Sexual arousal and desire

[anonCUMtainer]

I am confused by the fact that sex and sexual desire is or can be very complicated for some. I thought it was easy. You either wanna fuck or not. The complicated part is accepting the risks that come with fucking raw - not whether I wanna fuck or not.

So what am I missing? The poll questions are designed to help me explore what horny means to you.

[backdoorjimmy]

This was honestly difficult for me to answer for a lot of reasons. I've never taken the time to consider whether my urge to be fucked is driven by a reproductive instinct. For me, it's always boiled down to pleasure and the desire I have to have anal sex. The thought that it's connected to a natural, evolutionary instinct to reproduce is fascinating but also confusing.

 

[anonCUMtainer]

3 hours ago, backdoorjimmy said:

This was honestly difficult for me to answer for a lot of reasons. I've never taken the time to consider whether my urge to be fucked is driven by a reproductive instinct. For me, it's always boiled down to pleasure and the desire I have to have anal sex. The thought that it's connected to a natural, evolutionary instinct to reproduce is fascinating but also confusing.

 

Thanks for the sincere reply. It was not necessarily designed to be an "easy" question to answer.

For additional context, I identify as a bottom. My general comments on BZ illustrate my fundamental desire is to fuck or specifically to get fucked for the purpose of helping my horny brother achieve an incredible and satisfying release - I thought that was just natural. No effort required. I have learned about myself that if a horny man wants to ejaculate inside me, I cannot refuse. It's my nature to provide my desirable holes.

Is it incorrect for me to assume that breeders are the MAJORITY of the overall percentage of men? What percent of the general male population would breed me if they could get away with it "consequence-free"? As if we all had the innate desire to breed based on human species evolutionary instinct). It's not procreational when adapted for the MEN need MEN scenario. Having said that, if I see a desirable hole - then I want to fuck and breed it.

When I see images of an erotic nature, it usually prompts some type of daydream or fantasy that gets me into his pants and gets his erection ejaculating inside me. I do think that is an "animal" instinct or a carnal desire if animal = natural, evolutionary instincts.

I am asking my articulate brothers to help me become more informed. Thanks and hugs. Love this community.

Edited Saturday at 11:26 PM by anonCUMtainer

[tallslenderguy]

To me, sex is a holistic connection between me and another guy. i think we can connect with people intellectually, emotionally and physically, and for me the ultimate sex is when all three of those are in play, the chemistry is right, and we connect in all three of those places mutually.  A step further is when all of those elements get exercised and experienced with one particular guy over and over and the connection becomes a bond. i've come to see that as the 'real' bond of "bondage."  

i see a 'Top' as someone wired to penetrate, fuck, mold, create, inseminate, impregnate, possess, control, _________ and a bottom as having the corresponding needs/desire to be penetrated, fucked, molded, created, inseminated, impregnated, possessed, controlled, __________.  The wonder of it all is we are all individuals and can experience all of these things, or some but not others, in varying amounts and levels of intensity.  For instance, to me, a Man Who not only wants to penetrate and fuck me physically, but that also extends as a desire/need to penetrate and fuck me mentally, or emotionally, or both. The variations, combinations, levels of intensity can be infinite. i also perceive myself as having a sort of womb that only a Top can penetrate, impregnatie, possess, etc..  That there is a mutual need, yin/yang. i see it expressed in nature at the most basic level of atoms, positively and negatively charged elements that naturally attract, connect and sometimes bond to form ("create") something other, additional, while still remaining their individual self. 

[hntnhole]

Thanks for that exceptional explanation. 

It's not easy to understand unless one experiences it personally, and when that happens, words often pale into insignificance - and that was spot-on.  

[PozBearWI]

It was not a fast survey - needing me to contemplate each.  And even then radio button answers don't give us much.  They are, by nature, devoid of nuance.  

#1, Is it primarily driven by non-reproductive factors (e.g. emotional connection, various forms of attraction, etc)?

#2, Claim to have sexual arousal and desire, but it is more complicated and requires many variables to come together properly for. them to get "turned on" enough to perform sexual acts.   But even then it really is sort of situational.  I've been in situations where I wasn't even thinking along sexual lines; but was in the right place and we went at it.  But this third option at least came closer to how it works for me.

#3 I think "most" men are going to still have a broad range of answers describing our natural instincts around sexual arousal.  I know for me, it's really physical attraction and paying attention to whether they're attracted back.  I suppose I can just be bold and ask "hey ya wanna fuck", but that's not generally what I do...  For a lot of reasons needing to maintain day to day decorum.  

[phillygwm]

I chose reproductive even though I've never ejaculated in a woman.  When I'm topping a guy, I want to unload as deeply as possible.  Why?  I'm not sure it's inherently more pleasurable than cumming some other way so maybe it's some instinctual thing.  

Skipping to the last question, I think the answer is usually non-reproductive considerations, depending on the guy.  Most younger, unmarried guys absolutely do NOT want to get a female pregnant.  People fuck because they find someone physically attractive.  There is certainly an emotional/romantic component for some but I suspect if you went to the local cruising spot or sex club, that isn't their primary objective.  Obviously, sometimes straights are trying to conceive but that's ideally a planned thing.

[Bokkierob]

No emotional connection. I’m driven to fuck men for the pure physical pleasure of thrusting my cock deep up their arseholes and my need to pump my sperm deep inside their guts.

[NWUSHorny]

It is definitely instinctual for me, I'm not sure how much of it has to do with reproduction since my instinctual drive seems to be to fuck either a man or woman, as well as get fucked by another man. Based on most of my personal experience, I think most people are a lot more romantically/emotionally driven about sex than I am. Prior to moving to the PNW I would have said that mostly asexual folks were a rarity (I do have 1 happily married friend I grew up with that was totally repulsed by the idea of having sex, that has 1 kid, that I will always wonder if wasn't the result of artificial insemination), however I've encountered a lot of them here.

[NastyRawBottom]

For me it’s driven purely by hedonism lol

Getting fucked and taking loads gives me endless pleasure. And I’m sure my hole has given pleasure to countless Men. Yes, it’s my duty and responsibility to offer my hole and let Men dump their loads in me, but it also just feels so goods and that’s what keeps me looking for more. I crave it constantly honestly.

No one’s pressuring to be a cumdump and there’s no emotional connection or attachment to the Men who use me. 

It could be biological, but I’d say it’s more addiction than reproduction. Sure, breeding talk is fun but I’m not under any delusion that this is actually for reproduction lmao. 

At the end of day, taking loads and pleasing Men make my life fun and happy. That’s what keeps me going.