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Actually, he's never been out of jail. Where did you hear about the boyfriend's suicide? That wasn't in the news video you linked to. I'm not sure if it's him, or his attorney, but someone is posting on Mike's Twitter account... He's still proclaiming his innocence, but being connected to a child porn ring has to complicate things immensely. Still, I really hope he is innocent - or at least didn't have intent. I have no problem with him having sex with the kid if he honestly thought the kid was legal.

I've actually been thinking lately of doing a series of videos with neg bottoms and poz tops. Show the bottom taking an OraQuick test at the beginning then show him get fucked by a bunch of poz tops and at the end say "What you just saw was SAFE SEX. The bottom was on PrEP, and the tops were undetectable. Change how you think about risk reduction!" See the contradiction in what you just said? Diversification = "too many irons in the fire". But I do get what you're saying. And it's exactly right, but it's also my primary problem. I have too many irons in the fire, but I need to find the time to diversify. Finding good workers to help is hard. Yes and no, but again you're really close to the truth. I've run the numbers - and the porn blog is what makes me the bulk of my money. BUT I wouldn't be successful that that if it weren't for you guys - the community that I've fostered and built. I see my role as a facilitator and instigator. Right now that feels like another iron in the fire. I want to, but don't have the time. Doing branding/marketing is competing with getting new things built. My number #1 desire is to get a hookup site built on BBBH.com, but I have to keep my existing stuff running smoothly to keep money coming in. Getting money for sending traffic is something I do pretty well. But a lot of the popular sites don't convert very well. My traffic is better sent elsewhere or kept on my own sites. And yes, porn production is a dicey business. Most are failing, but a few are doing really well. But some of the big names haven't cut the fat out of their organizations. Honestly, I worry about companies like TIM. I don't feel they've fully adapted to the new business environment in porn and they could fail if they don't get their act together and run a tighter ship. My boyfriend keeps telling me to get into production, but what I do know is I don't want to do it unless I do it well. You're right - keeping costs down to a bare minimum is critical. But right now, there are bigger priorities (like BBBH.com), and once that's up and running well I don't know that I'll have the time. Plus, shooting porn is a lot about herding cats (getting flaky porn stars to show up is one of the hardest parts - not that all are flaky, but enough are). I don't think I have the temperament to deal with all that… The problem with the rawTOP brand is that it's too closely tied to me as a person. I was talking to Tyler Reed a few months ago about doing a promotion where I get a bunch of bareback top porn stars to put on a rawTOP t-shirt and say "I'm rawTOP!" Then I'd edit 50 or 100 of those into a video for YouTube entitled "Who is rawTOP?" The idea that I don't want to be the only person carrying the mantle - I want all bareback tops to see themselves as rawTOP. Until I can accomplish that, the rawTOP brand is limited. If you notice I've taken the rawTOP branding off this site and Raunchy Fuckers (for the most part). I'm really seeing those as separate brands. Ditto for BBBH. But then the question is whether having multiple brands is a bad thing or a good thing. So you've hit on a lot of truths, but the key issue is time required to maintain stuff vs the time needed to build new stuff.

On their belly, ass lubed/cummy, head away from the door, dimly lit room, head buried in pillow.

Maybe you should have one of those guys you trust take you to a bathhouse and pimp you out. Put on a blindfold and let him choose who fucks you. Might help you get into a headspace where you like anonymous sex.

I know that. But how much smaller? What's the sexual vibe like at CLAW compared to the other two? For example, MAL is smaller than IML, but it can be as easy or even easier to get sex at MAL. If a bottom could get 100 loads at MAL or IML, how many loads could he get at CLAW?

Just curious - how does CLAW compare to IML and MAL?

Honestly, I haven't been doing much programming on it lately. Last two weeks I've been sick (bad cold). But I've realized priority #1 is keeping the money coming in. That means I needed to focus more on porn blogging. To that end I've been getting a guy up to speed with social media stuff and blogging, and another guy on tagging rating and cropping images... Some of what I've been working on will come in handy with BBBH.com, but honestly I'm not happy with my own progress. But I gotta take care of these other things in order to have the time to work on BBBH.

To even put the two in the same category is absurd.

If you're going to spend that long - then do the draft in a text editor (preferably plain text). In the coming weeks I'm migrating the site to different software. Not sure what the behavior of that software will be in a situation like that.

If you want to do some good for the bareback community, please sign the petition against Michael Weinstein that's been started by the 2014 Mr LA Leather on Change.org… https://www.change.org/petitions/ahf-remove-weinstein If you don't know much of anything about Weinstein - he's the guy who managed to get bareback porn made illegal in LA County. He's the guy who's gone after bareback porn producers like TIM and SD Boy. Basically he believes condoms should be mandatory. And allegedly he thinks so little of guys who become poz that he's taken money from programs that are supposed to care for people with AIDS and used the money instead for legal battles against the bareback porn industry. Now he's gone a step too far and called Truvada/PrEP "a party drug". This is the last in a long history of him being against PrEP. It's one thing to go after bareback porn, but another to go against PrEP - which has proven itself in clinical trials and the first good news in HIV prevention in nearly 20 years. It's just irresponsible. He needs to go. Assuming you're out, please get others to sign the petition as well - by posting on Facebook, etc.

It's a ways off.

