My Bad?

[Bokkierob]

Grindr hookup last night. He was a young Bear/Cub. He was cute and fuckin horny. We agreed that I’d fuck him raw and breed his arse. I had been fucking him for 20 minutes - he was a great ride. I was close and I grunted “I’m gunna cum” At that second he said “don’t cum in me” I heard him but my body couldn’t stop. My hips kept thrusting and I shot my load deep inside him. He wasn’t pleased but accepted that he didn’t give me any warning. I’d been up front that I intended to seed him even before I mounted him. To be honest I would have probably still cum in his arse even if he gave me plenty of warning. Am I bad? I just expected a raw fuck and Breeding.

[xxbjn2]

Nope, not bad at all.  If you want to take cock raw, be ready to take it all the way.  It's a tops right to decide where he comes when fucking BB.

[Marlin]

26 minutes ago, Bokkierob said:

Grindr hookup last night. He was a young Bear/Cub. He was cute and fuckin horny. We agreed that I’d fuck him raw and breed his arse. I had been fucking him for 20 minutes - he was a great ride. I was close and I grunted “I’m gunna cum” At that second he said “don’t cum in me” I heard him but my body couldn’t stop. My hips kept thrusting and I shot my load deep inside him. He wasn’t pleased but accepted that he didn’t give me any warning. I’d been up front that I intended to seed him even before I mounted him. To be honest I would have probably still cum in his arse even if he gave me plenty of warning. Am I bad? I just expected a raw fuck and Breeding.

I'm sure he'll get over it. Hard to believe a guy in this day and age doesn't realize a raw cock inside him for 20 minutes would create quite similar risks to cumming inside him. 20 minutes of precum, ass wall abrasion. If he was worried he should insist on condoms or go on PrEP. 

[vers46]

If I agree to take raw cock, i accept the Top is in charge. It is a totally different to a situation where the bottom insists on the Top wrapping up and then the Top removes it without the bottom knowing. That is wrong.

[kitpig]

If I'm taking cock raw in my hole, I kind of expect a guy to cum in me if he wants to... 

[PleasureU7480]

Once I receive a raw cock in my ass, he owns me for whatever he needs to cum hard. 
I was barebacking before HIV in 1981. For awhile, I insisted on condoms because I was fucking my wife and a couple other women. 
The key is to establish boundaries before you start.
I get it if it was his first time raw and he had second thoughts. But it’s not fair to the top to change at the last minute. 
I love to be conquered by a top. I got hard reading the post, imagining a top breeding me after asking him to pull out. Mmmmmmm!

[badubydo]

He said nothing about not breeding him. He can’t tell you after you announce you are about to cum and expect you to pull out. 
 

Anybody who bottoms and fucks raw should expect the top to cum in them. Unless it is otherwise explicitly stated and agreed upon that the told will pull out. Even then, it can be guaranteed it will happen. 
 

if a dudes in me raw, I will always assume he load will end up in me too
 

 

[leakyhole]

10 hours ago, Bokkierob said:

Grindr hookup last night. He was a young Bear/Cub. He was cute and fuckin horny. We agreed that I’d fuck him raw and breed his arse. I had been fucking him for 20 minutes - he was a great ride. I was close and I grunted “I’m gunna cum” At that second he said “don’t cum in me” I heard him but my body couldn’t stop. My hips kept thrusting and I shot my load deep inside him. He wasn’t pleased but accepted that he didn’t give me any warning. I’d been up front that I intended to seed him even before I mounted him. To be honest I would have probably still cum in his arse even if he gave me plenty of warning. Am I bad? I just expected a raw fuck and Breeding.

From my point of view, If he did ask you before you pushed your bare dick inside, it could be understandable that he has objections upon you load him. But he didn't do so and he was up for bb, so he could not expect anything else than good load up his pussy. I already wrote this in another topic here, but last year I was once literally chased by one, probably married, bottom who needed to be fucked hard. I only top very rarely, but when I do, I need to shoot my load inside. I am cum hungry bottom myself so I see no reason why I should even think of shooting my load elsewhere than in bottoms hungry hole. So I did so with this guy...he wanted me bare, he said nothing entire time and only AFTER getting my load +around half a minute to minute later, he suddenly goes like: "Oh no, you loaded me, no...." and started to push it outside in panic. I felt no remose. The whore should have thought of consequence before backing on my hard cock, period. 

On the other hand, I also have experience when I had unexpected bb sex while trying to cheat safe on my BF, in my case, I asked him up front not to shoot inside me, but he did anyway, and I didn't react nicely. I regretted my words immediately, but in a shock I said them. I believe that it can be the same case with your fuckbuddy.. So at first I would not take it personally. At second, as you suggest that you would load him even with warnings - nowadays I approve it and would be glad to get your load, but again - your fuckuddy might have just not grew to this stage yet. But he will. The time works individually for each of us. Anyway judging from my own experience, your fuckbuddy will become nasty cumdump who takesall loads with no regrets soon and he will consider this breeding experience right and sort of a milestone in accepting his cumdump identity after some time 😉 He might be wishing to have you load his pussy again at this very moment. 

