I wish they'd not waste my time (see my comment about what are profiles for...or in this case the description of ads/wanted party attendees etc).

 

 

[PopperMeUp79]

I’m with most of you guys on this — No loads refused shouldn’t involve questions beyond, “How soon will you be here?” And “Do you want this anon?” When I posted my first No loads refused ad on BBRT, it was only after I’d thought about it long and hard. I appreciate the fantasy surrounding it, but fantasy is what porn is for. I guess I feel a sense of personal commitment when I agree to meet someone, and if someone is going to take on the hassle of traveling to me, I feel an obligation to follow through with him. The BBRT ad wasn’t the first time I’d gone no loads refused — I’d done it in ABS and bathhouses when I was feeling particularly slutty. That’s how I knew I could handle it both physically and emotionally (yes, it requires both). 

My first no loads refused ad definitely drew more action than if it had been a regular connection hookup that would’ve involved the typical pic exchanges and time negotiations. I also posted in midday and expected to keep going through the after work rush. I was at a hotel on a business trip and just wanted to be seeded over and over again. Most of the ads were anon; they might have had a cock pic, but most hid their face and had limited info. Whether they were closeted, insecure, or accustomed to getting rejected for one reason or another, they were now gun shy. Yeah, I got a few mediocre fucks as a result, but there were three AMAZING fucks that I wouldn’t have had otherwise. I probably wouldn’t have agreed to meet two of the three if I’d been cruising on Scruff or Grindr; but I was owning no loads refused and got fucked senseless. It was worth every thrust and grunt!

No loads refused should be exactly that — you’re looking for seed, not for a particular type of guy. Don’t play games and ruin it for the bottoms who are truly willing to provide a hole for anyone that wants it. No regrets here!

[BreedingTop71]

Guys (straight, gay and otherwise) get carried away by some fantasies. Some fantasies may be unworkable from a real life point of view (lusting after your teen sons’s straight best friend, for example). Or posting “cumdump” next to a profile and then realizing they are not poz friendly. 
 

I see some profiles as “aspirational” more than real. Including posting on them they Weight 20 lbs less than what they weight because they started a diet 2 weeks ago. See? Aspirational. 
 

No load refused is aspirational for some cumdump candidates because they just got to the realization it is what they want and for the first time it starts to become real the moment they say out loud (or post it in profile).