Top who loves other Tops

[Ironborn]

I must say that I am strictly a top. I don't give head and I've never bottomed before. I am 44 and my first experience with a dude was when I was 22. I use to be bi, but I haven't been with a woman in over 13 yrs. I love masculine dudes, especially bisexual dudes, and I like other tops who love giving head. Am I in the minority here? I'm masculine and I don't belive that defines me, nor does the activity of topping. I also love masculine bottoms and some feminine bottoms too. I get so turned on by having a top on his knees giving me head and dominating him. I've given head before but I can count the 6 dudes I've done it to and I didn't enjoy it. I haven't done it in 9 yrs. I love being dominant and topping. 

[NLbear]

What do you get out of this? Is it dominating another top? You know you can't fuck him if he's strictly a top too? I would focus on masculine bottoms. There must be plenty around?

[BootmanLA]

8 hours ago, Ironborn said:

I must say that I am strictly a top. I don't give head and I've never bottomed before. I am 44 and my first experience with a dude was when I was 22. I use to be bi, but I haven't been with a woman in over 13 yrs. I love masculine dudes, especially bisexual dudes, and I like other tops who love giving head. Am I in the minority here? I'm masculine and I don't belive that defines me, nor does the activity of topping. I also love masculine bottoms and some feminine bottoms too. I get so turned on by having a top on his knees giving me head and dominating him. I've given head before but I can count the 6 dudes I've done it to and I didn't enjoy it. I haven't done it in 9 yrs. I love being dominant and topping. 

Are you in the minority? Yes.

Is that a bad thing? Not necessarily. If you're happy with being who/what you are, then it doesn't matter one iota whether you're unique or commonplace.

Also: being in the minority, or even being rare, does not (in case you were wondering) make you better or special. You are what you are, you like what you like, end of story.

My question: Am I alone in wondering what the point of this topic is? 

[ErosWired]

I’m confused. You say that neither your masculinity nor the fact that you Top define you - yet the entirety of your post is about how you distinguish yourself from the men around you by your dominant masculinity and your love of Topping. The only question you really ask is whether your perception of yourself - your self-definition - as a dominant Top who loves to dominate other Tops puts you in a minority as defined by what constitutes a majority.

So it seems as though, at least for purposes of this inquiry, your masculinity and your Topping are actually quite central to your self-definition.

[hntnhole]

8 hours ago, BootmanLA said:

Am I alone in wondering what the point of this topic is?

Nope.

[hungry_hole]

17 hours ago, Ironborn said:

I must say that I am strictly a top. I don't give head and I've never bottomed before.

You focus too much on the "roles" and the "labels" which is why you start wondering if as a "top" you can suck cock, and why some "bottoms" who  at the sauna breed a hole before going home, after taking loads. Doing that, doesn't mean the guy is less of a bottom. Being a "bottom" or a "top" is more like a guideline of what to expect of someone sexually.

 

[backtails]

10 hours ago, BootmanLA said:

Are you in the minority? Yes.

Is that a bad thing? Not necessarily. If you're happy with being who/what you are, then it doesn't matter one iota whether you're unique or commonplace.

Also: being in the minority, or even being rare, does not (in case you were wondering) make you better or special. You are what you are, you like what you like, end of story.

My question: Am I alone in wondering what the point of this topic is? 

Top answer: You don't see the point. I see a point. You may think that your dismissal will show others that you're in tune with the community, but you're showing me you don't understand, and you didn't need to do that.

14 hours ago, NLbear said:

What do you get out of this? Is it dominating another top? You know you can't fuck him if he's strictly a top too? I would focus on masculine bottoms. There must be plenty around?

Top answer: OP is talking about men sucking his cock. He can have any preferences he wants. I like tops blowing me because that's a real man sucking my cock. I like bottoms blowing me because... that's also a real man sucking my cock. Four twinks and two "more masculine-looking men" in a bathhouse. "You boys want to watch a real man suck this cock?" It's hot. It's not exploitative.