Sorry if I've been absent from the site lately. I'm on day 7 of a nasty head and chest cold that I wish would just go away. Anyway, I asked my host a few days ago if Heartbleed was an issue for my server and was told that, no, it was never problem. They manage over 3,000 servers and only 15 of them had the issue - in part because they're a bit manic about building servers a very particular way.

Those words are blocked because they were used by a number of creepy psycho members. That group isn't really one I want to encourage here. There are variations on the terms that aren't blocked. Use those. (But if they're abused, they'll be blocked too).

Eh. Think nothing of it. No answer just means they're not really looking right then, or they're looking for something different. Actually no answer is better than no thanks - with no answer it means you may still be in the running... In other words, you may not be exactly what they're looking for, but give it an hour and they may give up on what they're looking for and have sex with you (e.g. they don't want to completely close off things with you by saying 'no'). Now, if you had said you look nothing like what they describe as the person they're looking for, and they said nothing, that would be one thing. But if they're guys you've hooked up with before, then just be patient. Some days they're looking for one thing, other days they may be looking for you.

Can you give some links to places where he said those things? I looked when I did my post and couldn't find them.

Actually, Michael Lucas has never been all that much of a hypocrite on the subject. I researched it when I did my first blog post on him. He advocated condoms back in the day because he didn't like to see discrimination against poz guys - he thought being poz shouldn't be an issue - and safe sex was the way to make it a non-issue. As pro-condom arguments go, that's one I respect. He even dated a few poz guys - so it was real for him. He also stated once that he thought all the bareback porn with teens was irresponsible. But there are plenty of guys on here that say the same exact thing - that teens don't really understand the risks they're taking. I don't agree with that - I think they're adults, and the problem isn't the bareback porn but their parents and teachers not preparing them for adulthood properly. But the point is, he didn't say anything that people here don't say.

Hey guys, I'm looking to hire someone to do social media and porn blogging. The person should meet the following criteria: Bilingual - familiarity with sexual slang in both English & Spanish Great informal writing skills - particularly getting a point across quickly and briefly (in tweets, etc.) Be able to communicate the sexual appeal of a wide-variety of guys. Have some experience with social media and/or blogging. Available to work at least 20-30 hours week. (Please be realistic about your availability). Have a good, reliable Internet connection. I'm posting this in the Central & South America forum because that's where the person needs to be located - for a few reasons. First, I like hiring people who are in time zones close to mine. Working with people in Europe and Asia is just frustrating. Second, the person needs to be bilingual (English/Spanish) since they need to support the Machos Calientes blog and Twitter account as well as my English stuff. And third, because the amount I pay can give someone a middle-class lifestyle in many South American countries, but it's below minimum wage in the US. If you've applied for jobs with me in the past and told you got close - please apply again. If you're interested please send me an email - rawtop@breedingzone.com and tell me about yourself - your education, work experience, as well as social media and blogging experience.

This weekend could work for me. Hit me up on BBRT (rawTOP) or A4A (nycFUCKER).

Yeah, I was disappointed in that response. I'd think if he did it enough he would get past the distractions and it would just be the normal course of things.

If you're up for 1-on-1, let me know.

Yes, totally legal. The company who runs the sites has VERY long relationships with all the major bareback producers. And the price can go down as low as $10.47 if you do the $29.95/month streaming plan. If you do 7 purchases in a month that's actually cost effective - even if you don't use any of the streaming minutes. (Sorry for the tardy response).

Sorry for being so late to this discussion (I've been playing hookie from my moderation duties). But a couple of thoughts… Cut EVERYONE out of your life who won't support you and love you. They should be nothing more to you than casual acquaintances who you smile at and then ignore when you don't absolutely have to interact with them. You mentioned your father is trying to bring you into his real estate business. If he doesn't love you and support you as a poz gay man, then that is not a good environment for you. I've gone through this with big parts of my family. It's not easy, but trust me, trying to get people to change is a complete waste of time. Just move on and do what's best for you. You then need to actively work to rebuild your life. It won't be easy, but when you get to the end you'll be one of those people who say "becoming poz was the best thing that ever happened to me". Why? Because it forced you to take control of your life and live a life that's worth living. You can do it, and you'll be better for having done it. But it won't be easy. In the meantime get professional counseling from a gay friendly therapist.

I haven't worn deodorant since I was a kid. Honestly the stuff made me stink. I smell less not using it. But when I get sweaty my pits smell really great, but if my arm's down you don't smell much of anything. I don't get why people use deodorant.

I wouldn't think leaving as soon as you've cum is a problem in a bathhouse setting. Bathhouses are sorta made for pump-n-dumps. I guess I'm not understanding your problem. You could "flag". It's old school and a lot of guys won't get it, but some will. Tops flag left, bottom flag right. So get yourself a leather wristband or armband and put it on your left arm. Being a top is a lot about attitude. If you act confident and assertive it'll help guys see you as a top. [Notice I said assertive, not aggressive - don't be a cocky jerk.] I'd also suggest putting a cock ring on and finding ways to display your hard cock (rather than your ass). So sit places in the bathhouse stroking your cock. Maybe take a Viagra or Cialis before you go - even if you don't really need it. Bottoms are drawn to hard cocks like moths to a flame.

So how many loads can a hot little twink get at the Black Party?