Darkroom anxiety

[SkinV]

Hi guys! First time posting here ever, so...be gentle! 

Since before corona, I was going to cruise bars and saunas for some fun and usually with nice encounters. Nowadays, I don't know how to explain the feelings I have when I have started going back into the darkrooms. It seems like I am very anxious, uncomfortable or insecure. It was like when I had started the first time when I was younger (mid 20s), but at least I would get hard and could do something as a top. Today, even with pp I cannot hold an erection alongside the abovementioned feelings. To make it up, I do a good gag reflex and being a fister, but I would like to be hard like I was back in the times. I am now almost 40, and I have none of these problems in a private setting or even with a group involved.

Have you ever had experienced this? Is there a solution how to overcome this? If you need more details, I will answer them. Thank you! 😅