Sex Drive with Age

[VersAlwaysLooking]

What's everyone's experience?  I've always had a high sex drive, expected it to die down with age, but actually getting worse!   I find myself breeding Sniffies cumdumps daily, taking loads at the local sex club 2-3 times a week and still jerking off 3-5 times ad day in addition to all of that.    I'm approaching 40. 

[BootmanLA]

Men in general have active sex drives to later (sometimes significantly so) ages than women, and "approaching 40" (ie still in your 30's) is well within "prime time" for a healthy adult male. That's not to say some men aren't slowing down a bit by then, of course. But it's far from unusual.

That said, I expect responses to be all over the map, with some guys around your age having already seen a libido decline and others just as randy as ever. But to really understand you'd need to know where they started; if they had a lower libido than typical when they were 20, they're unlikely to have an elevated one now, for instance.

[NLbear]

Well, I'm in my 60s now and I'm still horny every day. Doesn't mean I get cock every day but still.... Surprises me too 😉

 

[NWUSHorny]

I'm in my middle 50's and still have a very high sex drive. At this point I don't anticipate it diminishing any time soon.

[Davidc]

I’m a late 50s top , whilst perpetually horny don’t fuck more than a couple of times a week.

I have a group of 4-5 regulars 28-38 who love Daddy dick and loads - I always make sure that if we’re meeting up I haven’t cum for a day or 2 so that I’ll be able to perform.

This also has the advantage that they get a bigger load .

unfortunately

my days for fucking and cumming a couple of times a day just isn’t happening anymore 

[BadBob214]

62 here and as horny as ever. Very active both as a top and bottom and no decrease in libido. Late 30's is still young. 

[Johnjohn]

As I move into late middle age my libido remains good and strong. I would love to to bred and fisted as many times a week as possible. I would love to be able to produce gallons of cum. I would love to have horny young studs queuing up to seed me,  but it is becoming physically impossible; my body won't allow it. And, I have to admit, there have been times when my cock has refused to harden. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.

[tallslenderguy]

It's a complex topic. As BootmanLA notes, "responses...will be all over the map."  Our sex drive/libido has more than one source fueling it.  

For instanstance, there is gonadal production of testosterone, which tends to decline over time.

Butt having sex also stimulates the vagal nerve and that affects mood centers of the brain: 

"There is preliminary evidence that vagus nerve stimulation is a promising add-on treatment for treatment-refractory depression, posttraumatic stress disorder..."

[think before following links] [think before following links] https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2018.00044/full

Then there's factors like this, which to me suggest that the more we have sex, the more we will want it.

"Replicating past findings, no significant correlations between testosterone (T) and desire in men were apparent, but these analyses showed that the null association remained even when psychological and confound variables were controlled. Men showed higher desire than women, but masturbation frequency rather than T influenced this difference. Results were discussed in terms of challenges to assumptions of clear links between T and desire, gendered approaches to T, and the unitarity of desire."

[think before following links] [think before following links] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22552705/

i'm being speculative here, but the above evidence to me suggests that the more one has sex, the more one's sex drive increases or maintains.  i thought the second study was interesting in that the frequency of sex ("masturbation") with men was the driving factor over testosterone production. To me, this may in part account for the "all over the map" differences in our sex drives.  

To me, the implication is, the more we exercise the libido, the stronger the libido becomes, or maintains. 

And then there's edging lol.

Edited October 20, 2023 by tallslenderguy

[verslut]

I'm 30 with the sex drive of a teen. I'm very thirsty and can cum multiple times a day. I stay in shape so I can remain this way as long as possible.

[norefusal]

if we go solely by jo im oversexed and always have been lol

but i think there a lot more to sex w others than just physical need. one week i've no desire to actually hook up while another week im doing multiple guys in same day. 

i do think there something to this " sex makes u want more sex" hence my habit of scrolling grindr in my car seconds after sex to see which of my hook up's neighbors are also up for it. or the days i spend hours in a cruising spot until the question " how many is enough" gets answered 😜

[ktopper]

My sex drive was very strong through my 50s. During my 60s it slowed down a lot. Now in my early 70s it has slowed to the point where if I don't get some it is really no big deal, but I do think of it constantly. Being married to a younger lady pussy is always available but that, while enjoyable, falls more into the category of a duty.

Gay sex, which is what I'm really all about, has fallen to the point of one or two times per month. My advice to you young bucks is to pig out on all the sex you can get. I guarantee you that your only regrets upon reaching old age will be for the sex you passed up. Get all the dick, or ass, that you can. Ideally you will impregnate a lady or two so your gay genes will continue into the next generation and then spend your life either taking or giving loads with members or the same sex. Ahh, the game, the glorious game, y'all know what I'm talking about.

[pigbro]

My sex drive went into overdrive after joining the brotherhood. For a good while I was making up for lost time. However it does become a little more of an effort to get in the mood to go out to places like I once did. I'll happily be the cumdump, but as for my load, it has to be worth it

[hntnhole]

18 hours ago, VersAlwaysLooking said:

but actually getting worse!

Worse ???  Some of us would call it better !!!

To the original post though, I think that when a pattern of behavior has been established earlier in life, it stands a better chance of remaining an important part of our lives later in life. If we've been sexually active early on, that pattern will most likely continue until for whatever reason it's no longer viable.  

That may be applicable to the hets too - but fortunately I wouldn't know about that ... 

4 hours ago, ktopper said:

My advice to you young bucks is to pig out on all the sex you can get

I agree 100%.  

4 hours ago, ktopper said:

I guarantee you that your only regrets upon reaching old age will be for the sex you passed up. Get all the dick, or ass, that you can

^ This ... perfectly said.  

4 hours ago, ktopper said:

so your gay genes will continue into the next generation

I may be mistaken, but I've often heard that it's the mother that passes the "gay" gene to her offspring; the father's Sperm has nothing to do with that particularly lovely gift.  Anyone know better?

[BlindRawFucker1]

I’m 58.

 

It has always seemed to me, that I have a cycle, every month or two.

 

There are times when I pass a guy who smells so good, that I get hard enough to drill concrete.  These periods last a couple of weeks.

 

Then, my drive goes back to “normal.”  Which means I’m horny most of the time, and jerk off at least once a day.

 

Unfortunately, I have few opportunities to put my dick to better use when I do want to drill into concrete.

 

I am surprised how strong my drive is at my age.

 

There is still hope.

[satyricon1]

My sex drive (at 73) is almost totally non-existent.  I read and watch a lot of porn, but it doesn't do anything for me (ED is also an issue, although I recently got a viagra prescription which helps some.  I still enjoy the occasional hook-up, and the feeling of a guy pump my ass and ultimately unloading in it.  But most of my sexual activity these days involves masturbating every day or two, more to keep the prostate in shape and make it easier to piss, than for the erotic sensation.  In other activities I'm still going strong -- cycling, walking (in the winter) -- may get a new set of snow shoes this year).