And, seriously, if you don't think that's hot, you just haven't found the right vid yet.

[tallslenderguy]

21 hours ago, Ironborn said:

I must say that I am strictly a top. I don't give head and I've never bottomed before. I am 44 and my first experience with a dude was when I was 22. I use to be bi, but I haven't been with a woman in over 13 yrs. I love masculine dudes, especially bisexual dudes, and I like other tops who love giving head. Am I in the minority here? I'm masculine and I don't belive that defines me, nor does the activity of topping. I also love masculine bottoms and some feminine bottoms too. I get so turned on by having a top on his knees giving me head and dominating him. I've given head before but I can count the 6 dudes I've done it to and I didn't enjoy it. I haven't done it in 9 yrs. I love being dominant and topping. 

i can see this. What i read is You are and like being Dominate with men and Men, sexually, particularly when it comes to sucking cock.  Are you in a "minority?"  i think it depends on how You look at it. With Men in general and generically, i think not. With gay men, i think so. 

We come up with terms to try and communicate our self to other people, but i think the reality is, no two people are exactly alike. Two people using the same label "Top" are still gonna vary to some degree.  Your post reads to me like You have no interest in "Cock," and further, that a particular desire/need in You is touched, maybe met, by Men who are Tops who will suck cock.  To me, You sound like You are on the far end of the Top/bottom, D/s spectrum.  And, in my experience, the farther one gets on one end or the other, the fewer there are.  i think we are all unique, but not in this way. i don't think we are unique in our individual components (e.g., there are lots of 'Total Tops') but our uniqueness is in how attributes like being Total Top, total bottom, versatile, etc., ad infinitum, combine with all of our other attributes.  

To make it even more complex, life is fluid. 

[downtownswallow]

When I was much younger and had just started life on my own, I met two men who shared a condo in Houston.  Like so many other young men and women, having a roommate or two helped out financially.  Turns out they were also both Tops that would share Bottoms they found around town.  We got together several times and it was very exciting being shared.  One would fuck me while I sucked the other to full erection for another round.  

[muscmtl]

The absolute best porn is when you see a straight top who has fallen so low that he's now bottomimg. Doesn't happen often but fuck I love to see those. Anyone got a jeff stryker leaky hole video?

[BootmanLA]

1 minute ago, muscmtl said:

The absolute best porn is when you see a straight top who has fallen so low that he's now bottomimg. Doesn't happen often but fuck I love to see those. Anyone got a jeff stryker leaky hole video?

So bottoms (and tops who are performing "bottom" acts) are "low" and "fallen"? It might behoove tops to remember that without bottoms (or men willing to bottom), they wouldn't be getting any.

[muscmtl]

2 minutes ago, BootmanLA said:

So bottoms (and tops who are performing "bottom" acts) are "low" and "fallen"? It might behoove tops to remember that without bottoms (or men willing to bottom), they wouldn't be getting any.

Jesus what a precious queen you are you do know that you're on breeding zone and not safeseistheonlysex. Get over yourself

 

[BootmanLA]

1 minute ago, muscmtl said:

Jesus what a precious queen you are you do know that you're on breeding zone and not safeseistheonlysex. Get over yourself

I have no idea what "safeseistheonlysex" [sic] is supposed to imply, but assuming it has something to do with safe[r] sex, that's completely unrelated to the point I made, which is that tops who think a "top" who's bottoming for them has "fallen so low" has a really fucked-up sense of entitlement. But you do you.

[EricX]

1 hour ago, BootmanLA said:

So bottoms (and tops who are performing "bottom" acts) are "low" and "fallen"? It might behoove tops to remember that without bottoms (or men willing to bottom), they wouldn't be getting any.

I think he is taking from the POV of a straight man who does gay porn. I doubt it is a general condemnation of bottoms, but I do like a little humiliation and trash talk when I’m getting fucked.