Have you changed in sexual behaviour over the decades?

[parvenu]

Im in my early 30's so basically only 20's to compare right now (didnt do much in teens with guys). I would just say I am much more outright for what I want. I used to be too polite to say 'I want to focus on gagging you on my penis, making you choke on purpose as I like the sound' - but now I will say it when we discuss our fetishes. I'm always amazed at those who are and are not into stuff like that. You really never know.

Has your behaviour changed? 

[leatherpunk16]

Totally!

In my teens, I did practically nothing. A kid with very limited resources and unsure of his sexuality, I think that's completely normal. 

When my 20s came around, I was a pearl-clutcher. The slightest suggestion of sexual activity shocked and embarrassed me, and I overdramatized it to the point that I actually started BELIEVING in my bullshit. This is one reason I didn't come out until I was 29. Then I met a piggy couple, and we fucked regularly, and that helped me explore. And throw away the pearls. LOL

Then in my 30s, I kept seeing this couple until they became unavailable to me. And right after that, I went into porn. I was WAY more sexual in my mid-30s, and much happier with my choice.

So far in my 40s, I'm almost a nun. I made a couple studio vids, and some assorted Justforfans videos. Haven't really done sex in 2021 for some reason, and it's not because of Covid. Plenty of others are still living the ho life, and I... my place is on the sidelines. 😭 It sucks, and I know I can do better than this. 

[evilqueerpig]

I had my first man at 17 and through my 20's I was fairly vanilla.  When I hit 30, I embraced my kinky side and learned what I'd been missing.

[theplayerking]

Started having lots of casual hookups right after college and continued until my early 40s when I met my boyfriend (and soon to be husband). If we were not together I’d still be cruising Grindr, BBRT, attending sex parties, vacationing at sex resorts, etc. I love one-time hookups with strangers. Nothing particularly raunchy or kinky beyond the variety and quantity. My tastes and interests have not really changed at all. 

Edited July 27, 2021 by theplayerking

[Kimberley]

My sexual behaviour really changed when prep came. it was the start to have no limits any longer and being a bareback cumdump whore for all anonymous men

[Tanbbottom]

Abso fuckin  lutely!

Came out of a straight marriage at about 30. Over the next 15 or so years dated a bit, lived with a younger guy for a few years, a little casual and bathhouse stuff here and there.  Loved Stanley Park cruising area but only went quite sporadically. Looking back realize I really was a wannabe cum slut and bbed more often than not. But I would have periods of 2 to 5 years of celibacy. 

Entered a monogamous gay marriage 12 years ago. About 7 years in I demanded it open up. He agreed. 

3 years ago realized the freedom u=u offers and have fully embraced my bottom cum slut pig identity. Breed guys from time to time but happiest offering my ass to whoever wants to pump it full. No questions asked! And the bigger the audience the more chances of someone taking over when the 1st guy pulls out. Hasn't happened often, but I live in hope. 

[tallslenderguy]

Yes and no. i've always pretty much been bottom, but how that expresses has changed a lot.

my story is scattered in pieces all over BZ.  i grew up at a time and in a religious culture that considered gay as a "sickness" and a "sin."  i was aware of my sexual attraction to guys from an early age, 12 isn. i had emotional crushes on guys that i can trace back to age 7. i see a strong connection between the physical and emotional parts of sex, so i knew at some level i am gay from a pretty early age.

i had my first sex at age 21 when i married a woman as a virgin. i didn't act on my gay desires/needs till i was 26. Ironically, a guy on a christian missionary ship seduced me into sucking His cock, but all of my masturbatory dreams and fantasies growing up were about guys.  Even at 26 i was still psychologically entangled in religious belief that had me thinking i was sick and sinful for wanting/needing a guy, so i literally hated myself when i gave into my desires and had sex with a guy.

 Most of my sex in my 20's, 30's and 40's, and there was a lot, was anonymous hook up, cruising places, restrooms, understall breeding. i also traveled for work, so lots of hotel sex, but 98% anonymous hook up. 

After i divorced in 2008 (slow learner), i tried dating guys, thinking i wanted a relationship. That has not happened to this day and i have had a ton more anonymous hook up sex, but without any guilt or shame, so much better.  For many years, my most common sex was me lying naked face down on my bed, door open and guys i never saw breeding me, walk in breed and go. i wanted a lover, but this worked in the meantime. 

With the demise of CL, and the increase of aps,  walk-in sex has been more of a challenge to get, so much of my sex happened at ABS. Lots of that. 

i've gotten much more kinky as i have aged. Or maybe i should say that my kinks have surfaced and become more apparent as i have aged? i suspect they, or the makings of them, have always been there, but i have the freedom to explore and express who and how i am now.  Once i got free of my restrictive beliefs, i have expereinced freedom of expression and peace. i know myself and accept myself and being free has affected my sexuality.  i am no longer worried that i am sick or sinful and turns out i'm pretty kinky on top of being gay. 

i think it's debatable whether my sexuality has changed over the years or whether my acceptance of my sexuality has changed over the years?  

Edited July 27, 2021 by tallslenderguy

[HunterCox]

yes use to Top mostly and rarely would bottom 

 

now i get fucked bareback onl;y and take lots or raw dick and cun from multiple men 

[Bearhunter55]

The older I get the piggier I get - Whether topping or bottoming I love it all now, as long as its raw. 

[YourNoLimitsBottom]

I didn't start sex with men until the last decade or so, and I wish I had started earlier. But even still, as time progressed and I got more experience under my belt, I definitely got sluttier/piggier. I was fairly reserved when I started, give a blowjob, maybe get fucked with a condom. This progressed to relationships and bareback... then more daring sex acts (the first time outside was a thrill) and kinky/BDSM acts. Now I am to the point where once my clothes come off I lose all inhibitions and anyone can tell me to do anything, or if left to my own "judgment" (or lack thereof) I will take the initiative and jump on any cock in the room.

[BottomsUp]

I’ve probably changed the most in terms of the risky behavior I seek out. I’ve been upping the level of risk and also getting into more and more things that I wouldn’t have been open to when I was younger. 

[Guest]

Yes, I have due to HIV/AIDS, and preferring a mostly monogamous but stable partnership with a man or woman, and I now tend to be a lot more into BDSM.

Even before HIV/AIDS was known about I was not into anal or vaginal sex without condoms.

 

 

Edited July 28, 2021 by TotalTop

[evilalex]

Yeah, I think so. I was much more predatory when I was a teen. 

[ssoranaid]

7 minutes ago, evilalex said:

Yeah, I think so. I was much more predatory when I was a teen. 

Same here

[evilalex]

7 minutes ago, ssoranaid said:

Same here

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