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I think it makes more than just this topic relevant. The stigma that HIV STILL carries in the gay community, the hate that comes with telling potential hook ups your status... It's all relevant. Neliess didn't miss the memo. I agree with him. We all at some point or another were new to barebacking. Some take to it like fish to water. Other's dip their toes in, then their foot, then the other and so on. Each has their own progression. Yes, they are foolish in thinking the way they do, but each has to adjust at his own pace. To take that deliberately from him is incredibly selfish. While I fucking HATE to see loads wasted, I (nor you) am NOT them! They are different than us! We don't get to decide what is best for them at that moment. Let them come to the same conclusion that we have on their own terms. That taking loads is the best damn thing ever. But let them do it on THEIR terms. It's the adult thing to do. Be the better man.
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Ridiculous? Yep. His right? Absolutely. Like it or not, he has that choice. This whole thought that the top should not be inconvenienced by a bottom asking him not to come inside is immature. For two reasons. One: a mature individual would make sure that it's ok to come inside before even beginning to fuck. Two: a mature individual would realize he's not the only one with needs in the room. If the bottom (however ridiculous it is) doesn't want the cum inside him, then (I know some hate this word) respect his wishes. Someday, some guy is going to be pissed enough after you come in him when he asked you not to that you're gonna wish you had pulled out. As they say (or used to): karma's a bitch. It'll get you someday. All that being said: these bottoms need to get some education. If they aren't ready to take a load, they shouldn't be barebacking. It's absolutely insane of them to believe that pulling out is going to prevent infection. I'm disgusted with the lack of education in the gay community. Forget the hetero community. These guys are just fooling themselves (and obviously frustrating others) with their ignorance. So much for sex education in public schools.
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I think not_sure_bb has a valid point. Availability due to vacation time. I'm always needing it. It's not that I need it more. It's just that everyone has a little bit more time on their hands.
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cam1972 replied to NLbear's topic in General Discussion
I don't get notifications of messages sent to me, posts in topics I follow.... What the fuck? I know I've been coming here much less because I don't think anything is happening. Notifications are what keep me coming back. Better get on the damn ball if they want to keep the site up and running. All due respect. -
Question To Gay Guys; Would You Say I Am Sexually Selfish?
cam1972 replied to Barehorny's topic in General Discussion
Pigtoy, he asked "aside from subs". The typical gay guy was who he was asking. Of course this fits for Dom sub relationships. But for the typical every day gay man? No way in hell would I give him a second glance if I knew this was how he felt. Extremely selfish and immature in my opinion. Puts me in the mind of my little niece and nephew. All take and no giving. As adults, we learn to behave better. Or one can hope we do. "SirPhillipe"...... You asked. So don't be pissed. You are getting honest answers here. You are behaving very selfishly. -
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That has to be one of the hottest vids I've seen. Fuuuck....... Who could watch that and not want that experience? Proud to be a barebacker. Fuck!
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I don't use any....... Except the precum that leaks out. If that counts.
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I've had cramps in my thigh from spreading my legs for too long. But I thought it was because of old age. :-/
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Of course! It's possible.I said in one of my first posts that I think it's ignorant of the bottom to ask for the top to pull out because the disease is already in the precum. I'll add that I think it is ignorant also because of the possibility that the top may have an overly sensitive cock that has a hair trigger and could shoot off before the top has time to think. And yes, there is the implied risk of him coming without the bottom knowing. You've read the posts that have been made about coming anyway and acting like you didn't. There's definitely the implied risk. Some don't have any regard for others. They are selfish, inconsiderate babies who only do what they want. Others be damned. My position on this whole discussion is this: if you aren't prepared to take loads, then you are in no position to fuck bare.
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If he shouldn't stipulate it before the sex, then don't be pissed when he says don't cum in me while you are fucking him. That could be avoided by "allowing" him to say that before the act..... He's a free human being. If he wants to say that before you fuck him, that's his right. That's not an opinion. That's fact. Yes, sex between males is much more animalistic than between a man and a woman. I've had both. But respect doesn't go out the window just because it is animalistic in nature. And that goes for both people. Top and bottom. Again, I have not nor will I ever ask a top to pull out. I'd hate it too if I were a top. But it's still his right. I don't understand the thinking behind doing that, but I've never understood people.
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I struggled for years with this very thing. Even just jacking off. After I came, I pretended that I had fantasized about a woman just to make myself feel better. One of the reasons I struggled was because of the box that being "gay" would require me to be jammed into. I don't identify with 3/4 of what is considered a part of being gay. It wasn't until I came out to my parents at the age of 40 that I was able to accept my sexuality. And it's because of my dad's response. "Being a homosexual doesn't make you WHO you are. It's just a part of WHAT you are." So many have their whole identity wrapped up in this three letter label. But there's so much more to any one person than that. Who I am is my personality, my traits, my attitude, my heart, mind and soul. What I am: a son, brother, nephew, uncle, musician and lastly, a homosexual. None of those have any bearing as to who I am as an individual. That statement by my father allowed me to accept my sexuality. It was a huge relief. I don't have to fit in society's box. Nor the "gay community's" box. Because my sexuality does not make me WHO I am. I am who I am and just happen to be attracted to men. Two separate things. I feel for the OP. It's not easy living that way.
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Well that's a new way of taking something out of context. You missed the whole point. In fact, your whole response had nothing to do with what I said! Nor anything to do with what this thread is about. I'm fairly certain that the majority of men on this site are "attracted" to men. Not women. But since you went there, not all men want their sex to be anonymous, NSA, brute, kinky or in groups. Different strokes for different folks.