[yoursinmine]

11 hours ago, Bokkierob said:

Grindr hookup last night. He was a young Bear/Cub. He was cute and fuckin horny. We agreed that I’d fuck him raw and breed his arse. I had been fucking him for 20 minutes - he was a great ride. I was close and I grunted “I’m gunna cum” At that second he said “don’t cum in me” I heard him but my body couldn’t stop. My hips kept thrusting and I shot my load deep inside him. He wasn’t pleased but accepted that he didn’t give me any warning. I’d been up front that I intended to seed him even before I mounted him. To be honest I would have probably still cum in his arse even if he gave me plenty of warning. Am I bad? I just expected a raw fuck and Breeding.

You could have avoided all of that by just hooking up with me. 

I understand that it's tough to avert course when you're at the point of no return. He should to. Plus, you're in his ass, you own it, it's yours. 

[leatherpunk16]

Fuck your "bad". 

If you did something right, would you say "my good"? 

Fucking stupid useless phrase. Don't say it again.

[billy88666]

A person may consent to have intercourse and indeed even consent to unprotected sex, but they still have the right to withdraw consent during it, up to the time that you cum. The fact that you state you were about to cum, and you heard him tell you not to cum in him, yet you persisted, you would be found guilty if the matter went to court. They could charge you with rape and GBH

Regardless of anyone saying here that it's not fair for the guy to change his mind at the last minute, the pain and simple truth is NO MEANS NO... That's the law. You and others here may not like it but it's the law in the UK and most other places these days.

You should be very thankful that you are on PrEP as if you had infected this guy, who knows how he would have reacted.

[SFCumdog]

12 hours ago, Bokkierob said:

Grindr hookup last night. He was a young Bear/Cub. He was cute and fuckin horny. We agreed that I’d fuck him raw and breed his arse. I had been fucking him for 20 minutes - he was a great ride. I was close and I grunted “I’m gunna cum” At that second he said “don’t cum in me” I heard him but my body couldn’t stop. My hips kept thrusting and I shot my load deep inside him. He wasn’t pleased but accepted that he didn’t give me any warning. I’d been up front that I intended to seed him even before I mounted him. To be honest I would have probably still cum in his arse even if he gave me plenty of warning. Am I bad? I just expected a raw fuck and Breeding.

"we agreed" End.of.Discussion.

[Phallarchist]

Once you're mounted in cunt, you breed. It is inherently good.

[speedo21]

On 7/24/2025 at 7:41 AM, Bokkierob said:

Grindr hookup last night. He was a young Bear/Cub. He was cute and fuckin horny. We agreed that I’d fuck him raw and breed his arse. I had been fucking him for 20 minutes - he was a great ride. I was close and I grunted “I’m gunna cum” At that second he said “don’t cum in me” I heard him but my body couldn’t stop. My hips kept thrusting and I shot my load deep inside him. He wasn’t pleased but accepted that he didn’t give me any warning. I’d been up front that I intended to seed him even before I mounted him. To be honest I would have probably still cum in his arse even if he gave me plenty of warning. Am I bad? I just expected a raw fuck and Breeding.

No, that nelly got nervous is all. It was his poor manners. You did everything right.

[tallslenderguy]

Not really an issue for me as a total bottom.  The only Top i don't want is the one who isn't going to breed me...

It's a strange scenario though.  There are guys out there who are ambivalent about sex... they want it, are driven, and in process, some change their mind.  

For me, all sex comes down to mutual desire. i won't have sex with any guy who doesn't want me and i them. I.e., it's the connection of mutual desire/need and much (maybe more?) than the connection of bodies. For me, if a guy doesn't leave a part of himself inside of me, it leaves me feeling incomplete, sort of empty, sad, disappointed, like his desire wasn't complete, or something turned it off? It's not only  His cock, His seed, it's also His orgasm.... i see those as three separate things, though woven together. 

So, from my perspective, the guy who wants and craves that, and suddenly changes his mind while getting fucked, seems ambivalent about the whole act? i know, we're all individuals, so it could just be the guy is ignorant and thinks he's protecting himself from an STD.  But i think there are plenty who psychologically have not fully embraced their desire/need for another man to possess them, and they feel that if they don't receive seed, they have not had sex.

I fully embrace who and how i am, and i do not feel like i have had sex if a guy fucks me and does not do it wholly or completely (i.e., have His orgasm inside of me).  To me, that is foreplay. And i know, there are many Tops Who don't wanna cum till they are done, so they will fuck several guys first before cumming.  i get that, and if i am in a sex club, etc., i just put it down to foreplay and am not offended or disappointed. 

All said, i can see how a certain type of guy, not psychology self accepting, can keep his sense of virginity if he has not been seeded.  It's a complex topic, so individuals are going to be in different places with their sexuality. Not a simple, black or white answer.