My Bad?

[BBDreamer]

What did he really expect? Maybe it was just a turn-on for him to say "don't" and have you do it. He couldn't say he didn't expect it. It wasn't like you stealthed him.  Would LOVE to hear you say that to me. 

[sneakybare]

If he didn't want cum in his ass he shouldn't allow unwrapped dick inside. 

If you allow a horny stranger to stick their dick in your ass, you will get cum by accident or intentionally. Trusting strangers to pull out when they are balls deep is stupid

[ChainedBoy]

Potentially controversial opinion:  Once a bottom lets a raw dick fuck his fuckhole, he has agreed to receive the Fuckers load. He can certainly ‘ask’ the Fucker to not cum in him…but it would be just that; a request…nothing more. 

[Iker80]

Probably he wanted it but got freaked out when he knew it was close to happening. Might have been his first load. It makes sense with a younger guy. Younger guys and older first time too, like down low bi guys, they need more warming up, more to keep them comfortable while you're having fun, and sometimes more time to work through stuff. I get it, I remember being like that with some things when it was new.

[1hornyjohn]

I presume the bottom didn't object to your raw cock when you entered his hole.

After that,  discussion is over. You cum where you want to. In him. On him. Whenever.

He can pop off and get suitable meds if he's worried about bring pozzed. I got pozzed about 6 years ago. I knew what I was doing. I live with the consequences. One pill each day.

[hntnhole]

On 7/24/2025 at 7:41 AM, Bokkierob said:

At that second he said “don’t cum in me”

To my ears .er ... eyes, this smacks of a really pushy bottom that doesn't understand that sex - any kind of sex - involves two people with equal agency.  Taking raw Cock, and waiting until the very last instant to then change his mind?  If that isn't the height of "pushy bottom", and the depths of immature selfish behavior, I wonder what is.  

[viking8x6]

I don't think you behaved badly in particular. You told him your intention in advance and he didn't mention any reservation. What happens in the heat of the moment is just that, and once you are in the throes of orgasm it's not only unreasonable but literally impossible for you to stop. Besides, it already happened and no harm was done (apart from maybe to the cub's tender illusions). 

If you feel like it's an ethical issue you want to consider for future fucks, I'd suggest simply changing the wording of your exclamation slightly: "I'm cumming!", in the present tense. Accurate, to the point, and uncontestable as it's happening already.

 

[onlyraw]

I think in THIS case you did nothing wrong

but …. We live in three worlds….
 

the breeding.zone world of hot fiction where you could be poz…. But tell him you were neg and on PrEP … pin him down and stealth him … and if that scene were written by the right author a few hundred guys would blow copious loads if cum while reading it …. 

then there is the actual world with the older rules of gay sex (from back in the 70s and 80s) that a lot of guys on here remember and would like think are still the rules of the game, where once a bottom agrees to the ground rules …. The top gets to do what he wants within those rules  even if the bottom changes his mind mid fuck (so if you agreed to BB sex … you get to cum in him … even if he changes his mind  and that is fine 
 

then there is the actual real world we live in now that @billy88666 described … where the bottom can change the rules at any time … and if you don’t abide by the new rules as quickly as possible…. You can be charged with rape

I disagree with @billy88666 about this time because the cub didn’t say no soon enough and agree with @viking8x6 that what you meant by “I’m about to cum” is that you were actually starting to cum …

I think it would be wise for all tops , so as to protect themselves legally … in the future don’t say anything until you are cumming … or have just come 

it is a changing world …. In addition to BB, I also like it on the rough side… and with the right guy get turned on when he whimpers or says no … which is the one good thing about on line hook ups instead of the bar hook up … is that on line I have a written record of his agreement to the scene and what he should say instead of “no” or “don’t” if he really wants me to stop.

so - sorry this happened to you… hope your next boy appreciates your load properly .

[blackrobe]

On 7/24/2025 at 4:41 AM, Bokkierob said:

Grindr hookup last night. He was a young Bear/Cub. He was cute and fuckin horny. We agreed that I’d fuck him raw and breed his arse. I had been fucking him for 20 minutes - he was a great ride. I was close and I grunted “I’m gunna cum” At that second he said “don’t cum in me” I heard him but my body couldn’t stop. My hips kept thrusting and I shot my load deep inside him. He wasn’t pleased but accepted that he didn’t give me any warning. I’d been up front that I intended to seed him even before I mounted him. To be honest I would have probably still cum in his arse even if he gave me plenty of warning. Am I bad? I just expected a raw fuck and Breeding.

The more I think on this, the more another possibility bears considering. 

If he consented and then only withdrew his consent when you told him you were going to cum, and then you did cum a second later, you have to consider this might have been exactly what he wanted. To create a situation where you can't help but breed him because he left you no time to respond before it was a fait accompli. 

It's worth considering.

[verbalBTTM]

If what you said is true about the hook-up then you are in the clear. You stated that you declared your intentions to breed him upfront in your communications. That was the time for him to state his concerns and limits. Changing his mind at the very moment you starting to blow your load is to late. He is a man and knows what it's like to blow a load. It was his responsibility to be clear and upfront about his concerns.