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Great point. In the heterosexual world, if in the middle of the sexual act, the woman changes her mind and says stop, the male better sure as hell stop. If not, he's facing a rape charge. Seeing how there has been a recent ruling that puts us on an even playing field...... Shouldn't the same hold true for gay individuals? The statement "Bottom should have no say so unless asked by the top" really rubs me the wrong way. We bottoms aren't sub-human. We have EVERY right to say "Hell no!" Not that I have any intentions of doing so. But I do reserve that right. Hook ups? Talk it out before hand. Bath houses and sex parties.... That's tricky. But the bottom still has the same rights as the tops. Tops are not gods. They aren't exempt from the law nor do they have the right to do whatever they please. Unless the bottom gives them that right. This idea that tops are the men and bottoms are to follow their lead....? I've said it before and I'll say it here: It takes a man to take it up the ass. Sex is meant to be between consenting adults. The key word being consenting. It may piss you off and bruise your ego, but it's the bottom's right to say no. If you wanna fuck, that's a risk you have to take. We bottoms don't always get what we want either. It's called life.
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I was speaking about the hook up scenario. Not bath houses or sex parties. Those are definitely a different story. You can tell a guy when speaking to him on bbrt or other apps what You expect from him while discussing what you want. If he's not happy with that, he can move on. That's what I was referring to. Your scenarios? I totally concur. It won't work there.
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No one really seems to be understanding what the OP is trying to say.... He finds the idea of converting a completely straight guy (not bi) to being completely gay....... Clarify enough? In answer to that fantasy..... Hot? Hell yeah! I've fantasized and jacked off a ton to that very idea. But.... The gay community insists that we are born this way. Gay or straight. So I guess if we are to continue believing that, it'll have to remain a fantasy.
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There is one sure fire way to make sure this doesn't happen. Before you even start the act, you tell them that once your bare dick goes in, it doesn't come out til you've unloaded. No changing their mind. No mind fucks. If they don't like that, then they can move on and not waste your time. Problem solved.
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Since you've had cancer, you know wbc's are affected by treatment. Mine has never really bounced back since my treatment. Usually in the 3-4 range. Mine has went into the 1 something range like yours once. I was fighting pneumonia though. I'm guessing it's an infection, but I'd definitely check with your doctor asap. And be a germaphobe until you get it figured out.
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Another example of how uneducated people are about std's. It's in the precum too. It amazes me how ignorant some are about these things. If you are that concerned about std's, you shouldn't be barebacking. That said, I'm with Tiger. I HATE it when a top pulls out in porn. Especially in the vids entitled "top BREEDS bottom". NO HE DIDN'T! He got precum in him, but he didn't really unload inside him. So if I don't like it in porn, you better sure as hell not pull out when you come if you are fucking me. I want it all. I've never told a top to pull out and I never plan to.
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Maybe I should clarify. What you said about growing old alone is part of what I'm talking about. We that don't want that want the relationship that is THE relationship. The one that lasts. That doesn't end til death. It's the fear of yet another relationship ending that we didn't want to end that is the issue. That's where the heartbreak comes in. My parents just celebrated their 50th. And they love each other more and more each day. That's what I want. But the fear of thinking I may have found that only to have it shattered keeps me from really truly letting my walls down and letting someone in. Emotionally. But I don't want to die alone. And I don't want to be that 80 something guy on hook up sites either. It's a conundrum. One I hate.
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I don't know that we fear falling in love (or loving someone) so much as we fear what most feel is the inevitable heartbreak when it ends. It's easier to keep the wall up than to take the risk of getting hurt. Not letting feelings in removes the getting hurt equation. But what we end up doing is sabotaging ourselves and any potential for a relationship from the get go. If we go into it believing it will end, it will end. And that heartbreak WILL happen. I read where they did a study in regards to relationships and sex. They found that if you have sex on the first date, your chances of that relationship lasting drops to 10%. So PhoenixGeoff hit on something when he talked about trying the old fashioned dating scenario. I know that's what I've wanted to do for quite some time now. But as he stated, try finding someone else who wants that. I've had no luck. But back to the fear issue... I may be wrong, but I think getting hurt is the real fear. Yeah. We get in our comfort zones too. Don't want to change for anyone. But fear is the bitch. I think it helps keep us in those comfort zones. I'm not fully awake, so I hope this makes sense.
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May I reiterate that I have never been a fan of his?... Now that's a class act right there....
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Did You Ever Think You Would Be A 'barebacker'?
cam1972 replied to nelliess's topic in General Discussion
I always hated condoms. And always wanted to bareback. But the tops I met up with always wanted to play safe and wouldn't fuck any other way. I had a two year relationship that ended in 2006. He wouldn't bareback. After that relationship ended, I actively searched for someone who would. I found him in February 2007. I've never had a condom in me since. Even tho I had a fear of HIV, it's not natural to wear a condom. Or have one inside. I always wanted the feel of skin on skin. So, yeah... I kinda knew I'd be a barebacker. At least hoped, anyway. -
I wasn't saying he was. I doubt he was either. My point is this: would you confess to something that is illegal on national television? Not disclosing your status to a sexual partner is illegal in several states and more are making it so. And.. Yeah. He was being blackmailed. But he had been for four years. If I wanted to get "ahead" of it, I don't think I would have waited that long. For whatever reason he told he has it... He did it. And I'll bet you there are many more famous people out there living with it that haven't had the balls to admit it. I am certainly no fan of Charlie Sheen. Hated Two and a Half Men because he is a horrible actor. Or at least he was in that show. His ego is so ugly. I'm just saying give him at least a little bit of credit. If for nothing else, he brought the issue to the forefront in the news. And in people's minds. Maybe, just maybe, it will help someone become educated. If just one, then it's worth it. Lies and all.
